So much anger you harbor! I am wondering why you let it upset you
Posted By: my goodness on 2005-09-12
In Reply to: Did you stop to think (for all upset with MQ): - Pro-MQ
so much. It certainly is not worth the anger you are demonstrating in your post
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Boy, would love to know your story, its not good to harbor such hatred - sm
and resentment, does not do anybody any good. You, of course, are entitled to your opinion but I doubt you will find many that agree with you. Chill out.
Well I think the part you mention in NH and in Maine Acadia and Bar Harbor. Not sure what else there
is that I should see. I expect Portsmouth NH would be nice.
Well I think the part you mention in NH and in Maine Acadia and Bar Harbor. Not sure what else there
is that I should see. I expect Portsmouth NH would be nice.
First, don't say anything to her in anger - sm
Let it simmer, give yourself a few days to think about what you want to convey to your MIL AND your son, then call her over for a sit down.
I have had to do this more than once with my MIL. Scary for sure the first time, irritating the second, and third time was okay. Hopefully there won't be a fourth.
Although my situations were not quite the same, the same resolution could work for you.
AFTER you calm down, and I know this is hard to swallow, make a list of the parenting rules that YOU lay down and expect to be followed by everyone, including grandma.
Next, explain your reasoning behind those rules.
Explain how upset you were that those rules were not enforced by someone you trusted with your children and how it makes you hesitant to leave her with that responsibility again. They are YOUR children. Hers to love but yours to teach and raise to be responsible adults.
Explain to her that her role as a grandparent is just as important as a parent but you have the ultimate responsibility of making sure that your children grow up to respect authority and any time she goes against your wishes, that it teaching them that your word does not matter in the end.
Once you clear the air with your MIL. Sit your kids down and have the same chat.
I have always told my kids that if they get into ANY kind of trouble, minor or major, I had better hear it from THEIR mouths FIRST. If I have to hear about it from someone else, the $1*% is gonna hit the fan!
Punishment will doled out accordingly but I gaurantee that the punishment will be much more severe if I hear about anything second hand. PERIOD!
By the way... grandma is still sometimes difficult to get through to on the parenting thing but... I promise you that my kids DO tell me if they are in trouble. Even for things they really aren't in trouble for but aren't sure. They tell me EVERYTHING.
Good luck Sista!
Even if they anger you.....sm
try to keep your cool and don't respond. If they know they're getting a rise out of you, they'll just keep coming back. Ignore them. If they make you mad, you've let them win.
I have so much anger in me towards the
people on this board I am going to unleash it on you guys.
Why the anger?
You didn't mention that you were waiting a year but we were supposed to know that?
You were given advice about what to do and how to go about doing it. What more do you want?
What anger?
I don't see any anger in her post . . . she even put a smiley! No YELLING or anything. It seems she is just looking for advice.
Why are you angry?
ESL Anger
Yes, I relate. When I get really angry I have a margarita! I can't do that too often because basically I am a nondrinker. This ESL anger comes on for me every day and I would be an alcoholic, so I kick back in my chair and imagine what the reports would look like if I typed them "verbatim" - this in turn cracks me up and I laugh. I guess the bottom line is to try to find a way to laugh, because that is all you can do. Sometimes I give them names (ESLs). My favorite one is the one that sounds like that guy from Taxi, remember Andy? Swear I have one who sounds just like that. I have others as bad or worse. I also try to imagine what they look like and dress them up in strange costumes sometimes. If all that fails, run a mile. I did that once and it almost killed me, so now I just go to my ruminations and nicknames. See what happens when we are anal retentive about blanks? I have one that I have a fantasy of driving over to his hospital and luring him onto a boat headed back to his native country! He is screaming for help while I wave joyfully from the pier.
anger
I think I agree. I haven't even started working and I find this great website where I can talk to new people (MTs)and get some feedback but lately everything I have been reading is people lashing out! I am getting a little discouraged with this site.
anger
That was a little harsh wouldn't you say? Unless you've been there then don't judge!
There is so much anger in all parts of the (sm)
transcription community, that I'm seriously surprised that it hasn't resulted in something really terrible.
Talk about anger
Nan didn't sound angry at all to me. It was a very thoughtful, well written post. You sound like you got up on the wrong side of the bed.
BTW, just because someone has the title of QA doesn't mean they are qualified for the job. Of the last 9 "feedback" reports I have received from QA, I have a challenge on 8 of them!!
anger management
I really think that humor is a good tool for anger management! Friends will send some really funny emails that will just crack me up even when I am in the worst mood ever, it always helps...or sometimes just going for a good run to burn off some steam? There are a lot of things, also I like to look up at the big guy and ask for some help there, that helps me quite abit!!
anger management
I love it!!! What a fun game!
Anger management
Just get away and go out for a brisk walk and possibly a swim in a pool if one is available. Go for a hike in the woods. I can sympathize with you. We do not have an easy job and it can really test our metal at times.
look, i understand our anger, but not
where it is directed. The workers don't deserve our wrath! it's the companies that send our work abroad, it's the clients that just want the bottom price, it's the government policy that makes it lucrative for same. Those MTs are just like yourself, trying to make a living. If the tables were turned, would you decline a job saying, "no, i'm not going to take it away from the MTs across the pond"...of course not. At the MT level, we're just all trying to keep our heads above water.
You have some real anger issues!
I don't think the post called for the venom of your answer. You must be quite an angry person. I will pray for you.
Wow! Lots of anger here..am I on the right board?...
I could swear this is the "other" board. (Not to be mentioned or I will be deleted from here.)
I can only guess which company you work for, but maybe you should be blaming the company instead of the MTs. I am an SE (IC), and I work a pretty steady schedule, as do a lot of SEs. There has been a chronic lack of work at my company recently, but I KNOW my company has lost huge accounts lately, and has shifted those MTs to other accounts (yours and mine maybe?) This spreads the work too thin. My company has also, possibly, overhired lately, which also spreads the work too thin.
I sat from 8 a.m. to 6 p.m. yesterday with only 10 reports. Luckily, at 6 p.m., Dr. transcribemeifyoucanski started showing up. Got three of him in a row and was starting to get touchy and depressed when, after 8:30 (my usual quitting time is 8p.m.), here comes Dr. Iamdifficultalsobutdrtranscribemeifyoucanskimakesmelookgood came along, so I kept pushing on until there were no more (8 in all, all the above doctor). Still did not get in my usual line count, but came within shooting distance.
I am not blaming the other MTs for my lack of work, and not even blaming the company entirely. After all, when they lost those accounts, they COULD have just laid off their MTs. I wouldn't want that if it was MY account they had lost! I don't even know if my lack of good dictators lately is the result of cherry picking or voice recognition. My good dictators have, for the most part, vanished.
Such anger! Clearly uneducated and frustrated.
accept responsibility or you're going to be pointing fingers into thin air for years to come.
You truly have some anger problems. Maybe you should look into medication for yourself.
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You really need some counseling and anger management
tsk, tsk, tsk
What's your anger management strategy?
I'm finishing up a day of the most horrendous ESL I've heard in a long time. I don't leave blanks, even if that means spending 20 minutes on a 1-minute report trying to figure it out. This in turn causes me much distress and I know I'm not alone, as others frequently mention the pitfalls of ESL-hell.
After I finish posting this, I'm going to go outside and do something to release this built-up anger that will probably get me hurt. How do you guys do it without going absolutely insane?!?
Talk about anger management! SM
I work for that famous company that has 70% of the work done in India. Well, those Indian MT's must be great at ESL's, because I have been getting less of those and more of American doctors going a mile a minute. When I receive them, they sound like they are on fast forward. I can slow them down some, but that distorts the sound. I have never had a problem and I have been doing this for close to 20 years. I feel I have been emotionally machine gunned with dictation.
I would love to borrow (from below) anyone's dog, hatchet, margarita or, for that matter, anyone's ESL report. Thanks for letting me vent.
Without repercussions? You get to cause anger and hurt and probably make some
innocent people sob their eyes out. Boy, are you a monster, or what? No repercussions.
gees where is all this mistrust and anger coming from? sm
not EVERY man cheats on his wife and not EVERY man is guilty until proven innocent. Where there is no trust, there is no love and therefore, no relationship, just control and ownership. That's not marriage. Just because you got burned once does not mean that EVERYONE is out to burn you again. no wonder you are divorced! sheesh.
That's called a typo. Seems your anger is just a little misplaced. nm
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IMO, anger toward India and its people is misplaced. sm
Refocus your anger, if you must experience it, toward the system here, which values cheap labor over accuracy.
No problem with the anger the OP showed towards home-schooling?
I didn't spew venom, only pointed out the obvious, kids are kids are kids. Anybody who thinks that people home-school their children to keep them away from "bad kids" is greatly mistaken. The minority may be for that reason. The majority have real reasons for their conviction to home-school.
Some people choose to home-school because their kids are the bad kids. Some people are forced into home-schooling bad kids by the public schools who can't handle them. It does happen, I've personally witnessed a friend being put through exactly that.
But, thanks for pointing out my venom (it was not intended as such) and thanks for the prayers.
jeeze louise, lady! Talk about ANGER?
Have you seen Anger Management with Jack N? Worst movie ever! nm
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Talk about anger...anyone who posts a high IQ score is a pathological liar.....
So, are you saying that no MTs can have high IQ scores?? Just because you don't, we all have to be pathological liars? Sorry.
sorry you are upset...(sm)
you can notify the administrator of anything you find objectionable...
I appreciate your sharing because we should all try to help each other.
there always seem to be people, like yourself, who produce way over and beyond what most of us do, and in my experience they are always treated with suspicion and doubt as to how they were accomplishing it.
if you can do it, it is great! Most of us, however, are not able to do it, no matter how hard we try.
just curious if you were using the VR machines, or anything like that, because I was considering doing it before...
thanks, for the posts!
Someone's just trying to get everyone upset ... don't believe that...
I think it is just a ploy.
Besides, if that is truly where jobs are going...they will be coming back even faster than they went. Hahaha
Even the sloppiest of physicians won't tolerate that.
Someone's just trying to get everyone upset ... don't believe that...
I think it is just a ploy.
Besides, if that is truly where jobs are going...they will be coming back even faster than they went. Hahaha
Even the sloppiest of physicians won't tolerate that.
Upset MT
You're much harder on yourself than the MDs will be. Everyone makes mistakes - no matter how careful we are. I erased a tape at lawyer's office where I worked - even as big a jerk as he was, he didn't yell at me. Doctors are usually a nicer than lawyers! :)
They know you, they know you are responsible and obviously they like your work or they wouldn't have employed you for 4 years. It'll be all right.
I am so upset!!!!
 I could spit! Recently since I am still a 'student' at that online course in Utah I read a post by the CEO and felt the need to comment. It seems that not only did he suggest that contributions be made to FEMA, but also that students in Louisiana and other state with hurricane damage call THEM at their 800 number. This seemed to me absolute lunacy, as telephone service in La, MS is vrtually non-existant. Perhaps posting that ONLINE was equally stupid, how were students supposed to get online?
However, what really gets me upset is that after making my reply I was 'deleted' from their website.
Apparently free speech isn't appreciated at that school, and neither was my suggestion that the school which has a reliable phone connection, themselves call their students in Louisiana and Mississippi. But hey, what do I know huh?
Don't mean to upset anyone, but I LIVE in Louisiana.
cheryl formerly known as nola71112
A bit upset
I have been with Medquist for almost 7 years and overall am happy. My biggest gripe of late is the fact that there is no work available and it is hard to make your quota. Other than that, my QA people are great, pay is always on time, I personally like the DQS platform, I LOVE my flexible schedule, they reimburse DSL service, they provide you with a computer, and they always remember their employees with great gifts for Medical Transcription Day (LOL). I can assure you that most companies will not and do not do most of the above mentioned things. With that being said, lets just hope the severe decrease in the work load is only temporary! For obvious financial reasons, if the work load does not pick up, they may find themselves without a lot of qualified and dedicated transcriptionists that have helped MedQuist achieve the goal of the largest MT provider.
No need to be upset.
I have been with them 8 years. I agree, they are very flexible on the schedule and I love that part. However, the office I work for totally changed overnight. I hate the way the supervisors are so cold and insensitive now, like they have been programmed with certain reponses. It was NEVER like that before. For instance, two weeks ago, I worked for 4 days just sicker than a dog, started to call in Thursday night, but didn't, then finally felt like I could go no more and called to be off 2 hours before my shift ended. I was told to go lie down for a few minutes and get back on. This would have never happened before the big changes (closing Atlanta office). My other big issue is I don't feel there is a supervisor left on the staff of the former Atlanta office that I can trust. That is not a good feeling.
I don't know what you got for MT day, but I got chapstick. When I first started, I got T-shirts, gift cards and then MT of the month gifts, your name was in the little paper for high producer - I miss that stuff. Just being appreciated.
I am not fond of the DQS as it is a struggle each day just to get any lines. I feel like I am typing my fingers off and then my line count is not totally up to that. This is very discouraging.
Okay, I am finished whining.
Are you serious? You are upset because
someone uses a handle that describes other positions they have held?
Surely, you are kidding. How in the world can that upset you?
I suppose it would upset you if I were to sign myself as "former MTSO" or "former case mgmt coordinator" or any other position I've ever held.
That is sad.
why are you so upset?
It's not as if you own the company or do you?? If some people have not had the same wonderful experience that you have had give them their say. Why be so nasty about it? You ought to be celebrating,when us worthless workers who can't commit every day get kicked to the wayside you will have all the work you want! So it's your celebration day!! I frankly have a bit more magnanimous attitude about it-I have always had a good work experience at MQ, but since DEP I am not. Simple as that. If you have whoppee for you! Congratulations! But don't you think somewhere in 10,000 employees maybe the experience is varied??? Or can't you comprehend that?? Whatever floats your boat.
I'm sorry if I upset you. sm
My sister didn't know she had an aneurysm and she never had headaches at all, save for the occasional overindulging in fine wine, until that night.
The doctors never really even pinpointed exactly where it originated after dozens and dozens of tests. (angiograms, ultrasounds, CT scans, MRIs). She was told that she met the "criteria" for this type of aneurysm because she was female and over 50. (52). That is not too comforting for me as I am 6 years younger that she is.
She was very healthy before this happened with the exception that she was a very heavy smoker. Glad to say that she gave it up and hasn't gone back to that. 
My doctor told me that basically it really isn't something you can spend your time worrying about. Many people live with known aneurysms and nothing ever happens with them.
At first I thought, "oh my gosh, I've only 6 more years," but you can't worry about it I guess.
Again, I'm sorry if I upset you.
Take care.
Of course I'd be upset!
I am SO UPSET!
I am so frustrated that I am in tears, and that takes some doing for me. Is this the norm with being an IC, or what....
When I started with this MTSO, the paydays were on the 10th and the 22nd of the month. I loved it, because my husband was paid on the opposite weeks, so we got a paycheck every week. Well, the paychecks started coming on the 11th and 25th.... then the 12th and the 26th... you get the drill. Then she just officially moved the pay periods to the 15th and the last day of the month. Now this caused me some headaches, sure, because I had to move some auto withdrawals and such, but I supposed that was her right to do as the business owner...
Except now the paychecks are coming later and later AGAIN! Well, she had sent out an email saying that she would not be able to pay us on the 31st, but that she would pay us on the first. So I did something I NEVER do.... I wrote a check to my daughter's preschool with no money in the bank, only because my MTSO said, "Don't worry, I'll put it in on the 1st."
Guess what? I got an email today saying that she would NOT be paying us until Friday the 3rd. There will not be enough money in the bank to cover this. Now, it won't bounce it to the preschool, because my bank will cover it. They will, however, charge me a big ol' honkin' $35 fee for this.
I am SO mad! Is this normal? Do MTSOs just think they can pay us whenever they feel like it? Her excuse was that she didn't get paid by the hospital on time, so she couldn't pay us on time. Excuse me, but this is the same MTSO that said, when my phone lines were down, "I don't care what your personal problems are, I need the work!" Well, I need my MONEY! If she has to take out a personal loan using her car as collateral, then she needs to do that in order to pay us. I admit that this is only my third MTSO, but two of the three did this "pay when I can" thing. I'm just used to a much more professional system.
So my question, after this long-winded post, is the following: Is this normal? Do the rest of you ICs have trouble being paid on time?
(PS - In a recent disagreement that the MTSO and I had, she told me that she was having money problems, too, and that she was declaring personal bankruptcy. That's not a good sign for being paid on time in the future, you think?
Yeah, I said I was going to look for another job, but I started slacking on that when I cooled off because I love my accounts. However, I don't want to be the last rat off a sinking ship. I'm just SO upset. This is not how a business should be run!)
 (P.S. - Grammar and punctuation police please take the night off. It's midnight, I'm typing through tears, and I just don't care enough to edit, okay? Thanks.)
Don't be upset. Really. Try not to
take it personally. I know its hard and I understand. The most horrible thing an MT can do is think that QA is out to get them, etc. I have been on both ends - MTing for 20 years and QA for 5. I know how you feel. But there is often so much more going on behind the scenes that you are not aware of. I know in my company, the Q, there are even different QA styles for different regions, or even QA gets mixed up on the client profiles. You have your QA who always say "good job", and never QA a single thing and the other ones who try and proofread. We are just like you - really. We don't know that the other QA are doing something totally differently. But I do know that honestly we just don't notice the MT at all - we don't have time to notice or pay attention to who is who, so its honestly nothing personal, nor is it all that big a deal, unless, of course, its a critical error. I know its disheartening on the MT end, but its horrible on the QA end - everybody hates QA. Period. And while there are some jerks, there are lots and lots of well-meaning nice QA people, just trying to do their part to send out a complete document. We are following rules given us, and just mind our own business and plod along. 
Umm...wow! Why so upset?! NM
NM
What is that you are upset about?
You only state the title of the article, not the content. I don't mean to upset you more but if you could give us an idea of the gist of the article, maybe you will get some responses.
They always get upset
They want to take the cheaper way out and hire ICs and say here is your minute-by-minute schedule and you better stick to it like glue and tell them basically everytime you get up to pee. I am leaving the company I was at because of that, and their feathers were definitely ruffling. They all need a copy of the IRS definition of employee versus IC!
Upset?
The snot-suckers that we laugh about ARE sick, just (I would hope) not contageous. Otherwise, they would be able to manage their secretions. It's a huge double standard to say when the patient swallows their secretions, they are sick, but when the docs do it, they are rude.
When the docs did these things with my kid, it was at their offering. She had things that were quietly occupying her, and she was not interfering with the exams at all when the offers were made. Good kids who seem to be interested tend to be invited to do things (and it is still her dream to be a doc).
While the docs are paid a LOT OF MONEY, they also have a LOT OF STUDENT LOANS TO REPAY, whereas we don't. The pelvic exam was just an example of gross things the docs deal with that we don't. Granted, I wish speed racer would slow down, but maybe he/she has a life, too, and would like to get out of the clinic/hospital at a reasonable time. Just as we want the most out of our time, they want the most out of theirs. Your earlier post just made me reflect on how much THEY have to put up with. Yes, they make more, but they were also required to spend more time in school with probably more expensive tuition, AND they pay our salary out of that increased pay they get. Many (though not all) of the docs also thank us or apologize when burping, eating, etc.
After taking the spin you put on it, I really no longer have the animosity toward them I had before. And, we really don't want to get into the "well-educated" part. Articulate or not, they ARE well-eduated.
UPSET
Here we go. The first account I tried to get, I am outbid by India. I am laying off five employees because the India transcription services can bill my customers at 5 an 6 cents. I hope they enjoy each other. I am bitter. I am sad. My employees are also my friends........The government needs to do something.
upset
Keep calling and keep emailing. Eventually you would think they would have to answer. That is no way to run a company. I would call them all day. LOL!
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