So, just simply summing it up. You have 2 kids, and they fight while you work, so you just
Posted By: HappyMomMT on 2005-07-19
In Reply to: So far HappyMomMT, you are the only negative person in regards to this post. SM - nn
send them to daycare, and now they're "socialized". This thinking just is soooooooo beyond me! And you can all scream and call me negative, but its just a travesty. Daycare - daycare - the replacement mom of our society, and its NOT working. Kids these days are a mess - an absolute mess. I have no words to waste on this topic - its sickening. And for all the millions and millions of mothers who have NO choice but to leave the home and throw the kids in day care - sitting in an office with a heavy heart. Here you all can have the blessing of having your precious kids with you, but the slightest challenge - fighting? PLEASE! What kids don't fight? So, instead of training them yourself and teaching them to "socialize" with their own siblings, let alone their mother, you ship them off to daycare - Oh, yeah, there's the logical solution! Its just soooooooooooooo old, actually. Millions of Moms - even the big $$ CEOs, are realizing the fallacy of day care, and working from home to RAISE their own kids. Sure, its challenging, but the rewards are priceless, so cliche! Such an easy cop out to ship 'em off to daycare - let them "socialize" them...So what do your kids learn? Certainly not to behave at home. They're probably still acting out at home, while angels at daycare!
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Please do not simply give up, kids or no kids!
Talk with a professional. This can be worked through if he really puts forth the effort and you participate. The right counseling can truly make your marriage even better than it was before, if BOTH parties are willing to be honest. Give it a try. Nothing to lose at this point and everything to gain!
And if I fight every low-life who cheats, I won't have time to work.
i don't deal with anyone without references when it comes to work. i learned my lesson and have moved on. i leave you to fight the battles of the downtrodden.
I can relate.....I took on extra work and now my DH just picked a fight with me, and is also winding
the kids up massively as I type this. Totally off your subject but he just dropped on me that he is cutting all contact off from my dad since he recently remarried and intimated that he was leaving me and my brothers nothing in his will......DH also said the kids were not allowed to have any contact with him either. I can get around that and just leave with the kids when he is at work if I have to resort to that. But this is bullsh*t.....I fear if it keeps up I am headed for divorce court. He is getting weirder and weirder about money, though he professes not to care or want it. Then he dropped that when his dad (75) dies his mom (70) was moving in with us.......WHAT! So right now I am hoping that his mom goes first as he will never live with his dad, or that his dad lives another 15 years at least....We had promised my mom she could live with us, but now that she is dead, he says it will be his mother as he has to protect his interests (and the kids....as supposedely all his parent's money is to go to them.....he plans not to touch it). So needless to say I am LIVID, don't want to work right now, am not talking to him though he keeps coming in and ranting more....he has calmed down some but still driving me nuts. He has to stop drinking, that is what it comes down to....much more rational then. But I really think the writing is on the wall and it's scary as I have no where to go now.    
Today is different and you cannot fight companies who LEGALLY can offshore work.
So all Americans refuse to buy goods, shop at stores, or work for companies who offshore. That leaves a mess. Do you realize a lot of American companies are actually owned by foreigners? Get real and move into 2005. You are going to spend a lot of time boycotting once you do the research. I doubt you will be able to shop or work at all.
Thank you, Tinks, for summing it up
I have to fight so hard to overcome all the difficulties that has befallen this child, give up so much for her, love her so unconditionally...and it was necessary that I take her ... or lose her to a foster home or adoption and never see her again.
Yes, it made me angry at all the players involved that have walked away from this child, the ones who said they loved her but left her life once someone else sheltered her so they don't have to and can go their own ways, never thinking of the effect it has had on her or on me, never offering to help when she is ill or needs reassurance that she is loved...the vain ones, the selfish ones. I took her away from the felons, the drug dealers, the prostitutes and have to fight to change her perception of the world to one that is in her best interest. It can cause terrific stress...it is a daily struggle.
And it was the indulgence of vanity that sent me over the edge for the day. To everyone who critized me and said ugly things about how you perceive I feel about the child: Walk in my shoes and those of 6 million Americans who do what I do...give up my life, my financial security, my stability, change jobs because of uncaring employers, for the sake of saving a child, and if for one day of the year, something (whether it be vanity or lack of sunshine for the day) doesn't get under your skin, then you may be more perfect than I. Until you walk in my shoes, don't critize which ones I wear. As I said before, vanity didn't bother me yesterday and it won't bother me tomorrow. It only bothered me today because when you peel everything away, I resented transcribing reports on vanity surgeries when I could have been attending to this child or doing reports that for today I felt were more important, having a few members of family around me in a relaxed environment to strengthen me for the next 6 months...
I took one day out of the year to vent and get it out of my system. Not too bad for what she and I have been through! As someone else said there is always tomorrow...today is gone!
Kids are demanding and so is MT work. My question is how CAN you do this with kids, rather than how
When you have two young kids, 11 months apart, (like I stated they are now 4 and 5) and have been doing this since they were born with no help from their father and no family around, YES, the kids get neglected. Part time might work but living on one salary, part time, is not an option. How can you possible tell me that anyone with two young kids can stay at home and work a full-time, 8-hour shift, and still give their kids the attention they NEED. I dont care how good you are at multitasking and how great your organizational skills are. It is a very difficult thing to do. And I am offended by your post making it sound as if it is easy to do.
I do agree that it can depend on how well your kids behave and how well they are able to play on their own. But my kids were not able to play well on their own. They needed constant attention.
So please take the time to realize that there are people out there in different situations than your own.
Reading our posts should help you to understand that everyone has a different situation. I believe everyone should have the right to shares their experiences as it might benefit the original poster in her questions and concerns.
I dont think anyone should be bashed for taking the time out to write about their experiences. I dont usually come on here to argue but you really ticked me off with your post. And try reading the post correctly. I said next time around I would have put them in day care. What I DID do with them was set them up to an activity like art or put on a movie for them. Geez.
It was simply the work from your assigned accounts.
More of our work is transcription based rather than ASR. However, we are in a training initiative so all employees will be prepared for handling ASR.
a *sort of fight*? It WAS a fight and this was.
I saw the show with Sarah Bernhardt and she was a *guest* and was treated so poorly by Star and Elisabeth that day. Star and Elisabeth didn't like Sarah's politics or view and attacked Sarah....Star by saying *I'm looking too cute today to be bothered by the likes of you* or words to that very effect....and then the Honey line by Elisabeth......
Is this the way people treat GUESTS? I think not. The show reached it's lowest point on that day, in my opinion.
I think the show will not survive..........whether or not Rosie or anyone else steps in. It's time to retire the show. It's beyond *leaving gracefully* now. And though I hate to say it, Barbara Walter's credibility is now pretty much shot to heck......because of this show.
I need to work around my kids.
I need to be able to work around my life right now. When both kids are in school full time next year, who knows what I'll do.
I have little kids, but plan to work around them.
I have no set hours, so when they are ouside playing (they stay out for a while), or when they are sleeping I will work. It is too insane when I try to work and they AR here. They don't really understand the job needs 100% focus. But since there seems to be a wealth of work weekends, I plan to take advantage of it and get the job security and money my family needs me to have.
I work around my kids. Mine are not as young as yours
but even when I had babies I worked before they got up, worked during nap time, worked a little after dinner when DH could watch them. With my last one I put him in a Mother's Morning Out program for 15 hours/week at a church 2 miles from our house for 2 years during the school year. I'm fortunate I have flexible hours that I can do that.
I feel like I work all the time too and my kids- sm
are always asking me if I have to work (usually I do). Lately though I have started trying to go to bed by 10 and get up at 3, work from 3am-6:30am, get them off to school, then I have all day from 8-3:30 available to work. Then be free for them after school and work again after they go to bed if necessary. I am still not disciplined enough though and work more than I should, i.e. surf the internet, come here, etc. Waste time in other words. So if I can "stay" on my butt and work consistently I can average 16 minutes of dictation an hour, which is good for me. All I can say is try to set up a schedule adn stick to it. I keep meaning to write one up, but have not as yet myself (did this for college and hung it on my wall), so maybe your post will inspire me. Good luck.
No kids, husband gone 12 hours, you work at home? SM
Priceless! That sounds like the perfect arrangement to me. I'm not kidding, either.
Did a whole 388 today....this is why I try not to work when the kids are home/awake - basically impo
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I gotta work on Saturday, but on Sunday I'm going to take the kids to a Renaissance Festival.
And Monday, the kids and I are going boating and to a cook out at the lake with family. 
IF it is secondary income, where is the harm? As long as you work around your kids (at night, naps)
a big plus when you are around kids all day and bring in a little cash to help out the household.
Do little kids like caramel? My big kids won't even eat it! We make the basic Baker's chocolat
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The only way to fight this (I do know what you mean now) is to SM
refuse to work for companies like this. I've said it many times before. I have worked at two hospitals as an at-home employee. Many accounts for other hospitals, fill-in stuff, doctors' offices.
The company I work for ow is pretty large, its employees national, from PA to Alaska.
We do have account specifics. But somehow, some way, the MTSO has always kept our "welfare" first and foremost, except for some niggling problems with turnaround time that *I* don't agree with. They are fairly minor, I just get aggravated over the hospital thinking they own us.
We are assigned a certain number of minutes a day...whatever we've asked to get. If we do that in 15 minutes, wonderful. We just made a jillion dollars an hour. If it takes us 10 hours, well, we made less.
We can plan our lives. We make decent money. She absolutely does NOT let anybody pull the above crappola on us. There's somebody else on this board who works for the same person. I imagine she feels pretty much the way I do, but I can't swear to that.
SAME fight again with DH....
Please tell me if I am wrong. I told my husband that I need an ergonomic keyboard now as my hand and arm have been sore and achy recently. I am going to do whatever I can to avoid CTS. Well, bills are tight, of course. The thing is I asked him IF we can swing it anytime soon, can we get one. Here's the thing: I take $100 out of my paycheck every 2 weeks for spending money, i.e. going to lunch with friends, w/ my kids mind you. He tells me to use my spending money to but the keyboard instead of going to lunch. Okay. The thing is lunch every couple of weeks is the only time, and I mean only time, that I get to go anywhere due to time/money issues. HE on the other hand constantly goes to his dad's after work, where all the boys hang out, and comes home after a couple/few hours of hanging out. That does not bother me. What bothers me is that he doesn't get that it will always cost money for me to go out because either we pay a sitter or I have to pay for something, Lucky him that the beer is provided. Must be nice to have your freedom. I don't think he really gets how good he has it. I am the only wife that doesn't give him an earful when he comes home after being out with the guys.
Am I being a shrew?
Like I said, not your fight...sm
As long as it is not your husband I would not lose sleep over it, nor should you let it cause a fight and tension between you and your hubby. What his friend does is his business. Breathe....and let it alone. Chances are this isn't the first time he's found a "friend" in a bar and won't be the last.
Maybe we can fight them together!
I have never given up looking for ways to shut them down. The more we come forward -- the best chance we have of the right people hearing us! What comes around goes around and Toth has it coming!!!!
ONLY WAY TO FIGHT THIS IS...SM
to educate the public in general, on a population-wide basis, that their private medical information is being sent halfway around the world. As with any big business abuses here in the U.S (banks, credit card companies, etc, etc) it happens because the government allows it. If there are strict privacy laws re. patient medical information, how then does it extend to giving the whole world carte blanche to it, even sell the info to insurance companies and the like?? The PUBLIC has to be made aware of it... the media is best... but I wouldn't be above passing out fliers in doc's waiting rooms or hospital lobbies. A lot of wheels have to squeak first before this one gets any grease!! 
I never said you shouldn't have kids! Feeling guilty? I asked WHY you had kids.
You clearly stated in your post that you ship the kids off to camp all day, and they're TIRED AT NIGHT!! You know exactly what you said. You said it as a PERK - AS IN GREAT! They're gone all day, it wears them out, and so I shovel dinner in their mouths and off to bed! You can try to paint it any way you want, but YOU SAID IT. Again, I only hope your kids never hear you speak that way or write that way. Shame on you. Why have kids at all? Just another parent who has them, gets rid of them for day AND night, BRAGS ABOUT IT, and then calls ME wicked! Give me a break! Camp is fine - its WHAT YOU SAID AND YOU KNOW IT. Your own words showed your heart. Period.
I'm not starting a fight.
I just wanted to know why you thought I had no friends because I don't like the skank. That's how it came across by responding right under my post about not liking Angelina. Or did your post directed toward another person go in the wrong spot under mine?
Sometimes I have to fight the temptation to
grab those thongs sticking out over the pudge rolls and give the girls a terrible wedgie. Then the guys with their nasty pants drooping down to their knees makes me just want to grab them by the seat and pants 'em. I'd probably get arrested, but kids these days dress horribly. The girls' clothes are too tight and small. The guys' clothes are too baggy and big. If they'd mix the two styles together, both guys and girls would have decent clothes to wear. Everything would fit properly! I wonder what would happen if all the parents in the nation refused to let their kids buy that urban trash look.
Yes! My dogs fight to see who
can sit closest to my chair (I have three and they are not small). My husky has been extra annoying lately. I think she has cabin fever, ready for spring so she can spend more time outside.
How do you fight fatigue?
I find that after a certain amount of hours, say 4 or 5, my arms and hands turn to jelly, and my body gets sore and fatigued from sitting in a chair. It is to the point where I actually dread working. And it's not because the work is hard, because it isn't. It's because it takes a lot of of me physically.
My question is, what are some tips to help fight fatigue? It's almost to the point where I want to only do MT for 4 hours and find another job to do for 4 hours a day, one that doesn't demand so much physically. Although I wouldn't mind doing this until I retire, what it does to your body pretty much has made that not an option for me.
He stated he is going to fight that.
Said he is going to fight against that medical records thing. Didn't mean offshoring, does not sound like he has any idea about that happening to our medical records.
You'll have to try to start a fight with someone else because
But if it makes you feel better to make bird noises, party on!
Fight with the insurance company.
Why would they deny it? Unless it's an unauthorized procedure via HMO. Bleah. I'd also talk with your daughter to see if she has concerns. Be patient, though. She'll talk to you if she knows you'll talk with her instead of yelling at her.
I'm fighting a bill for several thousand dollars that has been denied three times now in the past 18 months. However, I legitimately had dual insurance coverage at the time, so I shouldn't have had to pay anything out of pocket.
usually you can fight or there is a clause for emergency sm
situations that you can go to the nearest hospital for emergency and i would say it was emergency or you wouldn't have went to the ER. fight it; you pay the benefits, you should get some help.
Just keep fighting the fight..... I remember...
seeing one of those earlier Star Wars movies, maybe the first one, and some guy next to me had a little about 2-1/2 to 3 with him. That kids are TERRIFIED, keping asking "what's that Daddy, why's he doing that Daddy, DADDY DADDY!"
Have people lost their brains? Kids can't process all this stuff. Let them watch Thomas the Train or Little Bear and let them be kids.
yeah, I have to fight being angry about it.
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Stayed "because of the kids?" I say "leave because of the kids"
You're in no position to buy right now. Keep saving, keep paying down your bills, and for heaven's sake get rid of that dead weight of a BF you're living with. You can do better.
So, should I return the $75 (x2 kids) in music cards I got the kids for x-mas...sm
My son has been telling me about free music sites and I was very leary. How do they skirt the law Radguy?
I don't have kids, but my Mom was from the "old school," and still had everyone, kids inclu
call her by her first name. The little neighbor girl next door from the time she could speak called her Aggie (my mom's first name), and they were great buddies until the day my mom pased away.
I don't think there really is much in a name, but more in the respect you are given and the way you are treated. Personally, I kind of cringe inside when someone calls me Ms. Anything or God forbid, "maam" (makes me feel like Methuselah!) ... I'm always just plain Merrie. :-)
But, as someone pointed out, to each his own. If you want to be addressed a certain way, you have that right, and people should respect that. I'm glad you corrected the child ... hope it "sticks." 
You will lose this fight. No company is listening
to whiney MTs in their quest for the bottom line profits. There are too many other people who will happy to work for less just for the opportunity to work at home and then again there are those offshore who will work for even less for the opportunity to simply work, any where, any time, any place.
And as far as battles go, who you going after and how do you prove you were wronged.
Then factor in the MTs who are getting the good reports. Are they going to fight the cherry-picking unethical battle with you.
Sorry it's a lost cause and it is the nature of the business. Maybe 10 years ago you might have had a chance. Nevermore. That is reality.
How can you post so ignorantly? You just want to fight, don't you? If you could read, and maybe
you have that disability, you would see that my question is to the MTs who hit 1000 lines in 3 hours. If you COULD read, or bothered to read before being a cat, you would see that I do work 8 hour shifts. Go back to your kitty den and leave the grownups alone, unless you could possibly contribute something intelligent to MY ORIGINAL QUESTION.
Another thing that's hard to fight these days...
Try to find a kid whose parents actually have standards about what kinds of movies or television channels their kids can watch? Honest to Pete, I've seen 6-year-olds in R rated movies, on a regular basis. I try to tell my 11-year-old that she may not see certain PG-13 movies (which are sometimes worse than the R rated stuff) and all I hear is about how all her friends can see anything they want. We don't allow MTV, South Park, any of that garbage. They don't need it. Kids are getting so hardened by all the smut and low-class entertainment out there and I just refuse to condone it. We have kids next door whose mother listens to Eminem in the car with them and lets her 8yo watch things like Texas Chainsaw Massacre. And don't get me started on the cell phones. No properly supervised 10-yo NEEDS a cell phone. I got my oldest one last year when she turned 16 and began to drive. But I'm hearing about how half the 6th grade already has one. Why?
tissue paper snowball fight
kleenex, tissue, butcher paper and/or cotton balls. then you can "build" a snowman with it - which coincidentally gets it all picked up:)
I'm in the same boat. I have to fight quitting every day. I'll
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You just wanna fight about it. Did you read the post?
Afraid to lose your job? Go and fight with your cats! .nm
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People cannot fight the power and corruption that is present
in he political system. These politicians are bought by special interests. Many of the people with special interests are corporations, insurance companies, etc. They have major money to contribute to run a politician's campaign. Both Democrats and Republicans take this money. So if both the politicians are in need of money to win an election and you and I can provide the money the special interests are going to be heard above and beyond the little guy with a beer in his hand who is working 8-5 and wouldn't know how to organize a revolution if he had an instruction book. Besides he is too darn tired and has to mow the grass, take the kids to the movies, etc, etc, etc.
So you got both parties taking special interest money in return for favors granted (or the funding is stopped and the party can't win) What is the American public going to do? Not vote? You only get two choices and the system is corrupt. What do you do? Once again, you are assuming the American public is intelligent and united. If you read posts or editorials anywhere you will see the American public is divided led by sound bites or blind loyalty to a political party. You aren't going to see anyone overthrow this government in this lifetime. People in power are not going to give it up to let Joe-Six-Pack run the country on his $100 day budget to campaign. It is sad but true. We have been led down a path that it is too late to turn back. While the politicians were passing these laws to allow offshoring/outsourcing, we were watching TV or busy with daily activities of living, thinking this will never affect me. And it's the same deal now.
Anybody agree on who should be president? How about Iraq war? Anybody agree on forcing the national companies to pay us more for MT? Come on. Be real. You can't unite this country on the smallest issues.
which makes it nicer. either way, not a fight site anymore. sm
as it should be. Should have been all along.
At this point, I disagree. I have fought the 'good fight' and it is no longer
a 'good fight' at all. I know when to say when. I don't like it, but I'm not stupid either and that's not to say that you are either. Keep up your good fight, but after what I experienced first hand with our own credit agencies, I also don't see the point in wasting valuable time on an issue that is dead in the water. Offshoring is ever present, but that doesn't mean that you can't still be competitive. It is all in how you approach it. I'll allow the post to stay, but I'm not going to argue endlessly when I have made my decision that I did not come by easily. This thread is being locked.
Honestly...get over yourself OP! This is meant to fun and a contest not reason to start a fight.
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Horse & buggy obsolete, would love to have saved them - gone and can't fight it!
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Pay kids work around office, renovate office.
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I get fight or flight feeling socially whenever I am around incredibly dumb people and I don't wa
Am I sick? I don't want to socialize with idiots. What's wrong with me. I hate small talk. Should I see a doctor?
I agree - doesn't sound like it's worth your time to fight her anymore. NM
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