Since when does the child support go directly to the kids? lol!
Posted By: nm on 2006-07-12
In Reply to: Yes, they should work, my step-daughter.... - Carly d
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CHILD SUPPORT??
 Can ANYONE give me some legitimate service who goes after "deadbeat dads"???? I'm at the end of my emotional rope, and my state (Oklahoma) has not helped much in nailing down this butthead ('cuse my French)....I've talked to a few "services" which IF they get anything from him, they will probably take 60-70% of it!!! Has anyone had any luck anywhere?? Why do these guys (and I'm sure there are gals out there too!) get away with not supporting their kids???
Sorry to vent  ...I type for a living (like you) and beating this keyboard sometimes helps me feel better! Thanks for listening (reading ??)....
child support
Believe me, deadbeat moms are very prevalent, moreso than people think. I know from personal experience that these moms rather spend their money on themselves than send even the tiny amount they are required by law to send to their child, all the time professing how much they love their children.
Child Support
We have a newer prosecuter in one of our local county's who started a new program to go after deadbeat parents. 3 times a year, she post the pictures of the worst offenders on the front pages of the newpapers, along with how much they owe...usually has a pretty good rate of call in's to report seeing them. She's also working extremely hard to get the state to NOT renew drivers lisc. on any of those who are over 2,000 in arrears.
My sister finally got the attention of our prosecuter when her ex got close to 30 grand , the folks at CS just did not seem to have a working phone or at least one they answered, so they went after him, showed up in court, the magistrate took all of 10 minutes to look over the files...asked the idiot and the prosecuter if he had a working wage deduction in place (which he did on paper), and then said...Well he has the wage order in place, so case over
Now how the heck do you think he got to the 30 grand mark if the wage order was working........duh Good luck, been there before and glad mine has paid on time.
be sure you get child support
It might not be much, but it will help. I didn't have the option of working fulltime from home when my son was small, so I had to put him in daycare. Found a reasonable sitter who was very reliable. But to supplement my day income, I did work part-time at night. I fed him, helped him with homework, bathed him and then put him down for bed and THEN went to work at home, many nights until 1 a.m.God gives us strength to get through things when we need it, cause I certainly don't think I could do it now! It will not be easy for you with 2 young children, but it can be done. It will require sacrifices, but don't sacrifice time with your children or time for yourself! Do a lot of praying. God Bless and I wish you the best. Keep a support group around you as much as possible.
I didn't WANT any child support
I wanted the divorce. He didn't. Even though I miss them to the point of tears, I asked for 50/50 custody because I thought it was the right thing to do. They spend half time with me, half time with him. He pays no child support. We share all expenses. Not the easy road for a single mom, but, in my opinion, it was the RIGHT thing to do for my kids.
Another perspective on child support
My husband adopted his ex-wife's 3 kids when they were preschool and elementary age. They were married for 10 years. He loved them like his own. When they divorced she forced the kids to choose sides. They chose hers. He rarely saw them after that and didn't force them to visit if they didn't want to. HOWEVER, in spite of never seeing his kids, he paid $1500 per month for child support. He barely had enough left over to pay his apartment rent and monthly expenses. (I don't blame them for their choice; their mother made that choice for them). Incidentally, after the divorce she inherited her parents' fortune, several million dollars. She continued to take the child support knowing how hard it was financially for him; when he got behind during a period of unemployment she took him to court. Even as the kids got older, she continued to threaten to disown her them if they had relationship with him.
Unfairness can work both ways. It's not always the mother who gets the short end of the stick. Dad's sometimes get the shaft also.
One final note. The oldest son tried to maintain communication with his dad, but sneaked around to do it and had hell to pay when his mother found out about it. Eventually, his attempts to contact his dad stopped completely. About two years after that, for reasons that are still unclear) he committed suicide at the age of 20. I wish parents would wake up and see that their bitterness toward their spouse and bitterness over money can poison their children.
He can do it. If he is becoming self-employed, he can cut his child support
too if he does not make a profit for the first few years.
Better to be prepared.
When he is in jail for DUI and paying child support for a
I agree that you have to let them go, but not before they are at least 18! Teach them right from wrong until then and maybe they will know to use their head by then. I am sorry, but teenage hormones and peer pressure are too much for the average teen to handle!!
I have a friend whose ex-hus owes $10K+ in back child support, she will never try to get it either -
because she is scared to death of him now. In the past he has tried to kill himself (she saved him), and he has threatened her as well. She thinks if pushed, he would possibly harm her and her daughter so she does nothing but IF he does see the daughter (he makes the rare effort but probably only because his new wife (#3) pushes for it) it is always supervised by her and in a public place. When he works the new wife makes sure child support is paid, but he is clinically depressed and works sporadically, and a lot of under the table stuff. Luckily she has sole custody of her daughter though and lives at home with her parents so she has good family support and financially has a very good job ($65K a year) so she has been able to do a lot for her daughter on her own, and also pay off all the debt her ex rung up (gambler) on her credit cards....they split the debt in the divorce. So there are many reason's why people don't push for child support. Luckily my friend is in a position where she does not need it, yes she would like it because it would help pay for a lot of her daughter's activities as she takes 4 dance classes or the rent she pays to live at home. She never prevents her daughter from calling or trying to see her dad, but time and time again he disappoints her with promises of seeing her more, etc. But the girl is smart and at age 11 now, knows her dad is just a total jerk. Her grandpa is good to her though and at least she has a "father-figure" in her life with him.
do you know how many kids come in the ER on an overdose and the parents say "Not my child?" nm
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I could support my three kids by myself on $32,000 per year.
I don't have many bills, just mortgage, utilities, groceries, insurances, and a small car payment. I have other career fields I can go back to if I didn't feel like doing MT any more, but this is what I want to do for now.
Go to NBC10.com - Our local news has "Wednesday's Child" which is a child for adoption.
Every Wednesday they introduce a child who needs a home and a family. There should be some information there as these kids are up for adoption.
www.NBC10.com -
Hope that helps!
WRONG! A child that has a fear of discipline = a well behaved child.
I have a beautiful, intelligent 11 year old daughter that hasn't had a spanking in 6 or 7 years and probably only 3 her entire life. She is very well behaved and I get compliments on her behavior constantly. When she does get out of line all I have to say is, "Shall I call your father?" Call it what you want, it works. She respects and obeys me and her father. Why??? For fear of the facing the consequences of misbehaving. Having a total lack of fear or respect for authority is exactly what's wrong with Generation X/kids today. I turned out just fine as did my siblings. Why?? Because my parents took "time out" to bust our a$$es whenever we got out of line.
Is that clear enough for you???
Do little kids like caramel? My big kids won't even eat it! We make the basic Baker's chocolat
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I never said you shouldn't have kids! Feeling guilty? I asked WHY you had kids.
You clearly stated in your post that you ship the kids off to camp all day, and they're TIRED AT NIGHT!! You know exactly what you said. You said it as a PERK - AS IN GREAT! They're gone all day, it wears them out, and so I shovel dinner in their mouths and off to bed! You can try to paint it any way you want, but YOU SAID IT. Again, I only hope your kids never hear you speak that way or write that way. Shame on you. Why have kids at all? Just another parent who has them, gets rid of them for day AND night, BRAGS ABOUT IT, and then calls ME wicked! Give me a break! Camp is fine - its WHAT YOU SAID AND YOU KNOW IT. Your own words showed your heart. Period.
Kids are demanding and so is MT work. My question is how CAN you do this with kids, rather than how
When you have two young kids, 11 months apart, (like I stated they are now 4 and 5) and have been doing this since they were born with no help from their father and no family around, YES, the kids get neglected. Part time might work but living on one salary, part time, is not an option. How can you possible tell me that anyone with two young kids can stay at home and work a full-time, 8-hour shift, and still give their kids the attention they NEED. I dont care how good you are at multitasking and how great your organizational skills are. It is a very difficult thing to do. And I am offended by your post making it sound as if it is easy to do.
I do agree that it can depend on how well your kids behave and how well they are able to play on their own. But my kids were not able to play well on their own. They needed constant attention.
So please take the time to realize that there are people out there in different situations than your own.
Reading our posts should help you to understand that everyone has a different situation. I believe everyone should have the right to shares their experiences as it might benefit the original poster in her questions and concerns.
I dont think anyone should be bashed for taking the time out to write about their experiences. I dont usually come on here to argue but you really ticked me off with your post. And try reading the post correctly. I said next time around I would have put them in day care. What I DID do with them was set them up to an activity like art or put on a movie for them. Geez.
Stayed "because of the kids?" I say "leave because of the kids"
You're in no position to buy right now. Keep saving, keep paying down your bills, and for heaven's sake get rid of that dead weight of a BF you're living with. You can do better.
So, should I return the $75 (x2 kids) in music cards I got the kids for x-mas...sm
My son has been telling me about free music sites and I was very leary. How do they skirt the law Radguy?
I don't have kids, but my Mom was from the "old school," and still had everyone, kids inclu
call her by her first name. The little neighbor girl next door from the time she could speak called her Aggie (my mom's first name), and they were great buddies until the day my mom pased away.
I don't think there really is much in a name, but more in the respect you are given and the way you are treated. Personally, I kind of cringe inside when someone calls me Ms. Anything or God forbid, "maam" (makes me feel like Methuselah!) ... I'm always just plain Merrie. :-)
But, as someone pointed out, to each his own. If you want to be addressed a certain way, you have that right, and people should respect that. I'm glad you corrected the child ... hope it "sticks." 
Yes DIRECTLY FROM THE ......nm
What I would tell you directly sm
I know you want a better job and for whatever reason, it just has not happened...YET.
Anything worth having is worth waiting for. Up to a point, the longer you wait the better it will be. Though, after a while it seems useless, it really isn't.
I had a wonderful job up until summer of 2007. Like a fool, I had $$ in my eyes and I took a job at 10 cpl. It was hard work and the line counts weren't great, but then they started to regularly run out of work. That was year ago this month. I started actively looking for work and I had offers, but I didn't take them because the grass is usually greener over the septic tank, rather than on the other side of the fence. I have been burned and didn't want to be so again. I sent out one last resume just before Christmas, but didn't think anything would come of it. I was wrong. My gift for Christmas turned out to be my dream job, so I quit the one I had.
In June, the one I quit in December begged me to come back and I accepted, because as a PT job, it would be perfect, and it has been. The boss I disliked is gone and a great gal is in her place. There is also a great deal of work.
I have the same time in you do, 15 years. I have waited much of that time for a full time job and a part time job to come together in a way that meshes as perfectly as these two do. All good and wonderful things come to those who wait.
I am wishing YOU all good things and soon. There is a company out there wishing for a hard worker, looking for their needle in a haystack and that needle is YOU. Best wishes and good luck!
I was not meaning you directly at all
guess I was just trying to get across the point that in other parts of the states southerns are protrayed as such. I am white, my husband is black and my mixed daughter was an English major in college here in the south and an accountant now, She, along with me, shutter when we hear ebonics. Like where you live and where I live outsiders would probably not believe with all the diversity, huh?
Jan -- I type directly into the EMR
Your doctor can still dictate but you will type directly into the EMR but you need to do it in house unless they allow you access from home -- which they might. But it is hard to charge per line as there will be some "normals" that they put in. So I do it hourly at the clinic. Have done this twice now for clinics. The first one, only one doc did the dictation, then another started and pretty soon all five were doing it and I had to quit as they needed someone full-time and I have my other own accounts. I did it just to help them out at first and get out of the house. But they did not like the hours they spent after seeing the patient doing the charting. So one never knows. Good luck but don't burn your bridges. Charge them reasonably but not out of anger.
Please see the post directly above yours.
While you are right that SSDI is different than SS, you forget that there are hundreds of children out there who have lost one or both parents and receive SS until age 18. They are certainly not retired so you're argument that it is SUPPOSED to be an account that helps people after they retired is inaccurate. It is, as originally stated, a program that was meant to help people who fell on hard times (not retirement).
As far as judging someone else, I'm just stating facts.
Like many other hardworking people on this board, I am not especially fond of watching my tax money be spent in a wasteful manner (I am not calling SS wasteful), and I certainly do not appreciate the people out there who are looking for ways around the system.
I could go on in this vein for a while but I've got to get back to my work. :)
Wow, this must be directly for a facility. Sm msg
Very hard to imagine an MTSO paying that type of money, although it is well worth every penny! Good luck! Grab it quick!
Even though IC directly for the hospital,
it sounds like you do not handle all of their transcription needs (in other words, providing the staffing, with the hospital being your account). For MTSOs who do have hospital accounts, I have seen the rates varying between about 18 cpl and 25 cpl (I imagine this is dependent on several factors, such as how the lines are counted, volume of dictation, and geographical location, among other things). For clinic accounts it also varies, but usually at a lower rate, about 12 cpl to 18 cpl, again depending on several factors.
Please do not simply give up, kids or no kids!
Talk with a professional. This can be worked through if he really puts forth the effort and you participate. The right counseling can truly make your marriage even better than it was before, if BOTH parties are willing to be honest. Give it a try. Nothing to lose at this point and everything to gain!
i purchased it directly at stedmans.com (nm)
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working directly for rad office
If you took a position working from home directly for a small doctors' office (5 docs) with no ESL and you supplied your own computer and internet, what is the lowest line rate you would accept? There is a good chance they may provide benefits too, including medical insurance. This would be for radiology only with mammos, x-rays, CTs, diagnostics, ultrasounds and no MRIs.
Thanks in advance for comments.
I work directly for a hospital in the NE,
the list is provided to me by the hospital.
Hi, Paul. Appreciate hearing from you/him directly.) SM
Anon, I also love this product; Paul and Ben did a great thing producing it and I'm grateful. I can't say why I like the platform so much except that it pretty much doesn't make me think about it. The work's in the reports, not fussing with the system. With one big exception as far as I'm concerned--it really needs a wild card or at least a better search feature for practitioner's names. That's often a major time waster.
I also like it so much because I find I'm faster on VR. It turns out I have a knack for editing, while I'm just a mediocre typist; others are obviously discovering the opposite. I certainly don't feel the disconnect from the dictator's meaning described by another editor. I confess, although many "hearing-it-wrong" mistakes are made by eScription (enough to make me needed), I've come to have a very healthy respect for its ear and listen very very carefully before overriding its reading.
That said, I'm unfortunately soon moving on to another, untried platform. My old account was offshored, like other eScription accounts with my employer before. I've heard the profit margin with eScription is just too low to compete with local editors. Sad reality???
I have my headphones plugged directly into
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I plug my headset directly...
...into the computer in the jack that you plug speakers into.
You might need to bypass the USB hub and plug directly in. sm
I have had this problem with other USB devices. I just switch around until I find one that will work in hub. I don't use EMDAT so don't know if that's the problem. Maybe someone else can shed some light on this.
Is the post you replied to directly above this one?
If not, the one you replied to may have been deleted. They can't control that. They delete one part and everything in response to it automatically goes with it. They can't leave responses hanging there when the one it was tacked onto was deleted.
That cpl is for contractors working directly with doc.
I made 14 cpl (65 char including spaces) when I had my own account.
My DD is a social worker and says that she dictates directly into VR
and the report is on her desk when she gets back to the office. She said everyone in her department loves it!
Anyone else have the family pet who has to sit directly on your foot pedal? My dog (who is an 80-lb
black lab) has done this all week and will not come out from under my desk. Don't know if it's the weather or what, but it is making me crazy!
I take it you've also been lied to directly by supervisor?
I'd go directly to college, which I've done and I'm in my late 40's too.
A high school diploma these days will buy a cup of coffee and a donut, unfortunately.
You need to email me directly to admin@mtstars.com
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Do a search of your C drive for it. I have mine placed directly - sm
in my C drive but usually it is in some obscure place within a file, within a file, etc. Look for "autorecovery" and see what comes up. Then the file will not be named "Smith ltr" or whatever but with letters and numbers, go by the date modified column (list details) for the date and time of the file. Hope this helps.
Was told working directly in MS Word...sm
when I asked what the platform was, that's what she said.
Now I see why I have to have unlimited long distance, and a second phone line!
I work for doctors directly, no QA, so I always proof.
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Tick Formatted Text directly about the with box. sm
Any time you're adding formatting like bold or italics you need to tick the formatted text option to save that formatting.
You can have Express Scribe download directly for you.
Under Settings, Automatic Incoming, click Add and use the FTP info you've been given to set up. Make sure your file type is checked. Also, one complaint with this program is that it does not download .dss files.
You can call Mr. L directly. I just did and left a message.
Go to this link and call the number directly. He is at this office and they will put you right through to him/his voice mail:
http://www.cohenlaw.com/offices-1.html
I was told that it would connect directly - no ID needed. nm
to clarify, I work directly for the hospital
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Now that I'm back working directly for the hospital
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Nah, I work directly for a a hospital in Missouri.
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