She was an adult, not her mother's choice
Posted By: sm on 2005-07-06
In Reply to: the american way - me again
Obviously there is enough evidence to hold at least 1 suspect as he is still being held! What about him? Poor him huh? You are exactly the kind of person who talks one way, but given the problem being placed on your doorstep, you would cry and complain just like the rest of them. If it were your child, you be just as angry and scared and frustrated as she is.
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Their skin is not a choice. To commit sodomy with a man is a choice.
I don't care if they are attracted to men or dogs or goats. I care that they act upon it.
Mothers day
It could be worse...my husband I I decided to divorce on Mother's Day...and I got nothing from any of my 4 kids.
BRAVO! The mothers never want to work SM
a holiday, they want every school break to be off with their children, they have to go on a field trip, they need to take Bratleigh to the doctor, on and on.
Taking a full-time job is great for them with full-time benefits until they are told they have to work some weekends or God forbid CHRISTMAS....what about the chilllllldddrennnnnn......
if our mothers don't kill us while we are in the womb.
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Message for those who aren't mothers...sm
I hope you made it through the day yesterday without it bothering you that you're not a mom. For many years I'd try to avoid going to the stores around Mother's Day and having clerks say "Happy Mother's Day" and avoid church because of the Mother's Day recognition because it emotionally stung that I wasn't married or a mom. My heart breaks for a good friend who had a miscarriage 2 years ago and is now infertile as she hates the "happy mother's day" wishes as it brings up the sad emotions. I can't even begin to imagine how painful that must be for her and others who have shared the same misfortunes.
I'm now 43 and am now a foster mom so while I don't have any biological children I do have a precious child living with me. I'm sure that her mom was sad yesterday that she chose drugs over raising her child and lost custody because of drugs, but I am grateful that I'm able to use my motherly ways with her.
Message for those who aren't mothers...
I have 2 goldens, 1 Shelties, and 3 cats. Do they count? I love them and they love me! I buy them food and fix their meals. In the evening they get a pseudo raw diet and marrow bones. I take the dogs to obedience, agility, and handling classes. I bring them to the vet. I make sure they have plenty of tennies (tennis balls) and woobies (toy they can rip the stuffing out of) give them unwanted baths, cut toenails, scoop up the yard, play with them, give ear scrunches, belly rubs, give out meds to Taz Duh Golden (dumber than a box of rocks) who has severe heart disease (subaortic stenosis and cor pulmonale), and my heart is torn when any of them make their journey to the Bridge.
So, in a way, I am a mom. Only difference.....mine have 4 legs and not 2. 
work-at-home mothers
And admiration and respect to the MT at-home moms (dads too)who do this demanding job with kids at home! Hats off to you!
E. It is not my choice to make, it is their choice.
Every job has its pros and cons. The more US MTs we can bring in is that many fewer jobs going overseas. Besides, I like my job.
Happy Mothers Day from the staff at MTStars! May you have the best day!
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What a very sweet surprise! Happy Mothers Day
nm
Why only young mothers who want to earn extra?
Why this statement? What about us older ones? I just do not get that statement because I would think experience counts a lot in this job.
And I thank the mothers of boys who have raised them to respect women.
dd
Mothers volunteer as "aides" at their children's schools
supposed to help, not hinder.
I'd rather act like an adult than be an adult trying to act like a kid.
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Adult trying to act like a kid?? What does that mean??
Adult trying to act like a kid? What does that mean? That adults cant go to rock concerts? You are the fool for generalizing about how kids or adults should act. I act the way I want, I believe the way I want, I am the way I want to be..Dont like it?? Tough. Your post really makes no sense. I would suggest you check out rockers, most of them are over 40, and they are still rocking..
Most daddies don't die. It's the breeding with losers that makes single mothers...
and you need to replace your crystal ball, because it's cracked. I happen to be very happily married with NO kids and LOVE it. Now, some of you will start squawking that I'm bitter because I don't have kids, but I assure you I am grateful every day of my life that I don't have to deal with kids, especially when I read on these boards how unhappy so many mothers seem to be.
If I'm harsh, it's because I've gotten the short end of the stick SO MANY FREAKING TIMES in my working life because of single mothers who expect and get preferential treatment, while those of us w/o kids are expected to pick up the slack. And guess what? I'm SICK of it.
Mothers covering for childless women? Don't make me laugh!! nm
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Any child is more adult than you are.
I grow weary of your tiresome chatter.....
So again having sex between 2 adult males sm
or females is the same grouping as men raping boys??? Come on, you are the one that needs an education.
Yes, i advise my "children" he is an adult now. sm
He accepted the job as it was and can quit or accept the terms. my dh and i run a construction business. he runs around and spends 2 hours a day just picking up help. we do not pay travel time. you either choose to go or you don't. we do, however, buy their lunch when it is a longer than usual travel. when they are ICs as usually with any manual labor field, labor law and travel time doesn't constitute for their positioning. turn the situation. if someone was coming to your house to do some work, would you be willing to pay every person on that crew travel time? probably not because that would significantly raise the price which you probably already think it too high to do the work you need. you have to realize they are ICs as we are and have all the expenses of trucks, tools, gas, taxes, etc. and have to cut their prices because foreigners are taking over the manual labor fields as well and working for pennies just as transcription is doing but manual labor isn't going to overseas, overseas is coming to the US for pennies. i would have him ask the man he works for about it but it the guy accepts either live with it or quit. i doubt he will get it as with 18yo he can't have a lot of experience to constitute the extra pay, etc.
Like it or not, she is a legal adult and can do what she wishes.
You can tell her your opinions, but you really have no control over this. Just as you wouldn't want someone forcing you to have an abortion because they believe it's right, she likely doesn't want you trying to force her to keep it because it's what you think is right.
All you can do is be there for her if/when she needs you. Yeah, it may stink that her beliefs are not the same as yours, but there's nothing you can do about.
You're ridiculous. He's an adult and she can't do that.
She can talk to him, keep the lines of communication open with him, pray for him, but she has to decide what consequences she is willing to accept by where she draws her line of acceptance.
You cannot make decisions for grown children.
What a hateful parent to even try. Counsel them with a tender heart-to-heart but try to force them into living like yourself? HATEFUL.
Why don't you do the adult thing and just BAN her from posting here instead of sm
doing through all of this drama and mess. It's getting old and I would think an owner of an MT board would be much more professional than this.
Kay Christoper
well, I am an adult with teen kids, so it's not too hard to
And they say divorce is less traumatic on adult children....
Unfortunately, this is NOT the case. Adult children whose parents divorce quite often end up just as you have described. They are old enough to form their own opinions which are quite often colored by their life experiences and how they relate to each parent as an adult with adult biases and opinions. Divorce, regardless of the age of the children, always affects the children and people who are "waiting until the kids are grown" are only deluding themselves.
In catechism class as an adult, they told us - sm
told us "it's better to remain as you are, but get married if you absolutely must." This was a group of people mostly over 40 who were studying to become Catholic.
A parent's job is to raise a child the way they should go as an adult ....
Isn't part of being an adult cleaning, taking responsibility? If so, YOUR job is to make them clean, certain rooms on certain days, not just during vacations. (I'm at work so this is succinct, and probably not real tactful, sorry)
i took an adult education class for 5 bucks,
in California 33 yr ago. I'm pretty sure most everyone trained on the job in those days, but i paid $5 for the course and bought a few books (med dictionary, workbook etc). This was an intensive course though with a great teacher -- 8r a day x 6 months and i probably studied 4-5 hr a night. I had a job before i got out of 'school' and i've worked continuous ever since, in many capacities, a number of states. I do think there are too many places nowadays however that take your money and don't prepare you well. But it's WHAT they teach, not the name of the school. We spent a good deal of time on word roots/prefixes/suffixes, interpreting sound, easily confusables, how to research, etc. Training my ear did not come easy for me, but i believe everywhere i've worked, i've been considered one of their best. Again, its not where you've been but what you learned when you got there!!
What? Don't like changing adult diapers all night long?
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Glad to hear that my adult knitting friends and I are "trashy."
x
Adult children CHOSE to join army.Didnt they
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Morning baby, morning adult. Kids born at 11:30AM (both) are night owls, however. Go figure! :) nm
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Not much of a choice is it
Not on VR yet. I have not heard one thing about VR, the checks being sent out or the pay letters. Been here 8 years. Everything I have found out about is off this website and that is pretty sad.
I think if I had a choice
between being beautiful and childish and stupid or being ugly and gruesome in appearance. I'd choose ugly and gruesome any day. You may think that what you are doing is funny, and it may be funny to you, but most of us fail to see the humor.
Bad choice
I work for Transhealth and very bad choice to go work for, take it from me. I have been working there for couple of years and have stayed on for circumstances beyond my control but am planning to leave hopefully by end of this year if not sooner.
It's my choice
If I don't chose to patronize a store, it's MY choice, regardless of the reasons. The person asking the questions asked me where I would shop if I didn't go to Wal-Mart, so I told her. My reasons are my reasons, so bug off.
try First Choice
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not by choice
Whether any of us likes it or not, 10% of the population will be gay. I have not seen the movie but intend to see it. I think it would be rather naive to think that a gay cowboy has never existed. While I believe it would not be appropriate for children just as it would not be appropriate for children to see straight adult-theme movies, I don't believe gays are pushing this movie. Whether you or are approve or disapprove of gays, they are a fact of life. While I worked in hospitals in days gone by, many employees were gay and I got to be good friends with many gays. Trust me, from what I have been told by many gays, they would not wish this on any one. Gays are for the most part born this way. I would no more expect a gay person to do something inappropriate in front of me as any of my straight friends.
His choice! nm
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First Choice does, too. nm
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If you had the choice would you....sm
go hourly as a QA Editor or stay production as an MT? I have the chance to take a job as an QA/editor making between around $14+ an hour. I know I could make more as a production MT, but then you have the worry of work flow, ect. I was just wondering for those who made the transition if you like the change or ended up going back production. Thanks.
We have no choice...
Sally, I appreciate your post and what you have to say. However, if you want to work from home and the nationals will not pay more for your services, what exactly are you to do? If you have advice for me, I would sure like to hear it. I have over 20 years of experience in this field. When I started in 1984, I made 10 cents per line; I now make 9 cents per line. Times have changed for us, and not for the better. I would love to hear others' comments on this issue as well. And, yes, we are definitely worth more!
Job choice
You will have 2 days off a week, you will see your kids then. In the meantime, they will get to spend evenings with their Dad while you work. Looks like a win/win to me.
Also, you'll be modeling ambition, hard work, and motivation to your 3 kids - pretty great mothering in my opinion.
if I had a choice
I'd take your place over theirs any day, Hayseed, including the pig! Grass and manure beats asphalt and exhaust any day! They have a house. You have a home.
I would say that you really have no choice.
errors. I would present it as a probationary period. I would cut the rate, and then once the proofing need not be done, then up the rate. If you have to proof after 5 years, then you are defeating your purpose no doubt. Good luck.
Everyone here has a choice and I see
people would rather sit and wait for work and be almost in poverty so they can spend time with their child. Oh, yeh, makes a lot of sense to me. I said nothing about fancy home but I was able to take my children on really nice vacations and years later am thanked for those times. There is nothing wrong in having goals in life and working hard to get them. I am so thankful I have an excellent work ethic. I noticed you MTmom was one who wrote they were just sitting there waiting for work. Have fun
Given my choice
What I would like to see is my tax dollars redirected from black holes like Iraq and directed to health care. Or maybe taken away from some of the pork projects to pay for it. Would I personally be willing to pay another $50/check to have insurance (which is all your 10% tax increase amounts to)? You bet your sweet petootie, I would. It's still a much better deal than my MTSO is offering at $400/month.
As to wait times, I used to have Kaiser...wait times for non-emergent consults and procedures were easily 6-8 weeks. Not as bad as Canada but not the pie-in-the-sky spontaneous that you would like to imply.
Transolutions is a bad choice!!
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not her mother's choice
Glitter eyemakeup? False eyelashes? What channel are you watching? Maybe you should put on a pair of glasses, and maybe then you would have seen her crying. I think the arubans investigation stinks and so does their goverment.YOUR THE LOON, NOT BETH TWITTY.
Nice choice!! :)) ........
I make my kids sing some Temptations when I have them prisoner in the car.  Ball of Confusion ...
Sophie's Choice. sm
I only have one grown child, but asking me my fav Beatles song is like asking Sophie to pick one child to live or die. I love Something (Harrison), Imagine (Lennon), Yesterday (McCartney), and Let it Be - Lennon and McCartney. That would be my Sophie's choice, Let It Be - I have had to apply that concept in my life.
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