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Some of you remember about this topic a few months back, and you all supported me so well, that I decided to post again on the subject.  I hope admin does not remove this, I know it should be in the depression forum, but no one goes there and you all were so nice before so...

I had told you about his advances, the comments, the suddenly wanting to hug, and the inappropriate looks.  I have been wearing all but a potato sack, messy hair and no makeup and even let myself not smell so good, to keep him away, but nothing works.  I still want a relationship with my mother, and she does not like to go out, so i'm stuck going over there all the time.  Ive even gotten downright rude to him, do not look at him or direct comments anymore, and he has gotten so daring as to now touch me inappropriately. 

Last night we went to dinner, I didn't want him to go, but of course its my mother's husband so he's there.  I gave him the cold shoulder the whole night, ignored his flirting and just talked to my mother.  Towards the end of the night, when I was leaving their house, I hug my mother and he was standing right there waiting for his.  I am extremely uncomfortable with this, so I just say bye.  My mother got furious and wrote me an email as to why i've become so cold towards him.

Well, with me holding all this inside for so long, (besides telling one person who has a big mouth and really did not help me out much at all), I blurted out that I want nothing to do with this family, I will not be coming around anymore.  There is no WAY I can tell her why.  So i've just made the decision to stay away from the family, in order to spare her embarrassment.  I think it's the right decision.  I'm going to be extremely lonely, because it couldnt come at a worse time with the holidays coming, but I have no other choice. 

This whole thing is humiliating.  I can't believe she does not see him doing these things, but she does tend to fall into denial to avoid things.  But with her accusing me of being "cold"...well, thats the last straw.  I need to stay away, and I don't want the entire family to know about this around this time, even though i'm ready to explode.  Writing here has helped me somewhat.  I wonder if i'm making the right decision.  My family adores this guy, his own family won't have anything to do with him.  I feel like i'm all over the place, but i'm just so confused and sick.  Wonder if i'm doing the right thing by removing myself and keeping this under wraps at least for the holidays?  The only person who is miserable is me, and i'd rather it that way than the embarrassment of this all coming to light.  Very lost. 

Thank you guys for hearing me out.  Again, admin sorry about the off topic but I posted it here before and it really helped. 

I was molested by my stepfather from the ages of 8 to 12.  I ended up telling my mom when I was in my 30's.  She was horrified that she had not known what was going on, but did nothing.  Life went on with me trying to stay away from my stepfather and never letting him be alone with my two daughters.  Then one day I was at my mother's alone with my youngest daughter and he was there.  I was in the other room, working for my mom that day, and my daughter came in and asked me to come sit in the living room.  She laid down and went to sleep.  I thought she must be getting sick.  The next day she said she had something to tell me and my heart sank.  I knew before she said the words.  He had began to touch her inappropriately and that is when she came and got me.  I took her to the doctor I worked for and the police were called.  I also went and confronted him at his job.  Funny thing he was fired the next day for "some reason."  He was arrested, after running for a while, and ended up pleading guilty in court.  My daughter was 10.  I lost my mom and sister over it, they thought I over reacted, but my daughter had the reward of knowing she stopped this man from molesting others.  Not long afterward he developed lung cancer that very quickly metastasized to his brain and he died on a Christmas Eve.  You have to tell to protect others.  I live with guilt daily because I never told when I was young.  Stop it now before he does this to others, if he is not already.

I really appreciate you all taking the time to give me some insight.  I'm going to hang in there.  The one poster was right--I do have PTSD from my old job who stressed me continously about firing me!  Sigh..that was a horrible experience and I'm still burned from that.  I had never gone through anything like that before.  Every job I've ever had, I excelled with it. Well again, THANK YOU! 

I'm still interested.  Thanks.

I think I'm getting my first contract that I solicited myself, so bear with me.  Does Outlook or Outlook Express have features where I can safely send emails back to the doc with the transcriptions, or do I need a stand-alone product for HIPAA compliance? 

Thanks! 

about ESL. I will not post nasty mesages about ESLs. I will not post nasty messages about ESL.

Okay, done. I did not post a nasty message about ESLs.

Hello all !   Years ago I considered getting into court reporting, but back then I remember being told you only get paid PER PAGE/LINE, and not for your time in the court room when you're recording the cases. Recently I was told a court reporter gets anywhere from $3 to $5 per page.

Does anyone have any info on how payment for court reporters works? Is the above true?  I thought MT was a better-paying position, as the whole go-to-work-and-jot-down-the-text part was eliminated - and we (used to) make good money doing MT. 

Any info would be interesting! Thanks  !

Recently there had been an ad in our local paper for a full-time court reporter for the superior court in our local area.  It was advertised at $78,000 per year with full federal benefits, and bonus days off like President's day (when was the last time a MT got paid for being off on President's Day?)   Again, I too pick the wrong career and should have went into court reporting but at that time (in 1976) there was not a lot of interest in that field so I just went into transcription training and here I am 30 years later.  Can you still teach an old dog new tricks?

Do they have your SSN, they might not be reporting it on a 1099 to IRS and so you have a choice to report it or not, I guess.  How much was it?  I have a couple of small accounts that do not send me a 1099 but I do report the income through my business, just add it into the total.  A 1099 is not necessary to file your taxes if you are an IC.  Not all plumbers or electricians get 1099's when they do contract work. 

I definitely would go to school for court reporting, but unfortunately I am too old (64). I know this would be very interesting. Where I live near Chicago, they have an excellent court reporting program that a person can take.

Also, you can work at home eventually. Like I said if I were younger, I would go for court reporting.