Reminds me of my late father-in-law....
Posted By: SM on 2006-02-10
In Reply to: SAME fight again with DH.... - nymt
He totally controlled the money (he figured he earned it all, so why not) and doled out "household money" to my MIL like Ricky and Lucy Ricardo did. This continued until he died 18 MO ago, so I'm not talking about a by-gone time. Meanwhile, up until he quit smoking, he was buying 3 to 4 packs a day plus stopping at the bar every day on the way home from work. He never did stop drinking and I can only imagine the money he spent on that over their 40 yr marriage, while she's trying to run the house on her "allowance" and she could never take a dime out without his permission beyond the money he gave her. Sheeesh (eyes rolling). Thank God it didn't rub off on their son or I'd be a single woman by now.
Complete Discussion Below:  marks the location of current message within thread
The messages you are viewing
are archived/old.
To view latest messages and participate in discussions, select
the boards given in left menu
Other related messages found in our database
I think I do now, but it used to his father - sm
If I would try to make plans, he would always say he had to see what his father was doing first because he might need help doing something on the family farm. And this was BEFORE his mother passed away and I never understood it. I know WHY he did it - loyalty and I think a sense of obligation - but I could never understand. My feelings were in shreds on more than one occassion. But things are much better now. He's still there to help is father, but I don't feel like I'm running a distant second to him anymore.
my father tried it
My father signed up there but they wanted him to pay $2000 for food. I think it was for some kind of power bar or granola bar and they wanted him to buy $2000 worth. He said he did not want to buy them but they charged his card the $2000 anyway. Needless to say, he immediately withdrew his membership.
He went to Weight Watchers and so far, so good.
My father....
was in many ways a man before his time... My parents' marriage started out very traditional with my dad earning all the money and my mother at home having and caring for the babies. However, my dad was the type who LOVED babies and little ones and would come home and feed or sit up all night with a sick child. Slowly, the tables began to turn. He encouraged my mom to get an education and she eventually began working (as an MT I might add) when I was about 12 (I was the baby). By the time I was 19 of 20 my father was laid off at age 58 and my mother had become a department supervisor and made all the money. My mother had private accounts and actually taught my father to transcribe, which he did until he died about 12 years later. He did the paperwork and billing and delivering too. That made him feel useful. He would shop and cook and do the laundry and have dinner ready for my mom when she got home from work. Talk about a complete 180 degree in a marriage. My father was not perfect, but he was steady and dependable and you always knew that he loved you. My husband is very much the same.
my father uses WW
He has diabetes and a heart condition so it is critical that he maintains his diet & a healthy body weight. So far, he has been really happy with WW and it really has been helping him reach his dietary goals. Good luck to you.
it sounds like Father, May I.....*tsk tsk*..nm
##
Loss of father
To wimt: I lost both parents within 7 days of each other. I cried off and on for a couple of years. It takes time to heal and everyone is different. It always helps to surround yourself with people you feel comfortable with and you feel give you support. Plus, grief counseling never hurts--only helps. Good luck to you.
Katharine's Father
I was thinking the same thing about Katharine's father. They'll probably have to hold him up. All he does is cry whenever she sings. Imagine if she wins?
HAPPY FATHER'S DAY to all you men
out there!
I took care of my father
for last two years of his life. I barely had time to work because it became so time consuming taking care of him and two little kids. It was very difficult to get any help, and social services can only do so much.
I would think long and hard before making the move. How will you care for your mother if you are working full time, perhaps have to travel across town to see her, take her to doctor visits, and still take care of two kids? My Dad lived on the other side of my duplex so I was right there and it was still incredibly difficult.
If anything, I would advise moving in with her or maybe she could move to Georgia. Good luck whatever you decide.
That reminds me of a new doc who sm
came on when I worked for the hospital. He wanted to impress everyone, too, with his dictation.Nothing was ever shorter than 20 minutes. One year later, his DC summaries were 30 seconds total and only after he was suspended for not dictating at all! So, they do change, sometimes not for the better.
by the looks of him, he reminds me of --sm
pee wee herman! yuk. Since he already has some very wide gaps in his story, I am beginning to wonder if he is just looking for his 15 minutes of fame. I hope he is the one, but now I have my doubts. time will tell.
Reminds me again of having
The American workers took forever, did not show up when they were supposed to, used my bathroom, and demanded beverages (not water). They wanted Pepsi. All they did was complain about the heat and also broke the filter so my husband had to go buy a new one. The cursed, brought their kids with them to play on the swingset in my backyard because they didn't have a sitter.
The landscapers who were Mexican, were quick and I mean quick, worked hard, showed up when they were supposed to, never asked to use the bathroom, and never demanded beverages. They brought their own. I offered beverages, they declined. They never curves, and their kids were left at home. They finished the job, it was wonderful, and we recommended this particular landscaping company all over time. I might add, they bid the job at half of the price of the 2-3 American landscaping companies we had come out. Now, who do you blame?
JMH born and raised in America O.
Reminds me of
Hey, there's great stuff in there. Love Erma too! 
That reminds me of my dad
He said you NEVER ask anyone their salary, and if anyone had the nerve to ask you about yours, you had every right to lie to them! Tell them anything you wanted - the more obvious the lie, the better.
Ha! That reminds me
when I first starting hearing about Lipitor. I would always think of a boy's action figure and cartoon saying in a deep voice, "I am Lipitor!".
The father was brought in for report of him saying this and now he is
released. I guess the "report" of the "report" did not pan out enough to keep him in jail. The prosecutor is not at liberty to disclose anything and has said so repeatedly. No professional has ever quoted one of the suspects directly and you know that. A report of a report of this man having said this is all I heard from a reporter.
I have both and even had a father; I love them all dearly!!!!
*** I just knew someone would have to be negative. Everyone, everywhere has something negative to say about most anything. I, quite frankly, enjoy life. Guess what? I even laugh at "women" jokes!!!! I know my father, who died 35 years ago, would have found this very funny. My brother is laughing with me now. My son, who is a Marine, will have to wait until his return home to see it but, unlike some people, he does have a sense of humor and will enjoy it as it was meant to be.
Do you ever watch any comedies on television or anything like that?? It is quite common to see "man versus woman" schtick" (spelling?) all the time. Seems it has not been banned due to "political incorrectness". Anyway, I certainly did not mean to offend you; that I stated before I actually wrote the 15 pieces of advice. Thank you.
My 4 year old also behaves better than his father.
what are you going to do
please give your Father an ATTABOY....nm
Happy Father's Day to ALL including...nm
yes, Happy Father's Day to all the dads out there! (nm)
x
The father just bought her a cell
and sent her a text message. She was able to send a message back saying, "I love you guys." I cannot even imagine the pain that family is going through or the other girl's family who was victimized.
The sheriff was even emotional and crying after it happened. It's really sad. I don't know if I could deal with that.
I spoke to the girl's father -
He then contacted the school but I haven't talked to him since then to find out what they told him.
I think the father of the killer should be shamed publically
instead of Natalee's mother. The father of the boy is a lawyer. He is arrested because why???????? That isn't normal if there is no evidence, nothing going on. He says no body/no crime. What kind of father would say that? He is obviously not right in the head nor is his son. They don't keep people in jail without some kind of evidence either. And if my daughter was missing and the father of the suspect was saying things like no body no crime, I might get a little crazy too. I would probably be over there kicking some ***, not just talking about it on TV. Believe me, she is handling great compared to some.
We had a weird happening after my father died...
He died in August and when we went to visit his grave just before Christmas, the grass was still growing back over the plot. The grass had grown in the shape of a Christmas tree inside the rectangular plot of dirt over the grave. We got some bulbs and decorations and laid them in the grass and took pictures. Guess what, the pictures didn't turn out. "dodo do do" (twilight zone tune)
My step-father got a kidney transplant
He was extremely happy to be off the dialysis and looked quite a bit healthier for a span of time (kidneys do things the plastic tubing just can't), but he only lived an extra 3 years and had to take lots of antirejection meds in the meantime, was in and out of the hospital a lot.
I agree with the person who posted below about talking to a physician about the downsides. Find out exactly what quality of life most transplant recipients have and how many extra years most of them receive. This is a big decision. It will change your life and probably in ways you can't fathom yet.
Wish I could give you better answers. It's so hard to watch people we love suffer.
My father is no longer living, but he was never a part
of my life. He worked and worked and worked, and worked some more. When he came home he sat, read the paper, watched TV and fell asleep in his recliner. He NEVER told me he loved me until he was in advanced stages of Alzheimer's disease. We did not get along at all and my mother always said we were so much alike that we clashed, but I don't agree with that at all. My father was not a bad father, just wasn't a good one. I am #4 out of 5 and I always felt I was the only one he didn't love, though I don't know he really knew how to love and probably did the best he knew how - wasn't good enough though.
My DH on the other hand is everything my father wasn't.
What about mudder and fodder for mother and father?
UGH!
Reminds me of my "pet".
I kept feeling a little tickle on my leg. I figured it was one of my stray hairs or the fringe from the blanket that's across my chair. I looked down to find a huge nasty spider on my leg. I screamed and slapped at it. My shriek scared the heck out of the kids and made the dog go hide under the bed.
Your dog story reminds me of one of those
Amazing pet stories on Animal planet, about pets that end up adopting people and they actually turn out to do something extraordinary, it seems like she is there for a reason and even if you say you don't have much space, your love and attachement is obviously providing her with more than she had.....oh I'm a sucker on these cases.
Kellie just reminds me of....
yet another Baywatch cookie cutter stringy Barbie doll looking blonde. Katherine is truly a beautiful young woman. Maybe it's me, but I just don't find that bleach blonde look very distinctive. They all look alike to me. And yes, she's either a very good actress or dumb as a box of hair. Okay, I can understand being from a place where people don't eat a certain kind of food as a rule "SAL-mon", but to have never heard of a fish called a salmon? Exactly what rock has she been living under?
Ah, so! Poor doc. Reminds me of one of my...sm
docs who butchers the English language. I called him on repeatedly spelling a term incorrectly (course rather than coarse) and he relied "I was a pre-vet major, not an English major!"
Sorry about the misunderstanding!
Reminds me of systems
I've worked on that used Citrix; not being computer savvy, I don't know if they called it a Citrix server or what, but apparently it was a company that they used for some part of the process, and it was not compatible with the software. They I think they had to switch to some other company to speed things up.
That should be about as clear as mud. Sorry.
This reminds me of a story.
My son has scoliosis and on one of our visits to the orthopedist, he was dictating while we were in the room. At one point, he grabbed the films in the same hand as his recorder to throw them up on the light wall. I just said, "Do you realize that your transcription did not hear anything you said while that x-ray was in your hand?" He just gave me a blank kind of look so I explained that I was an MT and said that if he was having a lot of blanks in his dictation when it was returned, that might be the reason why.
I never heard whether or not it made a difference for the MT or not--he wasn't such as good orthopedist, either, so we changed practices after that.
that reminds me: I had to share my
workstation with a girl on days; she had very long hard nails (admit to being green with envy here!) and it wasn't long before she only only wore off the letters, she managed to poke holes through the keys! I demanded a new keyboard because of safety concerns due to shock hazard.
Oh yeah, that reminds me....
Well over 20 years of this work has also left me hard of hearing! :D
It really is, isn't it? Reminds me of ShamWow
The boy's father was released after a short period of time.
So were the others who were thought to be involved. You have very little knowledge of this case as does Mrs. Twitty. Maybe you should just calm down and educate yourself on Aruban law and justice.
My father left us when I was 3. Busy, I always wanted a family like yours. nm
x
We're trying to get my father home due to health issues
My father has been at a federal prison camp for a little over a year now. He's been sent to a local hospital six times due to heart troubles. Before going in he had two heart attacks, stents placed, treatment for prostate cancer. He's now also having trouble with his kidneys. We are at our wit's end trying to get him home on house arrest. It was a money/bribery charge (federal). No prior record. Can any one PLEASE help?
 thanks
Yes, our father's were both truckers and knew each other. I know Terri & her sisters
quite well. We also went to nearby schools. I've been to the zoo once and Australia is just gorgeous. If I ever lived anywhere else it would be Australia. Terri took us around to places that I would have never seen otherwise. She is a lady in the fullest sense of the word. Sadly, I never got the chance to meet Terri's hubby as he was away when we visited. It blows my mind that they were married 14 years. Time really flies and it doesn't seem like it was that long ago that they got married.
"Who is it?" --- Reminds me of a joke ...
one of the oldest around:
The man leaves his apartment. His parrot is in inside. While he is gone, the plumber arrives. He knocks on the door. The bird answers, "Who is it?" "It's the plumber; I've come to fix the sink." No reply. The plumber knocks louder. "Whoooo is it?" the bird asks. In a little irritated voice, "It's the PLUMBER, I've come to fix the sink!". No reply. The plumber BANGS on the door. "Whooooo is it?" the bird asks calmly. "IT'S THE PLUMBERRRRR, I'VE COME TO FIX THE SINK" the plumber screams. No reply. The plumber, in his fit of rage, falls to the floor dead with a heart attack. The man who lives in the apartment returns. He finds the plumber dead at the door. He opens the door and says, "Who is it?" "It's the plumber. He's come to fix the sink" the bird says.
LLMAAAOOOO
ROFL Your post reminds me...SM
Not too long ago, I had my last nerve plucked out by my two boys, teenagers, when they were griping for me asking for a little bit of help around the house. Not much, mind you. Just a little. Their nastiness just got the best of me. Good thing too, though!
I turned off the AC vents in their rooms, made a list of 20 jobs around the house I wanted done, sent them to their rooms with the lists and started cooking...cooking their favorite dinner. I told them they had to stay in their rooms, doors shut, and would have no AC nor any food until they decided they could shut up and get those 20 jobs done. No food, no comforts of lying on the couch, watching TV, in cool air -- all of which I provide -- until they got the work done and without one nasty word about it.
Took about an hour and their warm bedrooms and stomachs growling at the smell of dinner had them out of their rooms and got it done!
Reminds me of a friend who worked
for an attorney. He used to fire her regularly cuz he had a nasty temper. One day he goes of the office and she wasn't there. He called her at home and yelled at her because she wasn't at work and couldn't understand why she did what she was told to do.
This reminds me of a chat room at AOL! LOL nm
reminds me of "don't get your panties
x
Yep, reminds me of a friend of mine
who lost her job as a travel agent (due to technology, Expedia, Cheap Tickets, etc.) and refuses to work for less than $35,000 a year. Says it's "beneath her."
Well she has no other skills, and is uneducated except for a 6-month travel course at a community college, so how could anyone expect to call the salary shots in that situation?
I agree. You gotta do what you gotta do. Sometimes life hits you hard, but it's up to you to accept it or start over with an education.
If you choose not to "accept" a job that pays less, even temporarily, that's your problem, not the government's.
That word just reminds me of Napoleon
Dynamite. LUCKY! Thanks for the laugh whether intentional or not. That word will never be the same for me after that movie. Tee hee.
Nawwww, Taylor reminds some of us
Reminds me of a 55 minute long DS I had...for..
a two-day long hospital stay!
Reminds me of having to sleep with the TV going all the time
Some time ago I slept in a room like that- even had a sleep study done because could not keep my eyes open during the day- I was not getting the good sleep I should have been getting, don’t have to go through that anymore!
|
