Really wish I had the baby and gave it up for adoption (sm)
Posted By: I had one too, have always regretted it on 2006-03-14
In Reply to: My neice has found out that she's pregnant. - me
It seemed like the right decision at the time, but the nine months would have passed so quickly and now that baby would be alive, somewhere, hopefully having a great life. It made me fear for the first several years of my two living children's lives that they were going to be taken from me as punishment. I picture the child that would have been at different ages.
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Maybe he means adoption, but probably is just a misspeak. nm
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I don't think they even cared why I was quitting. I called the supervisor to tell her in person and she simple said "I need it in writing and when will your last day be". Personally, I like things quick and painless.
Go to NBC10.com - Our local news has "Wednesday's Child" which is a child for adoption.
Every Wednesday they introduce a child who needs a home and a family. There should be some information there as these kids are up for adoption.
www.NBC10.com -
Hope that helps!
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Didn't mean to go off on a tangent, but I can't imagine my sweet bella going to someone outside her family.
someone gave me a tip...
to make it larger, maybe it will help make it smaller: Ctrl and scroll on mouse to adjust - any help?
you gave me an idea about E-bay...sm
I'll go check it out, but is it easy to sign up to sell something? What kind of account(s) do you have to have (Pay Pal, or will they send you a check?). Let us broke MTs know.
Congrats on the saved backside! We've all been there; in fact, I'm right there with ya!
Thanks for the E-bay suggestion!
MedQuist gave what they can
I also am in agreement with what Medquist did was great!
It doesn't matter what we think or feel, it is what the people receiving that money feel, and they are grateful! That is a lot of money in anyones eyes. Common sense should tell you that you only give what you can and if 20,000 is what MedQuist could give then that is not worth picking apart.
The points being brought up about how MedQuist just spent millions on legal fees should say something right there, they still gave didn't they? YES SIR!
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I gave up proofreading...
when it became clear that I had to move fast to produce reports in bulk in order to make my production requirement as well as a decent hourly wage ($20 to $25 which I feel is fair for this type of work). My feeling is that if that MTSOs wanted error free reports they would pay by the hour and not by production. Most places which say they want 98% accuracy get this figure from a random sample of reports sent to QA. If you were falling below this consistently, and I am talking gross mistakes in the reports, hopefully the service would hear it from the dictator, who has the ultimate responsibility for ensuring his/her work is accurate. 
I don't believe that. God also gave us free will. nm
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It all hangs on what you DO with what God gave you.
I gave the tip about using control+K
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I purchased ShortHand and it is in the instruction manual that came with it.
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I gave them about 6 weeks.....
I kept thinking it would get better and after about 6 weeks when it was getting worse I just quit.
I really like the ideas you gave here
I, for one, am about to freeze my tush off this morning but I just came into my room to check email and such before any work today. The one I like the most, I think, is about the lap throw. I have seen the electric blankets but am not really sure about this. Is this a Wal-Mart item also? As I want to see any outside activity, sit in front of a really big window with the shutters open so that let in some of the cold, keep space heater going at my feet because like you, want to keep costs down in the rest of the home. Only 1 here most days and do not need to heat up this great big place. Thanks for the hints.
I just gave up IC for employee sm
My kids grew up, I paid off my house and I don't have enough expenses personally to itemize. What happened? I got screwed! Last year my taxes were $11000. I am expecting about the same this year.
What happened is that that is such a significant part of what I make that I was financially strapped. I have literally been saving for my taxes FOREVER to mount this kind of money up to pay them and it is the same every year. No expenses much, can't make less income because I can't eat, can't make more because well, I type enough!
I made excellent money last year. All my friends made 1/3 to 1/2 of my income for 2007. They all got newer cars. They all had some sort of a vacation. They all could go out to dinner once in a while. My vehicle is 15+ years old, but runs. I have not had a vacation in 10 yrs and I can't afford to eat in, let alone eat out. I buy my clothes off the Walmart $3 rack because that is the only way I can afford it.
For having no mortgage or rent, being VERY frugal and careful...I have no money and no life. I will never be an IC again.
Gave me the giggles!!! LOL!!!
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Probably. I am an IC and my MTSO gave
me a copy since that is what they use. I used to use the counter in MS Word before that.
I don’t think she gave the impression
of working for a MTSO. I personally thought the amount she was saying was that she did have her own accts. The question was how much you make, not whether you were your own boss or working for others.
You gave notice to your old job w/o knowing
what your line rate would be? Am I understanding that correctly?
I dont know what gave you such a bad attitude, but i am sorry for
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Doesn't it make you wonder what he's thinking???
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My schedule/routine is EXACTLY like your husband's, or it was until my son's girlfriend started "living" here. Long story, but it's ending soon as she is returning to college in a week.
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Which brings me to the brilliant idea I have thanks to your post!! I am going to get EAR PLUGS or something similar. Even though she'll only be here for another week or so, I'm sure she'll visit on occasion... but I definitely need SOMETHING to get me through the next week!
thank you thank you thank you!
Hmmm, you signed nothing. Maybe they gave you this one
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DOG...yes, he gave about 1-1/2 hr presentation. Interesting.
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Whoops! DH gave DD the car (sorry for the confusion)!
What happened was that I thought a second hand car was fine and she should pay for it like I did in high school but he said, "Are you kidding? You bought your own car in high school in 1975 when it cost a couple hundred bucks. If she bought her own car now she'd need a loan for the friggin' thing. It's just not possible anymore for kids to buy anything like that from a minimum wage job at the Dairy Queen, plus if by some act of God she was able to it would be a piece of junk and unsafe."
Amen. We gave up buying for the whole
extended family years ago. Now we buy for our nuclear family and parents. My children are grown now, so we spend less now than we did when they were small.
No one ever gave me 2 weeks notice when I was let go
so why do we owe anyone this courtesy?
They took the extra and gave it all to your teamleader.
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That gave me chills. Good for you!!!
I hope my life turns out that well.
If I gave that recipe out, he'd kill me....but....
no body lives forever, right? ;) My son makes three 8-inch round cake layers, cuts off the tops to make them all flat then cuts each layer in half (using a piano wire--very culinary :). The rasp. filling from scratch takes forever, but a quick alternative is to heat rasp. jelly on low and add regular nonflavored brandy. Heat stirring constantly until it thickens a little and is spreadable. This should not take very long at all (heating too high for too long will turn it into hard candy when it cools). Spread between the cake layers. The genache is just white chocolate, butter and heavy cream. My son goes by what the stuff looks like with regards to how much of each he needs, but I'll bet you can find a recipe on epicurious. com or the like. I know this is not exact, but hope it helps a little.
It gave him daily headaches. nm
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MQ gave out some really extraordinary gifts!
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This gave me my laugh for the day! :) Professional??
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Look, Miss Know-It-All, I gave her the correct
It taught her to use the term "select".
If she doesn't learn how to use the correct terminology, she'll NEVER learn to use her help index and she'll always be disabled.
Unfortunately, the enablers, such as yourself, do nothing but perpetuate the problem.
If you don't like my assistance, shut the h*** up! I sure think yours stinks!!
..maybe different now. Gave a range of what pay would be. Wouldn't pin down a cpl until after
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Just gave the neighbors a show
While walking the dog I did my best Jessica Rabbit walk sans the high heels. I noticed the dog walks the same way. Wonder if the neighbors saw me. I'm sure one of them will let me know if they did!
Ohh, someone gave formula for figuring out
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Well, you should. She gave you good advice.
If you don't like the contract, move on and find one you do like. Like Patti, as a business owner, I've heard a lot of things and if you don't put even the smallest things in writing, there's going to be someone out there who will take advantage of trust. Sorry if you don't like it, but that's what it's come to--and not just in the MT business. Check your next loan contract, service contract or sales agreement.
By the way, all I did was google the 2 words you gave me - nm
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I gave up on all that and now use a program called
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If a company gave out my IM info SM
to people they have working on the same account I am for me to help them, I'd stop working for that company. I work for myself, my rate is for typing the company's work only, not for assisting another transcriptionist. The only way I'd do that is if I subbed work to another Transcriptionist myself.
My previous employer gave me
Instant Text and I didn't like it at all. I've always used Stedman's Smartype and I absolutely LOVE it. I tried and tried to get used to Instant Text b/c everyone says its the best and it did nothing but slow me down. I just couldn't get used to it. I gave it a fair try and my boss gave me a lesson on it, gave me short cuts, etc, and I tried to get used to it. It was just awful IMO.
It was given to me and I don't use it. I went back to Smartype and I can easily type 300 lines per hour with it.
Not in my state - everyone could care less, gave it up nm
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I gave it 6 months and quit sm
The newer and younger ones in our group liked it and the rest of us hated it. The little red box that bounces along made me "car sick" and I couldn't relax because the doc would say "the patient had a MI" and VR would put "she needs to do her homework" or something else way off but spelled right. A report would come across perfect and then the next, same doctor, same procedure, would be all screwed up. I went from straight 3000 lines per day to 4000 VR and they were going to cut my pay per line in half.
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