RESCUE YOURSELF

Posted By: nowarrants on 2006-01-31
In Reply to: Bawling my eyes out. - Starting over.

Rescue yourself.

I just did it. It takes an immense amount of energy when you don''t have any from the abuse. You have to sell whatever you can, go to Catholic Charities, Salvation Army, whoever/whatever will listen to you and GET OUT.

I just did it. It was not easy and I had to dump all my pride. But the fact is, I did it and now I can sleep at night and there is peace.

You just start begging family, friends, churches, to help you. It is worth it. The result is that you and your babies have peace.

You will prolly have to go to court, and that is scary, but remember, dig in. You are fighting for your kids's peace of mind. It is worth every effort that you make..You will be told no more times than yes, but you will be told yes enough to make it out.

Pray. Ask. Wait for the break that you need...and take it.

GOD SPEED.

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Bawling my eyes out. - Starting over.
- RESCUE YOURSELF - nowarrants
- Bawling.... - typnqueen
- Please, please leave him - TwinLessTwin
- don't be hard on yourself for the - dcc
- There are transitional living houses available to help. - Dianna Lazan
- Should I leave? - Jann
  - See message. - OP - Starting over.
    - This is really none of my business, and I know that, - holy cow
      - Oops..came out wrong...I meant it ain't always possible to stay in a marriage - holy cow
      - I made my business your business by posting and... - OP - Starting over.
        My dear, we ALL have things which - holy cow
    - Believe me, you are neither weak or small. - wannie
- Please forgive me if this has already been said... - Little Ace
- Starting over you have a lot of good advice below on..sm - 2teens
- I just wanted to be sure you all saw my... - Starting over
  - Please keep in mind (sm) - me
    - That is an excellent point. I also have another question for all of you. - Starting over
      - What I don't understand is your statement about (sm) - me
        I totally know you're right... - OP - Starting over.
        Start calling some of those help numbers and pose these - MT
      - And how many more concessions are you going to make for him? - MT
      - Um, if he were all that religious, he wouldn't be abusing you sm - MT
      - Religion isn't going to save your marriage. He's an abuser. You need to leave before he harms - & children permanently. nm
      - IMO - no. If he hits you once, he will hit you again. It will not matter what religion you believe - Just Me
        I disagree with both of these and hope the OP reads this too. - JMO
        To JMO - typnqueen
        He has hit her again after saying he won't. sm - MT
- adding my 2 cents - sm
- The easy part is making the decision to leave, the hard part is - MI-MT
- Thank you everyone. (sm) - Starting over.
  - You're starting out well... - TiredMT
    - Big Thank You to "JMO" & "Tired MT" - Starting over
  - You'd be doing him a favor as well. - Seen this a million times
    - I posted before and it was removed. (no message) - I still think this is rude
- I was in a similar situation a few years ago, I got divorced. nm - INMT
- Get marital counseling for the sake of your children. - No mystery here
- Distance is a big plus - Josette
- You already know what to do! Just do it. sm - MT-MOMMY
- Starting over - BTDT
- Your keywords are "physically abusive to us all." Get out!!! - BTDT
- Don't cry anymore...get out as soon as possible. - flutterby
- You have a lot going for you... - wc
- Don't be afraid. Use the law to your advantage. SM - Blu
- just my opinion - jwhitman
- I think you know already know what you need to do. - MT3
- I fear what the future holds too... - MT2
- Verbally and physically abusive to all of you -- sm - MT
  - Please consider leaving - anon

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