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The case I referred to was settled perhaps 2 years ago.  In that case, the grandmother already had custody (not adopted) of the older 2 siblings by filing in court herself.  In the case of the youngest child, he was premature, in a different county, and as the bio already had a history of not being able to take care of her children, the child was taken to the foster home the day he was released from the hospital.  This grandmother is a kindergarten teacher and grandfather has classification clearance in the Air Force.  Even though the grandmother had the older 2, they did not give her the opportunity to have the 3rd child.  She hired lawyers and finally did everything herself by terminating parental rights (bios don't like having to pay child support to the grandparents!) and then was able to adopt the 3rd child. 

The act gives the state 24 months (period) to close a case on children in state care.  If the bio is not agreeable to giving custody to relatives, the case can remain open and the bio has the opportunity to go to drug rehabilitation, parenting classes, get a stable job and prove they can independently provide for themselves BUT while those children are in foster care, the clock is ticking.  Some bios don't want to do all those things or cannot in that time frame.  If the state realizes the bios are going to make the time frame, and no relatives are involved, then yes, the child can be adopted by the foster care.  The case workers are overworked and under a lot of pressure to get cases closed so the state gets a good Federal score and gets bonus money...so yes, there are cases when it is easier to adopt the child to a foster parent than to relatives...then relatives have a fight they should not have to be fighting.

I knew when my GD was born that someday this was going to happen and I put myself in a position to be available and willing to take her.  I listen to her night terrors.  She asks why mommy doesn't call - I tell her mommy has to take a test (drugs) and then mommy can visit again.  It can be maddening because now I have to supervise the bios visiting the child.  No overnight visits.  Some states require background checks on other people who may care for the child.  Can't place her on my insurance as she is not adopted.  I got state benefits and part of that means I have to take my own daughter to court to get child support (bio dud has his own court case).  Some states make relatives become foster parents to keep their own grandchildren.  I'm single so now I work 2 jobs. The state closed my case as it became a private petition.   But whatever I go through, what she gives me is priceless. 

Not to sound like a dunce but what is coding?  I know that a coder takes reports and pulls ICD codes, etc and does something with them, but what precisely? How does coding work?  In transcription, I use a program to play the audio file, controlled with the foot pedal, while I type it in Word.  I've been curious about coding but cannot find out exactly what it entails.  I love transcribing but let's be realistic, it is looking scary out there.  Love the company I am with but what with VRE, EMR and India looming, I am thinking now would be the time to train for something else just in case. 

Thanks for any information. 

Hc

When it comes to something like that, that I usually take care of but for whatever reason I can't, I will tell my husband exactly what to do, but when he comes back - to use your case as a "for instance" - I will ask him, "Did the doctor look at his foot?" 

Him: "No."

Me: "Did you ask the doctor to look at his foot?"

Him: "No."

Me:  "I told you to have the doctor look at his foot!"

Him: (shrug)

etc., etc., etc.

Your husband may not be like that - I sure hope he isn't. And yes, they should have checked his vitals and checked his foot without being asked. But sometimes you have to be assertive with people. And while my husband attained the rank of major in the Air Force and had no trouble ordering people around, there are times when he should be assertive but isn't. And he is not intimidated by doctors - he started his AF career as an x-ray tech (that's how we met). I dunno....(Rad MT wanders off, mumbling....)

let him call it the projects......when I left mine, my thought was *living in the gutter is better than living with him*....and I saved myself and my daughter (our daughter) and became my own Hero - so KUDOS to you, lady!!!!  My prayers are with you....but sounds like you're doing fine and remaining strong.  What you said about what would be self-destructive to you at this point was right on target, sounds like......  so may I applaud your strengths?!?!?!?!             

I am in independently contracted MT for a private practice.  I work part-time as I am a mommy of 4 and homeschool them.  This is my only experience, but it has been rough.  There is absolutely no understanding of the fact that just because I am at home doesn't mean I am at my computer 24/7 at their beck and call.  I set my own hours, which may or may not be during their business hours, but that doesn't mean anything.  They even have begged me for my cell phone number so they could get me when not at home.  It has been very hard on me and my family.  I am ready to quit, but need the $.  I agree with working for others.  I like working for myself, but since I am self-employed, there are no benefits, no paid vacations, etc.  If I am out sick, I don't get paid and there is no one to cover for me, so when things get backed up, I have to make it up.  Also, when I go on vacation, I get punished beforehand with a pile of work given to me so that I have to work extra hrs before I go and there is a pile when I get back.  Why bother taking a vacation!?!  Think and pray long and hard about getting your own accounts.  Set a schedule and stick to your guns and don't let them push you around.  Blessings!

You said:   "I know the definition of an addict, and I, in no way, resemble or exhibit an addicts behavior."

I question whether you do know the definition of addictive behavior.  Going away by yourself in a hotel room without telling anyone where you are in order to withdraw from opiates is not what most people would do if they do not have something to hide.  Being a pain patient does not exclude one from becoming addicted.

How bad is that?!  I've eaten leftover frosting after the container was opened so it "wouldn't go to waste," but I still have the cake mix to make cupcakes and am too much of a tightwad deep down to waste it like that...and I'm just not in the mood to bake nuthin' today. 

So I ate a couple of teaspoons of straight-up honey and called it good.  Grocery run...gotta make one!

Have you tried to delete program under safe mode?  That is your best option right now. 

Also, when you said you accessed task manager and you have 37 running, do you mean processes running?  Because if you will under task manager, you have "applications, processes, performance, users, etc." 

Oops, meant to ask first, what operating system do you have? 

Let me know.  I will be in and out of this site, so it may take me a bit to get back to you.