Personally I would not force her to go - she can alway visit the grave site to say goodbye- sm
Posted By: Laura E. on 2006-02-18
In Reply to: Funeral etiquette question for you. sm - dol
My mom died about 18 months ago, but has there been a funeral I would not have had my kids there (they were 6 & 4 at the time). I know my in-laws would have thought me a terrible person for that but I would not have cared (my mom donated her body to science-- my dad is too). An open casket is a lot different than a closed one and can make quite an impression on some. I just don't think that is something that should be pushed. She is old enough to make the decision, you should abide by it.
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I alway lease, very 3 years I have a new car. sm
I works for us. I bought 2 cars and by the time 4 years rolls around I am tired of it and want a new one. So, the better option for us is to lease every 3 years. It works great and the payment is much more affordable.
I will always have a car payment as I get tired of the same old thing after a while. So, knowing that, leasing is the best option for me.
I alway thought they wanted a 96 or better - sm
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Don't visit now, visit inJuly/Aug to get....
an idea of what the weather is like. It's DISGUSTING in the summer. Great if you like a 100 degree steam bath.
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Netflix rocks, goodbye cable
I just signed on with them so figure there is no need for cable. Rather than zoning out on whatever garbage they throw at me, I can pick and choose what I want, set aside time for it but not get lost in t.v. so I can get things done and maybe do more productive or creative things with my time. I feel like such a zombie sometimes with the buzz of all these reality shows, its making me crazy, i'm addicted!
Goodbye Katherine. I am rooting for Taylor..sm
He is the only one with a personality. I love Chris' voice but he is soooo boring! And Eliott is just alright for me.
I think it is decided, and you can kiss this account goodbye. I would present the sm
finished work, along with a bill, and when you expect payment.
Meanwhile, get real busy looking for something else to make it up.
Here I am, back from the grave!
You are so funny! LOLOLOLOLOL. Wanna play!
Here I am, back from the grave!
Did you miss me?
Think Martin just rolled over in his grave.sm
I am sure the Christian Reverend would not agree with that statement. Bigotry and being repulsed by an abdomination are 2 different things.
Stay out of it. She is digging her own grave.
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Anything an MT can do when you have grave concerns about patient care?
Is there anything at all an MT can do when you have grave concerns about the care a patient is receiving? I know the answer to this is probably no, but I am so completely frustrated with my one of "my" doctors right now. I know that one of his patients is not receiving the proper care, and I am really worried for this patient. I wish I could contact the patient's mother and let her know my concerns, but I know that is not allowed and I would be fired for doing so. I know that I'm not anywhere near as smart as a doctor, but my son has the same condition that this patient does and I know that the patient is not receiving the proper care or even the correct diagnosis. It is hard to go into all of the details for confidentiality reasons. I just know, 100% sure, that this patient deserves better care than he is receiving.
Sometimes the virtual world that we work in is great, and other times it really stinks. If I were working in the doctor's office I could gently share my concerns (maybe I would still be fired but I could give it a shot). Here in this virtual world where the doctors don't even know I exist I can do absolutely nothing.
I'm just so frustrated at the doctor and so very worried for this patient.
I worked grave yard for years but then my jobs all
disappeared by midnight. This very large company said they needed help late and I always did my work, did all the preop hps, etc., but now I am lucky to get 5 jobs a night. This happened to several others that I know, too. It is simply that the off-shore do it cheaper. I did not get paid a differential, either. I just like that shift, but I also need work, so good bye big company
it was K-force, but I don't think they do it now.
force yourself ...
... to absolutely stop at every heading.
Think about what you're doing.
Then do the right thing.
It slows you down when doing it, and you'll get aggravated at that too! But little by little you'll find yourself doing it without thinking -- once in awhile. Then all the time.
This is how I learned my short forms when I first started using the expansion programs. I'm so glad I took the time! Others wouldn't do it, and they suffered in the long run. Patience is virtue.
And if they try to FORCE it on us, then if ever there
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The day they force me
get certification, CMT or whatever, is the day I retire. Totally ridiculous. What, someone with 20+ years experience is suddenly not qualified without some letters behind their name? Please.
You can't force them to pay what isn't in their
You state you are tired of your life revolving around your PC, used to be this and that. Well, that is your personal choice every single day and minute to sit there in front of that PC.
No one is making you stay in this business if you think it is going under.
Without the understanding of what part of the puzzle your particular job has in the picture for your employer, for your industry, for this country, you'll never be successful at any kind of bargaining or negotiation.
No one said you should feel sorry for MTSOs but before you go off charging like a mad bull, you need to understand what your options are and what the reality of the financial picture is.
I feel more sorry for those who bark off with the general statements that unions will save this work, a strike will bring you more wages, just band together and demand more and POOF, it will happen, etc., than I do for anyone else with other problems here.
After all my time in this work, having been in business with it, worked for other companies (nationals and smaller), it is clear that you are not understanding the whole picture at all.
Vent, gripe, complain - yes - but if you think words such as union or strike or demand are going to get you anywhere, you are sadly mistaken, my friend. It would be more sad to see you lose what you do have because of this.
Of all the companies announcing layoffs each week on the news, not one single company has been an MTSO.
It is not the end.
you have to get rid of this! Force yourself to think
always about what you are doing at the moment. If you do not do this, then the quality of your work - whatever you are doing - is going to suffer.
Do you have a wandering mind, in general? When you transcribe, do you then think about cooking?
I do not mean this ironic or sarcastic, I want to help you.
She's my fave, too. I don't force anyone into my car either.
My son is leaving for the Air Force
I am so proud of him, yet so worried with the situation the world is in right now. Please pray for him if you would!
Yeah, May the force be with you......
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I'd force her hand. sm
I'd definitely force her to do the deed if that's what she's up to. I sure wouldn't make it easy for her. It sounds like you've done a good job for them all this time. As for the pay, I think I'd be tempted to mention something about how they could afford vacation, but not be able to pay you, especially after you spent your vacation at home. The idea that she'd do that burns me up for you! Furthermore, you know darn well they've got the money. She's just being vindictive. Make sure and update after next week. We'll be wishing you luck with this sticky situation.
yes, legal to ASK--not force as
mandatory. Again, I've worked for other companies before, and I've either been very lucky or, as I've stated, this field has gone much downhill and there is less respect for the work and skills of MTs than ever.
No, it's not their job to give me an easy living, but neither is it my job to lose what little money I do make--compared to their ????--because they've overloaded themselves in their greediness to take on more accounts when they know they don't have enough MTs to cover it.
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I'm not going to visit my family either.
They wanted me to take five days off of work and the other huge project I'm working on now to fly to visit with everyone at a luxury condo where they're all staying. That was fine. I was willing to work extra so I could have enough money for the condo rental and restaurant meals. (Everyone else is somewhat well-off with fewer kids than I have. They take frequent trips on holidays.)
Daddy dearest had to get involved and basically told me it would be too much trouble for me to go. I'd have to find a ride to and from the airport because he wasn't going to pick me up in in his rental car. Husband, aunt or taxi cab could have done it. I'd have to share a bathroom and sleep on the hideabed because my cousin was bringing her boyfriend so there wasn't enough room for me. This boyfriend isn't even related, and this event is a birthday celebration for my brothers. If anyone should be there, it should be me, not my cousin's latest bedfellow! Then Dad told me that I shouldn't be wasting money on trips when I've got a family, bills to pay, and that huge project. That's really none of his business. It's not like I'd go bankrupt over a few hundred dollars. He also said I shouldn't leave my kids because who would watch them. That's what my husband, AKA the kids' father, does. It's called parenting. Dad has also chewed me out no less than four times over the arrangements for this trip because obviously I'm too stupid to handle making my own reservations, never mind the fact that I've traveled all over the country by myself since I was 15 years old.
The last time I vacationed with my parents and brothers, my father made it completely miserable. He was bossing me around, treating me like a child, asking me about my finances, and criticizing everyone around him. Then he had the audacity to tell me in front of everyone that I was eating like a pig and was going to end up weighing 300 pounds. All I had eaten that day by 5:00 p.m. was one piece of wheat toast, one hardboiled egg, a cup of coffee, water, and a small handful of raw almonds. Then he lectured me for 20 minutes on the fat content of nuts and the virtues of diet and exercise. Like he should talk. Yeah, well, we've obviously got issues, too. I don't care, I'm not ruining my holiday worrying about it. I'm not going. I don't want to be separated from my own family when my husband and kids weren't even invited. I don't want to put up with Dad's attitude. He's made it clear that I'm not welcome. He tells me I'm stupid for doing things all the time, but I'm the first one he calls when he needs help with something.
Well, we don't have a choice when we visit...
It is an offer my husband's company is making. I live in Houston, so 100 degree weather is nothing new to me. I love the summer and I love the beach, so none of those reasons would keep me away. I am looking quite forward to it to be honest. It is beautiful there, at least the area we will be living in.
Visit www.whyquit.com (nt)
You would do well to visit the New MT board...sm
and some of the company boards here. MT isn't what it's advertised to be and it isn't what it used to be. There are definitely some challenges to the field from EMR and offshore that aren't going to go away. We are seeing job loss already. So know that it will be even more difficult to get into MT than it was 20 years ago and also that the future of MT is much more shaky than even 5 years ago. I'm in school working for a degree so I have something to do when it collapses. You will be wise to look through the above boards I mentioned (and archives) to get a feel for what is going on...
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I will warn you though...very, very graphic.
Let me tell you how I approach the visit
If going to a new physician, I have my history and physical and all other information typed out for them. If a return visit, I type out a small list noting the reason for the visit. Mine are short and sweet, first of all because if not written down, hard for me to remember and just makes it easier for perhaps a person who is on their treadmill trying to see all the patients they can and me as I don’t want to spend a lot of time there either. I heard somewhere that after about the first 4 or 5 minutes you are tuned out anyway. Why not simplify for the visit??
Doctor Visit
Actually he said they usually do 600 mg every 6 hours or 800 mg every 8 hours. He just looked at my arms and wanted to know where I felt the pain was coming from, i.e., muscle/tendon or bone. I said muscle. He asked if I had any numbness or tingling, and I said no. That was it.
Oh no! My cats come to visit me too. They
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It was amazing. My 2nd visit.
We were only there for 2 days in July. I got a whole week this time. My daughter lives there, in South Lake Tahoe.
I stayed at the Montblue in Nev. Very luxurious but pricey. DD got me a nice discount. The Horizon is also very nice and a little cheaper if you like the Casino thing. They also do the weekly Wifi rate there if you are going to work ($29). The Lakeside Inn is nice as well. There are lots of other smaller places too. I saw a nice Best Western that was right on the lake on the California side.
If you go, check out the Blue Water Bistro in South Lake Tahoe for a great dinner right on the water. I also really liked Sprouts (a good lunch place) which is all vegetarian organic type food. The restaurants in the Montblue are all good! 20-Four has the most awesome key lime log cake. I was trying to figure out a way to bring some home with me.
I drove the whole 70 some miles around the lake. Tahoe City is really a beautiful little town. My favorite spot was Sand Harbor. Of course Emerald Bay is just beautiful too.
I say go!! It is the off season right now probably til Thanksgiving or so when ski season gears up. Then things slow down again around April/May before all the summer tourists. That is when you can get your best rates.
If I made $250,000 a year and had Air Force One to myself, I'd
take a lot of vacations, too.
Yes, I could easily become a recluse. Force myself to go out
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I had to force myself to work with it, but I'm glad that I did.
It took about two weeks until I could get used to the idea of typing words differently. It has really helped with the fatigue in my arms, shoulders, wrists, etc.
Here is why they're trying to force 'certification'
Because we MTs are starting to get wise to them. U.S. MTs began to realize that a CMT was getting them NOTHING. And I think when U.S. membership started to slow to a trickle, that's when they started going after the Indian MTs. (For the sole purpose of course, of making money off of THEM, too). And then of course they'd have another selling point for their offshore workers when trying to sell hospitals on the idea, saying all or most of their offshore workforce is credentialled, but the U.S. MTs are not. So who knows - maybe the Indians have caught on to this con game, as well. After all, they can read these boards, too. So now that we've gotten wise, they're gonna try to FORCE MTs to get their certification. I for one will never give them one cent of my hard-earned income for some useless letters behind my name.
Obama's new task force
Maybe if all of us posted something here about medical transcription jobs being sent overseas, it could help? I'm not exactly sure if this would be the right place, but I think I'm going to write something about it. Have a nice weekend! :)
http://www.whitehouse.gov/strongmiddleclass/
Visit this website - it has SAVED me! - sm
I came across "FlyLady"... it is actually a website "family" that HELPS get this time and CHAOS under control. Things DO get out of control, and it slowly kills us inside... depressing us. This website helps you take control of your time, sets up 15 minutes a day ONLY to work on your "zones"... one week you are in the living room, then maybe the master bedroom, then the bathroom and another small room.... this disaster did NOT happen overnight, and you cannot expect yourself to get it straightened out overnight. Things get out of hand, but this website family can truly help... I did it, and within ONE MONTH my household was finally manageable, and I could open my door to anyone who came to visit... my friend and her husband came to visit me after a month of FlyLady work, and her husband just said "It just feels home-y to me. What did you do?" A MAN said that, and he didn't know what I was doing. It is very cool, and encouraging, and strengthening!!! There are e-mails sent several times a day for reminders to hop up and do a 5-minute "hot spot" rescue (hot spot being a spot in the house where it seems to get out of control).... take an hour, cruise the website, it is SO much fun... and DON'T FORGET TO SHINE YOUR KITCHEN SINK!!! IT WILL MAKE YOU SMILE!!!
Like we are going to visit a board from India.
office visit in what state?
Doctor is from India. Patient is a FU on hypertension. He says She came here s/l (drasting) ??? state believing that she needed blood work. Said in plan for her to keep regular FU appointment. She was well, but don't understand what state she came to visit? Drastic maybe? Help please if you can. Thanks.
Maybe this will finally force DH and I to NOT eat out so much, save money there. nm
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Anyone have info on K Force Health care? nm
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K-force, yes they still do. They offered me 11 cpl and 40 c/mile in San Bernardino, CA. nm
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I'd force her hand while you line up other work.
I would continue doing the work and returning it as soon as it's done. Once you've transribed/printed it's their responsbility from there. I've seen so many docs think they can't afford to pay a measley paycheck but can well afford big houses, cars, vacations. Let's face it, they really don't know what 'tight' is. She seems fishy, very odd. What doc wants you to postpone getting work done? That's just plain bad business. I'm very sorry for you. I think you should keep doing the work, line up something else, and let her squirm and have to face you. If she phases you out by trying to avoid you, nicely get in her face, and make her be accountable for how she's treating you. I'm also very sorry about your husband. You'll be in my prayers.
Maybe you should visit the mental health board
to discuss the topics of lonlieness and depression. You obviously have no one at home to talk to.
How many times a day on average do you visit this board?
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It's easy, just don't visit the main page ;)
Wow.
Anybody have to visit the hospital lately to an updated system? sm
I have gone recently for a medical problem and I am amazed how they have everything networked to different departments.
So I didn't like watching my wages go down and I now work for specialists, but it was such a nice hospital visit. I was in and out of there in no time with no waiting. It was an amazing system. And this is a large acute care hospital! I was absolutely amazed.
When I go back East to visit relatives
I am shocked that some things are a lot cheaper and briefly consider a move, but I adore the weather here. I also don't get why they send all the good veggies/fruits back there and we get left with the icky ones (unless you go to a farmer's market - which is what I try to do). Maybe the good ones survive the trip better and they figure we can deal with the shopworn ones locally.
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