One gift per wedding per spouse.
Posted By: stop stressing on 2005-08-16
In Reply to: Well this is certainly a new one to me. sm - Rachel
You do not have to buy a gift for this and that and the other. ONE GIFT. No more. Oh, and you have a full year from the official date of the wedding to get them something.
Shoot, I cut my brother off after his third wedding (to three different women). I'm not buying him any more wedding presents ever. LOL Especially, now that he's on his third divorce.
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Wedding gift
If you already have two households of "stuff" you obviously don't "need" the money either, especially since you are going to have a yard sale. Two terms come to my mind - trailer trash and greed - if the shoe fits - put one of them on and leave me off your guest list. Personally, I would make a donation to the children's home, as I no longer send flowers to a funeral when a charity is listed. I send money to the charity and the family receives a card saying that a donation has been made in the memory of the deceased person. Since you don't seem to mind asking your guests for money - may I ask your age and the age of your fiance? Just trying to put this in perspective
wedding gift
I need some ideas please. I have a very close friend who is getting married for the third time, and this will be the second marriage for her fiance. Of course, they have everything they need, and probably more. But I don't want to go to her wedding empty-handed. I'd like to get her something nice, even if just a little something, so does anyone have any ideas? Thanks very much.
wedding gift
These are all such outstanding gift ideas, and I appreciate each and every suggestion! Thank you so much!
Question about wedding gift requests...sm
My fiance will be merging 2 homes into 1 and the last thing we need are material things as wedding gifts as we'll be yard selling and giving away the equivalent of a household of goods as it is, with many items being donated to a local women's shelter to help these ladies set up a home now that they're away from their abusers. I'm not interested in collecting china or silver and there's really nothing we need. We've decided on asking people to give donations to a local children's home in our honor instead of wedding gifts, but other than that how do you recommend that we politely tell people that we don't want material things and if they don't want to donate to the children's home that we'd be happy to accept a gift card or money? I looked on websites such as "the knot" and while in one place they say it's tacky to ask for money, in their registry they have an option for people to sign up to buy American Express gift cheques which is basically the same thing (love the double standard) with the exception of course being that these have to be bought through them with a $50 minimum (ouch!) and $5 service fee. Thanks for your input!
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Gift of gab is a gift in deed. Not having it has cost me dearly.
I became an MT because of my interest in medical field, fascination with the work and yes, a lack of social skills. I really did think that my work would speak for me.
Spouse's job???
What does everyone's husband/wife do for a living? Who makes more money? I know I am being nosy, just curious though.
I work fulltime
Husband is starting an online travel company (which I will definitely let you all know when it is ready so you can book some vacations!!!!) He has been working probably 12 total hours a day with that (day and night). He quit a very high profile job so he could do something from home to be with the kiddies more.
I obviously am making more money as of right now, but hopefully will be able to retire once his business soars!!!!
What spouse???? sm
I am IT and I am raising 2 kids alone on what I make. It would be nice to have a spouse to help with the expenses and to be able to afford some of the luxuries of life, but that's not in the cards for me, at least not for the foreseeable future. :-(
Spouse's job
My hubby definitely makes more than me. He is also self-employed tri-axle truck on road construction. works anywhere from 5 to 6 days a week, 8-10 hours a day.
I work a full time, part time plus 3 accounts of my own, 10-12 hours a day, 7 days a week and I earn in 2 weeks equals a little more than days pay for him. I'm thinking about joining him iin that business. 
Is there truly a way to get your spouse to....sm
really help out around the house? I am young, lower 30s, and my husband is too. He is on disability due to a mental health issue that is totally controlled with medication. The problem is he does not help out around the house without me begging or getting mad and then it is just the basics. We are supposed to go to counseling tomorrow, but I feel it is not going to help. Another issue is he is not clean like he used to be. He does not make an effort in his appearance, does not get cleaned up hardly ever, etc. This has impacted my feelings for him a lot and I hate that it has. Sometimes I feel like I am trapped in a place where I don't want to be. When we had first gotten together I could not imagine my life without him. I thought about him all day, couldn't wait to be around him, etc. Now, it is the same 'ole, same 'ole. We have only been married 5 years. We do have a small child and that is the main reason I think I am staying. I have told him time and time again that this is pushing me away, but still nothing changes. I bust my butt every day trying to work and even pick up. I do all of the laundry, do all of the bills, do all of the cooking and most of the cleaning. After all of this, our house is still a disaster area. I am tired. But I want that love back - just unsure if I can ever get it back again. Any advice?
Spouse's job???
My spouse is a QA tech at a meat packing plant. He hates it, too. Has to work in a freezer. We think we got it bad.
maybe have your spouse or
someone else read you the questions to make sure you understand them. another MT would be great since he/she would know if you're getting the gist of the question.
The written part's always been the easy part for me. It's the transcription I fret about, often making things wrong that I had right. It's hard, but I'm learning not to second guess myself so much and am doing much better. What's funny is I always make 98% or better with my current company - been there 10 years. Just nerves I guess.
You've never been upset with your spouse
and didn't have anyone around to vent to in real life? Besides, it's said that marriage without conflict likely involves a lack of deep or meaningful communication. Research has also proven that couples without conflict are more likely to divorce because there's no passion or growth.
spouse abuse
Yes, I have talked to the police, but he was married before and living in NC and I believe he may have a record there. He is a real slick one. He put scratches all over himself to try and make it look like I hit him. I have never had anyone do this before and he is a sick individual. I am sure he has had prior incidences.
We were only married for 6 months. I refuse to let anyone hit me, no matter how much I love them.
Thanks for your concern.
Spouse abuse
I was wondering if anyone could tell me if there is a way to find out if someone has a previous record of spousal abuse.
My husband hit me and I cant afford a lawyer but make too much money for Legal Aid. I want to do this on my own. I just need to know if there is a way to find out this information from a different state. Are these files open to the public? Or does a lawyer have to request these things?
Thanks so much for your help!.
If it's something you wouldn't do with your spouse
x
Yes, but being with a spouse who does those things
doesn't justify the other spouse's emotional infidelity.
If you have a spouse who is an employee have
extra $$ taken out of his/her check for your taxes. I am not an IC, but my company is in a state that has no state taxes and so they do not pay my state taxes. The first year I paid a penalty (about $60) for not having enough taxes taken out, so I just figured out what they would be, divided them per the number of paychecks and had that much extra taken out. We've always gotten a heft federal return, but usually paid at least half of that in state taxes. This is the first full year that we've had extra taken from DH check and I'm anxious to see how it all works out.
If I expect perfection from my spouse, that must mean
I am perfect myself. I don't know of anyone who is perfect. I am not so judgmental of people that I expect them to never have bad days and never express frustration, or else the relationship is over. I'm sure there have been plenty of days in the past 20 years that we've known each other when I've annoyed him to no end. Sometimes intentionally.... LOL
Refer to the Spouse Equity Act
You are entitled to coverage for 18 months...some of these responses just floor me!
Health insurance for me and spouse..how much? sm
I would like to get a general idea of how much I will have to fork out for health insurance for me and my spouse. I've always been an IC and am looking to switch to employee status for benefits. How much in general do you pay?
If you wouldn't do/say it in front of your spouse, it's wrong.
Just my opinion.
Every time I transcribe someone who has lost their spouse...(Sm)
or other family member and is having a hard time getting through it, my heart just sinks and I feel so bad for them. It is amazing the empathy we can feel for people we don't know. This pt is having a hard time today because it is the one-year anniversary of her father's and sister's death. How very sad.
wedding, to go or not go - sm
I have been invited to my 2nd cousins wedding. I really don't want to go because I do not know him or the bride. However, that side of the family is apparently having a get-together of the first cousins around the same time and I had planned on going to that. Now I feel I "should" go to both or neither one. What would you do? Thanks for the help.
Yea, he does. Met him at the wedding
walked in I thought I would fall over  There were other stars there but all I saw was him. Did meet him and he was nice and funny.
we had fountains at our wedding
We just had 2 chocolate fountains at our wedding- they were amazing! The fountains came with lots of goodies to dip them in. They used to cost about $5 a person but now they have significantly gone up in price- i think they are at $12 pp now.
In a way, as far as amount of food, it seems you get your money's worth but on the other hand, since everyone has already had their meal & there is the wedding cake for dessert, you end up having a lot of food left over in the end so in some ways, it can be a waste of food.
I think it also depends on who you rent it from as far as pricing and what comes with it. At our wedding, the company that provided the fountains took care of setting them up & running the fountains.
Has anyone seen The Wedding Crashers. If so what do you think?
Need to go to the movies and looking for something good.
Black at wedding
Black is stylish and I love it. I would suggest not wearing black stockings, etc. Do you have any bright colors you could add such as a cloth rose (very stylish)or some bright jewelry to offset the black. Try a thrift store for a bright bag or shoes. I just did that and found a pretty pink bag with black trim for a couple of dollars. That should offset the black. Just try not to go "totally black" but if you have to, so be it. Just wear a "smile" and have a great time! Life is temporary, enjoy it.
the last wedding I went to was in the evening and...sm
most of the guests were wearing black. Of course, it was elegant dresses, with sequins and sparkles. It actually made the pictures turn out wonderful, very classy looking. Black can be fun, if you dress it up. If you are wearing say a black skirt, pair it with a flashy top, sequins, etc, if the wedding is at night. As for daytime, I think I'd steer clear of black and opt for something bright or neutral. Of course, this is JMHO, of course. Anyhow, the most important thing is to be there to support the new couple and, most of all, have fun! Best wishes to the bride and groom! 
According to the wedding channel..
(from the site):
It is now acceptable for female guests to wear black to weddings, especially in the late afternoon and evening. Black choices, however, should be more ornate than reserved, to give off an air of celebration rather than mourning. Sometimes, adding a little color (vibrant flower pins and scarves work wonderfully for weddings) rounds off the somber look well.
I attended a wedding where even
It was absolutely beautiful! White bride's dress, black tuxedos with red roses, black bridesmaid's dressing with them carrying a red rose, and the bride's huge bouquet of red roses. It was very classy!
hey, sounds just like the wedding I went to...sm
Hummm, was it in November? In Georgia? Wow, that would be weird, wouldn't it?
Wedding attire
You could pick up one of the Bride magazines and see dozens of options for wedding attire. According to tradition, the veil symbolizes virginity, while a white dress symbolizes a first wedding. Neither is required for a bride on her wedding day. Someone where I work wore a pink wedding dress despite it being her first marriage. There really are no rules these days, and most wedding directors are just hoping to convince brides to cover all tattoos for their big day!
Wedding Cake
Could anyone direct to me some good web sites with wedding cake pictures? I have found a few, but it seems they are all "cookie cutter" and I am looking for something original, but not crazy. Am having a smaller wedding (under 100), outdoor. Any links anyone could provide, I would be majorly appreciative! (I have cake appointments next week and need to provide some ideas for them.)
wedding announcement
I just went thru this last year with my daughter...I think it would be appropriate to add where the bride is registered...
wedding announcements
Really, no, girls, this is very tacky, either in an announcement or in an invitation. Please, let's stick to traditional etiquette.
What to wear to a wedding-sm
I just can't decide. It's an evening wedding, outside in a park. Apparently the bride is going to be barefoot and the groomsmen are in khaki pants. That's about all I know.
Could I wear slacks and a casual top? Or go with my original plan to wear a dress and sandals? Or does it matter at all? Lol.
wedding attire sm
Dress any way you please, I hate it when people say I'm "overdressed". I love to dress up, just be sure your shoes are comfortable and like the others said, outside can get very cold, so bring a nice sweater, shawl or whatever. Just have fun!!! However, sounds like these people could care less what you wear, they sound like they have their own minds, good for them!
Wedding Reception
I was married last month. I had the reception right next to where the wedding took place. I know this isn't always possible, but I wanted it to be as easy as possible for my guests. They just walked right on over to the reception. I also booked rooms at a hotel right next to that, so they could just walk over to the wedding and then walk back to the hotel after the reception.
I alloted about 30 to 45 minutes for the pictures after the ceremony. It only took about 30 minutes....but I arranged for the caterer to have a punch fountain and servers to pass around a few little nibbles, while the guests waited for us to arrive. I cannot imagine leaving them there for a long period of time, especially with nothing to eat. The bar was also open for them (host paid for beer and wine - they had to pay for any hard liquor or mixed drinks - I thought that was fair). Anyway....it all worked out very well. I think it is very rude to keep guests waiting. It sounds like just poor planning and no thought given to the guests.
My dad had one at his wedding, but the caterer's did all that, so I have no idea - sm
It did not look complicated though and the kids absolutely loved in. I think my one daughter alone ate about 30 strawberries (dipped in chocolate of course).
19 on wedding day, still married 16 years later.
If they are like wedding announcements, you do it AFTER the event - sm
if you are inviting people to attend then I would think 3-4 weeks prior to the event.
Flamingo and wedding in Vegas
My daughter got married at the Flamingo last summer. It was very nice...no complaints.
Our wedding was small, just family, and we got
married just 5 months after we met, but the last couple of days were nerve wracking. I took Valium.
Off the subject - wedding reception -sm
So the wedding season is upon us. I went to a wedding this weekend. It was an afternoon wedding with reception "immediately following" but it turned out the reception did not start for 1-1/2 hours after the ceremony ended. I thought it was a bit rude to keep the guests waiting without even as much as a glass of water on the table and no announcement about where the bride/groom, bridal party was. The reception hall was only a few miles away. Was it just me, or was this a long time in between the wedding and the reception?
It depends on the wedding, venue, time of day
http://fashion.about.com/cs/tipsadvice/a/weddingguest.htm
But I've worn black to weddings in the past and have seen others do it as well. Black has an elegant appeal that looks great for any special occasion.
Wow. My wedding day was such a blur that I couldn't even remember who
was there, let alone what anybody wore. A week after the wedding, someone made a comment to me about something that happened. I didn't even know they had come to the wedding.
Quick wedding poll time...
Did anyone out there wear a wedding dress without a veil? I'm not wild about any of the veils I've seen and think one might annoy me rubbing against my shoulders, therefore I am considering not buying one to go with the dress. The dress is a full length puffy styled one. Will I be creating a new fashion statement if I don't wear one? (smile).
Wedding announcement etiquette question...
Hello,
My fiance and I are thinking about including a separate note in our wedding announcements/invitations telling people where we're registered at or a charity they could make donations to in our honor so that we don't have to field a cazillion phone calls asking this. We're thinking about wording it something like "your kind thoughts and presence if possible is your gift to us. For those who'd like to send an additional gift we request that a donation be made to *** charity. We are also registered at ***.
Would you do this to make it easy for people or would you consider it tacky? Personally I'd like it if people sent that when they sent me invitations to help make it easy to know what they want for a gift.
Votes please!
Prior wedding inquiry update...sm
Previously I had posted on this board as my fiance and I were trying to figure out how to handle letting people know that we don't want any wedding gifts (we each have a house and don't need material things as we're giving away tons of stuff with merging the home) but had chosen a charity for anyone who would like to make a donation in our honor.
My maid of honor and a couple of friends decided to host a party for us and on the invitations put on there that in lieu of gifts that we were requesting donations to a children's charity that we chose because of the reputation of spending the money wisely and being well known for its work.
This has gone over very well with the invitees. I've had many of them call and e-mail me or my fiance saying that they thought this was a wonderful way for us to help others less fortunate and yet celebrate our upcoming marriage. The charity agreed prior to our announcement to not pester these people afterwards with mailings and is simply sending those that send a donation a thank you card, and then they're sending me a weekly list showing who made a donation and their address, but not the dollar amount as I don't care to know what they gave.
So... for future brides that don't want gifts I suggest doing what we did - it's a win for the charity and lets the family/friends that wanted to do something special do this in a way that we chose (and we aren't stuck with household items we don't want or need!)
Today would have been my 19th wedding anniversary....
But I divorced him 17 years ago! LOL!
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