Not heartless...just a bully who likes to kick sand

• Bawling my eyes out. - Starting over.
  • RESCUE YOURSELF - nowarrants
  • Bawling.... - typnqueen
  • Please, please leave him - TwinLessTwin
  • don't be hard on yourself for the - dcc
  • There are transitional living houses available to help. - Dianna Lazan
  • Should I leave? - Jann
    • See message. - OP - Starting over.
      • This is really none of my business, and I know that, - holy cow
        • Oops..came out wrong...I meant it ain't always possible to stay in a marriage - holy cow
        • I made my business your business by posting and... - OP - Starting over.
          • My dear, we ALL have things which - holy cow
      • Believe me, you are neither weak or small. - wannie
  • Please forgive me if this has already been said... - Little Ace
  • Starting over you have a lot of good advice below on..sm - 2teens
  • I just wanted to be sure you all saw my... - Starting over
    • Please keep in mind (sm) - me
      • That is an excellent point. I also have another question for all of you. - Starting over
        • What I don't understand is your statement about (sm) - me
          • I totally know you're right... - OP - Starting over.
            • Start calling some of those help numbers and pose these - MT
        • And how many more concessions are you going to make for him? - MT
        • Um, if he were all that religious, he wouldn't be abusing you sm - MT
        • Religion isn't going to save your marriage. He's an abuser. You need to leave before he harms - & children permanently. nm
        • IMO - no. If he hits you once, he will hit you again. It will not matter what religion you believe - Just Me
          • I disagree with both of these and hope the OP reads this too. - JMO
            • To JMO - typnqueen
            • He has hit her again after saying he won't. sm - MT
  • adding my 2 cents - sm
  • The easy part is making the decision to leave, the hard part is - MI-MT
  • Thank you everyone. (sm) - Starting over.
    • You're starting out well... - TiredMT
      • Big Thank You to "JMO" & "Tired MT" - Starting over
    • You'd be doing him a favor as well. - Seen this a million times
      • I posted before and it was removed. (no message) - I still think this is rude
  • I was in a similar situation a few years ago, I got divorced. nm - INMT
  • Get marital counseling for the sake of your children. - No mystery here
  • Distance is a big plus - Josette
  • You already know what to do! Just do it. sm - MT-MOMMY
  • Starting over - BTDT
  • Your keywords are "physically abusive to us all." Get out!!! - BTDT
  • Don't cry anymore...get out as soon as possible. - flutterby
  • You have a lot going for you... - wc
  • Don't be afraid. Use the law to your advantage. SM - Blu
  • just my opinion - jwhitman
  • I think you know already know what you need to do. - MT3
  • I fear what the future holds too... - MT2
  • Verbally and physically abusive to all of you -- sm - MT
    • Please consider leaving - anon

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Pplenty of the ones who are here now who are illegal are definitely trying to get legal, like some Argentinians whose ancesteror  are from Czeckoslovakia.  I'm in Florida so we have a multienthnicity here - EXACTLY like NY, and the ones here work FAR harder than most Americans I know (for some reason there are so many AmeriCAN'Ts in this country) - I, for one, am an AmeriCAN!!

I'm *against Caucasians*?  Those were your words.  You don't know me.  You don't know anything about me.  What a presumptious witch/warlock. 

What a laugh.  I AM Caucasian with european ancestry and my grandparents came here via Ellis Island too - so many before you (and the rest of the Czechoslovakians) came through Ellis....you have NOT cornered the market on Ellis Island.  My family has been a member there since the memberships and foundation began!!

Hopefully Bush is going to pass the NO MASS DEPORTATION law and Monday, by the way, is a mass protest to show the USA exactly what WOULD happen economically (when all of them do not go to work for a day) in the USA if all the illegals decided to NOT go to work and/or leave the country.

*rubs hands together in anticipation of Monday, at least in the SE USA*........

It was in the news yesterday. The guy is still selling some stuff at ebay and he is harrasing the buyers. Thank goodness I've never encountered one, but... just curious, is anyone out there been a victim of bully in ebay?

OP,

I agree with Katz.  No need to use profanity however.  Don't risk your dignity and self-respect by stooping to her level. Yet, I agree with everything else, like telling her to shut up in a nice way -- let her know you are working and you suggest she does the same.  She feels threatened obviously, so don't make it easy for her by quitting which is probably what she wants.  I don't think the boss wants you to quit, however.  It sounds like she just wants to skip out on the pay increase and manipulate the situation to her benefit (according to what you have said so far). 

As for Ms. Obnoxious, sounds like she has figured out the only one she needs to get along with is the boss.  And if she can get you to leave, then more work and job security for her.  It's an awful mess of a situation you are in.  I don't tolerate bullies and neither should you, and that is exactly what she sounds like -- a bully.  You will have to give her the silent treatment instead of her giving you the silent treatment and even if she does give you the silent treatment, good.   It doesn't sound like she has anything worthy to say anyway.   In the meantime, if you want to be there for any reason -- to pay off a debt, to go back to school, to gain more experience before leaving, etc. -- then stay as long as you want.  When you are ready, find the new job, test it out, then make the switch at your own pace.  With your typing speed, I don't doubt you will be able to find something better.  Just don't make it easy for anyone by quitting. 

You are all that matters, especially on a job.  Workers are not your friend. You have to find that outside of the workplace.  I don't think talking to either one of them is worth anything.  They already know they are in the wrong. 

Best of luck to you.

me

It makes me a realist with enough courage to speak the truth.  Ask anyone in management, anyone responsible for the end product or bottom line, whether it is in MT or any other field, and you will hear the same thing.  When a person does not care about what they are doing and they do not take measures to change their situation, they are causing the damage to themselves.  Ask any mental health caregiver and you will hear the same thing.  When it becomes uncomfortable enough, you will do something different.  If you don't, then you must accept the responsibility for your own unhappiness.

I am not blind to the fact that there are misuses by QA people, no more than with MTs who want to whine about being picked on righteously or wrongly.  What i do say is this:  If you do not care about what you do, change your situation.  I can sugarcoat that or say it blunty, but the meaning is unaltered.  You can agree or disagree and still it does not change the message.  If you don't like it, do something about it (and this part I added because I just like it) stop whining about it.  The rest of us have more important issues in life to be concerned about.

rear end to get me to work. I go on a week long vacation starting Saturday with no kids and today I did about 1/4 of my normal lines and that might be padding it a little bit. I was too busy looking at pictures of where we're going. Did I mention no kids are going with me?

Before I get comments about why'd I have kids if I'm so happy they're not going to be there. I have 3 teens who act 65, two 13yo, 12-year-old and a 2-year-old. Three are hitting puberty and one just hit the terrible 2's. It will be our first vacation w/o kids in a long, long, long time. After only 3 days here my mom is asking why I'm not bald already from pulling my hair out. Now if work could just pay me to sit and look at pictures all day and daydream, I'd have it made.

Living life like that isn't living life at all.  You need to do what makes you happy.  Never, ever, stay together because of the kids.  Your kids are probably not the happiest children with the home situation the way it is, and you know that he already doesn't want the responsibility of taking care of your kids, so what's the use in having him hanging around your neck like an albatross? 

I was married to a jerk who was very similar to your husband and with 3 children it wasn't easy to manage on my own, but I sure did it and I'm glad I did.  It was difficult getting out of my "comfort" (discomfort) zone and make the change, but I knew it had to happen.  That was nearly 5 years ago now and I am happier and my children are happier.  Dear old dad comes around whenever he feels like it to see the kids and I have his paycheck garnished for child support.

Best of luck to you!

If you say you don't like a certain behavior or comment, it only makes him do it more and more and over many years just to get a reaction long after you have stopped reacting. 

Or who is controlling to the point he wants to know when you showered and why do you need to shower if you didn't leave the house.

Or steals your glory, ideas for inventions or any project you start to say it was his idea and really mean it.

Or is extremely macho and needs to dominate the woman in his life or else he feels disrespected by her.

Or breaks things when he tells you to shut up during a discussion that isn't going his way and you don't.

Or….etc. --

But is happy and smiley face when it's time for dinner to be on the table.

annoyed

I occasionally come on this board, as do some of my coworkers to get help with words, look around, etc.  I've never posted but today I'm fuming and frustrated.

I just got done working a couple of extra hours at the hospital this morning, worked all day yesterday (overtime I might add) and do you know what my job has been on all this overtime? Correcting ALL of the outsource's work coming in.  What makes me mad is that all of us have been complaining to our boss and even to HER boss about all the mistakes this company makes - terrible dreadful DEADLY mistakes - and all we get back is "there is nothing we can do about it.  We signed a contract and we have to continue to use them until the contract ends." Which, by the way, ends in another year or two, I'm not sure.  But anyways, this outsource company (who is WELL KNOWN) does not even make an attempt to do our ESL doctors, who are not really that bad. I know there are harder doctors to understand as I have been doing this for 16 years.  The service sends the reports back with a ridiculous amount of blanks.  We go in and listen to them and basically redo the whole report, to which they get paid for it.  Then there are the easy docs - the so-called "hold your hand while I dictate to you" docs - and the service still has mistakes. 

Our boss has asked on occasion if they are offshoring, which they swear they are not.  It was in the contract that they are not to offshore so they swear they are not and the mistakes don't look like they are offshore mistakes (the hospital used a company prior to this one that offshored - big difference in transcription mistakes).

I just cannot believe that our hospital has had this company for a little over two years and not only are they being paid a ridiculous high line rate, but we are correcting all their reports and they still get paid!! We have asked if we can start deducting lines, but we were told that their contract states that that cannot be done because our boss has tried that.

I have a friend that works at a hospital in another state that had an outsource service that was somewhat like the one we have, only they constantly lost reports and got paid for them, but she just lost her job because the hospital felt that there was no need to have all the overtime for the past year and the outsource service doing the overflow.  So they just hired a new outsource company, let all the transcriptionists inhouse go, and got rid of their current outsource service.  she is looking around for another job now.  She had that job for 9 years at the hospital, and because of the outsource service, the administration of the hospital looked at is as a huge $$ problem and just said bye bye.

I needed to vent. Aaaaahhh, I feel better now, but I'm worried that with all our overtime and what the outsource service gets paid, that I'm going to end up in the same boat.  Even our boss has admittedly had some worries about it as well, but she keeps telling us that her boss says her hands are tied and is just as frustrated with the service.  It makes you wonder how it is that these services can be in business for so long, make sooooo much money and do this. 

so he can ask me questions about homework or other stuff, ask me to make him a snack.. remind me to sign stuff for school, remind me it's time to make dinner, etc etc

sex offending.  

The patient's symptoms were controllable by sex offending (supposed to be fexofenadine).  The doctor prescribed over-the-counter sex offending (fexofenadine).