No kids? So how do you dare even post here
Posted By: dolfan on 2005-07-20
In Reply to: Most daddies don't die. It's the breeding with losers that makes single mothers... - hammering it in again
when you have no idea how hard it is to be a mother? You can never imagine until you've been in our shoes. And I suppose you have a unique ability to spot a loser right away? Well you are unique then, because it happens over and over again that the men we fell in love with don't always stay the same. And it has nothing to do with being a loser. They don't have to be losers to not be able to make a relationship work. If you're sick of the single mother issue, then stay away from posts like this that will only upset your childless cold life.
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I'm happy. I just don't dare post anything
Well there, I did it. I said I am happy to work for MQ.
Bring it on! 
You dare question the judgment of the almighty RN! How dare you!
Don't you know that RN's know everything and are the beginning and end all of all that's holy in the medical kingdom!?
But seriously, you have my sympathy, girl. Hang in there.
Where does it state in her post that she and her kids don't go to church?
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Wow! I really respect your post. You really sound like you have the kids' interests as #1, and th
you and your ex are mature enough to handle sharing custody and expenses - well, that is just so refreshingly cool these days! I'm not putting it well, but its a compliment! I admire your choices.
Your post should be required reading for anyone wanting to do at-home MT to be with kids...SM
I just don't get why people think that just because MT *can* be done at home that it's appropriate to try to do it with babies or small children in your care. It's no different from any other kind of on-site job...you couldn't very well take a baby to any other kind of job, so why is MT any different? It's not, and I wish people (mostly women) would lose the notion that MT is a good option for them *just because* they happen to have little kids.
What a great post! I have 3 kids and my oldest just started college ...
I miss him like crazy even though he comes home every weekend with his laundry! He is also a drummer in a band and for some reason, their new drum set is at my house. But, I realize that soon enough my house will stay clean and the noise (i.e. - drums, guitars, laughing, fighting - not sure I'll miss the fighting!) will quiet, so I try to enjoy it all as much as possible. (excuse me while I go have a quick cry and then get back to work!  )
Happy New Year, everyone!
Dare
Okay, let me tell it like it is.....an MT who is near and dear to my heart works for SS. She will occasionally "blow off steam" to me about this or that. Because of the posts on here about SS, I called her recently to ask her if SS was really that bad and if so, would she like the number of the company where I work. She laughed. This is what she had to say, and it's pretty close to a direct quote:
No, I don't want to leave, for the most part I'm very happy. I work when I am suppose to work. I produce what I am suppose to produce and my QA score is high. I do the hard accounts no one else wants to do so I never run out of work and my pay is really good. (Still quoting) Some of these MTs have problems with ___ but she is NOT that bad if you just do what you're suppose to do when you're suppose to do it. One thing you can count on, she is always FAIR. Whether you like it or not, she is FAIR.
No, this is not my daughter MT that I mentioned previously. She works for Edix/Spheris and has for I guess about 10 years and you couldn't run her off with a stick. Still, she "blows off steam" to me occasionally. We all do that and that is our right but there is a point to just move on and let it go.
I've never taken dares but if I decided to make a move, I would go with SS I think. I pretty well would guess that I would have no problems with the supervisor, no problems with pay, no problems with tech support, etc. etc. If I found anything not to my liking, that I absolutely couldn't live with, then I would leave in a heart beat. Never have had a problem getting another job and doubt I would now. I've been doing this for roughly 40 years and only once had a problem with a supervisor and quit because of it. It really wasn't necessary for me to quit but the old supervisor I'd worked under for years, with NEVER an iota of a problem left and the new "whippersnapper" thought she was going to move mountains on day 1. I questioned her once and she told me, "IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT YOU CAN ALWAYS QUIT." So guess what I did? (I don't accept threats either). I did get a call from a higher up asking me to come back but once I've left, I've left. I never look back.
I'm not saying that your experience isn't true but then my experiences are true too. So you see, it wouldn't do me any good to accept your dare, it wouldn't prove a thing. Even if I found my experience was the same as your's, not everyone is going to have that experience.
I bet that if everyone posting negative about ANY company would sign their real name and the company came here to answer the complaints, they would have their side of the story too. I've always been of the opinion that there are really THREE sides to any story. Your side, my side and the truth (which usually is somewhere in the middle).
Oh, regarding tech support. Once when I worked for one of the big boys, the tech after trying several things to fix my problem, said in a rather grouchy tone, "I don't know what to tell you." Nevermind that made me furious!!! I mustered my sweetest voice and I said, "Oh, okay, would you tell ___ (supervisor) for me that I can't work because my computer is down? Thanks anyway for trying." HAHAHAHHAA I almost heard a gasp. He then said, well, we could try, this. Didn't work. He said, "I'll get a new computer out to you today and you'll have it tomorrow. I did and everything went on as per usual.
Oh, to dare to dream.......
Dare I ask. What exactly are chitlins? nm
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and then I dare say, the management
would conveniently lower the pay to maybe 3/10 of a cent per line - lol. Can't allow those lowly MTs to make any money.
Why is it that management (no matter what company or situation) always decides what is possible and what is in the best interests of everyone, when the vast majority of them have no clue and have never performed the work? No wonder the economy has tanked.
and then I dare say, the management
would conveniently lower the pay to maybe 3/10 of a cent per line - lol. Can't allow those lowly MTs to make any money.
Why is it that management (no matter what company or situation) always decides what is possible and what is in the best interests of everyone, when the vast majority of them have no clue and have never performed the work? They also never think to consult the person who actually performs the work and get some very valuable input. No wonder the economy has finally tanked.
How dare you make such a statement.
I beg your pardon..how dare you make such a generalization..How do you know what anyone elses work habits are? I have worked for MQ for nine years and it has been nothing but turmoil, different rules for each regional office, pay cuts, platform changes, new CEOs every few months, rumors about selling the company left and right. In July the SEs were told they were needed and the company was going to make the best job for SEs because they valued us..Now in January, there will be no more SEs and if you do not apply, just like a newbie, to be evaluated, just like a newbie, you will no longer have a job. Please, I am most certainly not lazy, I have worked two full time jobs since 1997. How dare you!
I wouldn't dare...1 drink and
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In this economy I would not dare - they may look elsewhere, be careful!
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How dare you? I used to live in a trailer and was not a skank
i wouldn't dare disfigure my body that way.
happy valentine's day to you too, though!!!!
As an MTSO, I don't dare raise my rates because...sm
I've been actually outbid when I gave a price of 11 cents a line. The competitor was offering 24 TAT too. I don't dare raise rates on my accounts anymore. That would be slitting our throats. One of my IC's actually took a pay cut on another account. The physicians said if they didn't cut their rates they would find a transcription company in India. The MTSO decided to cut the rate and any IC who wanted to stay on would have to take a pay cut too. Hey if you can find the work at higher pay, take it, but...
How dare you speak to a colleague in this manner.
You are in the minority. I am telling you this - the only thing that constructive criticism does is cause lack of confidence and distraction which lasts for me up to an entire day. We make mistakes. Not gonna change. QA should be honored for catching the error and leave the MT out of it. There is no need to do anything more but fire her and in this field, the doctor has the last word and they still decide in the end - get that MT off my work and well, if that doesn't happy, that is a good sign. I have seen grown women brought to tears from the bullies in this field and it is about time it stopped, while that giant sucking sound caused by our jobs going to India gets louder and louder. Solutions include pods - teams of QA editor, proofer, data collector who WORK TOGETHER with mutual respective, sense of professionalism and hey, how about some humor and kindness? Is there some reason why some MTs think they are our sargeants? The only thing you bullies have on us is the ability to be rude.
Do little kids like caramel? My big kids won't even eat it! We make the basic Baker's chocolat
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I never said you shouldn't have kids! Feeling guilty? I asked WHY you had kids.
You clearly stated in your post that you ship the kids off to camp all day, and they're TIRED AT NIGHT!! You know exactly what you said. You said it as a PERK - AS IN GREAT! They're gone all day, it wears them out, and so I shovel dinner in their mouths and off to bed! You can try to paint it any way you want, but YOU SAID IT. Again, I only hope your kids never hear you speak that way or write that way. Shame on you. Why have kids at all? Just another parent who has them, gets rid of them for day AND night, BRAGS ABOUT IT, and then calls ME wicked! Give me a break! Camp is fine - its WHAT YOU SAID AND YOU KNOW IT. Your own words showed your heart. Period.
Kids are demanding and so is MT work. My question is how CAN you do this with kids, rather than how
When you have two young kids, 11 months apart, (like I stated they are now 4 and 5) and have been doing this since they were born with no help from their father and no family around, YES, the kids get neglected. Part time might work but living on one salary, part time, is not an option. How can you possible tell me that anyone with two young kids can stay at home and work a full-time, 8-hour shift, and still give their kids the attention they NEED. I dont care how good you are at multitasking and how great your organizational skills are. It is a very difficult thing to do. And I am offended by your post making it sound as if it is easy to do.
I do agree that it can depend on how well your kids behave and how well they are able to play on their own. But my kids were not able to play well on their own. They needed constant attention.
So please take the time to realize that there are people out there in different situations than your own.
Reading our posts should help you to understand that everyone has a different situation. I believe everyone should have the right to shares their experiences as it might benefit the original poster in her questions and concerns.
I dont think anyone should be bashed for taking the time out to write about their experiences. I dont usually come on here to argue but you really ticked me off with your post. And try reading the post correctly. I said next time around I would have put them in day care. What I DID do with them was set them up to an activity like art or put on a movie for them. Geez.
Stayed "because of the kids?" I say "leave because of the kids"
You're in no position to buy right now. Keep saving, keep paying down your bills, and for heaven's sake get rid of that dead weight of a BF you're living with. You can do better.
So, should I return the $75 (x2 kids) in music cards I got the kids for x-mas...sm
My son has been telling me about free music sites and I was very leary. How do they skirt the law Radguy?
I don't have kids, but my Mom was from the "old school," and still had everyone, kids inclu
call her by her first name. The little neighbor girl next door from the time she could speak called her Aggie (my mom's first name), and they were great buddies until the day my mom pased away.
I don't think there really is much in a name, but more in the respect you are given and the way you are treated. Personally, I kind of cringe inside when someone calls me Ms. Anything or God forbid, "maam" (makes me feel like Methuselah!) ... I'm always just plain Merrie. :-)
But, as someone pointed out, to each his own. If you want to be addressed a certain way, you have that right, and people should respect that. I'm glad you corrected the child ... hope it "sticks." 
Please do not simply give up, kids or no kids!
Talk with a professional. This can be worked through if he really puts forth the effort and you participate. The right counseling can truly make your marriage even better than it was before, if BOTH parties are willing to be honest. Give it a try. Nothing to lose at this point and everything to gain!
Should just post all their open positions in one post and only be allowed to post one of those a day
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but boards will be dano's boards and that's the issue. no one dare disagree with dano.
yes the boards will be boring with just one-sided opinions but we need to please dano. isn't that the purpose of MT Stars?
NOTE: The above sticky post prize changes as someone wins. Inside that post is
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I don't understand what your post has to do with original post of TIMED tests. NM
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Post deleted -- Do not post e-mail addresses. (NM)
Goldbird
Ignore my post. I finally found the post on how to do this. nm
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Yes, I tried to post same last night about 10 times, and it won't let me post.
I used to breed lab puppies (please no activist flames)! I had a champion female white Canadian lab, and people would be on a list for years if by chance I bred her, which I did twice, and so that I could continue her line. Anyhow, she's my sweet Skye who passed away 2 months ago? At any rate, we had the same problems with kids in the "hood" who wanted to come over and play once the puppies were old enough to be exercised daily and played with. At first I thought, how cute, right? Puppies and little kids - what better picture! Well, the majority of kids were adorable, but there were always 1 or 2 sick ones who would smack the pups, smash and hold their heads in the dirt (a real common thing, but I don't know why - psychiatrist anyone). At any rate, I finally had to ban the whole group due to the 1 or 2 creeps, had to call the police, the whole 9 yards, and that's EXACTLY what the police officer told me - next thing is there will be poison meat or a donut in the yard. He told me to always go out and patrol my yard, especially alone the fence line every day before I let the dogs out, particularly at night. I went out with a flashlight. It was about a month later, but sure enough - poison meat. Because there were so many kids involved, we obviously couldn't pin point the exact family, but the police went and read the riot act to them all. It would stop and not happen again for a year or so, but every now and again we would find something. My dogs were NEVER out and barking, so it was nothing like that - it was just over the puppies and the cruel kids.... Not trying to freak you, but that's the way these kids and their families are. You can really judge someone's character by ill treatment of a PUPPY, of all things. And the parents?? They sound whacked. Please be careful.
Sorry, I posted this post under the wrong post
Sorry
The job post has been removed and they are unable to post further.
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my post did not all post in the subject, my apologies...
I think you can get the idea.
thanks.
Excellent post! I copied this post and...
am going to show it to my shrink so he can understand my frustration with my new "profession!" By the way, how much you wanna bet he pulls in 300$ an hour and has two years of schooling on me! Hmmmmmmm. Okay, you flamers, don't tell me to go back to school...I am thinking about it. Hmmmm
Because my post was deleted in reference to the above post, sm
Ladies-once again, I apologize for coming across as a witch in the above post. I appreciate the links and the time spent on posting them.
OOPS. Post for magnent post below...nm
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Ah, I really meant to post that under the original post
Though it was gourdpainter's post which inspired me to post that suggestion.
Ah, I really meant to post that under the original post
Though it was gourdpainter's post which inspired me to post that suggestion.
Here's an URL for the medical transcription division of PRN Funding, BTW:
http://www.prnfunding.com/medical-transcription-factoring
what mean post made you post your post
 Which mean post was the straw that broke the poster's back.
Yes, she had post partum depression AND post partum psychosis. I posted on this a while back, and
it explained the two. The psychosis actually develops after the depression. Scary stuff.
No I said thank God I do not have kids
I think the wrong point is being taken here. Yes he does not worry about money and is used to that. I am afraid of not making ends meet if I stop working my day job and I refuse to stop working either MT jobs as we all know it takes a lot of education to make it.
I am my kids mom
My children are lucky to have their mother taking care of them, not a stranger. I work my butt of taking care of my kids and have made many sacrifices to be able to live this life of working PT and being a full time mother. I know that I am my kids mom.
I know that it must be hard for you to look at your kids and tell them that you don't want them to be with you everyday. The sacrifices could be made.
Thank God you have no kids. NM
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How much can you get done with 2 kids?
I haven't done transcription for a few years and would like to get back in. My question is--if you don't mind me asking--how many lines a week can you get done with kids? Is 1000 reasonable or way out there? I have 5 kids, but 3 of them will be in school during the day and the other two nap...any advice?
For kids
Tacos, as son to work and daughter off too, and me and hubby home made wedding soup, ummm ummm good, and sweet italian sausage on hard rolls, not stale, just good.
28 WF, M, 2 kids. nm
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Kids come first for both of us, then each other, I don't think I'd want a man who
and catering to me constantly. I like the fact that he does all the cooking, and most of the grocery shopping and gets me things I like w/o me having to ask him to buy them. I do the same for him. We don't get much alone time but enjoy what time we do get together. My man does a lot other men don't but doesn't act like a doormat either.
Same here... kids come first, then each other. sm
Our kids are still at home, and the kids come first. I've seen lots of other parents who put themselves/each other first, and the kids always seem to be second thoughts to them. That's not how it works in our family. We're all equally important, but the kids' needs come first. If I only have $30 and we all need shoes, the kids get them first. I wouldn't have it any other way.
How old are the kids?nm
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