No I would not. That is the 1 thing I can not forgive.
Posted By: ExpMT24 on 2006-07-21
In Reply to: poll: Would you forgive your husband if he cheated? - MT58
I told my husband that if he ever cheats I will cut his gonads off - and I mean it. Infidelity is one thing I will not tolerate or live with.
My take is - don't make an A**hole out of me. If that is what you want, tell me and then go to it. Sneaking aorund and everyone in the world knowing what you are doing before me is a bad mistake. If you want to be with someone else - that is fine, just tell me first. I will have less of a problem with that rather than lying to me and sneaking around. I think you all get what I am trying to say.
So, no I would never forgive such behavior or forget it. I also told my husband that will be the one thing I will divorce him over and take him to the cleaners.
Other than that, we are happily married.
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Forgive me...
Perhaps I'm missing something here, and if so, I apologize. I run a service. If you transcribed for my accounts, you wouldn't be an IC; you'd be a SC. That being the case, nine cents is a good rate given reasonable clarity of the dictators and other factors involved, which are many.
Please forgive me if this has already been said...
I have worked with women involved in domestic violence for the last 15 years. You can call the local police deparment to find the domestic violence advocates in your area. There are shelters where you and your kids and stay. I believe each state may vary on how many days you can stay. These shelters for the most part are secret. The advocates have ways of helping you make a plan to move out safely. They can help you get a potection order, got to court, etc. In the protection order you may request your husband move out. But please keep in mind a protection order is only a piece of paper and doesn't mean your husband won't get upset and break the protection order. The advocates can also be a wonderful support system for you. I hope this will help you. (800) 799-SAFE this is the domestic violence hotline and they can put you touch with someone in your area. Also this website is good...http://www.dvpsh.org/ Just click on "getting help" and there are tons of numbers listed where you can go for help.
Forgive--SM
after 10 years of marriage, it happened to me too. We divorced, but only because he wanted to be with her more than he wanted to be with me, which is fine...now. It hurt alot at the time and anger ruled my world, but you cannot hold onto that. The only person it hurts is you. You have to move forward instead of staying stuck in the rut of anger and hostility. I forgave him, after the fact. Not that he deserved it, but because I had to let it go...for MY sake. Everybody makes mistakes. Perhaps marrying me in the first place was a mistake. Who knows? But I am happier now...alone, but happy. Hopefully he is too. I did love him, and hating him now would only hurt me, not him, or what he did. Let it go.
Forgive me
Yes I know what HIPAA is - it kept me from visting a friend in the hospital last week. I understand what the person is saying - i don't understand the concern by someone other than an American - you can just ignore my comments if you don't agree or if you feel i am ignorant. this is an open forum - and i abide by the rules - so i feel that i can speak my mind or someone else's if i choose. but thanks for the concern that i am ignorant - that's really one more thing we don't need here - is more ignorance.
Hee hee! I can forgive them nearly anything
if they apologize to me for it. Means they know I'm alive.
Forgive me...sm
but when I first saw your post, I asked myself...is this a joke? Then I read it again and I realized what you were after (I only read the tagline).
I have been an MT for 12 yrs or so and I have used the same expander, same library for 10 of those years. I would not still be an MT if I had not had someone turn me onto an Expander and insist that I use it. As I recall, I was doing about 100 to 115 lines an hour without the expander and with a very few (about 300) autocorrects. (I started using an expander that came with a library of about 13,800 terms and began to tweak it. I have more like 20,000 now.) I went past 150 lph within about 2 weeks, over 175 in a month, over 250 the next month and then I did spend about 4 or 5 months reaching for 300 lph with the expander. I didn't get faster than that for some time because other things needed to catch up...like my "ear" and my working knowledge of medical terminology. It took time because I also was not maximizing my expander and I am still not sure that I am truly maximizing it. I could make better use of it, I am sure. I work full time and for the past 9 days' worth of work I have 16,000 lines and still need to work one more day this week. Without an expander, I would not have half that. I am just not that fast of a typist, but I am expander whiz.
There is a free expander around and it used to be this site that had it, but it isn't any longer. I have a library I am happy to share, but you'd have to put my 20,000 terms in by hand because it does not have a converter.
Please forgive me .. all people who
live in the South are not cut from the same cloth. I have been watching this for a week now and my heart breaks each and every time I see the images on our TV not that far from where **I** live. I was lucky to come from good circumstances, and yet I was taught as a child to NEVER put one person above another and that our good fortune could leave for any number of reasons. This storm took a national treasure and dessimated it because the federal government did not allocate the monies needed to make a jewel of a city safe for its residents and vistors. I really love living in Florida out of the snow and the winters I cannot ever forget, but I guess that Florida in essence represents many of the ills in our society because now it is a melting pot of many people from all over this country and Europe too who come here to enjoy weather and sun. We are destroying this state too in the name of progress and to me, when you wreak havoc on nature .. eventually you pay for it. The universe is about balance and we are ruining it. Humanity is about basic human principle and we have forgotten them. We police the world and we dictate how people should live in our image .. and yet it is tarnished by so many ridiculous things .. like not being willing (because we are certainly able) to care for our own. We are products of our environment and the precepts we were taught as children. My mother and I had many differences while she was alive but I can look still to her and feel pride in what I was taught as a child and I thank her in times like these that she was such a good mother to us and made us understand what is right and what is simply unconscienable. And, lastly, in times like these should we quote Montel Williams or should we go a bit deeper than that and wonder what Jesus is thinking of us now?
No problem, we forgive you.
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Forgive me, but isn't that kinda mean?
Besides, my friend has the "collar" for her yorkie and the dang thing yaps right over it. The way I did it with my dog when he was a pup didn't make him "afraid" of barking (knowing he'd get zapped). He just learned that we did not like it when he barked. He also doesn't jump up on people unless I give him the okay and he does NOT lick people. EEEEW.
I didn't rely on gadgets with my dog. I trained him with patience and rewards. Works every time and makes a heck of a better dog.
If you're going to zap a dog when he barks, why not just kick him? The "correction devices" are only made for people that don't want to bother to spend the time.
I think I could forgive..but not forget.
If either him or I cheated, the trust is gone in the marriage. I think I would forgive him (not right away) as he is the father of my kids and I will always have a relationship with him whether married or not, but I I think at that point, the marriage would be over. That's what marriage is to me, loyalty to each other. I would say he feels the same way. I can forgive anyone, it's just my nature, but I don't forget.
Forgive me if you misunderstood..
I agree that you must be a fast typist in order to make a decent financial living. I just do not think that speed should be placed above accuracy just for speed sake. Speed comes with knowledge, knowledge is obtained by looking over your reports and transcribing correctly.
You might, but some recruiters might not forgive that
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Forgive me if this is old news.
Came across this article tonight; while it comes to no conclusions, it's interesting nonetheless. Especially where an executive from a national MT company calls his at-home MTs "overpaid housewives."
http://health-information.advanceweb.com/common/EditorialSearch/AViewer.aspx?AN=HI_07jul30_hip12.html&AD=07-30-2007
Forgive me if you have already attempted this, but
there are certain doctors I speed up very fast and believe it or not I actually understand them better. Others I slow down and have the same affect.
Not to be insulting but have you tried this, do you have easy access to the speed?
Best of luck and you may not believe it but sometimes you can pick up more skills with the more difficult dictators...I started that way with a supervisor (it is funny now but was not then) who gave me every difficult (terrible) dictator for an entire hospital, and it only made me better...
Sorry about the typo - forgive me
Sorry for the typo . . .
bloopers (forgive if they are redundant)
HOSPITAL CHART BLOOPERS
Actual writings from hospital charts:
1. The patient refused autopsy.
2. The patient has no previous history of suicides.
3. Patient has left white blood cells at another hospital.
4. She has no rigors or shaking chills, but her husband states she was very hot in bed last night.
5. Patient has chest pain if she lies on her left side for over a year.
6. On the second day the knee was better, and on the third day it disappeared.
7. The patient is tearful and crying constantly. She also appears to be depressed.
8. The patient has been depressed since she began seeing me in 1993.
9. Discharge status: Alive but without permission.
10. Healthy appearing decrepit 69-year old male, mentally alert but forgetful.
11. Patient had waffles for breakfast and anorexia for lunch.
12. She is numb from her toes down.
13. While in ER, she was examined, x-rated and sent home.
14. The skin was moist and dry.
15. Occasional, constant infrequent headaches.
16. Patient was alert and unresponsive.
17. Rectal examination revealed a normal size thyroid.
18. She stated that she had been constipated for most of her life, until she got a divorce.
19. I saw your patient today, who is still under our car for physical therapy.
20. Both breasts are equal and reactive to light and accommodation.
21. Examination of genitalia reveals that he is circus sized.
22. The lab test indicated abnormal lover function.
23. Skin: somewhat pale but present.
24. The pelvic exam will be done later on the floor.
25. Patient has two teenage children, but no other abnormalities.
forgive me - you said REALITY show....sm
well only Extreme Home Makeover was contributory in my post...sorry, I'll read slower next time...
Forgive me, but I'd think the phone book would be SM
the proper resource for a local clinic - didn't you look in the phone book? For the doc, you can google. I work for hospitals in three other states and I have to look that stuff up all the time. You're supposed to use the resources you have, without having QA tell you the obvious. Just my opinion.
Forgive the last message, but WHAT do I have to do to make 40,000
a year. After 18 months at 0.07 cpl with appx 1200 lpd, I am SO frustrated. What a I doing wrong? TIA
Forgive an ignorant question
What's a gross line?
Stupid, I know. I really don't know what that is, though. Thanks.
forgive the stupid question, but....
I've never had to deal with this before. There is no way IC's can collect unemployment, right?
I admire your ability to forgive and hopefully this will all blow over - however, that being said,
please make sure that Animal Control did not list this as an "incident" so that it may not be used against your dog in the future, even if no charges were filed. A lot of states have a strict "no bite or 3 bite" policy and would not want this to count against your dog later in life. My brother-in-law's dog bit a child when it got tangled up in her bicycle wheels (granted she should not have been that close to the child in the first place), so we've learned to be very careful about our animals.
poll: Would you forgive your husband if he cheated?
Assuming you have children and assumming he seems remorseful, would you save the marriage?
oops. It copied three times. please forgive.
the first few paragraphs should be enough. Don't know how that happened. sorry.
Forgive the typos in post above. I'm tired. nm.
NM
Lord forgive me for saying this, but at the start of this, they interviewed her roommates on CNN, I
think. Maybe Fox. At any rate, the girls were rather "smug" about it all, said that Natalee was quite taken with this Dutch kid and had basically "dumped" her friends the last 2 days to hang all over this guy. When they were asked what was "so special" about him, they said that Natalee was quite flattered that he was paying attention to her, as he was considered the "#1 Catch On the Island"...So, that certainly explains why her friends weren't "covering her back". She had ditched them more or less to be with Romeo. Happened to me a lot in the "old bar hopping days" with my girlfriends. One would hook up with some total stranger, and just dump the rest of us "singles" for the night. Luckily, they all lived, though we did have a scary encounter now and again, this being in Southern Florida.
One late check, I'd forgive, but the 2nd and I'd on my way to the Labor Board. (nm)
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Forgive me, but WHAT do I have to do to ma00 - FLmt (Views: 6, 2007-07-04)
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OMG, you FORGIVE Walmart shoppers? Are you nutz. Did Walmart
put an over-priced small business owner out of business. What is your PROBLEM?
I see old people who would otherwise not have a job smiling and happy with Walmart. I see undereducated people who do not look employable working at Walmart. Walmart employs millions of Americans who may otherwise be on public assistance.
Ebonics: Not a black thing or white thing. (sm)
I don't think there's any cause to get upset or defensive here. Look it up on line...even colleges are offering courses in Ebonics! ...well of course they are more sociology-type courses, but still, people are PAYING to learn about the why's and how's of this "other" language.
A quote from one of the sites I found:
"UT-Austin's "Introduction to the Study of African American English," teaches students that the sentence, "Nobody didn't leave" is not "mainstream English with mistakes," but rather a legitimate English dialect. "Ebonics: Myth and Facts" and "African-American English" are both offered at Harvard. Penn and UCLA also promote Ebonics as a legitimate dialect in, "Introduction to African American and Latino English" and "Afro-American Sociolinguistics: Black English," respectively."
Here's the link: http://www.academia.org/campus_reports/2002/september_2002_2.html
Best thing - I am my own boss and my own emloyee, worse thing - I am my own boss and my own
:P
A "man" thing? What the heck is a "man thing?"
"I was told it was a "MAN" thing and everyone does it (i guess all men)"
whenever anyone takes an action and relates it to a whole gender and then tags on everyone does it....well, I guess there's your answer
And the best thing of all, it's
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Thanks gj...the only thing I can tell you...sm
is that I just worked some overflow stuff and kept looking until I found what I wanted. I am lucky enough not to have to depend on my income right now, so I was able to be much more picky. If you would like more info, let me know and I can email you. Hope all works out well with you and thanks for the good wishes.
one more thing sm
 I was only referring to the bitter ones here who work for MQ, not all MQrs. I am one of the MQrs, ya know! Please get your facts straight before you post a response!
One more thing... (sm)
Tell her if she is willing to travel, there are PLENTY of jobs for traveling coders.
I just had to add one thing (sm)
You need to stop thinking you are owed, whatever the situation may be.
Hard work does pay off and if you're working for the wrong people, there are many more out there. I've found a lot of "wrong people" in this business, LOL.
one more thing...sm
I suck at OP notes...does this matter? 
YOU ARE SO RIGHT - IT WAS THE BEST THING I EVER DID ALSO!
And I too heard from companies I didn't even know existed!
I was told by a couple of them that they don't post on this board because they received calls and resumes from people who did not read what the positions were for and it was a nightmare. They made requests for no overseas need apply and of course, overseas would call and apply. If it was a certain requirement, say 5+ years experience, newbies would apply. Just things like that.
same thing
This profession is going to hell in a hand basket.
The only thing I have to say is sm
why on earth would anyone stay with ANY company if they are treated so poorly? A good MT still has a whole lot of options. Assuming these complaints about SS, MQ, KS, Spheris, whatever company, are true, why do people continue to work for them?
one more thing
Go you for watching something that is hard to watch and for trying to inform yourself and others, please spread the word, what an idea to get this into schools, but probably will never happen. There are many videos out there that you can purchase for nominal fees and hold private showings for friends and family members, one person tells one person and so on, keep the information flowing!!!!
one more thing (sm)
If you are talking about disability insurance on your mortgage, credit account, etc. be very, very careful when you purchase it. Read the fine print on the contract. A friend of mine is terminal and had disability insurance on a number of her accounts. The one on her second mortgage is still paying. She had one on a credit card and those weasels charged her $15 every month for the insurance fee, paid $16 on the balance of her credit card each month, and then after a year said they were done paying! Read the fine print!!
My dad is going thru the same thing....
From what I was told he is having all checks made out to her estate and not him personally (he is the executor). She had some stocks ($2000-$3000). If the checks were made out to him he has to pay tax on them but if they are made out to my grandmother's estate then she is responsible but since she did not make enough money in 2005 there will be no taxes taken out. I may be wrong but that is my understanding of the situation.
VR may NOT be the Next Big Thing...
MedQuist has been trying for years to push VR on the hospital radiology department I transcribe for and they absolutely REFUSE to use it. MQ was always like "try it, you'll like it" and I believe they did try it one day and that was it. MQ finally gave up. So there is hope for us all yet!
My son did the same thing.
He was in football and really did well. Everyone in the family always talked about how great he was with football. Then he decided to quit one day. I was so disappointed because I knew he could have gotten a college scholarship. It is SO tough to be supportive of someone when you think they're making the wrong choice. My Dad got on my son's case about being a quitter and an underachiever. He really came down hard on him, so I had to defend my son. In defending my son, I changed my own thinking. I realized that although we give birth to these adorable little babies, they are their own person. They're going to do things that we would have done differently. What can you do? You can't impose your will upon them. We all have dreams for our children. However, their dreams are more important than our expectations of them.
My son just did the same thing...
to him and we all had to adjust our schedules to accommodate him and he just quit. This was going to be his senior year on the varsity team. Unfortunately, he did not participate in anything else for his whole high school career, so now he has no activities resume. You can't tell him anything though. He does do extremely well in school and takes several APs as well, but it was disappointing. He was going to try to get an internship with our local hospital, but of course, that never panned out. Now he works about 15 hours a week and hangs out the rest of the time. His attitude is getting really crappy too, but his father won't do a thing about it. He took his car the other night, but gave it back to him the next morning. Yeah...that really taught him a good lesson :(! He has been really frustrating me lately. He is a great kid and when he is good he is the best, but when he isn't, he is just unbearable. He's not into drugs or drinking or partying and is a homebody, so I guess I have no real complaints. Maybe it's me not handling his new "adultness." pheww....that was a vent and a half!
Same thing here
Arizona-- not even in the HOTTEST part. Couldn't stand to live there any more. I am anxiously awaiting fall, too.
Going through the same thing.
It is VERY frustrating.
I did the same thing...
There were 3 different times I have done this. Twice, I needed to be out of town and once last month when my daughter had surgery. It wasn't so much the money as making my minimum lines for my phone reimbursement, which I am still waiting for after 6 months of putting in the second line, but that is a whole other thread!
and another thing
That's how I even learned what a macro, expander, acronym was - when I worked for MQ/TL 10 years ago. These are tools now thare are quite invaluable to me. $120 investment was worth. Sounds like a lot, we probably spend that on the first two isles in Wal-Mart.......
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