Need advice on kids and sharing

I just moved to a new neighborhood last month.  There is a family of 5 kids in the neighborhood that have been playing with my kids, and they are very sweet kids.  They are really good kids, never in trouble, and it is very endearing how they look out for one another and never fight with each other. 

However, these kids come over every day, and they constantly ask for food, money, toys and Band-Aids.  They always want to borrow my son's bike or scooter, and they all ask for food daily.  My kids say they have a lot of food at home.

At first I did let them borrow some of the toys, but it quickly got out of hand.  I sat the kids down and told them that they were not allowed to ask me for food or money, that it was their parents responsibility to provide that.  I told them that if they were hungry they had to go home to eat.  They were good for a few days, but went right back to asking again.  I also told them that they could not borrow any more toys or bikes. 

Today their mother told my kids that they were "mean children" because they didn't know how to share. 

I'm livid.  I want my kids to take care of their things, and they can't do that if these children constantly borrow their things.  I also don't think "sharing" is a life skill they need to learn.  You certainly don't see adults sharing their trucks, boats, jetskis, etc.  I think it is more important for kids to learn to take care of what they have, not share it with the world. 

I feel like I need to talk to this mother, but I'm not sure how to say it without being confrontational.  Any ideas?  Am I out of line on this one? 

• Need advice on kids and sharing - M
  • Thanks for all the responses... - M
    • Well... - MT2
      • I agree... - M
  • Sharing - madhattie
  • Send yours over for 3 meals a day, and to borrow all - their stuff and see how sharing she is. NM
  • Your first responsibility is to YOUR kids. sm - Anony
  • Well...I have a different perspective - Chickadee
    • Children understand what they are taught! - Mom2
  • Boy, that's a tuff one.. - MT2
  • I knew some kids like that....sm - R
  • What does THAT have to do with MT????? - ArmyBrat
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need to stabilize.

Medical transcription is not a "living" - it is a sideline anymore, unless you can find a doctors office or hospital where you can count on an income and count on medical insurance.

Leave the BF - they are dead weight.  They wear you out and rarely help you find any solid footing.  If your's did you wouldn't be here asking for advice.

I used to think I need to be married - then I began to ask myself:  WHY AM I MORE BROKE AND MORE TIRED WITH A HUSBAND?

There were more hours in the day and more money in the bank when I was on my own with my children.  We may not have had fancy things but we were happy because their mom was happy - ME.

Again, don't use 3 PT/transcription jobs or even 1 FT and some PTs to say you are making it.  Either bring your budget down to living on the 1 FT and let the PT be the discretionary income (extra for savings, emergencies, etc), or leave transcription entirely.  MTing is a losing proposition at this time.  Unless of course, like I say, you are in a stable place like a hospital.  And don't COUNT on the PT to carry you through - these nationals and side jobs are playing fast and loose with paying people or providing any security at all.

GOOD LUCK. 

call her by her first name.  The little neighbor girl next door from the time she could speak called her Aggie (my mom's first name), and they were great buddies until the day my mom pased away. 

I don't think there really is much in a name, but more in the respect you are given and the way you are treated.   Personally, I kind of cringe inside when someone calls me Ms. Anything or God forbid, "maam" (makes me feel like Methuselah!) ... I'm always just plain Merrie.  :-)

But, as someone pointed out, to each his own.  If you want to be addressed a certain way, you have that right, and people should respect that.  I'm glad you corrected the child ... hope it "sticks."    

I have been an MT for over 10 years.  I also am getting burnt out, tired of my job, day in day.  However, I do love transcription and make excellent money at it, have grossed over $50,000 per year the last 5 years.  I decided to go back to nursing school and am very happy with my choice.  However, over these 10 years of transcription I have had my ups and downs.  My biggest issue with being at home working is lack of socialization, being home day in and day out with just the kids and the animals really gets to a person, sure hubby is home at night and thinks working from home is the easy life, thus the return to school and boy has my overall enjoyment of life changed once I realized I was the problem, not everyone else and I needed to find myself again.

Anyway, my biggest advice to you three-fold:

1.  Get into counseling for yourself, find out who you are and what your needs are, whether or not you think you need to, I sense you are feeling overwhelmed and need someone other than your family to talk to that can be nonjudgmental to your feelings and needs.

2.  If you're only making $100 after you pay preschool you can either keep doing it and be miserable, or quit because you are lucky enough to have a husband who can support the family without your income. (See how fast his mind changes just by losing the income you do have as to whether your job means anything.)  Or look for a different company or office that you like more and are more productive if you really want to do transcription (lots of fish in the sea as far as companies).

3.  Find a local "mom's" group where you can get out and socialize.  MOPS (mother's of preschoolers) is an excellent one that is nationwide, they have a website.  Also Mom2Mom is in a lot of areas.  They provide a once a week time for moms with kids the same age to get together, socialize, (some offer spirtual guidance some don't) and each week a different mom takes a turn watching everyone else's children at the facility that hosts it so the other moms can talk about things they have in common.  Every stay-at-home and work-from-home mom needs to socialize with adults, without their kids, or they will have a nervous breakdown eventually no matter how much they love their kids.

Sorry so long but it does get better but you have to take the first step at making yourself happy.

I have friends just starting out in MT (many still in school), and I think this is valuable information for them.  I've said the same thing to them all, that if you take this as seriously as you would any job you were doing in an office, devote your work time and attention to it, and do what is asked of you while trying to improve yourself, you will be able to succeed.  I have only been doing transcription for a few years, but I can see that I will be here for probably as long as transcription is around.

Thanks for sharing your wisdom...

It appears that I am not alone then IF this is truly the cause of my symptoms. I have only been off of Nexium for three days and haven't noticed a significant difference but I know it may just take some more time to get back to where I use to be as I had been on Nexium since the first part of January and I have been terribly sick for several months. 

The doctors have all ruled out just about everything they can think of so won't it be ironic if Nexium is the cause of my sickness after ALL the testing I have gone through?!? I don't care, as long as I get my health back. :)

As tears roll down my face and I sit here sobbing, I want to thank you for sharing this story.

Believe me, since my brother's recent passing (my only sibling) a few months ago, my life was really put into perspective and my goal is to let everyone I know how they have touched my life and how much I love them.

Even my Dad told me he loved for the second time that I remember in my whole life just a few months ago. Now, we both say it every time we see each other or speak to each other. That is a most precious gift to me. While my family was never affectionate, I knew they loved me and my mom & I were always close and said that to each other but having my Dad say this, well, I just can't describe the feelings. I really don't think he thought of saying it to tell you the truth, that he didn't realize it was so important for me to hear it until I got so sick, and I told him about how I only recalled him telling me he loved me once (before he had open heart surgery and was being wheeled to surgery).  I guess it just goes to show that people can change and do change - even at the age of 76! :D I love you too Daddy!

Thank you for taking the time to share what experiences you have encountered with those with PKD. It really helps for me to hear what others have gone through and have more of an idea of what to expect.

Believe me I have been reading a lot and I think I have a pretty good basic understanding of it all and what to expect but still hearing or knowing of what others have experienced puts things in a different perspective I think too. I know each course is going to be very individual as everyone is different.

Before I was even found to have the PKD, despite my labs being quite normal except for a couple values, I was so deathly ill and I "knew" I was dying. I was so desperate in finding help. My family saw me wasting away and felt I had little time left until I stopped some of my Rx meds on my own out of desperation and the nausea subsided where I could eat again. It was the most horrible thing I endured for that long of a time. This leads me to believe that the laboratory values are not the end all and that I may be just more sensitive than some and now maybe I can convince the doctors to take me more seriously. When they didn't know yet what was wrong, of course, as a last resort they thought depression. :( I was not depressed (upset, angry, frustrated-YES!) I am a very positive, happy-go-lucky type of person, and that is just my nature but when you are too ill to eat only about 400-500 calories a day for many days for weeks, it takes it toll quickly.I LOVE to eat and I was not anorexic by choice, let me tell you. :)

Again, thank you so much. 

experience!  Now I feel much more comfortable taking the plunge and calling them.  This will be great to not have to count my minutes anymore! 

Good resource.

a few reminders from the scriptures.  Did you see them?

Sharing these types of stories seem to heal and help ALL of us.  Keep on keepin' on, sweetie!!!  You sound like you're doing FINE!!!