My sympathy was reserved for the women and families they betrayed. sm
Posted By: MT on 2006-01-15
In Reply to: I guess ya'll missed the point, but not surprising - Romey
I felt no sympathy for the men at all.
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Betrayed, but not terribly surprised (sm)
That Cyndy Lauper song "Money Changes Everything" is going through my head.
I think the "R" actually stands for reserved. nm
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Yes, bonuses are reserved for the pets, not
based on cooperation, quality, or anything else, just whether your team leader thinks you are wonderful and so does Deb, but if you are on Deb's list, you get nothing, so just stay quiet in your corner and say nothing or she will slam you.
Correction - Men and women cheat - men get caught - women don't
I know more women who cheat than the other way around, and the difference is that no one knows about it unless THEY tell them.
Women, especially women of childbearing
age (especially this woman) prefer indoor plumbing and a bit of privacy rather than using a port-a-potty. I met a woman recently, she and her husband built the house behind me. She is also a master mechanic and does landscaping, all traditional male professions. She is a bit rough around the edges and I would never have pictured her with the man who is her husband.
I know a few male MTs and if they aren't gay, they missed a good chance.
U mean there are OTHER dysfunctional families out there?
LOL. I thot it wuz just mine! 
the miners' families in WV.........nm
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Holloway & Twitty Families
I feel sorry for both of the families, but just because you want an answer doesn't make people guility because you think they are. Women disappear in the US ALL THE TIME and no one cares because they arent' young, blonde, and come from money. It doesn't make their lives less than Holloway's. She used bad judgment, her parents used bad judgment. Does anyone know of a 17-year-old girl who behaves "correctly" in an atmosphere like Aruba? They let their daughter go to a "foreign country" unchaperoned. They used bad judgment and now they are looking for someone to point a finger at to take the guilt off their backs. Holloway's mother has no right to throw a temper tantrum about the Aruban system. She's not in Kansas anymore!!! Said to say, but she needs to come to grips with reality.
some families drink to deal with each other
There is a lot going on underneath the scenes, a lot of hurt feelings not dealt with, a lot of hostility, past differences not completely resolved. All together in one house, the roof would fly off with all the pent up tension. Alcohol smooths it out.
And convenient. Just like the commercial says ' Some families
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Used to love that... in fact that is my families joke about me! nm
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I think the majority of families in America are dysfunctional nowadays!
I have yet to find or meet a functional family.
My little family of 4, meaning me, my husband and 2 children are functional, but when you add in my side of the family, 5 siblings, and his side of the family 5 siblings, it becomes totally dysfunctional. Go figure!
I can only do the best with my own little family of 4 and keep us a functional, caring, productive family giving back to society in a positive meaningful way. I can not control the siblings or extended cousins, etc.
It is my goal to keep my little family of 4 functionally intact forever!
Most families struggle. This is when you make too much for food stamps, but need help and sm
besides, volunteering in your community is a GOOD THING. You can volunteer, pay for the box and give to a family who is in need. Many, many people did that. An older person who is on a fixed income and who can't get food stamps would likely welcome a box on a monthly basis. This time of year, all the food banks around the country are in need because it is not a holiday, so few give and the need is greater every month. It doesn't have to be for your family.
you have my sympathy --
can you just take a 'sick' day? a nap?
i'll send a prayer up for you -- God bless.
Sympathy
Nothing worse than a battered ego. If all of us are honest, we've all been there. We're all human, we all make mistakes, even doctors make mistakes. Can't say I've ever failed a test but I've made mistakes and then said, "Did I REALLY do that??!!" You have to take into consideration that it is possible that whomever was evaluating your test may have been what I call a comma freak. Typing 1/2 cc would certainly not KILL a patient. If I had been grading the test, with all other things being equal, I would have simply nicely pointed out that we preferred 0.5 mL and used 1/2 or one-half as in "the patient should take this medication one-half hour before meals." You probably would not have been happy with this company anyway, sounds like they'd slap you up side the head for looking cross-eyed! Don't let it get you down. Good luck to you and all MQ MTs as you either adjust or find new homes.
No sympathy.
Good. I agree!! You can't bark about something and not supply more facts. Seems sneaky and like a disgruntled party.
My friends with large families shop at Walmart. I don't. I can't compare
prices or taste. These are not ignorant poor folk who don't know better shopping at Walmart. Walmart has definitely cut into the supermarkets business. Bottom line here folks, people are making Walmart successful and they keep growing. Not for nothing are people shopping at Walmart. They have to be offering something to the shopper.
Heartfelt sympathy but please don't
blame the dogs or call them
'monsters' - they are not responsible for how their owner's raised them.
Please hold the owner's responsible.
And of course, by now, you have made sure your own dogs cannot get out.
I wish you peace.
just can't dredge up sympathy either
so you have a little temporary cash flow problem...get over it. "What do you do when you are so broke you can't even buy ice cream for the kids?" ICE CREAM?
My sympathy as well on your diagnosis
But as a radiology MT you know that the treatment for breast cancer has advanced considerably and many women go on to live long, healthy lives after breast cancer treatment. So focus on the positive for the now.
As far as your coworker, I understand the desire to know the results of your tests, but yes, she should have told you to ask your doctor for the results instead of sending them to you. Then, if she gave the results to anyone else, the HIPAA violation would be entirely on her part. I don't know if you have spoken to her since she sent you the report, but it is possible that she was either caught sending the email or she talked to someone about it and was reprimanded for the HIPAA violation, therefore she is now afraid to talk to you at all because she does not want to risk getting fired. (Just one possible scenario.)
Your best course of action is just not to worry about the opinion of your coworkers. You have a job to do, and that is to concentrate on getting well. Don't let this distract you. Focus on what is important, and "don't sweat the small stuff".
Good luck!
you need to have sympathy or compassion--sm
to be a friend to someone. Yes, encourage them to help themselves, I understand that. Most people DO want to help themselves, but a true friend needs to be compassionate toward that person first, to be able to do that. Kicking them in the behind and telling them to figure it out for themselves is not being an encouraging friend. You said you have no patience for people who do not help themselves. patience is a virtue. everyone learns life's lessons at their own pace and in their own time. Understanding that makes you a friend. having no compassion or sympathy towards them does not.
Sympathy - does that count??
My heart goes out to you and every other newbie banging their head against the wall or gainful employment. It sounds like you're doing everything right. I don't know if you live near any physician offices, but sometimes a well-placed flyer and a polished spiel to a receptionist can get you some work - at least something until you find something better. It's time consuming, demeaning, and exhausting, but it might be worth pounding the pavement and it's experience for your resume! Just don't wear out your welcome - visit the same place once a month, max. I wish you all the luck! 
Relief from this coal miner's daughter for all of those families and prayers for the one fallen.
Coal miners are a rare breed. Thank God these were saved.
Poor thing, you have my sympathy. sm
Marcaine, though, is just an anesthetic. It numbs the area so the tendon can "relax." When my tendinitis was at its worst, the tendon swelled and compressed the ulnar nerve, causing numbness in my ring and little fingers -- it was like trying to type with a ham! LOL
I wish I knew a good way to describe the exercises my doctor gave to me. He said the mark of a good surgeon was one who doesn't want to do surgery, and I agree. My first flareup was about 10 years ago, and I haven't been "knifed" yet. 
Maybe there are some examples online of stretching exercises. Good luck to you!
You have my sympathy -- I have flares occasionally sm
and it is no fun -- my ring finger and little finger go completely numb! I have seen a hand surgeon a couple of times, and he recommends frequent breaks, stretching exercises, and high doses of NSAIDs. When it is really bad, I have had a shot of Marcaine in my elbow.
Good luck!
My deepest sympathy to you on the loss of
I know just how you feel. I am also 43 and my Dad died on June 30 three years ago at age 84. He was a prince among men, and I, too, weep when doing reports of patients with similar problems. You just re-live the whole thing. He had always been strong and healthy until the end when he was so weak and frail; it was painful to watch the slow, horrifying transformation. I sympathize deeply with the WAVES of grief that seem to just overcome you when some little thing will trigger a memory. The only advice I can give is to treasure the happy memories and try to focus on the good times. I will never forget watching him take his last breath, but I can't help but smile when I think of something he used to say, a particular mannerism, his love of ice cream, or a million other things that made him the wonderful man he was. I feel priviledged to have known this human being and the first man I ever loved. I will always be his little girl. Time has made the wound better, but I don't know that we ever completely recover from these things. I don't know your belief system, but I do believe that I will see my Dad again one day and there will be no doctors, no pain, no morphine....only his sweet smile and the twinkle in his eye. May you and your Dad be reunited one day as well.
Oh, ugh, attorneys (and chiropractors, IME). My sympathy to you! (nm)
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No, I haven't had a chance yet. I wasn't asking for sympathy sm
and certainly am not implying anything terrible is going on or taking anything away from the post below... just a vent about regular life, but I guess I clearly I can't do that here. Thanks anyway. BTW, I really don't think that was necessary to be negative towards me. I was just needing a place to voice my feelings and I thought it could be done here even if it was not about a particularly difficult situation.
You have my sympathy. I was afraid of that too, but fortunately there is plenty ... whew! sm
I hope maybe work has picked up for you later today.
My wish is that next year be better for all of us. Happy New Year! 
No, the problem was HER and then don’t use the kids as a crutch to gain sympathy.
Some of us are not into the reasons she listed for her plight or lack of as we heard from her. I have no sympathy to her, for her, towards her, nothing. I am sure others feel exactly the same as I do. This person trying to get over on you, me and any others she can. What a deadbeat.
Never an easy decision ... you have my sympathy. Pets are part of the family ... hurts to lose them
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women, sorry - nm
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Its because men R better than women!
HAHAHAHA
You know how when women are together they get their
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insult to women
Some women ask for it?? What an insult to all women. What never blame the guy?? This young woman was acting like a young woman and partying and meeting guys. In no way, shape or form was her demise/disappearance her fault or her parents fault. get real.
why are some of you women so cruel?
There comes a point where we all kind of need each other, when we realize that for the most part, men are big dumb animals who do not know how to "be" there, which is what we essentially need. You as a female should be understanding and supportive when another one says how she is struggling as a "single mom." Women are so hateful towards each other when we're the only ones who make any sense on this planet! I know I sound like a man hater, but men can only do so much, and for those things I have a plumber and a maintenance man! Come on what happened to sisterhood!
Nasty women
You know women should be supportive of each other. Let's face it, men aren't, like the lady said. I worked in offices where some of the women there were so nasty and catty and rude. Seems lots of them are on here too. Thank God for being able to work at home. I don't think anyone is looking for pity on this board, but for crying out loud, doesn't anybody have a warm heart anymore. There are lots of cold-hearted people on here talking, must be from the East Coast.
looks to me like he's got enough women in his life (sm)
he has all of us! Lucky man, kyradmt!
all women in their 40s should go out with younger men
anyway
I need advice from women!
I have no idea what 2 give my sisters (ages 40, 49 and 58) 4 Christmas! They have pretty much everything, so what are some ideas for not too expensive gifts that U gals always like to get? I simply don't know what 2 do! Thanx!
You women have it easy!
All you have to do is cook and clean. We have to go out and break our backs to make you happy! You should feel sorry for us!
Oh, don't even get me started. Thanks to women's lib,
now we have to cook, clean, raise the kids, and work a fulltime job on top of it all. We're doing double duty while the men are whining about how hard they work without making a dent in the daily household duties or child rearing.
If a man wants to go to bed, he simply goes to bed. If a woman wants to go to bed, she has to clean up the dinner mess, let the animals in and out, see the kids off to bed, lock the doors, and every other little unnoticed thing we do.
women.............change the W above to a B....sm
While some gay men do make the best friends, some are also worse b*it*hes than women. I too love the Fab 5 but you are going to tell me that Carson Kressley is not *flamboyant*?? heh heh heh......
And some gay men can be rude, exclusive, nasty, and subliminally rude....even in postings online.....they are no different than other people....in this regard. Nothing is EVER as it seems in life.......
Some of the brightest women (and men) I have met
in my lifetime have been MTs. Some could have gone on to medical school but did not due to obligations to family. In my younger years, worked with more than a few who helped put their husbands through college.
The field is different now. I blame it on the schools in part and also the mistaken belief that you can do this work and be an attentive stay-at-home mom.
Yeh women are the worst
at gossiping. Give them the scoop and they've got a story to tell.
Girls and women
That, in my humble opinion, is what separates the girls from the women. With all of the references we have at our fingertips (Google is WONDERFUL), if you know how to search, you can find what you need. As a success story in MT for over 35 years, I can honestly say that from day one (and yes, I had to learn over the years), I did my very best never to ask for help UNTIL I had exhausted every means available to me and had come up empty-handed. I realize that is much easier to do this when you do not work by the line and every minute is money in your pocket...or not if you are spending a lot of time looking things up.
I see this as the unintended consequences of women's........
liberation. It's been a wonderful thing in many aspects of a woman's life and who the heck wants to go back to the old days regarding the treatment of women and our freedoms, but one of the unintended consequences has been a generation of men who don't expect that THEY should support a family alone and fully expect their wives to contribute equally. Yet, at the same time the men have not jumped in there with the housework and childcare. As a result, women now have the honor of providing for their family AND having husbands who also expect June Cleaver to have the house clean, the kids taken care of, and to have "the little woman" available at their convenience. What are ya gonna do?
Like lots of the women here, I got into MT for that reason (Please sm)
It was the hardest thing I ever did (working at home with the kids). My kids were 3, 5, and 8 at the time (all boys) and needed a lot of my attention. I seemed like I was chained to my computer. I would stumble out of bed and start typing and would be transcribing for hours after they were all asleep (hubby and kids). I was grumpy, tired, and broke. I barely made minimal wage. I was constantly screaming at my kids to be quiet because I couldn't hear my doctors. It was unpleasant for everyone. I finally went in-house to work in 2002 and it was heaven. No more kids (and hubby, and sister, and mother, and neighbor, etc.) constantly interrupting me, no more breaking up fights between my boys, no more paltry paychecks...but I did miss my kids after a couple of weeks on the job. From 2002 on I had part-time jobs at home with Spheris, MQ, and a local lady, but I ended up dropping them all because of the same reasons.
Now (starting yesterday)I'm working from home again full-time. I am worried but my mantra is "school starts on August 29." I figure if I can stick it out until then, I'll be home free! . My kids are older now--7, 9, and 13--but still are VERY high maintenance and are very demanding. I love my boys and I love being a medical transcriptionist--but I am thrilled that there is mandatory schooling for kids! LOL
Good luck to you. It can be done, but it is HARD work.
Take care,
Chickadee
You act like all women are walking wombs..SM
just existing until we do the greatest of all things, BEAR A CHILD. No thanks lady. You have 'em. I don't need to have a child to validate myself in the world.
Exactly. That's how Mary Kay hooks women-SM
by showering them with positive attention, atta girl, you go girl. It is unnecessary and we are not dogs.
The women of the View are the epitome
of every negative portrayal of women out there. They are not girls or ladies. The old broads ousted that one young blonde chick, who was the only one I ever even liked. They're catty, two faced, petty, overly obsessed with material items like shoes or clothes, and just plain annoying. They think they're all that and a bag of chips. NOT! At least I don't have to turn on my TV. Nobody can force me to watch them. Woo hoo!
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