My in-laws invite nonfamily members to our holiday get togethers.
Posted By: debil's adbocate on 2005-12-20
In Reply to: Does anyone think this is odd? - RadGuy
The more, the merrier. Besides, most of the other people have nowhere else to go because their families are all out of state or dead. The holiday season is about family AND friends.
As for getting drunk, are they really polishing off several bottles of liquor, or is it just a glass of wine or a beer or two? My family is the type that only drinks on the holidays, but we drink slowly and eat plenty of food so we do not get drunk.
It sounds to me as if you have some issues with your sister. Don't get me wrong here, I'm not saying your feelings are not valid. I am saying that you need to draw some boundaries and detach yourself from her. Maybe she resents having to host every year. I know I do. We spend way more than everyone else does even though it's supposed to be buffet, parents don't watch their small kids, I spend several days cooking and cleaning with not a thank you in sight.
Start some new traditions of your own. Go to church. Volunteer with people who truly have nothing.
We know of some people who turn every family occasion into a drunken brawl complete with injuries, fights and police intervention. Be thankful your life isn't worse! I sure am.
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I think all state labor laws are pretty much in line with the federal laws as far as PTO SM
among other things. Basically, federal law states that an employer is not required to offer paid time off or paid holidays. An employer doesn't have to pay you for time not worked. It states quite clearly that PTO is an agreement between the employer and employee upon hire. So, if you have an agreement with your employer stating you accrue PTO and get certain Holidays off with pay, then upon termination or resignation, you are entitled to any unused time you have accrued. However, since not mandated by any state or federal laws, if an employer refuses to pay you for any unused PTO, you will have to take legal action, likely in small claims court. You will probably eventually win, but you have to decide is it worth all the trouble and legal fees?
When you actually get right down to it, labor laws really don't do much for the working class. We are not guaranteed anything except minimum wage and a safe work environment.
In my family, ANY day is an excuse to get drunk, and get-togethers
just make it more so. Used to hate it when I was a kid, and still hate it today. 
Invite someone you know will be alone
I have never had a holiday without either friends or neighbors and even one of my coworkers joining in the celebration. These people would otherwise be alone on those days. Treat others as you would want to be treated. I sure wouldn't want to be alone on the holidays, how awful that would be.
why does she invite the friends?
what if it these 2-3 couples that she invites over do not have family that they can visit during the holidays? that could be why she has them over every holiday.
Invite her over and let her give it a try.
Have her read some of the posts on this forum. She should also read the news about Nuance's purchase of Dictaphone. In short, tell her to find another line of work.
Invite the manager instead - NM
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Can you invite them over to play again? (nm)
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Local AAMT chapters probably do it. Or put out an invite to those in your area. :) nm
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What are you doing with a large group of Italians??? I'm Italian and may want an invite:-)) (nm)
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Ok, I invite you to hop on a bicycle for 15 mile ride in below freezing weather, snow, ice, etc.
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$85 on each kid, $15 on other family members, nothing for DH and I.
10 members of DH's family (by drawing), 6 members of my family, 3 kids. About $500 total on gifts, then Christmas dinner, postage, and other stuff. I wish we didn't participate in the big family gifts because it's always just an exchange of things nobody wants or needs. I can only use so much bubble bath and scented candles in a year.
me either ... 2 fam members are PO empl's
The carriers sort their own mail according to their route.
AHDI members.
Did you know there is a corporate member of the AHDI that is known to be a scam? I am not allowed to post the name on this board evidently as it keeps refusing my post when I try to post the name saying it is a “bad word,” but it is a company that will train you for free, have you pay $400 for software, and then tells you they will hire you and pay you once you are up to their standards. However, somehow, the MTs they train can never live up to their standards. How do you feel about this company being a member of your organization? Who exactly does AHDI represent? Why do they allow a company that is known to scam MTs and is a complete ripoff to be a member of their organization? Will this company soon be an "approved" school? LOL. Any thoughts on this? Please share.
Yes, and his team members were supportive, which will help. sm
I've been trying to think of where I saw Kelly LeBrock before -- wasn't she the one who did those commercials for the shampoo, saying "Don't hate me because I'm beautiful?" I might be thinking of someone else. I guess I'm showing my age, just by mentioning that commercial ... oops. 
Not myself, but 3 family members had it done and absolutely
recommend it to anyone. They all had wonderful results with no problems.
ATTN: AARP members
Are your military members fighting for your
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Was there an objection by any family members to the use of restraints?
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Terry has lied to 4 jury members
Terry told his team (Sally, Austin, ...?) when they merged that he would give them the immunity idol if they were voted off, but when the time came he did not give them the idol so that they could keep the numbers on their side. Well, last night he did it again. He told Danielle that he would give her the idol so that she would not be voted off and did it, nope, he didn't give it to her. So, thats 4 people on the jury that Terry has lied to and I would bet that there are several other on that jury who do not like him either. So anyone in the final 2 with Terry (if he makes that far) should win the big $$$$$.
I felt bad for Shane getting the axe because I think that him and his son could have really used that money.
Karen
It is cheaper for members. Only one test but 2 parts.
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I signed up too...1st 500 members free, I was 303...hurry! .sm
I did sign up since it was free. I didn't have much time to peruse the entire website. Other than having a 20% discount in their store, what are the other advantages that justify a $99 membership fee??
HAPPY THANKSGIVING to all MTStars members! Have a great day!
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It is amazing how pets really become real members of the family, isn't it?
Gotta lov'em! :-)
Well, it sounds like your unfortunate family members need to help YOU out for a change.
No offense, but family are supposed to help each other out it trying times.
you sound arrogant to me. "unfortunate family members?"
like they can't take care of themselves without your noble gifts. Maybe you should be reading some books on codependence.
AHDI Board Members Salary Info
Unless things have changed, I don't believe the board members are paid. They do receive reimbursement for travel and a food allowance. They go to board meetings every month or so at different places around the country and stay in the nice hotels.
Yes, been there. I borrowed from my family members. Luckily, they had it to give me. Doing great
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It's 18 pregnant staff members, not students (see link inside)
http://www.charlotte.com/mld/charlotte/living/education/14306113.htm
I was thinking more like Oklahoma, midwest, etc. Tons there and have plenty of family members who wo
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I've had docs give family members' full names.
privacy. It is informative to anyone reading the report.
NO, this sounds like good training. Dogs are low rank pack members of any family,
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laws
In some areas there are laws against leaving a dog tied in a yard like this. it is considered neglect or abuse or something
OT laws
What you're talking about here is illegal and violates the Federal labor laws. It is also not legal to just not pay someone if they work OT. You still have to pay them, and then deal with not following policy through whatever disciplinary action you have in place. But over 40 hours means OT pay, period. There is no exception to that and if your supervisor is advising you differently, he/she is asking you to break the law.
in-laws
Do any of you married people have trouble with your in-laws, particularly your mother-in-law? Mine is quite domineering and manipulate, though my husband doesn't see it one bit. She has really created a lot of problems between him and I because I don't think she ever really liked me.  However, he sides with HER all the time !
in-laws
I suffered with this for 15 years of my 17-1/2 year marriage. I finally started dishing it back to her, big time. She was really a spineless woman, and she retreated. In fact, they hardly ever came to visit anymore. However, the damage was done and the marriage died. So, good luck. I wouldn't go out of my way to try and please her, because believe me, you won't!
I have in-laws that are like that...
I wish I could also put it out of my head and get over it, but it still bothers me. My MIL doesn't get it and has never wanted to. My mom was the only one who ever really understood before she died a few years ago, but only because she would ask me and wanted to know. My husband tells me to let it go, that they'll never understand. That includes his sisters and brothers. I'm 38 and still care about silly things like that. I do need to let it go and know that we are doing good by my working at home. I've seen all my three kids' firsts just by being here, and that's what is important. I've even mentioned to my MIL what I make in the past and still doesn't seem to care or want to know, just will say "oh, really?" and then move on to the next subject. When everyone is talking about having to work the next day at a holiday party, I keep my mouth closed now and say nothing. To them, I don't really work. I feel like a crazy person if I do mention working, like I have an imaginary job, so I quit talking about it. It's funny now because SIL's daughter went to school for this and is currently looking for a job, so they'll have to start understanding it better. I'm glad to know I inspired her.
holiday day
at my company we don't get paid for holidays either...guess that is the price of being able to work at home....sucks...we can get paid by taking PTO time but I usually just work extra when I know a holiday is coming up, but frankly who wants to work during x-mas time with the hustle and bustle....
Holiday Pay
I recently began working for a service who only pays for a holiday IF you work that day (compensation of 10 cpl). However, if you don't work that day, you don't get paid. I am full time with all full-time benefits. I realize production pay is entirely different than hourly, but is this common for most transcription companies? I'm an old transcriptionist, but new to the ways of production pay. Thanks for any input!
Holiday pay
It it a little hard for me to payfor holidays when the accounts don't pay the owner for holidays. Wish I could for my help but just can't afford it. I sympathize with you truly. Guess I could pay a cheaper line rate to them year round and then be about to do it, but that does not seem fair. It is hard in this business to offer many benefits as we do not get paid unless the work is done, just like truck drivers, hair stylists, manicurists, etc.
No one ever has to pay you holiday pay.
It is a generous gesture but it isn't mandatory, you know.
There is no excuse for you to feel it is necessary to be paid for time not worked. If you want that, go back inhouse.
PTO is generous enough.
No, you will not get holiday pay until...
I was told that you have to be hitting your 11,000 per pay period for at least 90 days before you get holiday pay, benefits, etc. You can confirm this with the HR lady. They do pay for holidays once you get past this.
Holiday pay
I guess I should have stated that my gals are I/C's and they get 75 to 80% of what I get from the docs on a gross line. If I charge more to the docs, they will go elsewhere. They just type and I do all the pick up, delivery, invoicing, etc. I also just got hit by the city for my business license which just went up to 3.3% of GROSS receipts BEFORE any expenses. If your business makes less than $25K you dont have to pay for a business license but if you make $1 over the 25K you have to pay on the entire amount. So I have to pay this even on the amount that the gals make. Am not sure I can stay in this for long. The city is saying that all IC's that make over $25K should pay for a license.
Do you get holiday pay?
How many of you work for companies who give holiday pay premiums or time off with pay? Mine doesn't give either and it sucks!
Yes a Holiday
Holiday for me. 6 cents a 75-character line kind of seems a bit low, though. Was that perhaps a mistake I am wondering?
holiday
Actually, there is no solution to this problem - there are no solutions to any questions about the MT world... it's always something and I don't say that lightly.
Old laws are still on the books everywhere.
Most schools will not use corporal punishment any more period. Believe me, there are some kids at our school that could use a good whack on the backside. However, the school district then would have to worry about assault charges from parents. Teachers aren't willing to risk their entire careers over a bad apple.
The 4th grade girl who brought a handgun to my child's nice suburban school got suspended for three days and counseling. The 5th grade boy who brought a knife was led off in handcuffs by police, but he was back in school the very next week. Now, he's an angry high school kid who has to take a special class with other "angry" kids. The kindergartener who stabbed my kid's teacher in the face with a metal mechanical pencil last year wasn't removed from her classroom at all. Instead, they brought in a "behavioral specialist". It wasn't working, but I told the principal if my children were in any of these kids' classes again, I'd be sending all my kids to private school.
My in-laws use a neti pot.
You can either buy a pot or use a water bottle with a hole cut in the lid. Fill it with 8 ounces of warm water and 1/4 teaspoon of NONiodized salt. Gently irrigate your nasal passages with it. Google for informative articles and video demonstration. Yuck.
please see my above post for laws...sm
please see my post just above this regarding laws that have changed and/or are changing in the 21st century..........*S*.....
To get a break your in-laws might consider...
respite care for a week or two. It would cost about what they are paying the private nurse. They would not even have to really "get away." Just having a break from constant care would be a vacation. I know; been there and done that!
The laws mandate...sm
that if a spouse or immediate family member is placed overseas by military then your employer would have to keep you working as long as you're willing. As far as your not being married, you'll need to ask your human resources department.
You need to read IRS laws....they have to pay
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