My husband was unwilling to watch the kids BUT he did it - sm
Posted By: XXX on 2006-01-20
In Reply to: My husband refuses to let me go back to school - MT
he was more scared though (baby under 2 at the time). I went to 1 class a week at night. He lived. He still did not take an active part in helping with the kids (since I did not "work" and he did) until we had another child. Then he really had no choice and my 1st daughter learned she had a dad too. Now they are both total daddy's girls and he takes care of them more than I do now.....though I really don't get much time to myself. But at least he is there for me when I need it. Your hubby needs to get his head out of his ___ and help too. You are working too, or did your paycheck slip his notice? I still have a little trouble with that crap (since I don't leave the house) but he would not be happy not to have it, or have his kids in afterschool care so I could work elsewhere.
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kids bad under granny's watch
I did just about the same when my dear ol Aunt watched us for 3 days..she could NOT see w/o her glasses and once the hearing aid was out...well, had a party the first night and aunti thought all the kids were girls lol..so there is a first for everything..
That said, one wonders since your hubby see's no wrong/harm done, just what she allowed him to get away with while growing up
Cannot remember name of a movie and want to have my kids watch it.
Hopefully somebody out there can help me out on this one. I watched this moving about 4 or 5 years ago, I believe it was even a Sundance Film Festival Movie, but not sure. It is about 2 families, 1 Irish Catholic family with several kids and one particular curious 10 year old boy and Jewish family with only 1 child who is 10 and the 2 boys become friends. The whole point of the movie is their different religions and the 2 boys trying to figure out if their religions are so different why is the outcome for both getting to heaven. The 2 boys end up doing all kinds of "challenges" and what not through the movie to ensure their place in heaven while also trying to sort out why their families are so different and against them playing with each other. In the end, I believe the Jewish boy ends up getting sick and dying and the 2 families end up being brought together by this and also brought together by the donation of the Jewish parish to the eldest boy in the Catholic family so he can go to college (which of course the Catholic father is against at first because of pride).
I think that is how the movie goes but I only saw it once. The reason I want to show my kids is because they are 9 and 10 and all of a sudden becoming facinated with why people have different religions and beliefs and how some of their piers "don't like some kids" because of their religion, etc. This movie was a good example of how we are all the same no matter what we believe and I want my girls to know that and to know that they should not judge somebody by their beliefs and I want them to know that we ALL can teach each other something new no matter what our backgrounds are or how we were raised or even how old we are. Can somebody help me with this movie title? It would be greatly appreciated.
Female heart attacks manifest differently than a man's. Get someone to watch the kids and get che
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Your kids come first, not your husband's lifestyle.
I would never work myself to death for any man, no matter what he did for me. Men are SUPPOSED to be the primary breadwinners in the family. Paying for your school and your computer. Pshaw! I think you've more than made that up already. Who takes care of your kids while you're working all these jobs? You're going to regret it so bad when your kids are grown up and all they remember is being in daycare while you work. Wow, he's got it pretty good with his little indentured servant, doesn't he? What about what YOU want out of life? I suppose you do all the housework, too? You're going to burn out and fry yourself. How much life insurance does he have on you? Since obviously money means more to him than his wife and kids' happiness.  Geez, I'd rather be poor, broke, bankrupt, single, and on welfare than working myself to death for any man.
no way..i have 3 little kids and a husband to take care of..
i do good to keep up with what i have now. i was wondering if 1 cent higher though would make up the differnece of not getting paid for spaces.
kids, spagettiOs, husband, whatever.
Me, probably PB toast after kids are asleep and I can't stand the hunger pains anymore. Ahhhh...the life.
Great M's Day -- no kids, no husband (sm)
and an onmibus Jane Austen to curl up with. Wish I had something to eat, though.
My kids play in a church basketball league and I am going to watch their games today.
I am going to whip up a fabulous dinner (have no idea what though) and watch a movie later tonight with the family. Church tomorrow!
Would love to make time for an eyebrow wax and pedicure in there somewhere just to spoil myself a little bit - probably not going to happen though!
LOL Actually, I've got a husband and kids that keep me warm.
They're all "heaters", meaning they get very warm when they sleep.
No kids, husband gone 12 hours, you work at home? SM
Priceless! That sounds like the perfect arrangement to me. I'm not kidding, either.
If my husband died I'd just focus on raising my kids.
And then after they were raised - no, I wouldn't actively pursue meeting someone else. If I just happened to someday meet the perfect match, fine. But I wouldn't be out looking. I think it would just be too hard to adjust to not only the death of your husband, but living with someone completely different. I'd just fill my life with all kinds of OTHER stuff.
My husband forgets important dates though the kids help to remind him - sm
He has never forgotten Valentine's but all we do is cards usually. Granted I am sure for a little while it was not a favorite date of his as his first wife left him on Valentines day....guess she wanted to make a statement/impression. He came home with some things for her to an Dear John letter and an empty house.
It IS the perfect arrangement...no kids, no husband, and working at home...priceless!
:-)
Unwilling hostages to a dingbat
He does NOT represent me. He is a total joke and embarrassment to this country. He has set us back decades in global relationships. I just hope he can ride out the rest of his term without getting us into any more trouble with his secrecy and lying. What a pathetic joke....
LOVE ER!!! I watch the re-runs every day, and watch the new ones on Thursday night!!
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DH is dear husband or any number of colorful adjectives preceding husband. (no message)
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Do little kids like caramel? My big kids won't even eat it! We make the basic Baker's chocolat
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I totally understand but if your husband is like my husband... sm
When it comes to something like that, that I usually take care of but for whatever reason I can't, I will tell my husband exactly what to do, but when he comes back - to use your case as a "for instance" - I will ask him, "Did the doctor look at his foot?"
Him: "No."
Me: "Did you ask the doctor to look at his foot?"
Him: "No."
Me: "I told you to have the doctor look at his foot!"
Him: (shrug)
etc., etc., etc.
Your husband may not be like that - I sure hope he isn't. And yes, they should have checked his vitals and checked his foot without being asked. But sometimes you have to be assertive with people. And while my husband attained the rank of major in the Air Force and had no trouble ordering people around, there are times when he should be assertive but isn't. And he is not intimidated by doctors - he started his AF career as an x-ray tech (that's how we met). I dunno....(Rad MT wanders off, mumbling....)
I never said you shouldn't have kids! Feeling guilty? I asked WHY you had kids.
You clearly stated in your post that you ship the kids off to camp all day, and they're TIRED AT NIGHT!! You know exactly what you said. You said it as a PERK - AS IN GREAT! They're gone all day, it wears them out, and so I shovel dinner in their mouths and off to bed! You can try to paint it any way you want, but YOU SAID IT. Again, I only hope your kids never hear you speak that way or write that way. Shame on you. Why have kids at all? Just another parent who has them, gets rid of them for day AND night, BRAGS ABOUT IT, and then calls ME wicked! Give me a break! Camp is fine - its WHAT YOU SAID AND YOU KNOW IT. Your own words showed your heart. Period.
Kids are demanding and so is MT work. My question is how CAN you do this with kids, rather than how
When you have two young kids, 11 months apart, (like I stated they are now 4 and 5) and have been doing this since they were born with no help from their father and no family around, YES, the kids get neglected. Part time might work but living on one salary, part time, is not an option. How can you possible tell me that anyone with two young kids can stay at home and work a full-time, 8-hour shift, and still give their kids the attention they NEED. I dont care how good you are at multitasking and how great your organizational skills are. It is a very difficult thing to do. And I am offended by your post making it sound as if it is easy to do.
I do agree that it can depend on how well your kids behave and how well they are able to play on their own. But my kids were not able to play well on their own. They needed constant attention.
So please take the time to realize that there are people out there in different situations than your own.
Reading our posts should help you to understand that everyone has a different situation. I believe everyone should have the right to shares their experiences as it might benefit the original poster in her questions and concerns.
I dont think anyone should be bashed for taking the time out to write about their experiences. I dont usually come on here to argue but you really ticked me off with your post. And try reading the post correctly. I said next time around I would have put them in day care. What I DID do with them was set them up to an activity like art or put on a movie for them. Geez.
Stayed "because of the kids?" I say "leave because of the kids"
You're in no position to buy right now. Keep saving, keep paying down your bills, and for heaven's sake get rid of that dead weight of a BF you're living with. You can do better.
So, should I return the $75 (x2 kids) in music cards I got the kids for x-mas...sm
My son has been telling me about free music sites and I was very leary. How do they skirt the law Radguy?
I don't have kids, but my Mom was from the "old school," and still had everyone, kids inclu
call her by her first name. The little neighbor girl next door from the time she could speak called her Aggie (my mom's first name), and they were great buddies until the day my mom pased away.
I don't think there really is much in a name, but more in the respect you are given and the way you are treated. Personally, I kind of cringe inside when someone calls me Ms. Anything or God forbid, "maam" (makes me feel like Methuselah!) ... I'm always just plain Merrie. :-)
But, as someone pointed out, to each his own. If you want to be addressed a certain way, you have that right, and people should respect that. I'm glad you corrected the child ... hope it "sticks." 
Please do not simply give up, kids or no kids!
Talk with a professional. This can be worked through if he really puts forth the effort and you participate. The right counseling can truly make your marriage even better than it was before, if BOTH parties are willing to be honest. Give it a try. Nothing to lose at this point and everything to gain!
Will have to watch for it
half the time I don't pay attention
I don't watch TV much, but I certainly
would never watch anything about Bobby Brown. I don't know what it is with these people who think anyone cares about their lives. They are just trying to feed their already overinflated egos.
I don't get to watch TV any more.
Chained to my desk and overstressed. I can't wait for summer to be over. Plus, I got up sick this morning. 
Me too! Watch all of them...
as well as the Discovery Health Channel, Animal Planet, and Style Network. The man who narrates on many of the A&E shows, Bill Kurtis, has such as soothing voice that I watch it at night when I need to fall asleep! I believe he is also the producer of some of the shows.
We don't watch TV much at all any more.
I hate reality shows, talk shows, soaps, crime shows, graphic content, and all that garbage. Even the evening sitcoms are all rated TV14 with excessive amounts of sex, alternative lifestyles, gender bashing, adult situations and language. The rest of the world can watch whatever trash they want to, but I'm not inviting it into my home in front of my children. I'm not prejudiced either, but I don't agree with how rude sitcom families are. The kids are all mouthy brats, the wife bashes the husband or vice versa. It's not an accurate portrayal of true family life. 
watch out
Read the Terms and Conditions of the different unlimited plans carefully. Most will start monitoring you after 5000 minutes a month and some specifically forbid it for MT (even the small business plans). The only thing I have found that doesn't have specific minute limitations is VoIP.
i DID WATCH IT
I was just curious how the nonskaters were going to do. It was fun to watch. I don't think it is going to be as big as dancing with the stars. I don't watch that reality show anyway.
Does anyone watch Y&R? sm
For those who do, what do you think about Nick and Phyllis, and Victoria and Brad...
First off, didn't Jack (Phyllis' husband) used to be Nick's stepdad?
And didn't Brad (Victoria's fiance) used to be married or engaged to her mom?
I'm sorry, I know it's a soap and all, but that is just sick! I just started watching it again after about 4-5 years, and it's funny how little things have actually changed....
Or like looking at your watch and then having to look again
LOL
no, but I do watch CMT.....nm
watch what you say here
I put a similar criticism on this board recently and was told that if I had a complaint to take it to the admin, and not place it on board. Negitivity was cited. talk about censorship!
I did not watch. I won't watch again now that
are boring, IMO. Taylor is no AI, if you ask me, but he'll end up winning because for some odd reason, everyone likes this guy (who I heard is a real jerk in person from someone who actually met him). I've seen people at our local karaoke night who can sing better than he can and, as an added bonus, they don't look like they are having seizures while they sing.
I'm actually glad Chris got sent home and out from under the AI curse. Aside from Kelly Clarkson, the only one America got right, the winners don't seem to go on to do a whole lot of anything. I mean, come on! Ruben and Fantasia who? Bo's at the top of the charts, Clay went on to have a couple of hits, and where are the actual AI winners?
We should watch for any
call-in shows that have senators or congressmen on them. Wouldn't that be great to be able to ask them questions about why the American public is being ignored on the issue of offshoring. I'm not good on the fly, so I'd have to have so questions thought out and written down to sound at all intelligent, LOL. I would try to be very specific so they couldn't weasel out of the question.
I mean Watch out (not what)
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What you should watch for
are companies that want you to buy special software or equipment from them at significant expense so that they can train you with the promise that as soon as you are up to par, you will be hired. Odds are, you will never be "up to par" and will never be paid for your work while they get those reports done for free.
I had a job before that would watch you - sm
on via IM. I figured out how to have it on, but have it so they could not watch me (this was a few years ago, before you could set yourself up as invisible if you wanted to be). I hated the feeling that they were hovering over my shoulder during my set hours (yes I was an employee), and was used to being an IC. They were pretty good about it and did not hassle you but you had to be on IM while working so they could easily get in touch with you. I forgot a lot to turn it on....I eventually left them and now have an IC job that uses IM too, but I dont' have the same feeling with them, and I only use it really to talk to another MT who works on the same account as I do. The MTSO leaves me alone for the most part and that makes me happy.
Better Watch it!!!
My husband was in your same shoes 10 years ago... Very healthy, former marathon runner, never had insurance in his life...When we met, I said,"No way." His policy was free where he worked so he got it (BCBS)... When in May of 2003 he found a lump..turned out to be lymhoma... When I saw the first bill the hospital sent, I almost died...$125,000... But it was covered by BCBS.. all we paid was the out of pocket max for the year... Yes insurance is definitely worth it.....
But you sure have to watch your back.
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Just watch reruns to get the fix. I already have
Also another similar kind of dark humor is on Nip/Tuck but I never seem to find it!
Well, I did watch it last night
I thought sure it was going to be Claire. Can't imagine what they could do for the finale. They've already done it all. I hope they don't kill anyone else off. Nate sure did leave a mess, like you say. Makes you think about yourself and not wanting to leave such a mess when you go yourself. Maybe I'm just being maudlin, huh? Anyway can't wait for next week. Really got kinda nervous, though watching Brenda and Billy. Glad it was just a dream - whew!
No, ALL little boys don't do that. Watch your
Yes, I have a son.
WATCH YOUR BACK
Trust me, if you are getting paid 18 cents per line, you are sticking out like a sore thumb! That immediately puts you under a microscope at some point. I have been in business many years and if you are an exception to the rule, surely you are marked. THIS IS NOT A NEGATIVE POST. You must keep in mind the climate of the healthcare industry right now as a whole, your current CEO and CFO of the hospital - are they new, have they been there long? When does their contract come up for renewal? A change of hands in administration is all it takes to knock out any security you might feel. A change in the Medical Records department could change things quickly also. My advice, if I may? Be creative - work your 18 cents a line to keep the client interested. Offer perks, maybe some % discount for quick payment, or sosmething for loyalty, some type of support added to your services such as cumulative logs of info data per month for their review - not hard to do in Microsoft Office programs. I've been through many, many situations with hospitals. Good for you for getting that much per line. I'm always happy to hear of any one's success and my prayers that you continue as such for a long time.
Watch your mail........
Try some saline spray. A doc one time told me to try this. He did this 'cause he would get so sick with some of the perfume on mailings....those dept store inserts.
I don't usually watch TV, but Christmas
night I saw part of Grey's Anatomy and I loved it. Can someone fill me in on what is or was going on with the black doctor and the Asian-looking doctor?
I used to watch ER years ago, then it was Chicago Hope. ER now isn't what it used to be. Of course before all these shows there was Emergency.
Watch those expansions for BM
She had a large, foul-smelling black male overnight with massive bleeding.
Do you watch TV while you work? nm
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HBO is the only reason I watch TV..LOL..nm
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