My husband is not a gourmet chef and I don't have a housekeeper... SM
Posted By: Tinks on 2007-01-12
In Reply to: About my family - Minnie
So consequently, cooking falls to me and cleaning the house falls to me. My husband helps, but let's be honest husbands can sometimes be as needy as the kids.
Minnie, do you hear yourself? You have a housekeeper, your husband cooks, your kids are grown. That's great for you. It sounds like you work because you want to and that's great again, but most of work because we have to. We don't have a choice and we have to find a way to make money and be a good mom and a good wife all at the same time. It's hard. My kids are a priority and my paycheck is a priority, but if one of my kids wants to sit down and talk to me for a few minutes, then I'm going to listen. If that makes me unprofessional, then I guess I am.
That doesn't mean I don't get upset with my kids when they interrupt me for silly things. I do and they know when I'm mad, but that isn't going to stop them from doing it again, because they are, after all, just kids and what is important to them, may not seem important to me, but it IS important nevertheless. No, I don't have them trained like dogs with the wave of my hand, but they're good kids and I am eternally grateful that I can take them and pick them up from school and I always know where they're at and what they are doing and when they'll be home. I'm not calling from an in-office job wondering why my kids are answering the phone. I know their teachers and friends and friends' parents. Sure, my production may slip from time to time, but I've learned to adapt and I'm willing to sacrifice for what I view is the best reason to be an MT right now.
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This is exactly why I want to be a chef.
Had enough of this BS.
Housekeeper
Yes, every other week, $70 for a 2900 sq ft house. Don't do a good job though, but at least I do not have to do it. You are very, very lucky!!!
Housekeeper
Yes, I do have a housekeeper. My time is too valuable to spend on chores. Do the math. Think how much you make in an hour of transcribing. Think what an hour of cleaning costs. Hire a cleaning person, pay them well, be kind to them, and they will make your life increasibly easy.
HOUSEKEEPER
 Yes, have had one for the last couple of years, referred from a friend. She cleans every other Thursday and does a wonderful job! $50 - it is definitely worth it! I figure if i'm gonna be chained to this desk all day every day (well M-F !) i deserve to have her. She's awesome!
housekeeper
I have an Amish lady who comes in every other week. She does everything - cleans bathrooms, dusts, cleans fans, vacuums, cleans kitchen, washes kitchen and bathroom floors on her hands and knees. $50. You know, if you are an IC, you can claim a housekeeper as an expense. And I, too, would rather work a few extra hours and pay to have her. I'd much rather do what I do than what she does, at least while I'm still working.
Housekeeper
I did the same thing!!! Except we only had the cleaning lady come in once so far. But it was great. I hoped to have her every 2 weeks, but can't afford it right now with the price of gas and my husband commuting. But when you think about it if we type and let someone else clean, we actually probably clear some money. The sad thing is we are messy too with 3 kids, but a housekeeper won't clean clutter. She just cleans dirt. At this point, I am walking over Thomas the Train tracks all through the house and in the middle of the night, well, I just might crush one. Oh well, too bad, so sad. I work at night and the trains are in my way! LOL.
I Love Pampered Chef too
Some of their things are expensive, but there are smaller items that I have that I couldn't live without. They have these great measuring spoons and cups I just got recently and a glas mixing bowl that I use all the time, you can even bake a cake in it.
I hear ya about the Chef-Boyardee!
I don't even know how to spell it--that's fancy stuff right there! I usually eat weeners and ramen! I actually cooked a little roast beef and taters for the first time in MONTHS tonight! I could eat better if I dumped my critters, but then for me, what would be the point of doing what I do?
It's hard, no doubt about it. We have married friends back in Mass who TAKE HOME $75,000 each and each have excellent bennies. BUT, they live in a house they never get to LIVE in and they never sit down together to eat...always eat separately on the run. They've got a gorgeous yard that they hire someone else to take care of. It's whacked...they've got a gourmet kitchen and NEVER USE IT! When they want to take a vacation, guess where they come? To my place here in the boonies! How messed up is that?!
We only get one go 'round (or at least that's what I believe anyway) and we are the choices we make. I'm thankful I've been able to make the choices I have. I just happen to choose the beef-flavored ramen over the chicken one, and the smell of grass and manure over asphalt and exhaust.
Pampered Chef--went to a party over the-sm
weekend. She made a broccli and chicken braid. Does anyone have that recipe? Really good.
I just had a Pampered Chef party.
My Pampered Chef lady probably has it. E-mail me if you really want it and I'll try and get it for you. 
Same here, I am thinking of becoming a personal chef. nm
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My DH has decided to become a Pampered Chef demonstrator.
Does anyone have any info on this? Is it a good way to make some extra money? I said NO, he decided to do it anyway.
I worked as a housekeeper as a teen.
It paid maybe $.20 more than minimum wage. I think you can make more than that as an MT, don't you? You just haven't found your fit yet. If housekeeping is something you really want to do, go for it. It was a really nasty job, though. I'd rather do transcription at home than clean up after a bunch of slobs. Oh, disgusting. And the things people would leave behind in their rooms.
If you have ever worked as a hotel housekeeper, you'd know.
Let's see, here. People can't hit the toilet. People can't hit their mouths with their food. People do nasty, kinky things and leave it for the "maid" to deal with. People do illegal and immoral things, and also leave those for the "maid" to clean up. The hotels are hush hush about it so they don't lose clientele. The "guests" treat the housekeeper like a peon. You are only there to serve them in their superiority. Most of your coworkers don't speak English.
My housekeeper lives off Bankhead
so I definitely know what it is called and hear it all the time, just trying to be a little politically correct here. She is one who says skrimp (for shrimp) and strap cake for cake made from scratch.
Actually what my housekeeper made yesterday was more than
what you made. I paid her $65.00 for 2 hours, cash so no taxes on her part. If younger, probably would go that way. She can fit in 4-5 homes a day at that rate and she is probably not counting on taxes, so you see always somebody making out a little better- I guess you can say she has her own accounts.
Part-timer here and I have housekeeper
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That is a great idea. Pampered Chef is awesome!!!
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Suze Orman had a chef on her show last week ..
The girl spent $35K to go to an 18-month culinary school. Now makes $7 an hour and with interest on her $35K school debt, she is paying back $119K.
At $7 an hour, she'll have to pick up another job.
Chef's make LESS than we do! LOLOLOL
Good grief! Housekeeper in the South? SM
If you are set on housekeeping, I do know people who clean houses for a living and do very well. One woman even went on to own her own business. But in a HOTEL? I'm sorry to say this, but are you nuts?
If your MT skills need polishing, there are different tapes and courses and WHATEVER you can use. Perhaps someone here can assist you.
As another 50 something year old woman, who works for a National, so far I have made $30,000 this year. I realize that is not a lot of money, I'm not exactly busting my behind, but you can make money. Please stick this thing out. Housekeeping is not an option, except in one's own home.
Always thought housekeeper good altern. for MT.
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My housekeeper telling me cake from strap??
She meant scratch but she just sweats her way is what she knows.
DH is dear husband or any number of colorful adjectives preceding husband. (no message)
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I read that, too. I love to cook, too, but I wouldn't want to be a chef or caterer.
Working mostly evenings and complaining patrons. I don't know. There's this little yuppie deli downtown that I would love to open one very similar to. But would I want to do it everyday? Then again, I like gardening and canning. I could be a farmer and sell organic vegetables. Or I could sell homemade canned foods, but there's so much regulation there and worry about botulism. I also like writing. My true dream is to be a paid and published writer. I don't care about fame or fortune, just enough to be able to work a flexible schedule and support my family. My family says it's a pipe dream that everyone wants but few people get.
Motel housekeeper when I was 16. That was a physically demanding and disgusting
job. The supervisor was always riding us to clean faster, but we made less money if we got the job done in fewer hours. Why on earth would we work faster to clean a room in 20 minutes or less just so they could pay us less?
Anyway, it was a nasty job. The things people do in motel rooms were often immoral and illegal. I had teenaged boys on a soccer team throwing condoms at me. People used to rent rooms to party, get drunk, do drugs, and other things. They left behind pornography and other things an innocent 16 y.o. had never even seen before.
Then this adult male "guest" was wandering down the hallway in just a pair of shorts. We were supposed to help the "guests" so I asked if he had misplaced his room key. He pulled his shorts off and came after me. I grabbed a bottle of acid to spray him in the eyes and called security, but the cops never found him. He had overturned the bed in his room and set up a pup tent in there. What a weirdo. I quit that same week because the housekeeper supervisor was a shrew. She's still there 20 years later. Never had any motivation to do anything else, I guess. That job taught me how to clean thoroughly and quickly, but also taught me that I would never be anyone's grunt.
Don't mind candles, Pampered Chef, or Tastefully Simple. HATE Mary Kay parties! nm
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I totally understand but if your husband is like my husband... sm
When it comes to something like that, that I usually take care of but for whatever reason I can't, I will tell my husband exactly what to do, but when he comes back - to use your case as a "for instance" - I will ask him, "Did the doctor look at his foot?"
Him: "No."
Me: "Did you ask the doctor to look at his foot?"
Him: "No."
Me: "I told you to have the doctor look at his foot!"
Him: (shrug)
etc., etc., etc.
Your husband may not be like that - I sure hope he isn't. And yes, they should have checked his vitals and checked his foot without being asked. But sometimes you have to be assertive with people. And while my husband attained the rank of major in the Air Force and had no trouble ordering people around, there are times when he should be assertive but isn't. And he is not intimidated by doctors - he started his AF career as an x-ray tech (that's how we met). I dunno....(Rad MT wanders off, mumbling....)
LOL husband
But you have your husband all the time, think out of the box (smile)..who else would you want? Sure hubby or boyfriend is the best but.....
Not me...husband. nm
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At least I have a husband...
The word on the street is that your husband left with the better-looking, better-smelling, thinner girl next door. POOR MOLESTED YUCK!!
Yes, my husband and I had our
we chose our wedding date (go ahead and laugh if you want) so that we would have an auspicious start to our marriage...has worked so far, as we've been married for 23 years. People tease us 'cause we act like a couple of giddy teenagers around each other and (try not to throw up) it's really true.
Historically, centuries ago, physicians also were trained in astrology and wouldn't perform surgeries until the stars were aligned properly for the patient. No void of course moons and certainly no retrograde mercury.
Remember all the confusion with the 2001 presidential election? Election day was held with mercury retrograde.
And, yes, I believe what you've said. And, yes, listen to your intuition; it's never wrong. As Einstein said, "The intuitive mind is a sacred gift, and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift."
my husband does that, too
and he drives his truck. He's been thinking of getting him a motorcycle but with him using that at 4:30 a.m. in country roads that have no lights, do you think it is safe for him?
My husband is the same way SM
He mumbles and grumbles, rolls his eyes, etc. He says I spend all my time on the stinkin' computer. He wants me to stop working whenever he calls, whenever he is hungry, whenever he wants to go somewhere, etc. I feel so stressed out too. It is a regular argument in our home as well. I routinely work to 2 to 3 a.m. I get up at 6:45 to get the kids dressed and fed (big struggle as I am dead tired and they are generally uncooperative-not morning people-so I'm yelling, he's snoring (can you say "resentment??"). Finally, about 7:30 I wake him up and tell him to take the kids to school. He thinks he's so great because he spends 10 minutes dropping them off...ugh. Then he has the gall to throw it in my face that I go back to bed for 2 hours. Geesh...he comes home from work each night and crashes on the couch until it is time to go to bed.
Well, he certainly doesn't mind spending my paychecks and complains that they are not as big as they used to be (when I worked in house). Sigh...Men! Can't live with them, can't....nah, just can't live with 'em! ;) Waaaaahhhh!! I need a wife!
LOL....well, at least you know you're not alone! Hugs to you,
Chickadee 
Husband's a CPA......
says you can work as an IC or SE, for different companies. You just get different forms from your companies to file with the IRS. As SE, they will pay some of your taxes, you then pay the rest quarterly, and you can still deduct your expenses. If IC, you pay ALL your own taxes quarterly and can still deduct expenses related to your business.
Husband
Well, first of all, I don't believe that it is babysitting if it is your own kids, it's called parenting and more husbands should try it. I think I would look into counseling. No way would I be married to a man who "let me" or "didn't let me" do anything. Good thing I have a great DH.
Good luck!
about husband won't let me.....sm
Wow - I feel like we are back in the Dark Ages....with the neanderthals...."husband won't let me go back to school" and "husband will not babysit the child" - or words to those effect.
Father's are not babysitters if the children are theirs! That's a crock. A babysitter is someone the parent(s) hires.
And as for "husband won't let me" - I'd have gotten rid of him DECADES ago. *lol* but not really laughing. Any man who will not let (allow) his wife to better herself in any way, shape, or form is a terribly INSECURE man. Get out before it's too late for you to save your own life and become your own HERO (heroine)!!!
feel very bad for the poster(s)........pitiful actually (the controlling husband)
Take my husband, Please !
Why does he put his clothes on the bathroom or bedroom floor two inches away from the basket? Why does he take his plate to the sink with food on it when he knows he hasn't installed a garbage disposal? While I'm on that subject, why does he take PAPER plates to the sink? This is not helpful. 
Yes, please tell us how your husband
Some people are sooooooooo incredibly stupid. Some people are also plain ol' bigots and will attempt to lump everyone in the same category based on their race. How in the heck does your husband know the race of his classmates if he takes classes over the internet. Did his classmates tell him what their race was?
I am a black person and am extremely offended by your statement. Did you think that only white people visited this site?
this is my first husband.
My son was born out of a very short immature teenage relationship, which I ended 2 weeks after I told him I was pregnant. He proved his immaturity very quickly in his actions and I decided one baby would be enough to handle, I didn't need two. That choice, I feel, was very responsible and smart. I DO NOT regret keeping my son as he is a wonderful, smart, loving child who has a lot to give to this world.
I am done defending myself to those who choose to bring me down rather than offer some of the pros/cons of staying married or going single again.
What husband???
:)
No husband. nm
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My husband had this done
He regrets it sometimes. He still has problems on and off with reflux but had it much worse before the procedure. He lost a lot of weight after the procedure, probably 20 pounds or so because you are limited on the portion and what food you can eat. You are on a liquid diet the first 2-3 days then soft diet for about a week then gradually can start eating solid food again. He also has a lot of problems with gas, he constantly take gas pills but everyone I am sure is different.
my husband was there and...
He had me send Coolaid, nonperishable foods, candy, snacks, toiletries, and stuff like that. When my husband was over there, it was the beginning of the war over there and they didn't have all of that stuff. It may be different now though. You may want to go look at the forums at www.military.com. I am not sure, but you may find something there.
I said to my husband
at the beginning of the show "I hope Uncle June doesn't have a firearm in that house". He was talking about Pussy and some other guy that was also whacked. Tony made the mistake of saying one of their names when he was calling to him for supper. I COULD NOT BELIEVE IT! I said, "he shouldn't have said THAT", no sooner were the words out of my mouth and BANG! I hate when I'm right about things like that. He's going to survive, just waiting to see how it plays out. I LOVE THE SOPRANOS! I LOVE JAMES GANDOLFINI! Good night!
My husband was like you regarding me and
sleep. At night, it was difficult for me to fall asleep but in the morning, I was out and it took dynamite to get me up if I hadn't gotten my 8 hours of sleep. I didn't continue to sleep because I didn't want to start the day with him, I did it because I was so drowsy.
When I did get up, I could feel his resentment, made me feel like I was lazy. It was very very bad to start the day off with bad vibes. This happened on vacations as well. He was an early riser but would take naps in the afternoon. I preferred to stay in bed until 9.
Let your kids witness you and your husband in a healthy happy relationship and they will go on to create one just like yours. That is all kids want really. Your actions toward are being watched very closely by these kids.
And yes, your husband sounds like a good man. After my marriage ended (I left), my husband was more than willing to give me the little that I asked for but the negativity snuffed out the positive in the relationship.
My husband used it
He said the withdrawals really weren't that bad. It comes with an aroma inhaler and that helped him a lot! He's been a nonsmoker now for 3 years! Good luck! It's one of the best things you can do for yourself!
Ugh, I am so sorry for your husband.
I've learned that when they speak their native language as much or more as English, the accent never goes away. It's a crying shame.
My husband used it...sm
He used it when he was a teenager at about 16 for 3-4 months and then again as an adult at age 26 for three months.
He had no side effects at all except maybe dry skin. For him it was a life saver because he is a salesman and appearance means a lot.
You just have to make an informed decision. I would do it if my child had acne. I'm a 33-year-old adult and have the occassional pimple because of my birth control and hate it. I try to cover it up with makeup, but boys don't have that option. I, myself, wouldn't hesitate to use it if I had severe acne.
Anyway, my husband says he was told that there may be times again in the future when he has to use it. It is not for long-term use all at one time, but he used it for a few months twice in 10 years.
Hope this helps.
My husband
did the shopping when I was pregnant. One time he came home and had spent $400 at Kroger. WOW!!!! AND.........didn't buy any meat. I couldn't believe it. With the # of bags he brought in I would have thought $150 to $200. UGH. And no meat. I still can't get over that. LOL.
Needless to say I am back to doing the shopping. I would hate to imagine our financial situation if he handled the money. LOL.
My husband is the same way sm
Sometimes when I need a change I cook tortellini alfredo and crumble bacon over the top of it. He loves it. We usually add some garlic toast or a salad.
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