My husband doesn't see any mess that is his...
Posted By: sm on 2005-07-23
In Reply to: What chores around the house does everybody have "blindness" for?? - SM
as long as it's his 5 pairs of shoes by the door, his clothing draped over the chair in the dining room and his misc. "stuff" piled on the dining room table (yes, the dining area is also by the front door) then it's invisible to him. NOW, if it's mine or the kids' stuff anywhere - the house is a "disaster." I intentionally leave all his stuff wherever he leaves it so that I can point it out to him whenever he starts to complain about the kids' toys in the living room... 
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Bernard Goetz, he's ruff, tuff and doesn't mess around either!
He's a take charge kind a guy  and I LIKE that!
What does that mean? My husband doesn't tell me what to do
and I certainly would never obey any man anyway. He's a great guy. He doesn't "babysit" his own kids because he's a real parent. He cooks and cleans. He's good at auto mechanics and construction, so he keeps all of our belongings maintained. We have a very loving, give and take relationship. We're equals. I just like to work holidays because it's quiet and I make more money. How does that equate into living my husband's life? I really don't see your logic there.
DH is dear husband or any number of colorful adjectives preceding husband. (no message)
;)
She's a mess and always has been.
I never understood the attraction to this dumpster-diving looking woman.
WOW! Now that is a mess! sm
It is odd that she wants to tell you what to do with clothing that she "gives" to you. That is horrible! In my opinion you did the right thing about telling her that you don't have anymore room in your clothes. She does know why you are not accepting the clothes anymore. If that does not make her change her tune then nothing will. So, I think it is best, even though you two are missing out on a good thing, to have nipped this thing like you did. You may be losing out now but if it would have kept on and perhaps all of you been at the same place at the same time with your friend wearing "your gifts" then it could have turned out to be sour. Now the only thing sour is your "friend" that has an abundance of clothes right now.
BTW - what kind of a friend does that to another friend? Hopefully, no friend of mine...
You are probably going to be really in a mess
if you ever have to explain to the IRS about fees for your animals. How about my 22 pounds cat- can he be my guard cat? If you can charge for guard, then you should be able to take off monthly fees for security monitoring. Hehe
the mess
Janet's right. SR/VR just totally mangles a lot of reports. What sounds perfectly clear and concise to me will be total nonsense in the SR/VR draft version of a report. You need to remove or add punctuation and also capitalization of words on almost every line, sometimes multiple times per line. You have to fix anything that needs to be put into a numbered format. You need to correct headings - add them or delete them. Entire sentences or paragraphs could be missing that the dictator clearly spoke -- I heard it, why did the speech engine miss it? I'm not talking about mushmouth dictators or ESL's. You could have very good dictators that the draft report is just a mess. It is time consuming and frustrating. There are some reports that would be quicker to just type from scratch, but not for 3-1/2 or 4 cents a line!
I totally understand but if your husband is like my husband... sm
When it comes to something like that, that I usually take care of but for whatever reason I can't, I will tell my husband exactly what to do, but when he comes back - to use your case as a "for instance" - I will ask him, "Did the doctor look at his foot?"
Him: "No."
Me: "Did you ask the doctor to look at his foot?"
Him: "No."
Me: "I told you to have the doctor look at his foot!"
Him: (shrug)
etc., etc., etc.
Your husband may not be like that - I sure hope he isn't. And yes, they should have checked his vitals and checked his foot without being asked. But sometimes you have to be assertive with people. And while my husband attained the rank of major in the Air Force and had no trouble ordering people around, there are times when he should be assertive but isn't. And he is not intimidated by doctors - he started his AF career as an x-ray tech (that's how we met). I dunno....(Rad MT wanders off, mumbling....)
N'Awlins Mess
Well, between opening all the jail doors, and locking in all the poor "projects" seciton inhabitants, the mayor's pretty much taken a pass on re-election. This goes beyond partisanship well into the range of sheer, corrupt, beaurocratic incompetance. But the national-level response has been pretty pathetic, as well. "oooh, we didn't know it would be this bad!" Well, drive in, look around and use the radios the army gave you, General! Sheesh.
Clutter - mess
I have five accounts that I receive schedule print outs from that I check off the names and it seems that they pile up weekly. I cannot find the time to put them into their designated files. I also have mail, other things all over my desk. I usually take Saturday morning with a cup or two of coffee and straighten it out and SWEAR that I will keep it that way but the once again by Friday I am in almost the same shamables. I thought it was only me. I can find everything, do not lose papers or tapes -- usually -- and for a supposedly paperless profession I sure do generate a lot of paper. But glad that I am not alone. Now where is that schedule???
I'm an IC & I can tell you I'd get out of the biz before I'd work for such low pay. No Mess
quick fix when you mess up ? sm
Highlight your upper case text, then hold down the shift key, and press the F3 key. Everything should revert to lower case.
Except that what actually STARTED all this mess - sm
with overseas undercutting was ANY hospital or MTSO doing American business with cheap offshore workers. I know that our cars, clothing, and even our (poison-laced) pet food comes from overseas, and that's bad enough, but this is worse. This is American healthcare, and American ID's and information, and there should be laws against ANY of it going offshore. If Indian workers want to do American MT work, the only way they should be able to do is is by actually living here, and having to pay American prices for their food, rent, and yes - health care.
I could go on and on about all the greed in American companies these days, and not just MT. These guys don't seem to get that you can make tons of money (and maybe even MORE money, in the long run) by being honest and ethical, rather than by being greedy and unscrupulous.
If you don't want to mess around with paying
quarterly, have more withheld from your husband's check as you file jointly. With that and your deductions you should be okay.
Thanks for all the responses! - no mess.
:)
This was a major national. You can mess with just about anything...
as long as you have a space bar.
Ditto what Wally said. Don't mess with it.
Young people can have heart problems.
I've been in a panic lately because my left-sided chest has been hurting off and on. I've had two abnormal EKGs in the past. I went to the doctor two weeks ago and he blew me off. I'm in my early 30s, too. I have high school friends who have had heart attacks and coronary artery grafting or died. Oh, the doctor just treated me like a hypochondriac again. I've got kidney problems, too, but they won't even do a urinalysis. Evidently, none of my symptoms are serious enough to warrant workup or treatment. Never mind the fact that diagnosed "reflux" was actually a hiatal hernia and diagnosed "constipation" was actually large kidney stones blocking my ureter.
Long story short. LISTEN TO YOUR BODY. FOLLOW YOUR INSTINCTS. Get thee to a doctor and be persistent, for you, for hubby, for your kids and for your peace of mind.
I was impressed with this. My computer was a mess. nm
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We should get paid more just to listen to this mess
You know, the people cut our pay and put us on things that we have to be mind readers most of the time to muddle through. I am doing VR and regular work but I cannot believe how dictators are changing their dictation time after time- on the same sentence. It is a wonder that anything comes out halfway right. Half of the knowledge about this job comes with knowing (or thinking you know) how to change these fricking sentences they dish out to us. On a day like this retirement looks better and better.
of course...you may not get it but you deserve it (small mess)
You mention annual and cost of living raises, what about incentive raises. Anything not in your job description should constitute some type of compensation.
If no money, at least get this on your resume and added to your personnel file, yes?
go for it because if they say no you know where you stand. knowing where you stand can be important. if you do not ask you will never know and you may start feeling resentful.
just my opinion...
they certainly would not let you go or anything, right? perhaps you could ask for a review with your manager (something in writing) and then go for it ?
Yeah, sometimes I catch mess-ups...sm
when I go back through the report, and I say I am glad I proofread. LOL.
Have you seen photos of the tangled mess of
What an incredible MESS. To think that valuable, often sensitive personal information travels through that knotted mess made me nervous even BEFORE the attacks in Mumbai. And now the risk those records face there makes me nauseous. It's a huge U.S. security and/or identity-theft breach just waiting to happen.
Agree wholeheartedly, 100% on this one (No Mess)
xx
RIPOFFS - How many others got taken by this person. PLEASE POST HERE. no mess.
ll
Here's the phone number for the Frederick, OK PD see mess.
(580) 335-7503
Finally, a thought that explains the mess down there!
That would make sense, those that worked, had familes, had ties all fled when possible. Those few for whatever reasons did not make it out appened to get "stuck" with the lowerclass and those released from jails, which finally explains why in the world anyone whould shot at cops and enlisted servicemen/women trying to come in and help!
Good grief that has been driving me NUTS! As it IS an unAmerican response, unhuman response to distaster. Hecks, we had a string of house fires, and people who battle it out everyday in our area were bound together....we do living in a working class are where most families have two working parents...but still a shame to think that is the cause of this extreme maddness, but at least a better thought then they all just went mad suddenly!!
You have GOT to be talking about Transcend. What a MESS in that regard!
I threw in the towel after a few months, and regret that I waited that long. What a waste of my precious time! It was such a giant step for me back in time having to shuffle thru reams of paper, and most of which make no sense at all - no rhyme or reason to 50 pages of random rules, each and every silly report that pops into my computer. Uggghhh. It NEVER got better - actually worse when changes came in nearly daily and the whole mess was jumbled around again, with my highlighting and hints obsolete! I heard other parts of Transcend under different supervisors went smoothly, but the different accounts I tried were all the pits!! Forget about transcribing! Had to go thru hurdles to get there!
Gracious, that is one heckuva recipe. Too much for me to mess with
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Don't mess with my line counts to get that $.01 savings !!!! n/m
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Why is spellcheck acting up on me? Did I mess up the settings?
If you have any ideas why it is now checking headers/footers when it did not do that before, please advise. It is driving me crazy.
I transcribe a Chinese doc who stutters. It's a mess. nm,
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actual typing time mess
I know exactly what you mean. We see it in E-mails all the time where I work. Although they aren't enforcing it, they do ask that we work our full shift AND get our lines in. I know Dictaphone Extext tracks your typing time and you can see that when you check your line count. It gets really depressing on the speech editing because actual typing time is a LOT less, so it takes longer to get my time in.
This is another way to get more out of the MTs. I think it's all crap, especially since if you were to go over 40 hours a week you won't get paid!
I would never anybody let mess around with my face. No matter how good
the doctor is, sooner or later you can see the 'plastic.'
And then you look worse than before and have to have a 'followup.'
Never, never......and I really mean 'never', except I am in a terrible accident, disgfiguring my face.
I would never anybody let mess around with my face. No matter how good
the doctor is, sooner or later you can see the 'plastic.'
And then you look worse than before and have to have a 'followup.'
Never, never......and I really mean 'never', except I am in a terrible accident, disgfiguring my face.
Why are YOU attacking HER? Just because she doesn't want kids, doesn't mean she needs a psychi
xx
Don't be afraid of it. It's really hard to mess up Oriental cooking.
Here are the links to the recipes that I printed off of Google. (I love the Internet! No more cookbooks, only Google for recipes.) I cheated on the plum sauce by buying a jar because our plums aren't quite ripe yet. Buy the egg roll skins instead of trying to make your own, too.
http://www.cooksrecipes.com/sauce/homemade-plum-sauce.html
For the fried rice, you can use any type of rice. I use brown basmati or jasmine rice mostly. You can also throw in extra vegetables and leftover meats (pork, beef, chicken) to make a meal out of it instead of a side dish. I like those Oriental pea pods, bok choy, water chestnuts, baby corn, and Chinese cabbage.
http://japanesefood.about.com/od/friedrice/r/friedrice.htm
I'm going to combine and modify the eggroll recipes so I have shrimp/pork egg rolls. I use canola oil instead of vegetable, peanut, or sesame oil. I don't care for sesame seeds or bamboo sprouts, so I add extra water chestnuts. Use frozen or fresh instead of canned crab or shrimp. Use diced, boneless pork chops instead of ground pork or sausage.
http://pork.allrecipes.com/az/BestEggRolls.asp
http://www.cooks.com/rec/doc/0,1816,145177-230200,00.html
http://www.absoluterecipes.com/international-rec/shrimp-egg-rolls.html
Time to call the authorities and put this person out of business. no mess.
ll
Clinton never shot anyone and didn't start a mess like Iraq.
Live in PA too and while no road problems here, I sure do have one flooded basement and a mess to cl
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Bless your heart and your sons. Some people just don't know when to NOT mess with things
Sorry you have a goof for an ex, and I hope your son's footie will be ok. Chillie
LOL husband
But you have your husband all the time, think out of the box (smile)..who else would you want? Sure hubby or boyfriend is the best but.....
Not me...husband. nm
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At least I have a husband...
The word on the street is that your husband left with the better-looking, better-smelling, thinner girl next door. POOR MOLESTED YUCK!!
Yes, my husband and I had our
we chose our wedding date (go ahead and laugh if you want) so that we would have an auspicious start to our marriage...has worked so far, as we've been married for 23 years. People tease us 'cause we act like a couple of giddy teenagers around each other and (try not to throw up) it's really true.
Historically, centuries ago, physicians also were trained in astrology and wouldn't perform surgeries until the stars were aligned properly for the patient. No void of course moons and certainly no retrograde mercury.
Remember all the confusion with the 2001 presidential election? Election day was held with mercury retrograde.
And, yes, I believe what you've said. And, yes, listen to your intuition; it's never wrong. As Einstein said, "The intuitive mind is a sacred gift, and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift."
my husband does that, too
and he drives his truck. He's been thinking of getting him a motorcycle but with him using that at 4:30 a.m. in country roads that have no lights, do you think it is safe for him?
My husband is the same way SM
He mumbles and grumbles, rolls his eyes, etc. He says I spend all my time on the stinkin' computer. He wants me to stop working whenever he calls, whenever he is hungry, whenever he wants to go somewhere, etc. I feel so stressed out too. It is a regular argument in our home as well. I routinely work to 2 to 3 a.m. I get up at 6:45 to get the kids dressed and fed (big struggle as I am dead tired and they are generally uncooperative-not morning people-so I'm yelling, he's snoring (can you say "resentment??"). Finally, about 7:30 I wake him up and tell him to take the kids to school. He thinks he's so great because he spends 10 minutes dropping them off...ugh. Then he has the gall to throw it in my face that I go back to bed for 2 hours. Geesh...he comes home from work each night and crashes on the couch until it is time to go to bed.
Well, he certainly doesn't mind spending my paychecks and complains that they are not as big as they used to be (when I worked in house). Sigh...Men! Can't live with them, can't....nah, just can't live with 'em! ;) Waaaaahhhh!! I need a wife!
LOL....well, at least you know you're not alone! Hugs to you,
Chickadee 
Husband's a CPA......
says you can work as an IC or SE, for different companies. You just get different forms from your companies to file with the IRS. As SE, they will pay some of your taxes, you then pay the rest quarterly, and you can still deduct your expenses. If IC, you pay ALL your own taxes quarterly and can still deduct expenses related to your business.
Husband
Well, first of all, I don't believe that it is babysitting if it is your own kids, it's called parenting and more husbands should try it. I think I would look into counseling. No way would I be married to a man who "let me" or "didn't let me" do anything. Good thing I have a great DH.
Good luck!
about husband won't let me.....sm
Wow - I feel like we are back in the Dark Ages....with the neanderthals...."husband won't let me go back to school" and "husband will not babysit the child" - or words to those effect.
Father's are not babysitters if the children are theirs! That's a crock. A babysitter is someone the parent(s) hires.
And as for "husband won't let me" - I'd have gotten rid of him DECADES ago. *lol* but not really laughing. Any man who will not let (allow) his wife to better herself in any way, shape, or form is a terribly INSECURE man. Get out before it's too late for you to save your own life and become your own HERO (heroine)!!!
feel very bad for the poster(s)........pitiful actually (the controlling husband)
Take my husband, Please !
 Why does he put his clothes on the bathroom or bedroom floor two inches away from the basket? Why does he take his plate to the sink with food on it when he knows he hasn't installed a garbage disposal? While I'm on that subject, why does he take PAPER plates to the sink? This is not helpful. 
Yes, please tell us how your husband
Some people are sooooooooo incredibly stupid. Some people are also plain ol' bigots and will attempt to lump everyone in the same category based on their race. How in the heck does your husband know the race of his classmates if he takes classes over the internet. Did his classmates tell him what their race was?
I am a black person and am extremely offended by your statement. Did you think that only white people visited this site?
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