My deepest sympathy to you on the loss of
Posted By: your Dad - SM on 2006-03-27
In Reply to: Lost my dad in October...still crying every day...could use some help (sm) - wimt
I know just how you feel. I am also 43 and my Dad died on June 30 three years ago at age 84. He was a prince among men, and I, too, weep when doing reports of patients with similar problems. You just re-live the whole thing. He had always been strong and healthy until the end when he was so weak and frail; it was painful to watch the slow, horrifying transformation. I sympathize deeply with the WAVES of grief that seem to just overcome you when some little thing will trigger a memory. The only advice I can give is to treasure the happy memories and try to focus on the good times. I will never forget watching him take his last breath, but I can't help but smile when I think of something he used to say, a particular mannerism, his love of ice cream, or a million other things that made him the wonderful man he was. I feel priviledged to have known this human being and the first man I ever loved. I will always be his little girl. Time has made the wound better, but I don't know that we ever completely recover from these things. I don't know your belief system, but I do believe that I will see my Dad again one day and there will be no doctors, no pain, no morphine....only his sweet smile and the twinkle in his eye. May you and your Dad be reunited one day as well.
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Deepest Apologies
To all who read my ad in the job seeker's forum, I offer my deepest apologies. I am a subcontractor who has always subcontracted since becoming a medical transcriptionist. Because "business" is booming, I decided to "treat" myself to an Editor to knock my 16 hour days down to 8. I dutifully went on line and looked for statistics on what the going rate was, and found many, many stating .02 to .03 cpl as standard. These must have been old websites. I did not do this out of greed, but out of ignorance, and the ad has been removed. Again, I apologize for hurting so many feelings and will make sure I get my facts straight the next time I place an ad.
My dwindling paycheck, loss of benefits, and loss of respect is all the proof I need. nm
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who actually owns MT Stars? how do i know it's not MQ to see your deepest thoughts and renegades
who are anti-MQ? are the owners names anywhere on this site? i know i can sleep better if it's not anyone affiliated with MQ. if MQ personnel own this site i'm doomed.
you have my sympathy --
can you just take a 'sick' day? a nap?
i'll send a prayer up for you -- God bless.
Sympathy
Nothing worse than a battered ego. If all of us are honest, we've all been there. We're all human, we all make mistakes, even doctors make mistakes. Can't say I've ever failed a test but I've made mistakes and then said, "Did I REALLY do that??!!" You have to take into consideration that it is possible that whomever was evaluating your test may have been what I call a comma freak. Typing 1/2 cc would certainly not KILL a patient. If I had been grading the test, with all other things being equal, I would have simply nicely pointed out that we preferred 0.5 mL and used 1/2 or one-half as in "the patient should take this medication one-half hour before meals." You probably would not have been happy with this company anyway, sounds like they'd slap you up side the head for looking cross-eyed! Don't let it get you down. Good luck to you and all MQ MTs as you either adjust or find new homes.
No sympathy.
Good. I agree!! You can't bark about something and not supply more facts. Seems sneaky and like a disgruntled party.
Heartfelt sympathy but please don't
blame the dogs or call them
'monsters' - they are not responsible for how their owner's raised them.
Please hold the owner's responsible.
And of course, by now, you have made sure your own dogs cannot get out.
I wish you peace.
just can't dredge up sympathy either
so you have a little temporary cash flow problem...get over it. "What do you do when you are so broke you can't even buy ice cream for the kids?" ICE CREAM?
My sympathy as well on your diagnosis
But as a radiology MT you know that the treatment for breast cancer has advanced considerably and many women go on to live long, healthy lives after breast cancer treatment. So focus on the positive for the now.
As far as your coworker, I understand the desire to know the results of your tests, but yes, she should have told you to ask your doctor for the results instead of sending them to you. Then, if she gave the results to anyone else, the HIPAA violation would be entirely on her part. I don't know if you have spoken to her since she sent you the report, but it is possible that she was either caught sending the email or she talked to someone about it and was reprimanded for the HIPAA violation, therefore she is now afraid to talk to you at all because she does not want to risk getting fired. (Just one possible scenario.)
Your best course of action is just not to worry about the opinion of your coworkers. You have a job to do, and that is to concentrate on getting well. Don't let this distract you. Focus on what is important, and "don't sweat the small stuff".
Good luck!
you need to have sympathy or compassion--sm
to be a friend to someone. Yes, encourage them to help themselves, I understand that. Most people DO want to help themselves, but a true friend needs to be compassionate toward that person first, to be able to do that. Kicking them in the behind and telling them to figure it out for themselves is not being an encouraging friend. You said you have no patience for people who do not help themselves. patience is a virtue. everyone learns life's lessons at their own pace and in their own time. Understanding that makes you a friend. having no compassion or sympathy towards them does not.
Sympathy - does that count??
My heart goes out to you and every other newbie banging their head against the wall or gainful employment. It sounds like you're doing everything right. I don't know if you live near any physician offices, but sometimes a well-placed flyer and a polished spiel to a receptionist can get you some work - at least something until you find something better. It's time consuming, demeaning, and exhausting, but it might be worth pounding the pavement and it's experience for your resume! Just don't wear out your welcome - visit the same place once a month, max. I wish you all the luck! 
Poor thing, you have my sympathy. sm
Marcaine, though, is just an anesthetic. It numbs the area so the tendon can "relax." When my tendinitis was at its worst, the tendon swelled and compressed the ulnar nerve, causing numbness in my ring and little fingers -- it was like trying to type with a ham! LOL
I wish I knew a good way to describe the exercises my doctor gave to me. He said the mark of a good surgeon was one who doesn't want to do surgery, and I agree. My first flareup was about 10 years ago, and I haven't been "knifed" yet. 
Maybe there are some examples online of stretching exercises. Good luck to you!
You have my sympathy -- I have flares occasionally sm
and it is no fun -- my ring finger and little finger go completely numb! I have seen a hand surgeon a couple of times, and he recommends frequent breaks, stretching exercises, and high doses of NSAIDs. When it is really bad, I have had a shot of Marcaine in my elbow.
Good luck!
Oh, ugh, attorneys (and chiropractors, IME). My sympathy to you! (nm)
xx
No, I haven't had a chance yet. I wasn't asking for sympathy sm
and certainly am not implying anything terrible is going on or taking anything away from the post below... just a vent about regular life, but I guess I clearly I can't do that here. Thanks anyway. BTW, I really don't think that was necessary to be negative towards me. I was just needing a place to voice my feelings and I thought it could be done here even if it was not about a particularly difficult situation.
You have my sympathy. I was afraid of that too, but fortunately there is plenty ... whew! sm
I hope maybe work has picked up for you later today.
My wish is that next year be better for all of us. Happy New Year! 
My sympathy was reserved for the women and families they betrayed. sm
I felt no sympathy for the men at all.
No, the problem was HER and then don’t use the kids as a crutch to gain sympathy.
Some of us are not into the reasons she listed for her plight or lack of as we heard from her. I have no sympathy to her, for her, towards her, nothing. I am sure others feel exactly the same as I do. This person trying to get over on you, me and any others she can. What a deadbeat.
Never an easy decision ... you have my sympathy. Pets are part of the family ... hurts to lose them
x
So sorry for your loss.
I'm sure your sweet Lady knows you love her, and she'll be waiting for you over the Rainbow Bridge.
I am at a loss too regarding this sm
I was called on Friday by my supervisor. She begged and pleaded with me to please work this holiday weekend, and I said yes (my own stupidity since we get nothing extra for doing this).
So, I came home early today to type more and........no work! DQS has nothing for me, and I do 6 different accounts. Let's just say I am a little upset. Yes, this is the Amherst office.
loss
I certainly understand what you are going through. I lost my brother 2 years ago and it still hurts every day. We were so close, I was his major care giver for his last 2-3 years and i still find myself picking up the phone to call him! But I must say, the hurt DOES eventually lighten up a little bit. Good luck to you!
Sorry for your loss...see msg
Please grieve in the way that helps you. I know this doesn't sound like much help, but I grieve for a father I wished I had known. I lost him when I was only 16 y/o...he wasn't a part of our family, my brother and I didn't really know him at all, but when I went to his funeral, I felt so sad inside and I am now 45 y/o and still feel a profound sadness at NOT having a father in my life. My friends have lost their fathers over the years, and even though they grieve, they know I didn't have a real father at all, and they all say at least they got to know and live with their father, he was a daily part of their lives, and for that they are ever grateful. They too understood my grief.
I know you are truly grateful for the father you had in your life, someone to talk to, to lean on, to make you feel special and cared for. A girl needs that in her life. It would have made a big difference if I could have been so fortunate. Who is to say what is normal grieving time, but if you feel it is interfering with your daily life, please see a counselor or perhaps join a grief therapy group, so you can share your grief with others who can and do understand.
I understand about not sharing too much with your husband...my husband had his father in his life and lost him many years ago. But I don't think he really understands my grief for NOT having that relationship. Grieving is a solitare process, but there are others who perhaps can share that loss with you.
My prayers are with you.
loss of dad
I too loss my father at the end of September. I think you are handling it fine but grief is differant for everyone. So I thought I would just post a small note about what has helpped me. I do not look at it as my father is gone. For me, he has merely graduated to a differant plane of existance. This plane of existance allowes his spirit the freedome from his failing corporial body, so that now instead of being able to visit occasionally, he is with me all the time. He is no longer in pain, and all those little memories are his way af saying I am still here with you, watching over you. I still talk to him and ask his advice and guidance, and usually if I am very quiet.. I can hear what he would say. Perhaps it is just my imagination or perhaps it is really his spirit making conatact. Either way it gives me comfort and makes the loss a little less painful. I hope this helps you in your time of grief. My best wishes to you.
I am so sorry for your loss
I have a Beagle that I took in a short time ago. He came from a shelter and has had some medical problems. Although I have never been in your situation, your post made my eyes tear up. Pets do become such an important part of your family and you love them so very much. Just know that you have ended the suffering of your beloved pet and a better place is to come.
God bless!
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I know what it's like to lose a pet too, and to have to put them down. I had a 16yo cat that I had to put down about 5 years ago, and to this day it still makes me cry when I think about that awful day.
Take some time for yourself to grieve the loss of your beloved friend. Time will help.
Again, so sorry you lost your friend.
your loss
I am so sorry for your loss. We had to put our beagle mix down about 6 months ago. I was sure I would never want another one. We really miss her. We have healed enough to start thinking about another one. We began to realize just how much they give and never ask for a thing back.
Job loss
I know how you feel. My department was outsourced also. And, to top it off they asked me to train my replacement. I had been with my company for over 20 years. So, I guess that did not mean anything. Currently I work for a national; but, I plan to go back to school and get out of transcription. It is getting harder to make a living transcribing, which I used to love doing; but, I have come to the point where I know I will have to make a career change.
I am so sorry for your loss
When I was in the military, one of our docs read an OB ultrasound on an anencephalic fetus. He didn't bother to pick up the phone and call the OB, and somehow either the report didn't reach the OB or it didn't get read. In any case, the initial ultrasound was when the woman was in the first trimester, and it wasn't until she was well into her second trimester and had a second ultrasound that her OB became aware of the situation.
I don't know what happened with her - whether she carried it to term or not, but obviously it could not live outside the womb. And if she had found out during her first trimester, it would have been a lot easier on her physically, if not emotionally.
I had never liked that particular doctor. He always seemed like he became a doctor because of the money, not because he wanted to help people. After the incident described above, I disliked him even more.
and im sorry for your loss
i actually meant to post that to the person above you... but i must have clicked on yours last ...
I don't know what it would be like to lose my father... but I can only imagine so I hope you are doing okay!
I am sorry about your loss. nm
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weight loss
I use TrimSpa (baby) it's working o.k. I am making a conscious effort to not fry, not add salt, eliminated cornbread (I'm a Southerner), etc., etc. I work a lot of night hours and this helps me with my snacking between 9 p and mid. I do drink green tea. I think it boosts my metabolism....
loss of MQ lines
You especially loose lines when you have to do the back to back to back reports like many docs do. You spend more time putting in the ADT stuff than typing and we know we don't get paid for that. I purposely have sat the full eight hours in my chair and not gone on the net, not done anything but type during those hours and still am down lines. I would love to know if we are getting paid for spaces, I know they say we are, but.........
loss of MQ lines
Well anyone can obviously tell who spends more of their time on these boards gossiping than actually working at the job they get paid to type for!
weight loss
just a general word of encouragement to everyone trying to lose weight that YOU C-A-N DO IT!!!!! I am very small-boned, 5' 6', and weighed nearly DOUBLE my normal body weight. Looked like nothing but a big bowl of pudding. One day I decided to move. Maybe it was the Nike slogan, but I just did it. Could barely walk around ONE BLOCK. But I walked the block. One day, I could walk two blocks. One day I walked a mile. Took me two years to lose the weight, ladies, but I got skinny and toned by EXERCISE (95% walking, a bit at the gym, not much), and sensible eating. Every single reader here knows what sensible eating is: Eat healthy, not overprocessed food, and don't eat too much of it PERIOD. Deep down, we all know that. Admit it and change your eating habits -- and walk and/or exercise, and you can do it. By the way, I am not holier than thou, I did used to take ephedra at half the recommended dosage, every day in the early days, just to take the edge off at dinner time, when I would rip off the cabinet doors cuz i got so hungry for the deadly four: pasta, potatoes, rice and bread. Couldn't get enough of it. decreasing (NOT ELIMINATING) these and making myself full with veggies and water did the trick. I eventually eliminated the ephedra. GOOD LUCK TO ALL OF YOU. Nike: Just Do It.
hearing loss
Has anyone noticed a loss of hearing over years of MT work? A new report on the news says that continuous use of head sets can cause hearing loss. I have noticed it (and tinnitus) among me and my MT friends. Anyone else?
hearing loss
After 30 years in this job, yes my hearing is REAL bad! I'm going to start pricing hearing-aids this month, mightly only be able to afford one. Insurance companies - if they are generous might pay for one - if you work at GM I'm told. I'm certain this job has accelerated a natural aging phenomenon. I'm hoping to make it another 5 years. I can't interview for another line of work if I can't hear the interviewer!
Loss of flexibility
I haven't gotten my packet yet, but it sounds like we will have to submit a set schedule. This is a problem if there is no work within your scheduled hours to work (which happens to me nearly every day). Then I have to rearrange my life to be able to make any money. It isn't going to work for me anymore. 
I don't see it as a great loss. Bye.
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weight loss sm
I tried the following - a little more walking, no more white bread,(12 grain), flavored non-dairy creamer instead of cream, not water-friendly, so drank a lot of non-caffeine tea (raspberry) and Sweet & Low (don't think this is a good idea). Tried Benefiber chewable to add bulk and fiber; lean beef, 90% lean a few times a week only, sweet potatoes instead of white, only 1 at a time and generally cutting out the obvious (no alcohol, fried foods, rich pastry). Took off 15 lbs. and was able to get into an old Size 10 for my reunion, from a 14, and saved a bunch on new clothes and felt great! Hope I can keep it up. When my son was getting married years ago, I hated the "mother of the groom" puffy chiffons, so I stationery biked from Feb. to May and went from a 14 to a 10 (700 miles total) and wore a lovely silk suit. Unfortunately, I ate my way back because I felt the "empty nest" syndrome. Once you lose, don't snooze, keep it up! You'll like yourself better. This profession can ruin your body, take control by getting up and moving around as much as you can. I did not do that and suffer the consequences with my back, my right thumb is totally painful so that I can't open jars, unlock the babies' safety belts, etc., it comes upon you when the damage is done. Don't let it happen to you, exercise when you can, you're worth it!
Has anyone used LA Weight Loss?
If so, what were your results. Any info would be greatly appreciated. TIA
LA WEIGHT LOSS
I tried it and lost 40 pounds in 3 months or so but it came back as quick as it went. They are VERY expensive. Currently not working on anything but GOOD LUCK TO YOU!!
Sorry to hear about your loss.
I lost my dog this year when he got hit by a car. I still get teary-eyed thinking about him. Talking about the pitbull I had a previous neighbor/family who had a Doberman that they didn't take care of. He was outside 24/7. All they did was feed him and he barked and barked and barked whenever we were outside or anyone around the yard. He ended up dying so they got another dog. This time a pitbull looking dog which I found out was an English bulldog? maybe. There are some people who just have to have a dog that has a tough reputation. It sounds like those near you didn't just have a rep. I'm glad to be moved away from them. They were nice people but I hated that they didn't take care of their dogs very well.
Hearing loss
Is there any new technology out there on improving hearing loss besides hearing aids? My DH has a herititary hearing loss that seems to be getting worse these past few years. He refuses to wearing hearing aids even though we have spent $$$ on them. He is a teacher and it is getting very difficult for him to teach his classes effectively or without students making fun of or taking advantage of his hearing loss. Just curious if anyone knows of anything before we spend $$$ and time seeing doctors that will tell him nothing.
Hearing loss
My son who is 11 has worn hearing aids since before he turned 3, first the BTE kind (which were mini) and for the last couple of years, since he has shown so much responsibility, he now has ITE very small,programmable aids. Quite expensive, but worth it.
One of the contacts that assist me in the state (VA) with school issues recently sent me additional information; included was a brochure from NFSS Communincations which is a supplier of assitive-listening devices.
However, I would not just randomly purchase an item without discussing it with an audiologist that you trust. Fortunately, my son's audiologist is wonderful beyond words and quite helpful.
I have quite a bit of additional information on this subject if you need it.
My son says to tell your husband just to get good hearing aids and wear them. (Nothing mean intended, he just knows that if he can hear with assistance, then why not wear them). He has explained to the other children that basically it is just like someone who wears glasses to see better.
I hate to see anyone struggling due to this matter and hope that he finds something he is comfortable with. Good luck!
jrm
That is horrible. I'm so sorry for your loss (sm)
Those animals should be outlawed as well as the people who train them to kill. We have a Golden Retriever who is the sweetest thing in the world and we love her and she wouldn't hurt a fly. I am an animal lover but I do not like pit bulls. I also have small children and I'm thankful no one in our neighborhood has a pit bull. Again, I'm so sorry for your horrible loss.
My condolences on the loss of your
dad. I lost my mother a few years ago when I was 43, and I know it's rough.
I would encourage you to reach out to your physician, clergy person, or a bereavement support group in your area. There are even some options online to help you work through your grief. A short course of an anti-depressant might also help.
I can tell you that things do improve. It might also help to remember that your father would never want to suffer. Be patient with yourself, but try not to hold onto your loss. Moving on with your life doesn't mean you love your dad any less. Best wishes to you.
Loss of father
To wimt: I lost both parents within 7 days of each other. I cried off and on for a couple of years. It takes time to heal and everyone is different. It always helps to surround yourself with people you feel comfortable with and you feel give you support. Plus, grief counseling never hurts--only helps. Good luck to you.
weight loss
I needed to reduce my cholesterol, so I really cut down on fat in my diet. By doing this, I not only lowered my cholesterol, but I lost about 13 lbs. in 5 months! This is so much safer than those fad diets.
weight loss over 50
Thanks so much for responding and for your words of encouragement! At age 56, it's very encouraging to hear this. Small goals and one-day-at-a-time are very good advice Thanks again! (and congratulations on your weight loss too!)
loss of income
I think this is happening to many of us in this profession. I am making two thirds of what I made 13 years ago and there is no way to get clients in my area as one hospital went out of business, two merged and gave the docs laptops and the largest only uses one service and has a 10 year contract but I have heard they are giving all new doctors laptops too. The hospitals in my area own most of the clinics, family meds and speciality offices too. Time for me to think about something else.
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