My DH lived 1/4 mile from my childhood home,
Posted By: Nyer on 2005-11-22
In Reply to: For you married folks, how did you meet? sm - Happy camper
can't you tell I'm a country kid. I thought he was a geek when he was younger (he knows this), he was a looker in high school but had a steady girlfriend and was subsequently engaged, then she left him and he went in the service. Once he came home I was totally surprised at what a great man he'd become, a hottie and a really nice guy too! Her loss was my gain and the rest is history as that was 26 years ago and he's still the love of my life!
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Lived in Germany for 5 years - best place I ever lived!
I found the people very warm and helpful, the food is to die for, and if you like beer (I do not, but this is what hubby tells me), it is the best in the world! The downside now is with the conversion to the euro things do seem much more expensive (was just back there to visit last Decemeber). Still, I would live there again in a heartbeat! :-)
I had a lot of childhood trauma too...
I first started school, first grade. I'm of mixed race, looked different than the other kids, and I was picked on for it a lot, verbally and also physically and sexually assaulted by a group of boys. I'm an only child, so I internalized everything and do not know how to turn to others because of how I see the world as 'hostile.' I also grew up in a very bad neighborhood with a single mother who was never home, or who partied and I saw a lot of violence with her or others. I was alone alot and someone was shot on our back porch, I didnt see it happen, but I was coming home when the news cameras were there, and the police, and there was tons of blood, and me, mom and grandma cleaned it up.
At a young age, you don't process trauma like you do as an adult, so you're left with the aftermath. My adrenalin kicked in, I was terrified, and now as an adult, I have panic attacks out of no where and i'm fearful that people are going to hurt me, attack me or mentally abuse me in some way. In my mind I know this doesnt make sense, but my body just kicks into that adrenalin mode when i'm in a similar situation that I was when I was a kid, and it just happens.
The brain is very powerful, and with my slowly changing it, the panic has lessened and I view people a little more differently. But its a constant training. You know how you learned the ABC song when you were a kid, by repitition? Try forgetting it, you can't. Thats how powerful the brain is, train it to remember positive reinforcements just by thinking them over and over and it won't forget and you can look forward to a more peaceful future.
Good luck, it takes a lot of work but it will change you for the better! 
My best girlfriend from childhood lives sm
in Colorado Springs and absolutely loves it! She is a school principal out there. She has several friends working at home as MTs and are doing well. I know nothing about where or what though. I live in NC and she and I are both originally from Michigan.
POLL: childhood memories
Remember mickey mouse ice cream bars? They were shaped like mickey's head and the face was vanilla ice creame with chocolate ice cream for eyes and mouth. His ears were chocolate covered. I don't think they make them anymore. What treats do you miss that you can no longer find?
Absolutely! They miss out on a great childhood.
I have a therapist friend and that's exactly what she told me. They are suddenly seeing many many teens for depression/anxiety. Very sad.
Did you see the story about bake sales/childhood obesity?
From the AP out of Minneapolis. "Study links bake sales, weight problems."
Puhleez. What next?
When are the "Diet Police" going to stop and realize that the majority of the obesity "problem" among children begins at home? Who gives these kids the money to go eat at McDonalds and loads their cupboards with junk food anyway?
Sure my kids like sweets and they like McDonalds, but monitor and moderation goes a long way.
Something tells me that a pencil sale just isn't going to bring in that much cash flow.
I should try this. Posttraumatic stress syndrome is what I have from a childhood filled with neglec
I am afraid of everything. It is exhausting being in a state of fight or flight. I have isolated myself and refused to have children as my own childhood was so terrifying. Did not help that we moved numerous times during school years. Thank goodness for a few sensitive teachers and the parents of a friend. With MT, at least I know what is expected of me. There is no guessing games like there are in my mind when I am in the midst of people.
I'm in GSO too, about 1 mile from PG. nm
I have about a 20 mile drive
There are a couple grocery stores in that vicinity. I won't shop at Target, either, as they will not support the military and will not allow the Salvation Army outside their stores at Christmas. They are a big supporter of gay and lesbian causes as well. So far, I guess it is K-Mart for other things. Around here, Wal-Mart is trying to build a super center practically on every street corner, trying to run everybody else out of business. Really sad-- Sam Walton is probably spinning in his grave.
I'd pay $10 an hour plus 0.35 a mile. GL. NM
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60-mile drive
I used to drive 50 miles one way for my transcription job. It took me four years before I got to go home, and then I still had to drive back and forth to pick up the tapes, until they got me on the system last March - so now I totally work from home. So nice, but you are the only one that can determine whether it is worth it for you. I need/want the bennies and was willing to do it. With a sickly husband at home, it is so nice now to be at home working. Don't know if I would go back to working outside again.
35 cents a mile???? UR kidding???...nm
Gov. pays 44.5 cents a mile, will probably....sm
go up to 48.5 cents over the summer. That's what we claim on travel vouchers.
I used to drive a 100+ mile roundtrip....SM
I did it for over two years to be able to work in the office of my mentor and get the experience I needed to be a good MT. Most days I didn't mind, but did try to avoid busy times on the freeway. A lot depends on traffic too and not just gas. I have always enjoyed the time alone in a car, which is something I rarely get.
Thirty miles isn't that far. Good luck!
I think there's a difference between going the extra mile
and not going at all. I used to spend lots of time, probably way too much time, looking up words in the pre-production days, but those days are over, and those kinds of questionable words get left as blanks. That's not the same thing as not trying at all.
Hubby has 30 mile drive to work (sm)
so he bought a motorcycle and rides that instead of driving his truck.
My DD has to ask me for money, still lives with me. I moved less than a mile SM
from her college (since I work at home) for her sake, the things we do for our kids.
K-force, yes they still do. They offered me 11 cpl and 40 c/mile in San Bernardino, CA. nm
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Would you make a 60 mile round trip every day
I have been driving back and fourth to a hospital for over a year. It is 30 miles away. I have to put two small children in daycare close to my home because it is more affordable then the ones close to where I work. This is another issue. If I have to take them to the doctor or if they have anything going on at the daycare that I can attend well, I have to take a full day off. The pay at this hospital is only 9 cpl so the pay is not what is really keeping me it is the bennies. $65/month covers my kids and I. It is excellent coverage too. We also have a 401k plan where they match. We also have flex spending, PTO which is about used up because we keep running out of work. We are only allowed to get sick 5 times a year, that includes family too if we have to take off. I have asked to work at home because they have home MTs. I used to be one of them but they moved me in house they did not like my slow internet connection. Now that we have cable internet available I asked if can go back home and they seem to give me the run around like it is either "not in their budget" or “maybe in a month or two” but that never comes. These outsourcing companies keep dancing around. I just really want to be back home closer to my kids and so I can eat lunch with my husband again. I do know that any job I get there will be pitfalls. I am just afraid of jumping from the frying pan into the fire.
I wore mine on a 900 mile drive
to florida. Didn't leak a bit.
I begin my day, every day, with a nice 2 to 3 mile walk with
This gives me time to think, alone time, fresh air and of course exercise. I love to walk and it seems that since I began doing this I am less stressed out. Have you had your thyroid checked??? Just wondering if that could possibly cause hair loss. I wish you the best.
Texas drivers ~ insurance by the mile....
Have any of you heard of this? It is auto insurance charged by the miles driven. I got a quote online for myself and it is very reasonable for me but not for the 17-yo.
https://milemeter.com/faq/other
It was a $1 a mile, not hour! Made good noney back then. nm
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Ok, I invite you to hop on a bicycle for 15 mile ride in below freezing weather, snow, ice, etc.
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believe what you want, I lived....sm
I lived out west for 10 years, in that area.....lots of nuclear dumping sites....area 51.....
oh, perhaps you're not familiar with area 51.... White Sands, New Mexico....all kinds of good (being facetious) stuff buried out west............
I have lived in NC since I was 12, so about
19 years. My mother used to work in a hotel, and my step-father worked as a furniture peddler. He stayed in the hotel where she was working and it was love at first sight! They have been married for 18 years now and are very happy. I also got a sister out of the deal after having been an only child for 13 years...lol.
I love Maine in the summertime, and obviously because my family is there, but I don't think I would move back. I am so used to not having to deal with all the snow. I think that is probably the major difference. Here we have 4 seasons. There, winter lasts for a long, long time. I remember being little and having huge amounts of snow on my birthday....in APRIL!
The food is also different in a lot of ways. They drink sweet tea up there, but it didn't catch on for quite some time, and it still isn't like it is here in the south. I don't drink tea though, guess that's the Yankee coming out in me...lol.
And of course there is the accent thing. It's funny, but even after living here for so long, when I go up there to visit, I pick up my northern accent all over again, although normally I talk with a southern drawl.
I do miss 'home', but I don't really think I could go back permanently. I can't deal with the cold anymore...LOL.
Always wonder how I lived this long! LOL
The stupid things we used to do and never thought anything of it until later in life and wonder how the heck I lived this long!
lived there last year - sm
had difficult time getting freelance work. I thought it was pretty funny that the hospitals in Tampa and St. Pete would go to an outside service for their overflow and pay $0.14-0.18/line, however, would not utilize me as a prn transcriptionist. Moffitt Cancer Center wanted me to drive all the way from south tampa one way for $12/hour on a prn basis. But if I wanted to be full time, I would start at $9/hour. However, Moffitt had no problem bringing in transcriptionists from Kforce and paying the COMPANY hourly rate of $33/hour (per transcriptionist), hotels, rental cars, per diem, and overtime for all six transcriptionists, and travel back and forth to their home state every 10 days. Had to laugh!
Kindred Hospital is screaming for transcriptionists, yet, they would not let me work for them, inhouse, on an as needed basis until the positions were filled. They had a two month backlog, and I lived 20 minutes away and the woman I spoke to said no. I told her I was moving in a month and could produce 1800 lines/day, knew their transcription system backwards and forwards, and wanted to be paid $0.10/line. Answer was still no. They are outsourcing it at a higher rate.
Yes, she lived it. I'm curious though,
had her and her siblings at an early age and parenthetically added something about "hormones and no sex education". But now when people talk about programs that inclue "sex education" a lot of neocons freak out and say abstinence is the only way to go and cut funding for education, so what do you do about that? How realistic is abstinence? This is not an ideal world, after all. How do we break the cycle of babies having babies and the cycle continuing for generations?
lived in Texas too
I posted to you about where to look. We also lived in Dallas and they are overpriced too. You don't pay a state income tax in Florida, but there are a lot of hidden sales taxes and such. The problem with living on the water is you can't get insurance and if you find it, it's extremely high. We left Florida and went to Biloxi, Mississippi and it was about half the cost of Florida and we were 1 block from the beach. We had planned to go back but it will take a few years to be rebuilt. In the meantime, heading to TN as they do not have a state income tax, a vehicle tax, and the property taxes are much much less.
have you ever lived in the south?
If not, then don't make negative comments about people you know nothing about.
have ya ever lived with a techie?
eaten with a techie? worked with a techie? have ya ever listened in on the techie's side of the conversation while setting up an MT?
This isn't a problem exclusive to one company. And the problems techies have aren't all their fault or the company's fault. Can you imagine being the techie that tries to train the MT that asks if the CD tray is the cup holder? (yeah, this stuff is real). It takes a tremendous amount of self discipline not to hang up on a clue-less MT and even if the MT is very computer savvy, that MT's equipment might have unique challenges that take more time than expected. Image a techie's surprise when after trying to identify a problem, the MT lets out a final piece of information not given before and the techie has to start over from scratch.
Techies are a breed unto themselves and putting personal blame on the techies really is unfair. I still defend them even if I think they are weird (that's okay, they think I'm weird too).
Give your local techie a hug today 
my most embarassing was when I lived
with no doors and the bedroom was a loft with the parrot downstairs.
When my partner and I became amorous, the bird went nuts and started screaming. Didn't help to shove pillows in each other's faces either!
Of course he repeated what he heard during the day when I had visitors...humuliations galore!
You haven't lived until you have
been woken up at 1:48, 2:37, 3:12 and 5:07 a.m. to windows shaking from Mexican rap music blaring from almost 2 blocks away and then getting yelled at by the 911 dispatcher over and over again saying that 911 is not for noise complaints. Well if they would have taken care of the problem the first time, I would have stopped calling. One 911 dispatcher was really sweet though because she could hear the music when I stood outside talking on my cell phone. Usually the first time the police go out there, they stop the music but they must have new people staying with them as they kept playing the same Tequila song over and over (only word I understood was Tequila). Then when the police went over there these idiots pretended not to speak English, speak Spanish when the officer tries to speak to them in Spanish or read the complaint printed up in Spanish. Tomorrow I'm searching for the owner of the house online and will start complaining to them as will the rest of my neighbors. You also haven't lived until you have seen some of your neighbors out in their pjs at 3 a.m. trying to do a Mexican hat dance. I'm thinking maybe they too were consuming mas tequila.
Well, I have surely lived then!
Not Mexican - rap music as loud as it can be played coming from somewhere behind my house on almost a nightly basis around 2 a.m. The thing that makes me the most annoyed is that it is literally the same song OVER and OVER and OVER for two hours or more! I just want to scream, "At least get a new song!" Ugggghhhh!
I lived in Portland for a while...(sm)
but I am back in Iowa now and wouldn't go back to Portland for the world. It's beautiful, but I guess I just like my four seasons and all the wonderful reasons to live in Iowa!
I lived with a crackhead. nm
Has anyone ever lived overseas?....sm
A friend of mine is moving to Italy and I am really considering going with her. Just wanting to know if anyone has lived outside of the US (not necessarily in Italy, just anywhere).
Thanks
I've never lived there but
know a good friend of mine from Michigan, who is an MT, who moved there. She doesn't live in Denver but Pueblo and the last I heard from her, her and her family really love it there!
Best wishes to you.
If DSL was not available where I lived, I'd HAVE to move!
I have lived here all my life and never
have I heard the word Kruk…Maybe the person was tongue-tied and could not pronounce the word truck and called it kruk instead? I am originally from Tenn and my hubby is amazed at how I talk and I have forgotten the name for the sayings but I grew up with them and they come so natural for me- up the creek without a paddle, don't be left high and dry, making a mountain out of a mole hill, a gut feeling, like looking for a needle in a haystack, cost me an arm and a leg and on and on. He says, what??? Well, bless his heart.
I lived in Virginia for a while.
I thought it was pretty funny that my ex and his family where always carrying people somewhere. "I have to carry mom over to the store."
only if I lived in India where everything else is
I thought YOU were the only one that lived in Idaho,,,,,
:I
We lived on Riverfront Drive but
Silly huh?
Lived in a trailer for years
The only reason I'm not still in one is because I moved in with my boyfriend who had a bigger house. If I was by myself, I would buy another trailer. I was always perfectly happy in mine; actually, I loved it, and could afford it, without going into serious debt. I would buy a newer trailer right now if my boyfriend would agree, because I hate a 2-story, but haven't convinced him yet.
Lived there when little, couldn't pay me enough to live
there now. Don't even like to visit family there.
Lived there for 20 years, moved
back up north 5 years ago, so glad I did. Would't even visit family down there after I moved. Now all family has moved back up with us. Wouldn't ever, ever go in July or August, the heat and humidity are so bad. 95 degree heat and 90% humidity. Its like trying to breath in a suana or steam bath. Storms every afternoon. The bugs are terrible also.
Met him in the apartment complex I lived in.
We were just friends for about a year and a half. I was newly divorced and not ready to have a relationship, but we became great friends. Here we are 11 years later - happy, happy, happy!!!!
Sure wish you lived close to me. I'd take the dog in a flash (sm)
We lost our lab/retriever 2 years ago from root nerve tumor and still miss him. I think it's time we get another one so we can stop mourning our babe.
Please DON"T take him to an SPCA or any shelter like them. I, and many others, have had horrific experiences with our local shelters. It breaks my heart to see all those animals without homes and wish I could bring them all home but, unfortunately, cannot...and I will not adopt a dog from their shelters, either, due to their "higher than thou" attitude. Take it from one who knows, they are only interested in the money they receive from tugging at people's heartstrings, not the animals themselves. They came on our property when we weren't home and stole two irish setters that were left from a litter that were promised to someone with a very good reputation, I might add, and then told that person they had to euthanize the pups because they were sick. They were NOT sick. They had all their shots and wormed, etc., and definitely not sick. The worse part was that they had my 14-yo son SIGN a paper stating they had PERMISSION to take them. I really could have caused trouble for them but didn't have the money to pursue it (lawyer fees). Two weeks later, their picture was in the newspaper up for adoption!
These worker should work twice as hard trying to find homes for them instead of stealing other peoples dogs and then asking for money every other week. 
We have always adopted from people who are moving out of area, are elderly and can no longer take care of their pets, from friends, etc.
Sorry, I'll get off my soapbox now. but that's my 2 cents.
I disagree. If I lived in predominantly
Jewish area and people were wishing me Happy Hannukkah (forgive the spelling, please), it cannot possibly offend me just by them saying that. Their wishes toward me do mean that I must recognize their holiday. People who do that are looking to be offended so they can have something to be upset about.
Sounds like a few people are bah-humbug because they cannot control what others say to them. Well, it's called freedom of speech and there is a post on up this page about Paul Harvey that states it very well.
If someone doesn't want to be told Merry Christmas or Happy Hannukkah or whatever the tidings are, they need to move out away from anyone and live alone as a hermit.
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