My DH is 14 years younger than me
Posted By: sm on 2005-11-07
In Reply to: all women in their 40s should go out with younger men - not looking to marry
and for some reasons I agree with you, but for others I'm not too sure.
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I'd look 20 years younger too.
Bad job on Kenny I think. I guess he is better than Joan Rivers though.
but I was younger than
I went out of state one time to visit relatives. We had gone to a bar (a real down-home, dirt floor, southern type of bar) was having a great time. Went for a ride with a "cowboy" I met. Nothing happened, we went to his place to pick something up, drove me around past several local attractions. The people I was with were worried, but of course could not stop me. Everything was okay, and he took me back to the bar with my relatives, and the evening went on as before. But when I think back on it, HOW STUPID WAS THAT. Anything could have happened, and I should have known better. I was in my early 30's at the time. Not sure what point I am making, just that we all do stupid things that we can't even believe, looking back, that we were dumb enough to do. 
You are probably MUCH younger than me... I'm 45 and...
in my day, NOBODY went to preschool. They hardly existed. We all showed up on the first day of kindergarten with that being our first school experience. We learned how to sit still, listen, cooperate, and we played. We didn't show up having spent 3 to 4 years in preschool and with our parents fretting over whether we could read as well as little Johnnie. Too much pressure on kids these days.
My DH is 4 yrs younger than me.
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Who is 30 and younger and in this biz?
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When I was younger...
I was always having to defend my working at home plus working nights to boot. My aunt in particular used to give me a bad time and actually still does sometimes. She was a social butterfly and felt I'd never meet any new people, but life in general has changed a lot since she was out there in the real world. After nearly 20 years of working in an office environment, I was more than happy to be able to work from home. I'm plenty "social" enough during the daytime outdoors, running errands and spending time with a few other people, am active in church and don't get lonely. I prefer more of a homebody lifestyle. When I retire, I'm hoping to do a bit of traveling to places I've always wanted to see. I'm with you, to each his own. My experience is that people who appear to be having a great time out there running around often are not all that happy/contented with themselves anyway.
looking/feeling younger
Actually I say more power to them. I think it's great that an older woman wants to keep up instead of wearing those polyester pants and orthopedic shoes. I see several woman a lot older than I wearing ankle bracelets, toe rings, capris. I say go for IT. I didn't know there was a rule for how old you have to be to wear certain clothes.
You are right about waitressing, wish I were younger
My daughter works for one of the popular restaurant chains in town. She makes a fortune in tips! One night she had a to go in just to serve one party of 20 that was a "preorder" (food was ready when they got there), hardly did a thing and she got a $75 tip!
I was like, "Gee! Do they have any openings?" Her feet kill her at the end of the night, but I could donate my wrists and fingers to science and I don't get any $75 tips. 
all women in their 40s should go out with younger men
anyway
I agree with you. Younger MT's need to SM
find something else, because there is no future in this and what future there is will be peanuts.
Can you get someone elsee to babysit children? I would have a long talk with hubby.
It was actually my younger sister!!
No idea what prompted it.
Actually, with the war, there will be no SS for the younger generation...
They are constantly discussing this in the news of how to save SS for the younger generations. We are actually paying your SS with our SS because there is 0 right now due to the war. My husband keeps telling me we will probably have to save for our own (ages 39) if we want any at that time. The baby boomers will be paid by our SS and we will have nothing. This is a heavy topic with my husband. Bush keeps saying we'll worry about it then...pretty scary.
I'm 1 of the younger generation
and I didn't come out of college expecting to make 6 figures. Credit card debt and living beyond your means is not age-specific. I have seen many a retired folks lose everything because they couldn't manage their money. Had to have the flat screen TVs, RV, boats, vacation homes, etc you spoke of.
Other than the age factor, I do agree that many people are living well beyond their means. I talked to someone just last night, who happened to have bought my best friend's house just last summer. They're selling it now and looking for a cheaper place to buy. When we asked why, they said they couldn't afford it. They have 2 brand new SUVs (just bought the 1 this past winter). I've always said the people who drive nice vehicles often don't have a pot to p!ss in. When vehicles are costing $40,000+, I don't see how any one can afford 2 plus a nice home. Take a drive through your local trailer park and you'll see what I mean.
As for me and hubs, I have a minivan that's 10 years old, but we keep it in good condition, and my DH has a 2001 car that is in very good condition. We also keep an old Ford Ranger truck (1995) around for yard work, etc.
All 3 are paid for. We have very little on a credit card, that we'll be paying off as soon as the 0% runs out on it. We also have 3 kids and a house. Many-a-day I wanted to buy something and didn't because I didn't have the money and didn't want to pay for it for the next 10 years. Those are the choices that some make.
On the flip side, not everyone makes enough to even live, and for those I am truly sorry. I have no pity for the ones that just don't know how to manage money.
any tips for looking and feeling younger?
I've always been a health nut and was going to school to become a nutritionist until I found out how much math I would have to take. I have about 30 grams of fiber in my diet, and water to keep the GI running "smoothly" but the most recent thing I started was drinking about 1/4 cup olive oil mixed in with a V8 per day about a week ago, and it makes such a difference in my skin, its firmer, eye circles are gone, and softer and thicker, fine lines just about gone. It also aides in digestion to get all those nutrients to the skin to help repair it too. 
on the topic of looking/feeling younger
I dont really know how to say this, so here it goes...sometimes older women in denim shorts and tank tops look...like older women trying to look young. I am not trying to disrespect anyone, but come on ladies, we've all seen them. The person in the skimpy shorts and low cut top and bleached blonde hair, she turns around and lo and behold, she's your grandmother! That is not attractive! Women can dress and feel sexy without having to borrow our daughter's clothes! Just IMHO!
It is beyond me why younger people are getting in this right now but I guess they will eke out what
they can.
Y not? As doctors get younger, they'll all be able to
Internet slang their medical reports using their blackberries. TPW AAK. (The patient was alive and kicking.)
She could outskate all those younger athletes! sm
Kimmie M. was good (and she does get to go to the Olympics) but Michelle can skate circles around those young girls. Emily H, who gets bumped from the Olympics, does not have half the talent Michelle has and that certainly showed in her programs at Nationals. She looked very inexperienced. I say send Michelle. The others don't come close to having a shot at medal, she does.
Mick and Keith are 62 and Ron is younger....sm
just cause you probably look like you're 70 and you're probably 50 isn't anybody else's problem except yours.
*ROFL*
Older/younger generation.
I did not say that the older powers that be did not start the whole thing. My point was that we certainly cannot count on this generation to save the day. I am 52. My mom did not work until I was older. We did not have all the "stuff" that I now have. Now my husband and I both work our ends off to have what is now considered a normal lifestyle. This generation tends to feel entitled to this lifestyle. Because it is harder to maintain now by just working a regular job, people are willing to do less ethical things to maintain, and it will get worse.
Forgot to mention - I am an 80s Teen - younger than you! nm
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I am an older woman and I dont fit that at all. In fact, I know a lot of younger women trying to
work and take care of kids that fit that scenario.
I do love those younger gals though, the always pudgy ones in hip riders and too too tight tops.
so attractive with the roll hanging out.
A trivia game question mentions Colonel Sanders; younger players had
(Has KFC been around THAT long????
58, AHP/self-taught, trained at hospital 5 years, now with 2 of my own accounts for 10 years, employ
Also worn out 2 keyboards in 4 years. I will never retire. DH will come home some day from work and I'll be slumped over my keyboard. I put in 14 hours a day 7 days a week.
Pack years = packs smoked per day x years of smoking - sm
25 pack-years = 25 years of 1 pack a day, or 12-1/2 years of 2 packs a day.
I don't think pack-years applies to someone who smokes only cigars. But I don't know for sure.
I worked for Cbay for 3 years. I was also part of their lay off back many years ago. sm
Even though I got stuck in a lay off era, I still love the company. They paid well then. The people were nice (exception of 1 person) and if I had the opportunity I would go back again. Fortunately (or unfortunately - depending on how u look at it), I have a great paying job right now, so I am not looking for a change. I do know that at one time, they asked management to accept late paychecks, but never sure of the reason why. My check was never late.
I know it used to be 5-10 years back, but the laws changed within the last 2 years. They can only g
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6 years legal then switched to medical 17+ years ago. sm
I don't mind doing legal and will do it now from time to time, but be prepared to be totally bored out of your mind.
At least that's the way I feel. I love to transcribe, learned legal in college, went on to get my paralegal degree, etc., etc., but I did temp work when the kids were younger, which was about 90% medical and I would never go back to legal except for once in a while.
Booooooring.
Only 3 years away from reaching total years for retirement
but if I had to do this and raise a family, would feel exactly like you do. The pay is terrible compared to what I used to make. I work 32 hours a week, hope to be able to continue even after full retirement age. I have worked on VR now and unless places get to where they really do not care about how their reports look, think they will need MTs. I very seldom do a report and it is 100%, just cannot remember 1 like that and most take a lot more editing. Working now because want to, not have to anymore, thank goodness!!
I dumped my ex 20 years ago, but got lucky 13 years ago
It would take me all night and pages and pages to describe what a bad person my ex-husband was. After six years of putting up with his OCD, verbal abuse and alcohol, I left him the house, took the kids (5 and 1) and didn't look back. That was 20 years ago.
I wasn't looking to get married again, but I did. After 13 years I only complain when hubby doesn't see things my way. :)
My older kids, who were 5 and 1 when I left, are married and have kids of their own now. My husband gets the Father's Day cards. Their "real" father sits alone in the perfect little house I left behind and let him have and he drinks himself into oblivion every night because nobody is "perfect" enough, including his kids and his grandkids that he never sees.
Sad, but true. So glad I smartened up and got out of there when I did.
We have been supporting other countries for years and years now.
What is the big deal. Look at your clothes, cars, items in your house. You will see mostly China, India, Indonesia, Pakistan etc., etc. We have not supported our own people like we should have for years now!!!!
Only 2 in 13 years for me. First Edix for 8 and now Webmedx for nearly 5 years. nm
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When I trained, back years and years ago
We did not have spell checking nor the internet (Google for instantaneous help). OMG, how did we do it? We used Correcting Selectrics with the lift-off tape to correct errors- you only had dictionaries, both English and medical, to look up things so yes we did have to learn to spell all those big longgggggggggg words.
MT: 24 years. Same company: 11 years same co. after buyout.
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Grammar Question: 9 years' ago or 9 years ago? *sm*
 I have a terrible time trying to remember this rule! HELP!
Worked inhouse for years and years
Inhouse transcription from 1973 to approximately 1992 and we had no downtime for answering the phones and when the physicians came into the room (or others) needing some assistance, just part of the job. I did not feel bad about doing it then and I dont see why you would either. You don’t realize that probably you are making right now more than if you are outsourced, right? You have hourly salary plus incentive. Guess how many of us have that now? Probably inevitable about outsourcing so I would say just enjoy while you can. The pay our here now sinks further and further. I make, for instance, 4 cents a line for voice recognition and 8 for straight. Now, more complaining?
19 years old...married 26 years. nm
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they've been doing this for years and years (nm)
IMHO
People have been saying that for years and years - SM
however, I am working fewer hours and making more money. I think maybe the answer here is working as an IC for a one-owner company. MTSO was an MT for many years and she knows the secret to making lots of $ is putting your MTs doing what they do best and leaving them alone.
I don't think it is the "national" part of services that hurts. I think the low wages can be gauged by the number of suits in the company. More suits = less $.
And why pay QA? Just hire people experienced/good enough to do the work correctly the first time.
I have been doing Radiology only the last two years after several years (sm)
of acute care. I love it and find it easier although not as interesting as acute care. I was told by those who hired me that a good medical Transcriptionist will be able to do Radiology even with no experience in it. There are some specialized terms but easy to learn. I would never go back to acute care unless there were very good dictators and good sound quality.
30 (!) years; OTJ (don't think there were schools 30 years ago) nm
:)
Years ago it was 7 years. Not certain as to status now.
10 years here, too, and making 8.4....same as i was 5 years ago. nm
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Shame on me.. Am I the only one with 4+ in 2 years, but with my last one 2 years.
Lots of little "stints" in between, just trying to keep my head above water.
24 years MT, 7.5 years with the same hospital nm.
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22 years, same company 10 years nm
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32 years, longest was 28 years at same co. (nm)
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28 years, 9 years at 1 hospital..sm
9 years at one hospital, 8 years with 2 services, then went out on my own (11 years ago) and got a bunch of surgeons and I moonlight on weekends for a national (9 years with national).
If I knew what I know today, with how the MT business has gone down $$-wise for us over 20+ years, if I had my druthers and could start over again, I would have stayed with CODING/BILLING instead of MT work (though I love MT work) as billing/coding is still lucrative in this country....
just my 3 cents 
32 years, 18 years at hospital...
7 at Medquist, 7 at Spheris. Starting at Transtech Medical tomorrow.
Do you need to have 2 years full time experience or just 2 years' experience? nm
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