My 17yo daughter.....
Posted By: SM on 2005-10-26
In Reply to: I appreciate all responses, let me clairfy a bit. sm - undecided
was similarly distressed at age 15. A lot of it is just part of growing up. They are anxious, moody, and sometimes emotional. I took her to counseling and she decided that she wanted to work through this tough time without being medicated. I'm not sure that pulling your son out of school and what he knows is going to help. That's just MORE change in his life. I would seek counseling and find out what's going on with him, but in your case I think isolating him further would simply contribute to his anxiety. But since I'm not a professional, again, I'd take him to see somebody. As a footnote, my daughter will be 18 in March, is a senior, is getting good grades again, and is, as she says..."Happy as a Clam"
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I have a 15 year old daughter....
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It's going around. I have it, too. So does hubby and daughter.
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I'm cooking. Daughter and son-in-law,
son, husband and myself will be spending Thanksgiving together (after my son and I get off work).
Yes, a daughter, all grown.
I married & divorced very young. Have 2 roommates (friend and her boyfriend). Couldn't afford this house otherwise. LOL. I live in an area called Lone Mountain Vistas, not far from Summerlin.
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wow - congratulations to your daughter!
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Well said! My daughter was in preschool
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That's a bunch of bull to say that kids who don't go to daycare are not prepared and cry all day. Geez....
Thanks, is on my daughter's puter and will try...nm
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Just took daughter to the pediatrician and they are now using EMR...
Hmm, but my daughter won't! Think about the future instead of just yourself.
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My daughter also wants to get started doing
MT. She is going to a local community college. However, I do believe there are quite a few online schools, such as Andrews School, that train MTs.
If your daughter is a minor...
the doctor has to get your approval and permission.
The ones who are the first to take a drug that came on the market, are always the 'guinea'pigs'.
They are the ones on whon the 'studies' are done.
If the study has negative results, the drug is withdrawn from the market, and the guinea pigs are the victims. E.g. Hormone therapy, antidepressants, etc.......
If you are skeptical,I would not allow it.
Your friend and your daughter both have been
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I have thought about it as my 2 daughter take dance - sm
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Called you and daughter B***h. You didn't even have to sm
ask what to do. You knew what to do before coming to the board asking for opinions.
I wasi n the same situation as your daughter at 14. sm
I was in the same situation as your daughter. I started getting a ride from a guy friend who lived down the street. He was 2 years older, so experienced driver. However, that wasn't what should have been worried about. About a month later we started dating, ended up pregnant in high school. Needless to say we got married 2 years after the baby and are on our 10th year of marriage, but it all started with those rides to school.
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