Message for those who aren't mothers...
Posted By: Sandy on 2006-05-16
In Reply to: Message for those who aren't mothers...sm - Me
I have 2 goldens, 1 Shelties, and 3 cats. Do they count? I love them and they love me! I buy them food and fix their meals. In the evening they get a pseudo raw diet and marrow bones. I take the dogs to obedience, agility, and handling classes. I bring them to the vet. I make sure they have plenty of tennies (tennis balls) and woobies (toy they can rip the stuffing out of) give them unwanted baths, cut toenails, scoop up the yard, play with them, give ear scrunches, belly rubs, give out meds to Taz Duh Golden (dumber than a box of rocks) who has severe heart disease (subaortic stenosis and cor pulmonale), and my heart is torn when any of them make their journey to the Bridge.
So, in a way, I am a mom. Only difference.....mine have 4 legs and not 2. 
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Message for those who aren't mothers...sm
I hope you made it through the day yesterday without it bothering you that you're not a mom. For many years I'd try to avoid going to the stores around Mother's Day and having clerks say "Happy Mother's Day" and avoid church because of the Mother's Day recognition because it emotionally stung that I wasn't married or a mom. My heart breaks for a good friend who had a miscarriage 2 years ago and is now infertile as she hates the "happy mother's day" wishes as it brings up the sad emotions. I can't even begin to imagine how painful that must be for her and others who have shared the same misfortunes.
I'm now 43 and am now a foster mom so while I don't have any biological children I do have a precious child living with me. I'm sure that her mom was sad yesterday that she chose drugs over raising her child and lost custody because of drugs, but I am grateful that I'm able to use my motherly ways with her.
Yup! Those PA-C's are scary, aren't they? See message
I've transcribed for some, and generally they couldn't dictate properly if someone held a loaded gun to their head. As I was transcribing, I told myself, "I wouldn't let my worst enemy be seen by these clowns!" Some of them are very scary, indeed!
We get your message; we aren't dumb (sm)
but I have personally seen the benefit of talking to store managers. At one store I shopped (yes, a chain) I explained that I wanted to buy Silk soy milk. He was offering 3 other brands, but not Silk. I explained that he didn't need those 3 brands; he could replace them all with Silk and his sales would go up. HE DID IT! And I was right because sometimes he'd run out and we Silk buyers would start lining up, looking for our Silk!
Another time I complained to a store that that their floors were sticky every Sunday and they weren't culling their soft fruits adequately. Problem solved. So NEVER think communicating your expectations with a store doesn't work. A smart manager or company realizes that responding to consumer feedback can keep customers!
So how dare you tell people that writing letters doesn't work. It can, and you won't know until you try.
Supervisors aren't reachable through anonymous message boards. You have to actually write them or
call them at work.
Mothers day
It could be worse...my husband I I decided to divorce on Mother's Day...and I got nothing from any of my 4 kids.
BRAVO! The mothers never want to work SM
a holiday, they want every school break to be off with their children, they have to go on a field trip, they need to take Bratleigh to the doctor, on and on.
Taking a full-time job is great for them with full-time benefits until they are told they have to work some weekends or God forbid CHRISTMAS....what about the chilllllldddrennnnnn......
if our mothers don't kill us while we are in the womb.
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work-at-home mothers
And admiration and respect to the MT at-home moms (dads too)who do this demanding job with kids at home! Hats off to you!
Happy Mothers Day from the staff at MTStars! May you have the best day!
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What a very sweet surprise! Happy Mothers Day
nm
Why only young mothers who want to earn extra?
Why this statement? What about us older ones? I just do not get that statement because I would think experience counts a lot in this job.
And I thank the mothers of boys who have raised them to respect women.
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Mothers volunteer as "aides" at their children's schools
supposed to help, not hinder.
Most daddies don't die. It's the breeding with losers that makes single mothers...
and you need to replace your crystal ball, because it's cracked. I happen to be very happily married with NO kids and LOVE it. Now, some of you will start squawking that I'm bitter because I don't have kids, but I assure you I am grateful every day of my life that I don't have to deal with kids, especially when I read on these boards how unhappy so many mothers seem to be.
If I'm harsh, it's because I've gotten the short end of the stick SO MANY FREAKING TIMES in my working life because of single mothers who expect and get preferential treatment, while those of us w/o kids are expected to pick up the slack. And guess what? I'm SICK of it.
Mothers covering for childless women? Don't make me laugh!! nm
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Venting-why do people keep putting nm and THEN writing a message?? nm means no message - sm
Please put sm if you have a message and NM if there is no message other than your subject line. It makes it easier when reading these messages. thanks so much and have a nice day everyone.
small message. nm means no message
see?
Flame=200 views, sm=see message, nm=no message
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sm, see (or short) message, nm is no message.
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sm-see message, nm-no message, ks-I think it's someone's initials.
nm
or no message, small message - whatever SM
any indication there is no need to waste time opening the post.
it is irritating also when people type through the subject line as well as the name line and then do not indicate if it is worth pursuing.
sm is see message not small message. I almost always
put NM or nt if there is no message, but quite a lot of people still open the posts as evidenced by the number of views.
See how much fun we can have? We aren't always mean!
A little fun with typos can turn into a whole new city!
Why aren't we all doing something?
I have only seen 2 or 3 people say they are happy with MQ on this board. If we are so unhappy, why can't we band together and be heard?
Some are and some aren't, just like here.
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others aren't.
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You aren't alone......... :(
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No you aren't the only one with those sm
problems. Sounds like you had an awfully bad day. I truly admire anyone who works at home with young children. I could never have done that when my 3 sons (nothing like the hit tv show way back when) were growing up. You name it, they did it. If one didn't think of it, the other one did, and the majority of the time, it wasn't good. I admire you for giving it your best shot. Hopefully, someone on this board can give you some suggestions that will help. Keep trying!
They Aren't the Only Ones
Technical support for just about anything is offshore now. Call centers are worldwide. I absolutely refuse to call and speak to someone I can't understand AND expect them to help me. Dell actually has pretty clear-speaking ESLs and after "the job" is finished, they ask all kinds of questions about their English, knowledge, manner, etc...For once I was impressed.
When I was getting my phone line through Verizon, I had to speak with an ESL and it was a nightmare. I get very cranky and short with them even though I don't mean to. If I had the guts to do it, I would demand to speak to an American, but I can't bring myself to do that.
You aren't going to get 15 to 18 cpl.
profession if what you are getting paid isn't what you are worth. I am staying here because I make more money doing MT than I could doing anything else. I'm good at it and I'm fast. I make $35 to $40 an hour. The very least I ever make is on an account that I make 10.5 cpl on and that is $25 to $30 an hour. There is no job I could get anywhere else that I could make that much an hour. I think I am paid very well. Yes, it's worth $25 to $40 an hour for me to do MT. If you can't make enough, you need to find some other job.
And some MTs aren't serious enough.
Some are bad some aren't...
Acute care is not easy. Not for a beginner anyway. Sometimes on the account I am on I just want to scream because I do get a lot of ESLs and they can be challenging. But there are some doctors who aren't so bad. Some days you may get terrible dictators and you think you aren't getting anywhere or making much of anything. Then another day you may have a better day where there aren't so many bad dictators and you get more done. I work on an account with a learning hospital which is a hospital where they have residents who are learning. It is a huge hospital and there are 35 pages of docs on the doctor list. That is not counting the residents either. No I am not kidding. It is rare to get the same doctor except every once in a while. You aren't doing the same ones everyday.
Some aren't cut out
Some MLS's are just not cut out for editing- me for one. I tried for at least 6 months. My lead switched me to picking up the straight typing work on the accounts. I get the more difficult dictators which cuts my rate down but its still better than I can muster in editing. My problem - I can't edit and continue listening at the same time.
come on, aren't you going a little overboard here sm
I welcome the disagreement, I know everyone feels differently, BUT I too am entitled to my own opinion, and I simply pointed out a problem that I have seen here, and it's embarassing to ME personally to be "associated" with these negative people. I'm sorry if that offends you so much. Maybe fool was too harsh, maybe I should have said something like childish or bitter, I don't know. I just stated my own opinion, and don't care who agrees with it or who doesn't. 
They probably aren't paying for it anyway---
That's why they charge so much for dues, etc., so the "higher-ups" can attend all these wonderful conventions in expensive places. I dropped them years ago. They don't have a CLUE that we are all scratching just to survive-- not with their "Let them eat cake" mentality! I wish EVERYBODY would drop their memberships and then see how often these idiots go to Hawaii when they all have to get a REAL JOB.
Maybe they also feel that they aren't the only ones going through it.
Working at home is very isolating, and just knowing that we have a place to vent, share, and sometimes compare other experiences can be very cathartic. We can't get it off our chests to our employers because often it is viewed negatively. We can't discuss it with our spouses/significant others because they don't understand unless they're in the field themselves. Discussing it with the puppy next to your chair helps, but not as much as discussing it with someone else who has been through it. We're all human beings and we all have differing needs. Sometimes we just need "to let it out".
You are schizophrenic, aren't you? - sm
I have never heard of such a complete and total schizophrenic reply in my LIFE!!! You have a split personality for sure. You obviously have never had a 2 y/o, or were on drugs when your child was 2... they wake up in a strange place, they know they aren't home, they think "I want Mommy", get up, unlock the door and book on down the road looking for Mommy and Daddy. This was NOT the parents fault, the driver MIGHT have NOT realized he hit a child, and I am sure he will come forward once the news travels around... This was not anyone's "FAULT"... That baby just woke up looking for Mommy and Daddy, and went out the apartment, and I am sure it was securely locked just as the parent's apartment/home was, and the child just knew how to jimmy the locks... it happens... It is an experience that God has us endure to make us realize how much we must rely on Him... I know my initial comment on this reply was not "Christian-like", but for HEAVEN's SAKE WOMAN!!!! GET A GRIP ON REALITY!!! YOU ARE OUT OF THE ZONE!!!
but aren't there limitations?
Prior to the onset of presbyopia, my vision was around 20/825. Now, I actually require the use of trifocals ... and even with those I can feel my vision constantly changing every few months (one eye gets a little weaker than the other). 
no you aren't...he's a bad dictator
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Aren't grandkid's the best? sm
My first time being a gramma and I got blessed with twin girls who are now at the ripe old age of 17 months and never cease to amaze me. The great thing about grandkids is you can play with them, spoil them, etc., without ever having to worry about doing anything wrong. All of the "parental headaches" are up to mommy and daddy. :)
I find that after "all these years," I'm more patient than I was as a young mom. Too much to worry about then.
I'm still a mom though. I have a daughter who is only 10! Spaced them out a bit toooooo far apart. (I have 4, ages 23, 20, 15 and 10). It's sad to say, but I have an easier relationship with my younger 2 as, not only do I know what to expect now, I've mellowed as I'm pushing 50. :)
But grandkids. Wow! They really don't expect a whole heck of a lot from you except for hugs and kisses. I can't wait until the twins get old enough to ask me the questions I can answer with my vast experience over the years. 
Gee, you are really upset, aren't you?!
The pros of working as an SE for me include such things as not having to work a set schedule--I really need and want that flexibility and as an SE, I have it!
I have a higher base rate than most employees; my incentive plan is better; and I still get quarterly bonuses.
I will be using my new computer equipment purchases and some of my rent and utilities when I file my taxes, etc.
I can still get tax breaks on medical expenses, I just have to file them differently than employees do (no pre-tax here).
I don't need the insurance through MQ; I have my own. I don't PTO, I make it up and I make enough to save for rainy days anyway.
Pros and cons will be different for different people. For me, the pros outweigh any cons.
I'm very happy as an IC/SE. I wouldn't work as an employee now.
Testy, aren't we
Nope, I am Frank and in case you didn't know, you work for me while I am loving it up in the hot, hot sun on the islands. Now, I suggest YOU GET BACK TO WORK before I fire you!
You aren't going to be flamed by me. sm
I use a reputable cleaning service which is bonded and insured. I pay the company, the company pays their employees. Plus I wouldn't let someone I didn't know in my house without bonding and insurance.
me too! as if the holidays aren't
stressfull enough, throw in the slap in the face thing called a pay check to ice the cake! I'm looking for other avenues to take....
Well there naturally aren't going to be many in the AM. SM
I do only ops myself. I have a different deal than what it sounds like you have, because my work is assigned manually - I don't get to go in the system in the morning and start plucking them out of there. I get a list at about 8:30 in the morning of the ones dictated the day before.
Too bad, too. I am 2 hrs ahead of the hospital. I could have their notes sitting there for them when they come in, but that's not the way they manage it. I don't like waiting till 8:30 to get my work, so I know what you mean.
You aren't alone, hang in there.
See, you aren't alone in this world
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Well, aren't you a little ray of sunshine. nm
nm
Why aren't you asking your MTSO?
They should have provided clear directions for each client on what you are to do.
Maybe they aren't all like that but the ones who move here ARE sm
Apparently our area is an "escape" for the city folks and then they eventually decide to stay.
Unfortunately for us, they want all the big city stuff that you can't have in the country. Can't have it both ways but they sure try.
There aren't enough companies to take all the MTs
that work for companies that offshore. More and more companies are looking to offshore as demonstrated by the companies in support of the current training in Trinidad. I'm totally against offshoring and have turned down at least 3 positions because the companies offshore, but I'm going to do what is best for my family. It is just like the commercial says, buy made in the U.S.A., but if you go shopping for clothes it can take you half a day to find an item made in the U.S.A.
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