Maybe you should homeschool your kids if you don't want sm
Posted By: MT on 2005-12-18
In Reply to: I agree with you. It's very VERY offensive! - sm
them to be exposed to other religions and cultures? It shouldn't be offensive to hear songs about others' cultural and religious beliefs. If you feel so strongly, and you're not willing to examine yourself over the issue, then why not homeschool them or put them in a Christian school where they'll only be fed what you want and not have to hear anything else?
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Honestly, I homeschool. Never once have my kids had a bellyache. nm
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Pros: Wonderful bonding. Flexible schedules. We "do" school on our time frame, no getting up at 5:30 a.m. to get the kids ready for school. We can take vacations whenever we want. My children have thrived. My oldest was in public school for 3-1/2 years, nearly destroyed not only his love of learning but his spirit. My children have had time to explore their own interests in detail. For us homeschooling is not what we do, it is a way of life. We do everything together - grocery shopping, doctor visits, yard work, cook, etc.
Depending on the laws in your state you can teach whatever you want, however you want. What works for me might not work for you and that is okay. It does take some trial and error though to find what works.
Unless you live in a very rural area there are lots of support groups with field trips, park days, activity days, etc. Most people think socialization is an issue, can't figure that one out though. Our kids participate in community sports, scouting, play with kids in the neighborhood, plus in my area we have a weekly activity day during the school year, we have park days throughout the year, we have at least monthly field trips, the Y caters to homeschoolers with all kinds of classes, we visit nursing homes and do a lot of socializing with young and old.
You don't have to worry about bullies, you don't have to worry about someone bringing a gun to school, you don't have to worry about having a school lock down while they bring in the drug sniffing dogs.
No one loves your child more than you and while there are some good schools and some good teachers, you can still do better. It is not written in stone either that if you homeschool you can't later put them in public/private school.
CONS: It is hard work, especially if you work FT on top of it. If you've ever had a child in school you may be like a lot of us who have a public school mentality and think you have to mimic the school situation, where you do every subject every day for 7 hours a day and it just isn't so. If you're child helps you cook that is life skills, not only learning to cook but learning math by measuring. You'll probably get lots of flack, especially about the "S" word as we call it (socialization), you're raising a momma's boy or a sissie, someone who will never be able to do for themselves, you're kid needs to learn the hard knocks of life.
Actually I think we'd both get out more when we homeschool
with the homeschool group activities, etc., but getting into the whole homeschool/perceived need for socialization with peers topic would really open a can of worms, wouldn't it? :)
We homeschool and we are all looking forward
to getting back to a structured learning time. Homeschooling is not something we do, it is a lifestyle, and we are constantly learning, but we have an "official" 180 days as required by our state.
homeschool and work
Hi, I homeschool my stepson, who is 10, and I also work full time at home. Please email me. The company I work for is hiring. They pay well and very flexible schedule. I also use an online homeschool program that is free. If your interested, email me and I can give you more information.
I homeschool and work...
It is not easy. I work at home at nights part time. I school a 2nd and 3rd grader during the day. I had my children in public school when the youngest was in Kindergarten and ended up pulling them out. The whole school situation was awful. I won't go into it all here but I was dealing with a child that needed help and a school that was not listening to me. Again my case was extreme but the whole situation stressed my husband and I out so much. We ended up pulling both children out because we feared for their safety, literally.
Our choice was to private school. Ha! Naive we were. Private schooling is very expensive and we did an exhaustive search in the area. The cheaper ones were awful, the most expensive were what we wanted, but couldn't afford.
So we turned to homeschooling and have kept at it. I cut back to part time work. "Home" though is a laugh - we do classes at home twice a week. The rest of the time we are at other groups to do classes. We do math and language arts at home. History, science, PE, music, Spanish, art, computers are all done in groups. Homeschooling here where I live is huge and many business have sprung up catering to this. We are able now to pick and choose classes to pay for. So we do 1/2 homeschool, 1/2 sort of private school. For us, it works great and I feel the kids get the best of both.
Is it easy? NO. Is it worth yet? YES. Until my kids can handle the pressure of a public school setting (or we move or win the lottery for private school placement), then this is what is best for them. My kids are protected from the worst of a group setting but I feel also exposed to the best of a group learning environment by the way we are educating them. Good luck to you. I hope it all works out.
First, be very sure of the reasons that you want to homeschool.
It is tougher beginning at such a late grade, but it can be done. I started my son in 9th grade 9 years ago, so obviously I know a little bit about it. I also had a great friend who homeschooled her high school kids, so she could get me started with a lot of support and encouragement. Be sure you're ready to be with this child 24/7, because that's pretty much how it will feel. We did have problems with the school but tried every avenue to solve them before saying, "We don't need to put up with this, we do have a choice," when the school counselor said that we didn't have a choice. They thought they ruled my son's world; they were WRONG. I AM HIS PARENT, I believe I do have his best interests in mind when making choices for him. We are a Christian family, so it was easy to start by investigating Abeka Books for materials; bear in mind you'll have to buy all your own materials, nobody helps with that. My son now has his degree and is IT manager at a bank, looking to make VP.
You'll need to check out the homeschooling laws for your state, they vary. Just do an internet search for homeschooling laws for your state. Check around for homeschool groups, there are several out there. But, the biggest thing is just to make sure that you and your child are committed to working together to do this. It does take a lot of commitment and communication to do this and do it right. BEST of luck to you whatever your choice.
So, PFFFT to the person who says kids need to be in school. I know better and obvious hundreds or thousands of others do too.
I homeschool my children and I get so very
tired of the "S" word. I think most people feel like we keep them locked in the house all day, doing school for 8 hours a day. They are community sports teams, the kids in the neighborhood, homeschool activities, park days, church, etc. There are some families who isolate themselves, but the majority do not. My kids are extremely social and on weekends we have a line at the door wanting them to come out and play. I told DH we needed to put up a sign on the door that they aren't here so kids will stop knocking. Not only are my kids very social, but they are as comfortable with someone 65 as they are with their own peers. My oldest DS has kids 5 to 6 years younger wanting him to come play because he plays so well with them and they look up to him.
Kids don't have much time to socialize in the public school setting and the socialization isn't always positive.
you will have more time when you homeschool
Your schedule is dictated by you, not by the gov't school.
Well I homeschool and that isn't the reason I do. Homeschoolers
for the most part are just normal people, some do it for religious reasons, some do it because they have a special needs child whose needs aren't met in the public school system, some do it due to medical issues. There are extremists in every segment of society, homeschoolers are no exception. This is a very sad situation and I knew that the homeschooling issue would be picked up on and picked to pieces. It is funny hearing all the news people trying to figure out how these 2 could have possibly met since they were homeschooled. Unfortunately there is a lot of ignorance out there and people are quick to condemn that that they know nothing about.
Since this has been on every news channel the past 48 hours I'm really surprised it has taken someone this long to post the comment you did.
Homeschool, so year-round fun! nm
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Anyone homeschool their children and do MT from home? NM
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Anyone homeschool their children and also work at home?
I currently work for a hospital but am considering get a home job so I can also homeschool my 6-year-old. He is just having an awful time in school and I am getting sick of trying to work all day at the hospital and get phone calls from the school EVERY DAY.. I just feel like I need to be home. Any suggestions?
Homeschool! Freedom! Great family bonding!
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Do little kids like caramel? My big kids won't even eat it! We make the basic Baker's chocolat
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I never said you shouldn't have kids! Feeling guilty? I asked WHY you had kids.
You clearly stated in your post that you ship the kids off to camp all day, and they're TIRED AT NIGHT!! You know exactly what you said. You said it as a PERK - AS IN GREAT! They're gone all day, it wears them out, and so I shovel dinner in their mouths and off to bed! You can try to paint it any way you want, but YOU SAID IT. Again, I only hope your kids never hear you speak that way or write that way. Shame on you. Why have kids at all? Just another parent who has them, gets rid of them for day AND night, BRAGS ABOUT IT, and then calls ME wicked! Give me a break! Camp is fine - its WHAT YOU SAID AND YOU KNOW IT. Your own words showed your heart. Period.
Kids are demanding and so is MT work. My question is how CAN you do this with kids, rather than how
When you have two young kids, 11 months apart, (like I stated they are now 4 and 5) and have been doing this since they were born with no help from their father and no family around, YES, the kids get neglected. Part time might work but living on one salary, part time, is not an option. How can you possible tell me that anyone with two young kids can stay at home and work a full-time, 8-hour shift, and still give their kids the attention they NEED. I dont care how good you are at multitasking and how great your organizational skills are. It is a very difficult thing to do. And I am offended by your post making it sound as if it is easy to do.
I do agree that it can depend on how well your kids behave and how well they are able to play on their own. But my kids were not able to play well on their own. They needed constant attention.
So please take the time to realize that there are people out there in different situations than your own.
Reading our posts should help you to understand that everyone has a different situation. I believe everyone should have the right to shares their experiences as it might benefit the original poster in her questions and concerns.
I dont think anyone should be bashed for taking the time out to write about their experiences. I dont usually come on here to argue but you really ticked me off with your post. And try reading the post correctly. I said next time around I would have put them in day care. What I DID do with them was set them up to an activity like art or put on a movie for them. Geez.
Stayed "because of the kids?" I say "leave because of the kids"
You're in no position to buy right now. Keep saving, keep paying down your bills, and for heaven's sake get rid of that dead weight of a BF you're living with. You can do better.
So, should I return the $75 (x2 kids) in music cards I got the kids for x-mas...sm
My son has been telling me about free music sites and I was very leary. How do they skirt the law Radguy?
I don't have kids, but my Mom was from the "old school," and still had everyone, kids inclu
call her by her first name. The little neighbor girl next door from the time she could speak called her Aggie (my mom's first name), and they were great buddies until the day my mom pased away.
I don't think there really is much in a name, but more in the respect you are given and the way you are treated. Personally, I kind of cringe inside when someone calls me Ms. Anything or God forbid, "maam" (makes me feel like Methuselah!) ... I'm always just plain Merrie. :-)
But, as someone pointed out, to each his own. If you want to be addressed a certain way, you have that right, and people should respect that. I'm glad you corrected the child ... hope it "sticks." 
Please do not simply give up, kids or no kids!
Talk with a professional. This can be worked through if he really puts forth the effort and you participate. The right counseling can truly make your marriage even better than it was before, if BOTH parties are willing to be honest. Give it a try. Nothing to lose at this point and everything to gain!
No I said thank God I do not have kids
I think the wrong point is being taken here. Yes he does not worry about money and is used to that. I am afraid of not making ends meet if I stop working my day job and I refuse to stop working either MT jobs as we all know it takes a lot of education to make it.
I am my kids mom
My children are lucky to have their mother taking care of them, not a stranger. I work my butt of taking care of my kids and have made many sacrifices to be able to live this life of working PT and being a full time mother. I know that I am my kids mom.
I know that it must be hard for you to look at your kids and tell them that you don't want them to be with you everyday. The sacrifices could be made.
Thank God you have no kids. NM
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How much can you get done with 2 kids?
I haven't done transcription for a few years and would like to get back in. My question is--if you don't mind me asking--how many lines a week can you get done with kids? Is 1000 reasonable or way out there? I have 5 kids, but 3 of them will be in school during the day and the other two nap...any advice?
For kids
Tacos, as son to work and daughter off too, and me and hubby home made wedding soup, ummm ummm good, and sweet italian sausage on hard rolls, not stale, just good.
28 WF, M, 2 kids. nm
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Kids come first for both of us, then each other, I don't think I'd want a man who
and catering to me constantly. I like the fact that he does all the cooking, and most of the grocery shopping and gets me things I like w/o me having to ask him to buy them. I do the same for him. We don't get much alone time but enjoy what time we do get together. My man does a lot other men don't but doesn't act like a doormat either.
Same here... kids come first, then each other. sm
Our kids are still at home, and the kids come first. I've seen lots of other parents who put themselves/each other first, and the kids always seem to be second thoughts to them. That's not how it works in our family. We're all equally important, but the kids' needs come first. If I only have $30 and we all need shoes, the kids get them first. I wouldn't have it any other way.
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We have three kids.
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DH does his own. So do the kids.
I used to have Mount Everest on the basement floor every single day and then I just got fed up and stopped doing laundry except for my own and household items, i.e., towels, etc. Half of the pile was clean stuff that I had folded and put in the kids' rooms that they just put back in the pile when they "cleaned" their rooms.
It took them a while to adjust, but the youngest was 8 and the older ones were 12 and 17 and I left their stuff in the mountain until they realized that they couild actually work the washing machine AND the dryer. They also know if they put the washer on the extra small cycle for only one pair of pants, one shirt, one pair of socks and one pair of underwear for themselves, and I actually find it, it gets hauled out of the washer and thrown back on the pile wet.
And don't even think about not scraping AND rinsing your plate. You won't get fed.
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yep and even KIDS..........nm
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How many kids do you have?
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My kids are now in their mid-20's and
we always had them save their money. I'd give them $20 of their paychecks and put the rest in high-interest CD's for them.
My son recently used the money from his childhood savings as a downpayment on his house.
My daughter is using hers to pay off her student loans from college.
They are now very responsible savers/investors.
Teach them young. It's a great learning experience that can be applied to the rest of their lives.
We pay our kids...
to watch the baby, but it works like this. They are 14 and 16 and the "baby" is 4. They watch her for more than 2 hours, they get $6 an hour. Those first 2 hours are considered just being part of our family.
It would be the end of it for me. Not something I would want as an example for the kids, either.
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Do you have kids?
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Your kids will be gone before you know it.
sound like an experienced MT and I'm sure if something happens to the job you have, you can find another one with no problem. And there are ALWAYS hospital jobs open. When the time comes that you need it, a job will be there. Don't stress out over it and enjoy the time you have with your family. That time goes by so fast. We really are lucky or blessed or whatever you want to call it to be able to do what so many people would love to do - bring in some income and still stay home with our families. MT has served me well over the years. I never tried to work with little babies or toddlers, but have ever since they got a little older. AND - so many kids are own their own between the time that school is out when a parent gets home. I saw my kids' friends through middle school and high school just run wild after school, cause there was no one to know they weren't home or to even care. I realize my kids would have been running with them if I had been at work - and I'm glad I was at home!
I have kids to think about
I'm a single mom. No way am I dragging my kids around the country constantly for any job.
Yes, I do just like most have kids but
I used to work in an office and do not let them or others interfere with my working. It is called teaching your kids, I believe. Same works for all outsiders I know. Oh, for your info, I mostly was telling the person above how to save on costs (they mentioned about how much more it cost working from home, things you can take off on taxes and the like. I saw nothing wrong with it myself. Did you get up on the wrong side of the bed this morning?
Sorry kids?! You are QA?
What do YOUR kids have to do
Not everyone chose this career in order to stay home with their kids. I know I didn't, and I worked inhouse first. I liked the job and mastered it outside the home; then took the opportunty to work at home once I was a good MT, and I'm sure I'm not the only one. Don't assume everyone joined this profession merely to sit home with a bunch of rugrats. Some of us actually consider it a career, vs an alternative to paying a sitter, or a supplement to hubby's income. So leave the hubby and kids out of it, many MTs don't have either.
Use the kids for an example...
If you have kids, they do that yearly testing and the classrooms always send out a printed sheet to make sure your child is psychologically and physically ready for the test.
I don't remember all of the tips, but one was to make sure you've had plenty of rest the night before and to eat a good breakfast so being hungry or having low blood sugar at test time doesn't interfere with your processing abilities.
Not a lot, but I think those are 2 pretty good tips. Nothing can be as distracting as an empty tummy or being amped up on adrenaline from lack of sleep or being tired from a sudden drop in blood sugar.
I'm going to tell you just as I always told my daughter. Just do your best, no one can expect any more nor any less from you.
Good luck to you!
You could do it with kids
I have 3 kids at home all day long while I work. I don't recommend MT though. MT34+ is right...its not what it used to be. I'm thinking about medical billing/coding myself. I think they make a little more too, although I would like to work in a hospital to do it.
I did it before I had kids so that when I did (sm)
have them I could stay home. I thought it would be better for me to be established in this field. I have 2 more years and my youngest will be starting school. I have been in this business since 1996. So, in that sense it has been good to us, because I was able to raise my children and not send them to a daycare, which was my dream.
My kids. sm
After my husband died, I wanted to move out of the city and work from home in order to be there for my 3 boys. I was working for a law firm, and I did not like it.
I took an at-home course and moved south. I volunteered at a hospital for 8 weeks in the MT department, and they offered me a job after 6 weeks. I moonlighted to get clients so when JCAHO came in, I got laid off, but I had clients by then. The great thing was that during the night there had been blizzard that came through. I could literally cross the yard and be at the hospital to work, but I was at home enjoying the beauty of the snow.
My kids are grown now, and I feel so lost. The money in MT is drying up, with EMRs and national companies entering the scene. I'm afraid I didn't keep up or at least learn to work for national companies sooner. Now I'm trying to figure out what to do from here. I'm greatful I'm working and being at home, but now I make less than $1000. I used to pull in about $3000 a month.
Went to school for computer repair, but it was not a course to prepare me for A+ certification. Waiting to start a mentor program for acute care transcription.
Sorry for the long post. I'm hopeful things will change, but it's really testing what I'm made of.
The kids are going to bug you any time you're
not focused solely on them. That's why mommies never get to go potty by themselves, talk on the phone, go shopping, read a book, or any of those other fun things that we used to do before children. You're going to need to concentrate on medical billing as much as medical transcription. Plus, I don't know that there's really as much of a market for it. I tried to get into it before I got into MT, but those ads are often bigger scams than the other work at home ads. A lot of the hospitals and clinics don't use medical billing services because it's all been automated through their computer system.
The transcription will get better when your kids get older. If your kids are interrupting you that much, what about hiring a neighborhood teen to "babysit" or entertain them for a few hours? You can pay a younger teen less since you'll be there anyway. Work while the kids are asleep.
Kids at home?
Do your kids stay at home and how old are they? I have three, one that is 9, 4, and 1, and it is becoming increasingly difficult to type this summer. I am considering a sitter once school starts, so I will be all aone during the day. What do you do?
My thoughts exactly. Thank God I don't have kids! nm
LOL!!
Now that was romantic. No wonder you have no kids.
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