Maybe you need to reconsider this relationship.
Posted By: Oh, golly on 2005-07-14
In Reply to: Please help with "discussion" with boyfriend (argument) - Ms. Emotion
What you have described has many elements of an abusive relationship. He blames you for everything. He becomes angry at you for no reason. He withdraws from you. He accuses you of lying. You're walking around on eggshells trying to cater to his "moods". He never takes any responsibility for problems. This cannot be a rewarding relationship for you. You are obviously a very loyal and caring person. You deserve to be treated better. You deserve a relationship with someone who will return your affection and will treat you with respect. You might at least want to consider getting out of this relationship for awhile, until your current boyfriend takes some initiative himself to get help. I don't think anything you say or do will have an effect; he will need to determine for himself that he needs to change. Otherwise, he'll just keep blaming you. Please take care of yourself.
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Yes, if you have a good relationship, obviously - sm
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Definite relationship here...
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with my supervisor. Like I said, neither the MTSO or our MAJOR client have converted to it yet, so maybe we won't.
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We were both married before to the types that needed to make themselves and their controlling families top priority and neither of us could ever figure out why they did that.
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I agree here. He may have developed a new relationship on the side. Sorry. nm
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Isn't it an "at will" relationship, meaning that no cause is needed at all?
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..usually reading that either party can end the relationship at any time, but yours may be dif
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This sounds like my kind of relationship! No great expectations and you can relax
I always have a fear of disappointing people. It has caused me to isolate myself...
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