Lost my dad in October...still crying every day...could use some help (sm)
Posted By: wimt on 2006-03-27
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I just feel like I don't know what to do anymore. I'm 43 and lost my dad (78) back in October. I miss him so much. I still have times every single day when it hits me. A little memory will come back, and I'll just have the punch in the stomach feeling. I'll type something in a report that will remind me of those final weeks and just feel sick. Just now, I was just going along, doing my work, and out of the blue I remembered how he always had to take his pills with yogurt or applesauce, and I could just picture him, and I started crying again. We moved out of my home state 7 years ago, but before that I worked with my dad, just the two of us, for 13 years in his printing business. He would call me nearly every day, still, whenever he had a problem or needed help with a computer issue or something. Sometimes I'd get irritated because after not working on some of the stuff for years, I couldn't really remember some of these things. Now, I'd give anything for one of those phone calls.
Anyway, I normally wouldn't post this kind of thing, and I know there is an Emotions/Depression board, but there is more activity here and I'm feeling like I need some advice from those that have been there. I don't really talk to my husband about it too much. I usually have these times during the day or late at night when I'm alone. I just try to keep it pretty much to myself. Our neighbor lost his wife back in July and he is over here pretty often. He still is having a rough time, and my husband has made comments about how it's probably harder when it's your spouse. In a way, it made me feel like maybe I'm letting this go on too long? I have my dad's pictures by me and I wonder if maybe I shouldn't because they too make me cry. I guess I just don't know. I just know that every day I just miss him so much and have to stop and cry and I don't know if I need to go see somebody, or this is going to get better and pass, or what.
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