Loss of father

• Lost my dad in October...still crying every day...could use some help (sm) - wimt
  • loss of dad - Penny
  • Lost Dad - CRC
  • Sorry for your loss...see msg - MT20+
  • I think you are handling it fine - see msg - idmt
  • Loss of father - Dixie@DRC
  • Grieving - desertbloom
  • Dad - Jbrown
  • Honey, that's your DADDY, and you mourn in whatever way is YOURS. - (sm)
  • keep him in your heart - Frustrated
  • loss - texan
  • He's not gone - nowarrants
    • No, it doesn't sound crazy at all. - txmt
  • I lost my brother 17 years ago and still cry every day. - Sorrowful Sibling
  • Thank you to each and every one of you...and to the moderators - wimt
  • From the sounds of it grief counseling may be in order -sm - Laura E.
  • My condolences to you and your family. I lost - Just me
  • I totally can relate and it does happen and will for awhile. - Nyer
  • Lost my dad and a grandson in within a day - Carly d
  • I lost my dad last year too.....sm - I so feel for you!!!
  • See inside for message.... - AzMT
  • I'm so sorry. Here are my thoughts. - SM
  • I am so sorry - missing mine 2
  • My deepest sympathy to you on the loss of - your Dad - SM
  • your dad - tdf
  • Missing your dad.... - I am so sorry!
  • My condolences on the loss of your - Listenup
    • SM - I'm sorry for your loss

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My father signed up there but they wanted him to pay $2000 for food. I think it was for some kind of power bar or granola bar and they wanted him to buy $2000 worth. He said he did not want to buy them but they charged his card the $2000 anyway. Needless to say, he immediately withdrew his membership.

He went to Weight Watchers and so far, so good.

was in many ways a man before his time... My parents' marriage started out very traditional with my dad earning all the money and my mother at home having and caring for the babies.  However, my dad was the type who LOVED babies and little ones and would come home and feed or sit up all night with a sick child.  Slowly, the tables began to turn.  He encouraged my mom to get an education and she eventually began working (as an MT I might add) when I was about 12 (I was the baby).  By the time I was 19 of 20 my father was laid off at age 58 and my mother had become a department supervisor and made all the money.  My mother had private accounts and actually taught my father to transcribe, which he did until he died about 12 years later.  He did the paperwork and billing and delivering too.  That made him feel useful.  He would shop and cook and do the laundry and have dinner ready for my mom when she got home from work.  Talk about a complete 180 degree in a marriage.  My father was not perfect, but he was steady and dependable and you always knew that he loved you.  My husband is very much the same.

***  I just knew someone would have to be negative.  Everyone, everywhere has something negative to say about most anything.  I, quite frankly, enjoy life.  Guess what?  I even laugh at "women" jokes!!!!  I know my father, who died 35 years ago, would have found this very funny.  My brother is laughing with me now.  My son, who is a Marine, will have to wait until his return home to see it but, unlike some people, he does have a sense of humor and will enjoy it as it was meant to be. 

Do you ever watch any comedies on television or anything like that??  It is quite common to see "man versus woman" schtick" (spelling?) all the time.  Seems it has not been banned due to "political incorrectness".  Anyway, I certainly did not mean to offend you; that I stated before I actually wrote the 15 pieces of advice.  Thank you. 

what are you going to do

He was extremely happy to be off the dialysis and looked quite a bit healthier for a span of time (kidneys do things the plastic tubing just can't), but he only lived an extra 3 years and had to take lots of antirejection meds in the meantime, was in and out of the hospital a lot.

I agree with the person who posted below about talking to a physician about the downsides. Find out exactly what quality of life most transplant recipients have and how many extra years most of them receive. This is a big decision. It will change your life and probably in ways you can't fathom yet.

Wish I could give you better answers. It's so hard to watch people we love suffer.

of my life.  He worked and worked and worked, and worked some more.  When he came home he sat, read the paper, watched TV and fell asleep in his recliner.  He NEVER told me he loved me until he was in advanced stages of Alzheimer's disease.   We did not get along at all and my mother always said we were so much alike that we clashed, but I don't agree with that at all.   My father was not a bad father, just wasn't a good one.   I am #4 out of 5 and I always felt I was the only one he didn't love, though I don't know he really knew how to love and probably did the best he knew how - wasn't good enough though. 

My DH on the other hand is everything my father wasn't.  

My father has been at a federal prison camp for a little over a year now.  He's been sent to a local hospital six times due to heart troubles.  Before going in he had two heart attacks, stents placed, treatment for prostate cancer.  He's now also having trouble with his kidneys.  We are at our wit's end trying to get him home on house arrest.  It was a money/bribery charge (federal).  No prior record.  Can any one PLEASE help? 

 thanks

     I too loss my father at the end of September. I think you are handling it fine but grief is differant for everyone. So I thought I would just post a small note about what has helpped me. I do not look at it as my father is gone. For me, he has merely graduated to a differant plane of existance. This plane of existance allowes his spirit the freedome from his failing corporial body, so that now instead of being able to visit occasionally, he is with me all the time. He is no longer in pain, and all those little memories are his way af saying I am still here with you, watching over you. I still talk to him and ask his advice and guidance, and usually if I am very quiet.. I can hear what he would say. Perhaps it is just my imagination or perhaps it is really his spirit making conatact. Either way it gives me comfort and makes the loss a little less painful. I hope this helps you in your time of grief. My best wishes to you.

I have a Beagle that I took in a short time ago.  He came from a shelter and has had some medical problems.  Although I have never been in your situation, your post made my eyes tear up.  Pets do become such an important part of your family and you love them so very much.  Just know that you have ended the suffering of your beloved pet and a better place is to come.

God bless!

When I was in the military, one of our docs read an OB ultrasound on an anencephalic fetus. He didn't bother to pick up the phone and call the OB, and somehow either the report didn't reach the OB or it didn't get read. In any case, the initial ultrasound was when the woman was in the first trimester, and it wasn't until she was well into her second trimester and had a second ultrasound that her OB became aware of the situation.

I don't know what happened with her - whether she carried it to term or not, but obviously it could not live outside the womb. And if she had found out during her first trimester, it would have been a lot easier on her physically, if not emotionally.

I had never liked that particular doctor. He always seemed like he became a doctor because of the money, not because he wanted to help people. After the incident described above, I disliked him even more.

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