Look! I have relatives in CA who come to USA
Posted By: for healthcare because Soc. med. stinks there.nm on 2009-06-16
In Reply to: Wake up. - BamBam
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My New York relatives used to rag on me:
and say when I visited, "She's from Massatoothetts where they thay 'Pahk the cah in Havaad Yaad.' " (Note: My relatives have no teeth, hence the lisp.)
Cue the banjo's.
I think relatives are the worst ones sometimes--sm
I had to really spell it out for my mom a year or so back, to stop calling me three times a day and telling me to *take a break* because she did not like to see me work so hard. I really hated to hurt her feelings, but that was the only way to get the point across. I HAVE to work hard, to get money to live on...no one else is going to do it for me. So, I totally know what you mean!. Sorry mom, but you just didn't understand...
I have relatives in Port St. Lucie and....sm
they used to live in Miami, but lost everything to Hurricaine Andrew. Now that they're in Port St. Lucie they have learned from the "Andrew" mistakes and for Wilma made sure they had plenty of food, water and gas for the generator that they bought. They knew they should have gone to a shelter but during Andrew the official shelter they were in had its roof blown off and they sat there wet and cold for hours until the storm blew over and decided to not do that route again. They knew with Wilma that they risked having their home destroyed while in it but made that choice.
They did sustain damage to the house with Wilma but aren't waiting and insisting that the government bail them out. They had already talked to a contractor before the storm and had him lined up and ready to come out after the storm was over so they didn't have to wait on long waiting lists. These aren't rich people - my aunt is a retired school teacher and my uncle has been disabled for many years. They're just smart enough to realize that if you live in an area that is prone to severe storms that you have to be prepared or not whine and expect the government to bail you out.
The people in Louisiana knew days ahead of time that they should get out of town and they didn't. It didn't help that the Mayor there basically blew the situation off until after the fact and then decided the federal goverment should have done what he should have done in the beginning - made arrangements for people to get the heck away from there if they didn't have travel means. Instead he transported people to shelters that were right in the midst of the storm and then cried to the world that the government purposefully caused people to die. Gimme a break. IF anyone is guilty of that it's him because he didn't take the appropriate actions which were even outlined in the New Orleans City official disaster plan.
Living in Georgia and in a "tornado alley" part of the state I know my odds are that my house could get demolished by a twister. When a severe storm arises I high-tail it to the basement. Since we also get remnants of hurricaines at times, ice storms, etc. I always have enough food and water to last for several days in the basement, along with plenty of candles and batteries. I also have lots of logs for the fire place to cover winter storms.
You don't have to be rich to prepare for a disaster.... just smart about it and plan ahead of time. If you live in a coastal state then buy that hurricaine insurance and don't whimper that we need to buy you a new house if you don't have insurance and your home gets destroyed. I have homeowner's insurance but if my house were to burn down and I didn't have insurance would it be the government's responsibility to build me a new one? No.
I definitely think its best to avoid relatives this year.
I'll join you for a toast on Thanksgiving? The idea of being alone during the holidays still sucks, but its a change from the strain of being with relatives, and a first. Might be kinda nice I guess.
With an air card your relatives don't need a router.
An air card pulls the signal from the air similar to a cell signal. It is a type of internet the same as cable or DSL. What you are needing is WiFi capability, to connect to an existing network. If they don't already had a network setup maybe they have high-speed internet and you can just hook your computer to the modem, at least long enough to download.
If relatives only have one computer they wouldn't need a router unless their computer was a laptop and they wanted to work in other rooms of the house.
Well, I think you hubby should have told them no in the first place and the relatives (m)
should have had enough respect to understand and NOT come. Or they could have offered to come for the weekend and take over your duties (cleaning, cooking, watching kids, etc.) so you could go off by yourself and study. I'm sorry you didn't pass and by one point, is really a rip. Cheer up! :-)
When I go back East to visit relatives
I am shocked that some things are a lot cheaper and briefly consider a move, but I adore the weather here. I also don't get why they send all the good veggies/fruits back there and we get left with the icky ones (unless you go to a farmer's market - which is what I try to do). Maybe the good ones survive the trip better and they figure we can deal with the shopworn ones locally.
In Canada, my relatives waited months for an
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I don't know how you can take off for weeks at a time with all your close relatives and go to Aruba
and not be wealthy. Could you? Indefinitely? You and your husband? And her husband said they may buy a house there if necessary because the mother is not going home w/o Natalee. So assuming that resort island property is not cheap, they can afford to buy a house in Aruba? Can you?
toxic friends/relatives--ADMINISTRATOR PLEASE EXPLAIN
Mine is my mother. She is an extremely angry woman, and I honestly think, her seeing me happy, makes her dislike me even more. When I go to visit, which is not often anymore, she sarcastically says "yay look whos here" and does not have anything nice to say to me. She is usually drunk or on drugs so she falls asleep when I try to talk to her, and she criticizes my every decision and points out the things about myself that I hate. One thing, is that i'm not good with people, and she has to remind me of this on a daily basis, like when I tell her i'm going to start school or take classes she will say "but youre not good with people, I bet youre nervous" or snide remarks to that effect. She criticizes how I look, how I do my hair, what I wear, just about everything. When I leave there, for the next couple of days, I feel very angry, my self esteem feels as low as it did when I was a kid, and i'm just sick. I know she is my "mother" but its affecting me so much that I think I would have a better life if I distanced myself and not let her be so involved where it would affect me. Wondering if anyone had to make this painful decision with someone close to them. I'm changing and she is stuck in this bitter hate the world phase, where she has always been. 
I beg your pardon. I have elderly relatives in nursing homes who are constantly in and out of
hospitals. The elderly especially need our reports to be ACCURATE, as nobody gives a hoot to "talk" about them, let alone doctors getting to actually know and remember patients. EVERYTHING about their acute care in hospitals is taken FROM THE PAPER MEDICAL RECORD, and also when they get bumped back to the nursing home. The caretakers take ALL info from the transfer sheet. Reality check for those who need help most - elderly who cannot rattle off their histories themselves.
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