Jodi, a lot of mean people come on here...
Posted By: MTPockets on 2006-02-09
In Reply to: Jodi, where are you? - MTPockets
Please don't let that keep you from talking to the people who genuinely care about you and are praying for you and your kids. Ignore the trolls. Some people are just mean for no reason. They are not very happy people and don't want to see anyone do well. You know there are an awful lot of us who DO care about and wish you only the best. Please let us know that you are okay at least. You are still in my thoughts and prayers every day. 
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Jodi
just keep on hanging in there! There may be rough waters ahead but you can and will make it! It's been 10 yrs for me now and I can not say it was easy but it was so empowering to have peace in my life for myself and my children. They are doing so much better without the evil in their lives
Jodi
Hooray! Wonderful news. Will keep you and kids in my prayers.
Jodi, where are you?
Hey Jodi, we haven't heard from you since the weekend. We are worried. Is everything okay?
Hey Jodi
Glad to hear you are doing well. I am sorry to hear you got caught by someone on the board who should have kept their venom to themselves. You know what they say though, there really is at least one in every crowd. Haven’t heard from mine since Saturday, but I took great delight in informing him that I had changed my phone number and that he did not need the new one. Seems he will be getting a dose of reality in the very near future, I checked the bank account earlier and he had already written over $800 in checks, but only put $300 in, so at that rate it won’t be too long before they start bouncing. Oh well, as long as he’s happy right? A couple of close friends and I are planning a girls night out for the weekend, we are all in various stages of divorce, but one of them is having a particularly hard time with hers, so we thought it might be good to get out for awhile. I know you have kids, but is there anyone that could watch them, even for a couple of hours, when you’re ready, so you can get out with friends (or even just by yourself for that matter) and have some time to yourself? Got to get back to work now, but do check in and let us know how things are going for you, and don’t let the trolls get to you, take them for what they are, hateful and bitter, with nothing better to do with their time but try to make everyone else as unhappy as they are.
Yea! You rock, Jodi
All of these posts are SO encouraging. I would never recognize you as "bawling my eyes out" - you took the plunge and I can virtually see you getting stronger every day!! I am so happy that you found your power. I just wish you could move closer to your family. But your MT community "family" is always here for you.
We are so proud of you!!
That was fast for you Jodi!
My ex kept playing games,scheduled the pick-up over 11 times, each time the police had to be here and set up in advance, so they were not happy at all. Realtor called the judge because the house showing did not do well with a 2 car garage packed with all his junk.
Judge finally "ordered" him to show up on a date SHE chose and if he did not, then his stuff (including his furniture) would be picked up by a local battered womens shelter and the Salvation Army!
7 months post exist he showed up with some help but the cops who had previously sat around waiting for him also showed up off an on (besides the 2 there to protect me) and did some subtle irritating
Keep reaching for that star Jodi, it will all work out for you. You've taken the most important step in gaining control of YOUR life again and freedom with security is sweet!
Not attacking Jodi, just you!
You asked the question about your husband's condition. You did nothing once you got advice. You came back and asked a second time if it was something you could wait out. You asked this to a MT board who are not doctors. You got several responses about how you should take him to a doctor. You were upset because people were telling you to take him to the ER and you didn't have the money or whatever. You came back and called people crazy for telling you to take him to the doctor and left a mad face at the end! That is the way I see it, tell me if I am wrong, but that seemed kinda crazy of YOU!
Hooray for Jodi!! You are SO MUCH STRONGER
...than you were last week. I am SO happy to see that. I am glad that you came here for our support. I wrote you a nice long e-mail in your original chain and was so worried about you. I see with each additional posting that you are growing stronger and stronger!!!! I sure like to think it was all the support we gave you here. You deserve so much better than what was happening to you. I am so happy for you!!
"I am woman...hear me ROAR!" You rock, Jodi! Please keep us updated, okay. You know you are in a lot of prayers. ((((hugs))))
Good going Jodi and I will pray......and...sm
let him call it the projects......when I left mine, my thought was *living in the gutter is better than living with him*....and I saved myself and my daughter (our daughter) and became my own Hero - so KUDOS to you, lady!!!! My prayers are with you....but sounds like you're doing fine and remaining strong. What you said about what would be self-destructive to you at this point was right on target, sounds like...... so may I applaud your strengths?!?!?!?!      
a little word of warning on his stuff Jodi
Knowing me ex for the 25 year pre-exit, I had cataloged every little thing and put a copy in his stuff.
Sure enough, in court his lawyer tried to say that I had not given him everything, kept a lot of his expensive tools, etc!
It is he says/she says but just stick to your guns and tell the truth that he did take it all.
Hey Jodi!! Glad you posted! I am praying
for you and proud of you. You are right on track about not moving to be closer to him. And if he tries to argue, always remember to use the reasoning that its the KIDS who are first - its not you versus him. So, the kids should not move closer to him, but rather the other way around!! He has to be sure everything he does is for THEM not him. Though he'll argue that they need to see their daddy - thus why they should move - its psycho warfare, and HE needs to accommodate them. Period! Someday you will look back on this period of your life and hopefully laugh, or at least smile and see what a great decision it was and how worth it for the kids AND you!
Jodi, you feel free to post whenever you want to and if you see something
ugly posted, you just email me directly and I'll deal with it. I am intolerant of people being mean on this site. I can be reached at admin@mtstars.com.
On an episode of Dr. Phil I saw just the other day, he said that children have a hard enough time living outside of a broken home, but should never have to live INSIDE of a broken home. Wise words, in my opinion. I, personally, think you did the right thing and as long as you are taking care of your children and have a decent roof over their heads, he really can't do much. Like you said, if he wants to partake in your children's upbringing then he can come to see them. Unless you moved closer to your parents or siblings then you should probably sit tight where you are since you have a home church and people there who you can talk to. Also, there are very caring people who post here regularly, so please don't give up on this site just because of a bad apple.
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Jodi Lebodi ... did you ever find anything about the Smash diet? sm
I thought it was the same as the Take Control Diet book Dr. Smith had out, but apparently no ... a totally new book is coming out.
I'm tired of waiting ... dug out an old copy of the Scarsdale Diet ... look out Chastity and Kelly ... I may beat you! lol
Tonight ... it says Jeff checks into rehab ... good thing ... poor guy.
if you live among trashy people, low income people, people w/o goals or direction,
content to just get by, you by default become a part of a group. "people" have decided to group trailer people as trash. that is because there are enough people in that group to earn the title and even if you aren't trash, you are categorized by others. did i think i was trash in lower class neighborhood surrounded by people who drank and fought all weekend? no but i knew i wasn't staying and did not try to pretend that all the fools in the neighborhood were just nice folks who ended up where they were because high horse snobs deemed their neighborhood low class. people for the most part live exactly where they belong because they don't want to educate themselves, they don't mind "trash" around them and they don't want to be bothered trying just a bit hard to extract themselves from that world. they justify everything to themselves i guess saying everyone who doesn't like their lifestyle is a snob and the comedians (Jeff Foxworthy/Chris Rock, etc) who make fun of them are just ill-informed.
As for me, I fought hard to get out and don't even want to look back. It amazes me people stay for generations.
so many people was wishy-washy nowadays...love to see people make
a stand for what they believe in...
it is kind of wierd those statements have to be made in the first place but guess we are an ever-transitioning country and are still young. so many different beliefs yet not much tolerance.
I found your post respectful, and right on as to how you feel. it does not seem that difficult to sift through to read and respond to messages someone might not care for...
Just remember that it is not the people on this board who short changed their people and ONLY after
caught did they (after they were suied) make an effort to look good by sending out these checks. Now, think about this--had they done this many years ago when they short changed everyone, that would have been honest. Does it not bother you that only after they know they are under the gun that they are doing this to try and make themselves look good?
I used to work for MQ and I used to like what I did. I never can say I really liked the people that I worked with, but I really think they had some of the best accounts that I have ever come across in the MT industry. I loved working the major teaching hospitals that I did, but that certainly does not mean that I enjoyed being cheated out of pay.
So chill already. People have been cheated, were lied to, and only AFTER they got caught have they tried to return some of the money they robbed us of (as well as cheated their clients).
We all have reasons not to be happy with this company and you go off on us because we are complaining of things like small refund checks of a penny or a few cents or a few hundred dollars and NO WAY to even check to find out if this is correct?
I am sorry you are unhappy all of us thinking that there is still a dead rat in the cellar, but there is still a dead rat in the cellar and nothing will bring the dead rat back.
I would hold no love for a company that I know willingly cheated the very people who helped THEM make money out of their hard-earned money.
Go take a deep breath and think about that.
My people skills are just fine. I just want to hire people who want to work.
I've not been ugly, I've asked questions, legitimate ones. Please tell me what is wrong with that. This site is not just for MTs, it is for QA Editors, Supervisors, Service Owners, there's even sections for Billers, Coders, and Nurses.
rude people? I would take good pay over polite people any day
Besides that they have never been rude to me and I have been here for almost 2 years. What do you consider a bad account?
I know my account is a little tough, but I am used to it. I am tough!
Rude people? I hardly think so. They are some of the nicest people I have ever worked with. sm
Not just management, but QA as well. No one is rude. They are a very understanding staff. There is one account that is hard but all it takes is getting used to it. Once you are used to it, it is no harder than any other ESL account that you would do anyplace else. I have heard all these things about TH from the archives and I have yet to come across rudeness or any kind of thing that I have read about in the archives. I would definitely pursue them if I were you. I think you will be pleasantly surprised.
2 people to do that amount of work, is she nuts? More like 20+ people - nm
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Certain people getting raises, certain people not. Guess who is?
Say what you will about unions, the good and the bad. But, one thing they did ensure is a raise, good benefits and that you would have a job in the morning.
Yeah right, OF COURSE! How could there be other people who don't like QA people?
Could only be one. Hahaha. Dream on.
I agree, some people will never get it but, then again, what does it say about them as people? Not
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I don't like people
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Just so happens there ARE some people who
CAN really produce and NOT cherrypick. GEESH.
Problems come from working with stinky attitudes like yours.
The people....
Did you ever think that what you take as politeness might just be their poor language skills?
Why don't you go over to India and live for awhile - they have half of our MT jobs so you should be able to find work (Healthscribe, Medware). Then, tell us how polite they are.
People are people - just because they live in another culture doesn't make them any better than us or any worse than us. It is the job, working with the public, that wears people down eventually. It is particularly easy to be rude over the phone.
There are people who don't know better, there are people
who need to be at home for whatever reason, a chronic illness, kids, caregiver to sick parents, etc. Any job is better than no job if you need to eat.
If there were enough decent paying jobs with honest companies no one would work for the low paying, dishonest companies. So far I have turned down jobs with MQ because of their actions, quit a job with SS because it is a lowsy company, I have turned down 2 positions with companies that offshore. Fortunately I got on with a company that paid a decent wage and one that doesn't offshore, though it isn't the great company that it used to be either, but it is a living.
try something most people have a
problem with and your worth increases .. neurology and ophthalmology for instance. Most people are afraid of the eye .. wonderful once it becomes second nature. Oncology is another sought after skill, but takes a lot of work. Also you might contact M-Tec to take their class in neuro or OAK Horizons .. they are both very good.
That people such as yourself
would quit airing your dirty laundry and asking for advise - and then get all pissy when people give their opinion. After all, that is what you were after right? This is MT Stars, this is NOT a military advice column or posting board. When you open yourself up on a public forum, then be prepared for what follows.
Personally, I think anyone who signs up to defend the country and then turns his back on his duty is HEARTLESS.
The military makes your obligations and consequences VERY clear.
Sure some people do need help..(sm)
The below is an e-mail that I got from a lady who lives in Houston. These are her observations only, but it sure does make you think about all of the self-righteous out there who really don't understand another person's hesitation in taking many of the people in to our communities. Some of them come from a whole different kind of mentality.
Well...
I feel sorry for these people - they have lost everything - they have nothing. I blame their own government at least a bit for not evacuating the ones that were too poor or had no way to evacuate.
That being said, it isn't going as well here as the media makes it out to be. Anthony has been down the to the Astrodome as required by the Fire Department, and I went down on Saturday with a friend of mine.
The Astrodome holds around 50,000 people - and there aren't that many evacuees down there. There are bathroom facilities, but these people are squatting on the streets, parking lots, and lawns of places down around the astrodome and leaving behind urine and fecal matter. They are throwing trash wherever they are when they finish with it, and quite a few act like we "owe" them something. I can't tell you how many people were bitching about the MRE's that they were being served.
As high as gas prices are, I will go out of my way not to have to drive by the Astrodome (my RE's office is about 1 mile from the dome). When you stop at a stop light they come up to your car and beg - and knock on the windows. There have even been reports of some jumping in the backs of pickups and even scratching cars and trucks with knives, if you don't give them money.
I know that there are some good people out there, but there are a lot of bad ones too. There are some that were appreciative of the baby formula (breastfeeders - please don't jump on me here) and diapers and coloring books that we were handing out - and some that were bitching about the brand of diapers, the fact that we were only authorized to give out one can of formula per child and that we didn't have a certain kind of bottles. I even had people that refused to take gift cards from Grocery Stores - wanting money instead.
Last night, one of the evacuees was able to score some alcohol somewhere, got drunk and carjacked a car and ran into several parked cars - the police were able to pull him over after a 15 minute chase.
And I can't get over the smell of raw sewage in the area of town that most of the evacuees are housed. The plumbing in the toilets are working just fine - but they aren't using it. They are trashing the place.
I can't imagine what it must be like for them, having nothing but the clothes on their backs - but I think I would be more appreciative of whatever someone could do for me, instead of griping about what kind of bottles they were giving me to feed my kids with, and that the MRE's were cold.
I really have mixed emotions about the whole thing. I feel sorry for the people who couldn't leave, and got stuck in the chaos. I don't have as much sympathy for the ones who could have left, but didn't want to.
I am sure I sound like a cold, callous, b****, but I was absolutely amazed at the attitude of most of the evacuees that I was in contact with on Saturday.
Some people believe anything
Evacuees are NOT trashing the Astrodome! You people choose to believe anything. There are enough cameras around the Dome to show how residents are reacting. Security is very tight and strict there right now! As far as "sorry people" that were evacuated, you do NOT know their situation NOR their minds and hearts. My brother was one of the evacuees. He was a student at the New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary. He lived in Orleans parish just blocks from Ward 9. Most of Ward 9 are very poor people, handicapped and disabled, and yes there are some drug addicts and lawbreakers there. But I bet if you would look in your own neighborhood you would find them there yourself! Some people, if you could crawl out of your own self-righteous world, do not choose to be in the financial shape they are in. Let's see here, I live in NE Mississippi and people's financial status in this community is very poor. Why? Is it because we have women having babies at 15 and no daddies and no desire to better theirselves? NO! It's because our lovely government signed NAFTA and allowed all our manufacturing jobs to be taken away. So what happens to the people? They fall in the cracks!
Back to New Orleans. Let me tell you all about the wanting certain things to be donated. A evacuee does not EVEN get to choose what they want. How assinine of you! Do you think they just sit on the streets and wait for handouts? NO! They have to get passes to even leave the Astrodome or any other shelter. It is the Red Cross that is not taking clothing donations and asking for particular donations. My brother went to the Red Cross to get assistance and was told unless they were living in a shelter, they could not help them at this time. Where is the justice in that? We took clothing to the shelter here in MS and was told to take it back home because they didn't have the time to sort through it. They said that was the job of the Salvation Army. ALSO, our area churches wanted to adopt families and take care of them. Out of 300 families, 50 were given homes to stay in. Last Thursday, we were told by the Red Cross unless we could take them all, we could have none! It had to be the evacuee to approach us and ask, they would not allow us to come in and get families because they said it would only stir up strife. The Red Cross needs some serious reorganization! They have infuriated me!!!
So before you get on your high and pious throne discrediting ANYONE, why don't you come on down here in our area and just try living in the situations that are going on right now. Life is very difficult for most of those people. They have lost all of their livelihood and have no hope for the moment. It's only when loving, kind people with caliber that you do not seem to possess, try to help those that are less fortunate!
BECAUSE OF PEOPLE LIKE YOU
I get the garbage every darn day. You people bite the big one and not well.
BECAUSE OF PEOPLE LIKE YOU
I get the garbage every darn day. You people bite the big one and not well.
Why are you trying to tell people
what to say? If you would look at the start of the post, MQLOVER was trying to help. People were coming down on her and she became defensive, rightfully so.
Why are you using other people's
initials. You don't use my initials just because you are replyig to me. Use your own name. You confuse people by doing this. Why are you doing this? Are you new to this board?
Look, people,
I am saying I have missed her and other people on this board. It is extremely sincere. xx oo
exactly what would you like to have done? People would need to know what they were (sm
walking out for.
Wow, some people
are really dumb. It kind of is a shame. How are we getting screwed more with the new plan? Your logic is coming from a tiny mind. Please, leave MQ. You are the MT that is giving the other MTs a bad name. Go work for MT Tards. I bet you will get a job there hands down.
Why is it that people in this....sm
industry get upset when pay scales aren't posted in ads when with most jobs pay scales aren't posted for any industry?
Please don't put people down sm
There are lots of us with college degrees who are doing MT'ing and that most certaily does not require a college degree. My first husband had a college degree and made his living as an electrician; one son has a college degree and makes his living as a plumber (both cases that's where the money was). There may be a lot of reasons why an individual doesn't have the opportunity to obtain a college degree and it isn't necessarily because they aren't college material.
Some people are using
Dragon Naturally Speaking to redictate reports instead of typing them.
People like this...
haunted me all my growing up years and made me feel like I was an evil, worthless human being at the age of 12 - so I tried to hang myself. It almost worked but my mom ripped off the rope as I was passing out. That was 30 years ago and I still have to hear garbage like this. Haven't we evolved as a species in all these centuries to be at least a little bit more enlightened on the subject of sexual orientation? Reading this thread today has been a very depressing experience for me, but all too familiar. Isn't there enough hate in the world these days to go around for you people? And like someone else say, I pray none of your children are gay or any of your family members - they would sure have a tough road ahead of them.
I know several people...
No. 1, many times labs can be wrong on these tests, I saw a special about that on TV once telling about the numerous erroneous reports on Pap smears.
No. 2. I have known a handful of people (my sister included) who had Pap smears come back abnormal, many times just infection, and they do repeat Paps about every 3-6 months for a while and follow. So far, none of these have had a malignancy.
The majority of Paps are NOT malignant, so try not to worry too much. I know it is easy to say when I'm not the one with the abnormal Pap smear, but I hope this helps some. Hang in there. I'll be praying for ya!
a lot of people do
It's like one-stop shopping, just have everything done at one place with the same doctor. Some PCPs will do OB services, too.
SHe already got the RO. She already had people
and I'm serious about the cyber stalking thing - THAT is NO joke! Neither is putting too much personal information in a public forum under the conditions she has described and continues to post in greater detail. I do feel sorry for her situation, but hey, when I was in her situation, the last thing I did was post everything in public for the guy to find a way to harass me. I had people I could turn to but I relied on myself, went homeless for a while, kept my job and made it through. Her situation is not a joke. The way she is handling it in public isn't in her best interest and that isn't a joke.
Aw, how very sad, people can be so
no, not always...some people NEVER get it...nm
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Most people.....
Do you think you have common sense? Because your statement is just plain stupid.
Many people just look, and after seeing
the details provided, they can tell it's not what they are looking for. But by all means, do searches for transcription services, perhaps those in your State, and send resumes to those that don't advertise heavily. Then when they get your resume it won't be one in a pile of 500.
Up With People!
I think your problem (and it is a problem) is either one of two things. Either you possibly are on the cusp of agoraphobia (you say you do get out but it sounds like it's on a very limited basis and the circumstances and the people you meet are very predictable and controllable), or it could just be a matter of you needing to re-enter the big world and broaden your horizons. You do seem to know that there is an issue here, and all you have to do is work on getting back into the interactive world loop. You have isolated yourself for so long, that you need to head back in full force. Just jump in, feel annoyed for awhile, and then feel less and less annoyed because you keep challenging yourself once you're out there. Got to LOTS of different kinds of events -- sporting (even little league at games where you don't know anyone), shopping, everything. You'll be just fine if you keep persisting. I won't even wish you good luck, 'cuz I know you can do it. Your social skills are just VERY VERY rusty, and you need company of other humans, like you, to be the oil can on your Tin Man rusty joints. 
WOW - you people have really, really came through for me...sm
What some great advice and some different takes on what I have heard from my family -which we don't want to go there...lol....Every single bit of information that has been provided, I am taking!!! ALL OF IT! Thank you, from the bottom of my heart to each and every one of you! I feel like I have people on my side, friends I should say, out there willing to listen and help. I hope I can do the same in return one day. Again, "THANK YOU!"
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