Jodi
Posted By: MQ'r on 2006-02-02
In Reply to: Everything is okay. - Jodi - Starting Over.
just keep on hanging in there! There may be rough waters ahead but you can and will make it! It's been 10 yrs for me now and I can not say it was easy but it was so empowering to have peace in my life for myself and my children. They are doing so much better without the evil in their lives
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Jodi
Hooray! Wonderful news. Will keep you and kids in my prayers.
Jodi, where are you?
Hey Jodi, we haven't heard from you since the weekend. We are worried. Is everything okay?
Hey Jodi
Glad to hear you are doing well. I am sorry to hear you got caught by someone on the board who should have kept their venom to themselves. You know what they say though, there really is at least one in every crowd. Haven’t heard from mine since Saturday, but I took great delight in informing him that I had changed my phone number and that he did not need the new one. Seems he will be getting a dose of reality in the very near future, I checked the bank account earlier and he had already written over $800 in checks, but only put $300 in, so at that rate it won’t be too long before they start bouncing. Oh well, as long as he’s happy right? A couple of close friends and I are planning a girls night out for the weekend, we are all in various stages of divorce, but one of them is having a particularly hard time with hers, so we thought it might be good to get out for awhile. I know you have kids, but is there anyone that could watch them, even for a couple of hours, when you’re ready, so you can get out with friends (or even just by yourself for that matter) and have some time to yourself? Got to get back to work now, but do check in and let us know how things are going for you, and don’t let the trolls get to you, take them for what they are, hateful and bitter, with nothing better to do with their time but try to make everyone else as unhappy as they are.
Yea! You rock, Jodi
All of these posts are SO encouraging. I would never recognize you as "bawling my eyes out" - you took the plunge and I can virtually see you getting stronger every day!! I am so happy that you found your power. I just wish you could move closer to your family. But your MT community "family" is always here for you.
We are so proud of you!!
That was fast for you Jodi!
My ex kept playing games,scheduled the pick-up over 11 times, each time the police had to be here and set up in advance, so they were not happy at all. Realtor called the judge because the house showing did not do well with a 2 car garage packed with all his junk.
Judge finally "ordered" him to show up on a date SHE chose and if he did not, then his stuff (including his furniture) would be picked up by a local battered womens shelter and the Salvation Army!
7 months post exist he showed up with some help but the cops who had previously sat around waiting for him also showed up off an on (besides the 2 there to protect me) and did some subtle irritating
Keep reaching for that star Jodi, it will all work out for you. You've taken the most important step in gaining control of YOUR life again and freedom with security is sweet!
Jodi, a lot of mean people come on here...
Please don't let that keep you from talking to the people who genuinely care about you and are praying for you and your kids. Ignore the trolls. Some people are just mean for no reason. They are not very happy people and don't want to see anyone do well. You know there are an awful lot of us who DO care about and wish you only the best. Please let us know that you are okay at least. You are still in my thoughts and prayers every day. 
Not attacking Jodi, just you!
You asked the question about your husband's condition. You did nothing once you got advice. You came back and asked a second time if it was something you could wait out. You asked this to a MT board who are not doctors. You got several responses about how you should take him to a doctor. You were upset because people were telling you to take him to the ER and you didn't have the money or whatever. You came back and called people crazy for telling you to take him to the doctor and left a mad face at the end! That is the way I see it, tell me if I am wrong, but that seemed kinda crazy of YOU!
Hooray for Jodi!! You are SO MUCH STRONGER
...than you were last week. I am SO happy to see that. I am glad that you came here for our support. I wrote you a nice long e-mail in your original chain and was so worried about you. I see with each additional posting that you are growing stronger and stronger!!!! I sure like to think it was all the support we gave you here. You deserve so much better than what was happening to you. I am so happy for you!!
"I am woman...hear me ROAR!" You rock, Jodi! Please keep us updated, okay. You know you are in a lot of prayers. ((((hugs))))
Good going Jodi and I will pray......and...sm
let him call it the projects......when I left mine, my thought was *living in the gutter is better than living with him*....and I saved myself and my daughter (our daughter) and became my own Hero - so KUDOS to you, lady!!!! My prayers are with you....but sounds like you're doing fine and remaining strong. What you said about what would be self-destructive to you at this point was right on target, sounds like...... so may I applaud your strengths?!?!?!?!      
a little word of warning on his stuff Jodi
Knowing me ex for the 25 year pre-exit, I had cataloged every little thing and put a copy in his stuff.
Sure enough, in court his lawyer tried to say that I had not given him everything, kept a lot of his expensive tools, etc!
It is he says/she says but just stick to your guns and tell the truth that he did take it all.
Hey Jodi!! Glad you posted! I am praying
for you and proud of you. You are right on track about not moving to be closer to him. And if he tries to argue, always remember to use the reasoning that its the KIDS who are first - its not you versus him. So, the kids should not move closer to him, but rather the other way around!! He has to be sure everything he does is for THEM not him. Though he'll argue that they need to see their daddy - thus why they should move - its psycho warfare, and HE needs to accommodate them. Period! Someday you will look back on this period of your life and hopefully laugh, or at least smile and see what a great decision it was and how worth it for the kids AND you!
Jodi, you feel free to post whenever you want to and if you see something
ugly posted, you just email me directly and I'll deal with it. I am intolerant of people being mean on this site. I can be reached at admin@mtstars.com.
On an episode of Dr. Phil I saw just the other day, he said that children have a hard enough time living outside of a broken home, but should never have to live INSIDE of a broken home. Wise words, in my opinion. I, personally, think you did the right thing and as long as you are taking care of your children and have a decent roof over their heads, he really can't do much. Like you said, if he wants to partake in your children's upbringing then he can come to see them. Unless you moved closer to your parents or siblings then you should probably sit tight where you are since you have a home church and people there who you can talk to. Also, there are very caring people who post here regularly, so please don't give up on this site just because of a bad apple.
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Jodi Lebodi ... did you ever find anything about the Smash diet? sm
I thought it was the same as the Take Control Diet book Dr. Smith had out, but apparently no ... a totally new book is coming out.
I'm tired of waiting ... dug out an old copy of the Scarsdale Diet ... look out Chastity and Kelly ... I may beat you! lol
Tonight ... it says Jeff checks into rehab ... good thing ... poor guy.
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