Its so amazing to me to read your huge post defending day care!
Posted By: Laurie on 2005-07-20
In Reply to: Not everyone is here to "love" your children. SM - nn
All the positives you post are "family", "family", "family". Its just like family, everyone is so close its just like family, etc. EXACTLY - its your kids real family, cause that's who they are with for the most part, that's who they are BONDING with. The day care is THEIR FAMILY, and you could be the family. The only family, cause you apparently work at home! You just don't get it! So, you put them in day care, and feel so relieved because its a "good" day care, cause its JUST LIKE FAMILY!! Its so ironic that you can't see the travesty of your own words. Well, at least their DAY CARE family wants them: 1. the adults sure do, cause you're paying them $$ to be "family", and 2. the peer group (other kids) sure want them, cause their "real" family has stuck them in day care, too!! I just so wish that some of you would realize the logic of NOT sticking your kids in day care when you COULD have them home with you. Its so sad.
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Thank you for this post. I am weary of defending this line
I'm suddenly a "mom" again at the age of 45 when my daughter got tired of playing mommy and I don't know where she is now. I was one month in with a new company, who has been very supportive of what I'm doing, but it is a lot different since I didn't have 9 months to prepare for it. I'm getting into a routine of working before she gets up, when she naps and at night she does get her Barney and other videos where she is actually learning things BUT, I am losing sleep, I don't feel comfortable letting the TV babysit and I don't have a support network. I'm single, no family.
She will start in a mother's day out program 3 days a week next week and I think I can put together a reasonable schedule until August when she can go 5 days a week, 5 hours a day.
I don't feel guilty for my decision and don't feel "strangers" at daycare will be giving kisses that I should be giving. Why is it that in Europe several generations of a family raise the new ones and everyone in the villages know everyone and help out but not here in the US and then people demean those who use daycare. The support network is different and lacking in this country.
Sorry, I'm weary...going to bed if I can get princess to agree...
I meant it in a good way, and I will not turn this into a huge ugly post.
I am not a "paranoid mass of jelly", for Heaven's sakes! But I have lived thru having neighbor children try to poison my puppies over our fence in similar circumstances - not identical, but similar. These same kids used to stuff picked flowers in my mailbox, and I never knew how to take it. I just asked that she be extra cautious. Obviously you ladies have been blessed with not being confronted in life with strange "encounters" like this - I have, and have tried to learn from it. There used to be no more trusting person than myself. I have learned, though, to be cautious in situations like this - not paranoid, just cautious. Wisdom, some would call it? For what its worth, my sister is a psychiatrist, and she thought the flowers creepy as well, but in a different analytical light - with her mother's and sibling(s) death of late, and her expressing that she wanted the puppy killed, to my sister, she said they could be symbolic of flowers on a grave. Not paranoid - she's nearly 60 years old and deals with school-aged kids on a daily basis. Her "job", so to speak. Again, probably a 100% innocent gesture, but to those of us who have had encounters with the "children from H*ll", it could be eery. My post was meant out of genuine concern for Puppy Mom!
Yes, I read your post, and I just re-read it, and I've copied and pasted for you in case
you've forgotten your own words! Your post above is 100% different "flavor" to it, now all positive and cheery! Your first post was 100% doom and gloom every which way, including "raining on your parade", and "if you want to go forward"...God, sounds like she's talking about jumping into oncoming traffic! Here is your quote:
My first boss (the one who hired me as a new grad) gave me some words of wisdom that I haven't forgotten. She said that transcribing at home with small children NEVER works under any circumstance. Either the work will suffer or the parenting will suffer.
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How can the word "NEVER" in caps be interpreted in any positive way? You took about 8 paragraphs to cover every aspect and completely dash this poor woman's dream. I'm not blind, I'm not talking about day care at all, I'm talking about the total negativity of your original post! You know exactly what I'm talking about, cause you added some sugar to your second version! And that's much nicer than the first!
please read if you care about animals....
A friend of mine gave me a video about 4 years ago about factory farming and the fur trade and where our meat supply comes from. Please to to Farm Sanctuary on the web for videos, books, more info. But that video turned me into a vegetarian that moment! I have always loved animals, but some reason never made the connection. They feel pain like we do. They are thinking beings as well and know when they are going to slaughter. Each vegetarian saves 80 ANIMALS A YEAR. It is appalling the way these animals are treated not to mention the chemicals and food they are fattened up with during their short lives... this is going into YOUR food chain. Sorry to get on my soap box... but I feel very passionately about this cause. If you are interested, please research it further. The videos are extremely hard to watch, but that's the point --- it wakes you up! Harm no thing. Thanks for reading. Please don't bother blasting me if you disagree. It is my opinion. It will not change. You do not have to agree.
do you care? why? i don't want to read one extra e-mail from MQ i don't have to. EVER.
and the revolving door of supervisors, managers, CEOs makes me even more adamant against introductory e-mails or more propaganda from the latest CEO/manager/director/supervisor
Unfortunately most docs don't care; they don't even read the reports most of the time.
It's OUR job to comply with quality standards.
My last post!!! To all of you MTs who are so against day care. SM
You can bash day care all you want, but I have to say that unless you are with your kids at home not having to work, but giving them one-on-one attention, you are not being fair to your child either. I think day care is a lesser of the two evils. You are allowing your child a learning experience. My kids are not being "raised" by the people at day care. But they are picking up valuable experience and learning essential social skills. I think this is better than watching their mommy work all day and being left by themselves to play. You cannot honestly say that you do not neglect your children while you are at all working all day FT.
PT is a different story. I guess it is possible to work around their schedule and I believe an hour or two a day of keeping them occupied on their own is fine.
My kids have made such great friends at day care and they think of day care as a horrible place. They think of it as a place where they can play with their friends while their mommy gets her work done. Of course, my kids are only in day care for the time it takes me to finish my work and I wake up very early to get half of it done, so I can spend more time with them.
But I am more comfortable knowing that they are at a place where they are interacting with other people and having fun, rather than home with me working, not able to give them the attention that they need.
I also have to say this. I was never in day care. My mom didnt have to work. I was very shy and never was I forced to come out of my shell. I had to repeat Kindergarten because I was not ready for it. I struggled through school because I was shy and I hated the interaction. I hated being called on for a question. I hated having to do oral reports. Even to this day, I hate having to work in an office with all the office politics, which is probably why I was so interested in working from home.
I can see that my oldest daughter is shy and I could imagine that we would struggle the same way through school as I did. But now that she is in daycare, although it took some time, she is very friendly and interacts with everyone great. She starts Kindergarten this September and I am not even worried because I know she is going to do so incredibly well. She is definitely ready. As I said her day care is more of a school setting. They learn a lot there!!!! If she didnt have this experience I dont think she would have even been accepted into kindergarten this year.
OK, I'll post specifics, even if they see it. I don't care any more.
Low work volume so shuffled from account to account with different specs in a short period of time. I used to complain about one former job putting me on three accounts in less than three weeks. Try three accounts in one week. Time-consuming setup of patient demographic information. Zero QA feedback, nothing, nada, zilcho. I don't know if I'm doing anything right or not. Ranting emails sent to everyone about "we're going to lose the account" unless you do this or that.
No its NOT rude! You are defending that you don't need to
OBVIOUSLY you do - in 5 words, you spelled one wrong! And on the subject line! So, you disprove your own point - you, yourself, make careless errors that your eyes don't pick up on typing the keystrokes! You're rude for not even admitting your own shortcomings - that you're a human!
I'm not defending their mistakes whether
by intention or accident. That was not in my post whatsoever, so learn to read.
What I said is true -- and the posts above just proved it. It doesn't matter if they owe you money or not, you're going to gripe about it. There's nothing anyone can do to change the past. They found a discrepancy, no matter how or why, and they are righting it by sending the money that is owed. That is the RIGHT THING TO DO...it is also the LEGAL thing to do.
You were po'd because you felt cheated on your pay so you griped. Now you're getting that discrepancy paid to you, so you gripe. You gripe because they didn't make changes. Now they are and people are still griping.
The whole start of my post was directed at the idiot who was complaining over the letter - the letter announcing upcoming changes, whining because it didn't include SEs (in her severely compromised comprehension). I responded to that.
I didn't say anything about defending their actions other than they are making a wrong right by paying money that is owed. They are legally obligated to do so. And no one is relieved about it regardless.
I'm saying what many of us feel and that is if you don't like MQ GET OUT. If you aren't leaving, SHUT UP. It's a good thing we work remotely -- the pathetic pitiful peons who can do nothing but drag their hind end around on the ground whining, "look what happened to me" don't seem capable of saying, "Hey, I'm not going to take that. I'm outta here. I don't think you're treating me fair so adios MQ." Instead, they have to just continually lurch around with their bellyaching and griping and try to keep everyone feeling like they do. They LOVE to feel upset. Makes 'em feel justified in some sick way. Justified perhaps because they're not able to do anything else maybe. Who knows why? Who cares? I don't.
I'm tired of hearing the griping about a situation you're doing nada about. Shut up and do your work -- maybe you'd have some MONEY in the bank then. Otherwise, ship your worthless self out to sea and find new populations of people to cry to.
As for your "...it is not the people on this board who short-changed their people..." remark...you are WRONG. By continuing with a company that they believe is doing them wrong, they are short-changing themselves and their families -- their kids, their husbands, their relatives, their friends. EVERYONE. You have a responsibility to not be poor, provide for your family ADEQUATELY and BE HAPPY. When you don't take care of that situation at work and feel that way, it bleeds over into your life every other way. I bet you people are a JOY to live with. What a horrible negative environment to live in.
I usually let this crap on this board roll off my back. It's usually good for a few laughs. I'm not angry but rather tired. Tired of having to wade through the mires of people who have imprisoned themselves. If MQ did you wrong, GET OUT. If any of these companies did you wrong, GET OUT.
I would be ashamed to sit here and constantly gripe about the same problems over and over and never take action and change it for myself. How handicap is that?
Lately, coming here is like jumping into what appears to be a nice cool lake to enjoy a good relaxing swim only to get out and find there's hordes of blood-sucking leeches on you. It's really pathetic and it's that way because you won't get over what has happened.
Well, guess what? IT HAS. Whatever made all the pay issues happen -- IT HAPPENED. You can't change it. It won't go away. GET OVER YOUR SITUATION. GET OVER YOURSELF. You're not the only people in the world with problems.
Absolutely the biggest group of losers I've seen in a long time. Losers -- Losers every one because you REFUSE, not just fail - which we all do, but REFUSE to get up and get past these problems.
Get over yourselves. This is a great line of work and there are some great companies. MQ is one of them - for MANY of us. If this work isn't paying you enough to live then guess what?! IT ISN'T FOR YOU unless you like to live hungry!!
I agree that everyone has a different experience but you know what? You seem all too familiar now with MQ at least and you are still there -- voluntarily. No one makes you stay.
If you're tired of defending yourself for being so upset about MQ, why don't YOU go start yourself a board somewhere?
I don't believe this board was designed with MQ-haters in mind, was it? No.
So, excuse me, but YOURS isn't the ONLY attitude around! I don't care if you like what I'm saying or not! I have just as much reason and rightness in what I am saying as you do.
Hope you people sleep happy in your little tight little drawn-up world!! I can tell you without any hesitation that I have no problems sleeping and no problems making my bills and no problems going to work because I don't have the attitude you do!
Good night, little ones! Sleep tight!!
Not defending companies at all, but
they hire for when they need coverage.
Did you read my post?
First of all there was tear gas canisters thrown by the guardsmen into the crowds and they were thrown back at the guardsmen. That is documented in articles, (look on line) and by first hand eye witnesses that were there.
Anyway, my post was not about what exactly went on at Kent State. I was using that as an example of how your child could go to college and find themselves in a position of danger. Serial killers, rapists, what have you. It was in response to a post about how Natalee went to Aruba and found trouble but that probably wouldnt be likely at a college. OKAY????? I never said people didnt have the right to protest or that war was good OR that the gov was responsible or not.
I am all for protesting and exercising our rights as private citizens of this free country. But somewhere along the way from my original post, someone got off on a completely different subject. this was about natalee.
Did you even READ my post?
It's been a great, lucrative career for me. I've loved it from the start and still do. I've mentored and encouraged many along the way. I'm a QA specialist, college instructor and a consultant. I'll exceed 50K this year and have a very flexible schedule. No weekends, no evenings, and take off when I want. Additionally, I've been at home with my kids all this time. I've worked my way to the top and I'm good at what I do. No gloom and doom here. The point I made (that you somehow missed) was that times have changed. It's much more difficult than it used to be and sometimes it's nearly impossible to get a break. I'll repeat myself--I work for a private college. We trained many great MTs. We were FORCED to drop our program because of job market for new graduates is so poor. It's not too difficult to place a graduate in an in-house position (I teach in a large metropolitan area), but few women enter this profession with working in-house as their goal. Tuition at a private college (students could earn a certificate or an associate's degree) is very, very expenstive. No, you don't HAVE to spend thousands and thousands, but many students do. Then when they graduate, many are faced with harsh reality. I'm not SPECULATING on this; I've seen it happen time and time again.
The daycare issue is a personal choice and has been argued into the ground. We all know it's difficult for an MT to be productive and accurate with a 2-year-old whining in our ear. Some of us make it work; others can't. Making an informed decision requires hearing stories from ALL sides.
Oh my!! I think we should all NOT read the new post at the top! Looks like another
flamer to me! Now its gonna spin into birth control issues and world over population! I'm not mad at anyone! I am happy! Please be happy, too!! I will try warm milk, but just in about 6 hours when I'm hitting the hay!
Are you the OP? Yes, I read your post.
I didn't even say anything about "correcting their wrong crap." (Nice structure, by the way.)
The question was "Why go to MT School." I answered it.
1. It gives you more flexibility/choices in employment.
2. You learn relevant aspects of medical terminology. I didn't learn "perineal" vs. "peroneal" in K-12, nor did I learn that 125 mg of Synthroid is an incorrect dose.
3. You get experience in hearing what was said and transcribing it accurately. Many MTs lacking an adequate MT education have difficulty separating "what they hear" from "what they said."
I read your post below, thank you and....
As for above I should say people do need "protein" in their diet, NOT meat, especially not like this. I've also been trying to slowly get it out of my diet the past few years and after seeing the images, knowing and hearing those sounds I don't think I could physically eat it. Its unbelievable to me. We need people like you out there spreading the word, these animals have no voice so they need us. Do you know if putting pressure on them by PETA has brought about any changes??
Do you have ADD? Did you read my post? sm
I have work now that pays me well and it's more than 10 cents a line (which is considered an "excellent line rate.") I do not need to "start my own company."
However, if some companies can charge 18 to 20 cpl (which I have read on this board), why can't they pay quality MTs more than they pay newbies?
This is a MUST READ post, the 20 yr exp...etc. nm
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Of course I read your post.
I can comprehend that you are a WEE bit prone to exaggeration and apparently it is making your life miserable. If you look through this website you will quickly see that many posts do not concern MQ.
My take on this is that right now there are many more MQ posts because of the looming change in our jobs/status/benefits and it's got many of us worried.
If you want an edited MT forum to your liking I suggest you open your own site. Otherwise live and let live, please.
when I read your post...
I get angry that as transcriptionists we have somehow found ourselves in a no-win situation. There should be no reason you are having to work yourself to death to learn a new job. Only in our profession does one NOT get paid to learn. Any other job you go to, you are paid while training for the job...no matter how much you know the work, places are different and everyone has to learn the routine. And in transcription, this can be VERY, VERY hard to learn a new company and all their account specifics, rules and guidelines and systems! I feel for you. I understand your feelings about your son. I raised my son alone on my sole salary and worked from sun up to sundown ... but I did stop long enough in between to take care of him. I went to ballgames, I went to school functions, I helped with homework and projects, etc. and when he went to bed at night, I started working again.... well into the night. It was not easy, but I got to be with my son and participate in his school and curricular activities while he was growing up. I would not take ANYTHING for that time and wish I had more of it now. I did what I had to do. Thank goodness in your situation, you have a husband who can share some of this responsibility with you. It's a matter of prioritizing... and it's not easy. It means giving up certain things. I sacrificed a lot over the years .. I don't drive fancy cars, I don't live in a fancy house and I have a very functional wardrobe. I don't compare myself to others. I find that I am much happier than others I work around now who have all those things. My son is much more well adjusted than many of their children also.I am very blessed. We have our children for such a short time, it's not until we get older that we realize exactly how precious every single minute of it was! I wish for you the best and hope you can make the right decision for you and your family. May God Bless you.
I did read the post
I think she means the virtual money that the MTSO would be pocketing if they had no QA. The money they would not need to be paying to QA if all of their MTs were "up to par" and did their jobs, or the "reality" of a company needing fewer QA personnel when they have more MTs that need less/no QA.
Do you really think that MTs who send work to QA to save themselves time rather than looking it up and finding it on their own deserve to be paid the same as the MTs who take pride in their work and ensure quality work is sent in by them rather than having someone else complete the job?
Wow! I have read every post, actually, all day. While
I did truly feel sorry for you, by night's end I am honestly thinking that you are needing to step back and calm down. This morning you were more "owning" your part in it - that you were late several times, had warnings, etc - by now you are going on and on about contacting the doctor, about some other lady who did so, yadda, yadda. I feel your pain - been there done that - most of us old MTs have, but you need to calm down, still own your part, and be rational. If you want to freak and contact the doctor, then just do it, but I believe every single one of us who posted have advised against it, and given you valid reasons to support our opinions. You ASKED for opinions - that's why you are posting, so though you don't like what I have to say, it is my right as well. Again, your tone has done a huge turn around from your original post, and I can now honestly say I empathize with the MTSO who does not want to keep communicating with you, whether via email or IM. It happens - we get fired. Why not look at it that she gave you another week to earn some $$ - I don't know. Again, you admitted your part in this earlier, and you have been advised many times how unprofessional it is for you to contact HER clients. You did NOT work for the doctor(s) - you worked for the MTSO, like it or not. And never believe what some other fired MT tells you she/he did - I don't know 1 single doctor who would give a hoot about a fired MT, nor who would want to get involved with a 10 foot pole. That's why the doctors use MTSOs - they don't want the bother. So while you may think you are going to get sympathy, and/or revenge, it will most likely backfire on you. Good night! Its late, and I am out of here!
You should read your own post over again...
You were the one who attacked me and yes, I got on here for support and advice so I came looking for it. I am not saying that I am going to contact the doctor, only that I feel that angry to do it. I have had my own accounts before, typing directly for doctors, I know what that is like. I have also helped other MT's to try to learn the business and for you to get on here and post that I am obsessed and that you are passing judgment without even konwing a person, wow, you have some problems. This forum is for support and yes, opinions too. Why don't you quit worrying about how many times I am posting? I can post as many times as I would like, on any board that will allow posting. By the way, doctors don't just use MTSO's, there are also doctors who use MT's and have contracts with them. Not all of them hire big companies, I think there are still a few MT's around who have their own accounts. I know I did. I wanted the opportunity to not have to drive around and print and have my work more readily available, so I decided to work for an MTSO. Excuse me for not getting my work in on time a few times, due to a storm or two knocking out my power, a sick child to take to the doctor, a death in the family. Whatever the case may be, let me bow down to the MTSO and beg for forgiveness, is that what you want? I have stated my situation here and you have turned it into your own power trip. What a shame. Who asked for the MTSO to KEEP communicating anyway? They never communicated to begin with!! Would you feel upset if your paycheck were taken away? I guess not. Maybe you have a lot of friends you can call or family you can talk to and get support from. Excuse me for looking for some fellow MT's for venting. Sorry to have upset you!! Are you an MT? I highly doubt it.
Please read ALL of my post
I stated that I intend to work as an MT in the evenings and do real estate during the day.
read my above post....you are right...sm
You nailed it....and to Itsy Bitsy's post.....if this woman does something horrible to herself, it's not the OP's fault. Seems to me her neighbor has a long history of this crud......this manipulation, this attention seeking behavior.
So, if something horrible does happen....to the OP - not your responsibility, not your fault - do not take her problems on your shoulders. We are neighbors, there to help.....but not with the bogus. I'm not saying the neighbor doesn't have head/emotional problems, I'm merely saying her problems DO NOT BELONG TO THE OP......you, JD.
Go on about your life and live it to the fullest. We are not responsible for neighbor's who cannot pull it together and it's interesting that she can pull it together to go on a *fancy cruise* - so it seems to me her problems are used SELECTIVELY by her.
*steps off soapbox*
Read the post!
She said she was behind on her mortage. 
Unless she's got a very low mortgage, I seriously doubt holding a garage sale and making $500.00 is going to make a dent. She probably needs to talk to her mortgage lender. They have all types of programs now a days for people behind in the mortage to help them get caught up so they won't lose their home. The last thing a mortgage lender wants is a foreclosure on their hands!
At first, when I read your post...
I thought maybe you were overreacting but now I'm not so sure. I guess I would play it cool for now but I don't get why your husband wouldn't give you this woman's number? And why would this woman need your husband's cell phone number? To get a hold of his friend? How would your husband be better able to get of him than she would? And, why is he hanging out with this so-called friend who's involving you both in this situation? That is no friend. I say dump the chump. You know too much already, and it could only get worse. Believe me, I've been there.
Read the post below.
Take your own advice. How much of a mea culpa do you expect? You don't have to make someone feel bad to make yourself look good.
I read the whole post sm
You tried to make me feel back in your original post. Practice what you preach. You could have said what you said in a different way.
Read the post again - I think it said
huh, make a loan from someone to tide her over. I think that falls under advice.
Where to post....please read.
We seem to have a lot of new posters, which is great. Welcome everyone! We also seem to be needing to move a lot of posts so others don't have to wade through them all. So, below is a general outline of where to post what.
Main: Questions/comments regarding MT work.
Gab: Things to chat about, games to play, etc.
Company: Questions/comments regarding specific companies.
Medquist: Posts pertaining to MQ or between MQ employees.
Word: Help with terminology, words, s/l.
That about covers the main ones. Keep in mind, it's always best to post on the correct board because when we move the post, you may lose some good responses.
If you have any questions, please don't hesitate to ask.
I think you'd better re-read my post
who doesn't get it. I specifically stated I feel for those who are in a situation where they simply can't make enough money to even just live. I also stated, I don't have new vehicles and sometimes don't get to buy what I'd like because I don't have the money.
What I didn't put in was the fact that we just lost our house and the bulk of our posessions to a catatastrophe, so I do know what it's like for things to happen. You're scathing post was out of line. How dare YOU judge ME? 
Do you even READ before you post??? (sm)
The OP CLEARLY states that she has applied "SO many places" in her post.
Do you even take the time to freaking READ people's posts before you fire off those rancid pearls of wisdom???
Geez, people like you are what's wrong with society today...a complete lack of compassion or empathy for anyone other than yourself.
Maybe one day you'll be in the OPs shoes. With any luck, those who reply will offer you just about the same amount of sympathy, decency and basic courtesy you offer others - NONE.
You know, I read your post...
I am also an IC that works from a pool. I have two accounts on my own. Part of being an IC is the flexibility.
I would say dig in early in the a.m. if that's when you are most productive. If the kids have a question, then lend an ear but if it is a matter of you having to leave your workstation for whatever reason, then either tell them to find an alternative this minute or you'll be able to take them at such and such a time.
Here's what happens when you go from what you are currently doing to trying to work a schedule, you can't stay focused. You are so used to the interruptions that once it's quiet, it's hard to stay focused.
I am feeling ya' and a lot of people will post here that you should only be working and not doing other things, but "other things" are part of life and what makes working at home "work." A little play on words there, but I think you get the idea.
I get hugs from my 8 year old and questions from my 14 year old and quite frankly sometimes I don't know if the 14 year old is inside or out, but he's so used to me being here, that I know he's fine and making the right decisions. 
I think you should read the post again..
"And now doesn't want to pay."
OP never stated that they didn't want to pay. You really jump to conclusions. She has not worked with this physician before. It most likely was a simple mistake. Why jump straight to the idea that they are expecting her to work for free or will "burn" her? Do you really believe that this office will now go around and "tell everyone that Lisa works for free?" Do you really believe that? There is a difference between working for free and giving someone the benefit of the doubt when most likely they made an honest mistake. And, no, it has nothing to do with being a doormat. Here is that definition: One that submits without protest to abuse or indignities. Every person who has responded to her post has, at a minimum, suggested that she make it very clear that she will not accept this scenario again -- that would be protest. I'm sorry that you have been burned before, but that's a big stretch at this point in this particular situation.
Don't read this post unless you really want to cry...
... I have a local account, a small one unfortunately (one doctor, short dictations, only sees patients 2 or 2-1/2 days a week) for which I get paid 25 cents a line as an IC.
At my full-time job for a national, I make 8.75 cpl plus benefits.
I make about one-third of my monthly pay on the local account, and I am very glad to have it, because I live in a very high cost of living area, and if I didn't have the local account, I would not be able to survive on what the full-time job pays me.
Going to Hawaii while defending Spheris
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Do you currently post on MT Daily or read it?
I was thinking about paying the $48 but then I thought there are only limited amount of people who will pay so probably not as good as MTStars. It was fun though before they started charging and if they only charged half as much they would draw more people. $48 is way high when other boards are free.
Please read the post at the top of page by
See Msg. You will love it. It has quotes by all your liberal friends. Pass it around. 
Sorry, I vented above before I read your post. nm
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I think YOU NEED TO SLOW DOWN AND RE-READ THE POST .
Cherry picking is being done by the ROUTERS not you. CALM DOWN!
read the thread. then post.
i'll be editing and tell you what to do next. i hope you listen to me because i will make your life 100% better with my advice. i know everything if only you will listen.
My post was not to you! I know how to read than you very much. It was to MQLOVER
Now, you learn to read and figure out where my post was posted! She/he responded. You apparently cannot figure out who is responding to who!
ok I went back and re-read your post.
You have 2 toddlers who need daycare.
You have a teen (the childsupport)
You have $350 roomie but that + disappears with his costs of living there. and I would be scared to count on it.
You have $9500 CC bill which that payment is probably about $200 a month.
At $42,000 that is not solid money - it is PT monies.
1. Can the BF come up with his probable court-ordered child support of at least $1000 a month?
2. Do you make car payments?
3. How much is your student loan payment - and for how much longer?
4. Do you have a degree in something? Should you stay in transcription?
5. Can you make the house payments if the BF finks out on the child support in 2 years if your 16 yo moves out and gets married and doesn't attend college?
6. You will be at an expensive time in your life with the 1 and 2 YO/ who will then be 3 and 4 years old by then and still needing day care.
7. A house is expensive upkeep. And much energy.
I agree with the others. Don't jump the gun here. Take care of one thing at a time. Get yourself into a situation where you won't be stressed if there comes a blip in the road - like you break your arm - or the car tears up - or you need an emergency root canal - one of the kids breaks a leg and you need to stay home. There are a million things.
I would rent, move BF out, get childsupport started from him to see how that goes, re-look at the budget.
when the FT job comes around, and if you feel it is the one for you and they are good for the money, then look at the house. You must live for you, not the 16 YO.
By then you will have your FT monies coming in, the child support coming in, you will know what your extra income is, you will have all your insurances in place and leave time built up, and a house may be good by then. Also, the market is overvalued right now. They are saying people buying right now may be buying things that won't be worth what they paid for them in a year.
Do you have any family you could stay with at all for 6 months. You need some breathing space, girl.
Again, good luck.
Never mind. Just read your post further down.
Glad to know they gotta go. 
I just re-read my post ROFL !
I am laughing so hard I'm crying. I'm a stickler for misspellings and I typed the word "tole" instead of "told"!!! Am I suthern or wut?? Egad!
I read a post on here recently that one MT
rooms in her house (I think a guest room and office) and moves from room to room with different accounts. If you have the $, I think that would be neat!
Why don't you read the post before you blast it?
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That pic is too distracting, had to read the post twice.(nm)
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Did you read Paulette's post below?
Sorry, I don't think you're going to get sympathy here today. Brace up and good luck honey.
First off, go back and read your post sm
and grade yourself. Start out by paying attention to what needs to be capitalized in your post. I see at least 11 areas. I see a word that should be plural instead of singular. One sentence is not a complete sentence. Maybe you need to go over these sections in your course again. They are generally in the very beginning.
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