It's not just "irresponsible"! Friends of mine, condom failed, they now have a
Posted By: 2nd family to raise. another friend (SM) on 2006-03-14
In Reply to: There are all kinds of ways to prevent - Never have understood this
was on BCP, did not miss a dose, and ended up pregnant... TWICE! Fortunately for them, this was not a tragedy and they are raising their children happily. One of them had to get "fixed" however.
So please don't assume this is ONLY irresponsible behavior! Stuff happens and it happens to middle-aged or older MARRIED people!
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I have 2 middle age couple friends. One couple became pregnant from condom failure.
This is not just "irresponsible" behavior! Both couples are "fixed" now, because for them, reliable birth control was NOT. But it's an error to assume this stuff happens to people who are unmarried or irresponsible. Both these couples are raising 2nd families, now, but it wasn't "irresponsibility" that did them in!
You know "prophylactic" doesn't necessarily mean condom. NM
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I failed to mention
I want to purchase a laptop both for my own use and the fact the company I want to work for does not lease out computers. So, do I still not use a wireless router as the other poster stated also. Forgive me for being in the dark ages,but what is the ethernet cord that I should have? Is that some sort of card for the laptop. I think I remember something about this when inquiring on laptops awhile back, and that most newer ones already have this. Thanks for the help.
They failed to mention
In the rosy outlook for MT positions the editors, who need to correct the work done in 3rd world countries, are only getting paid what the idiots in the 3rd world contries didn't have the knowledge to get right.
once again, you have failed to show me how I am being negative...
Whatever...Obviously, you are too thick-skulled to understand what I am saying...
I tested for a National and also failed. sm
I thought I did well. I transcribed according to the BOS book, but most of my errors were charged because of it. It looks like if I didn't use the BOS book method, I probably would have passed. Who knows? Just don't give up. I took a test with another company and am now working.
I think I failed a national test...
also, but I got a job with a smaller company, a job I much prefer! My accuracy rating is 99% at the company I'm at, so I really think it has to do with the BOS. I am still typing according to the BOS2 and apparently there is a newer one where they've changed a lot of things??
Friends, really miss Friends :-(
Joey just isn't the same for me 
Many MTs have failed tests with 20+ years of experience. sm
It shocks me how incredibly BAD some "experienced" MTs do on those tests. I cringe to think of what they've been typing for years. So, people will claim that they're "all that," and they may well be, but recruiters won't know it unless you prove it.
Also, a resume is occasionally more fiction than fact, which I've seen proved out more than once. Years of op note experience and they can't spell Vicryl. Ayup! Sure thing.
failed skills test for national sm
Hi all. I have been an MT for 10 years and took a skills test for a national and FAILED.
Oh my goodness, talk about a slap in the face! All I know is they require 90% accuracy and apparently I failed that.
It has me questioning my skills at this point. PLEASE tell me others of you have had this problem!
Thanks
I failed to rejoin AAMT aka ADHI four years ago.
Anal retentive MTs are a nightmare. A new group should be comprised of the MTs who have a SENSE OF HUMOR and a SENSE OF THE RIDICULOUS.
just reminded, did you know Einstein failed grade school? His teachers told
Thank god they didn't believe it or the world would have been robbed of one of the greatest minds.
Funny! Mine is almost as large, and I don't mind cleaning mine!
It's no problem at all. Besides, I'll take lots of oodles of square footage any day of the week over living in a sardine can!
what link? You failed to include link
A little help from my *friends*
I have been doing this for 36 years and I have used word expanders and normals for more than 20 years. It sure helps when you are typing *the patient* practically every paragraph. I just type tpt and viola...same with the headings, Review of Systems, etc. Every little bit helps. To those who dont use expanders and normals, just think how much more money you could be making and how less tired and sore you would be at the end of the day. *Long live the expanders*.
friends
My daughter is 20 and I still can't stand her friends...........
friends.
Excellent post. Your kids are lucky to have parents like you and your husband.
One of my friends did that...
for the exact same reason. However, their first ceremony was private, and they did not expect anyone to give them gifts for both weddings. But in your case, I would think a gift for the first wedding would be more helpful to them since they may not have all the things they need for their home together. I certainly would not feel the need to buy for both ceremonies.
have many friends? lol
lololol
Looking for old friends
I have been trying to locate some people form my old High School - Figured with all of you out there someone might know someone and pass this on. I went to Garrett Hign School during 1977 thru 1981.
Sonia Suppan Bugher and Carissa Babson Snyder
Lost track of them many years ago, and there are so many people looking for them now - we were all concerned when they disappeared. Last I heard Carissa was in NC and Sonia in Oklahoma. Tried classmates.com and theya r elisted as "missing" LOL. Who knows maybe they are MT's too.
You are in need of some friends.
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I have friends here in ND who say it too.
And, I grew up with an English teacher for my mother, so I know what you mean. Always corrected but now I have a great grasp of the English language.
I'm not saying I want to be best friends with my supervisor,
I rarely take time off unless its an emergency, in fact its been a couple years, and not too long ago there was an emergency with my health. My supervisor only told me she needed me on working asap, did not inquire about my health, wish me well or to get better. Its just work work work...which seems kind of cold to me.
When I worked for a local office and knew them for years, as for favors, meaning i'll work my fingers to the bone, settle for getting no raises whatsoever, not complain, just give me work that i'm the most proficient at so we both win, like predominantly operative reports or maybe even psych.
friends and family to appreciate me at my job?
I doubt you're getting raises and I doubt you use your money for "others" and you as well are a poor judge of character. This initial post was about supervisors interacting more with their MTs so we can put a face with the name and feel like we have someone in our corner, being that we are so remote from coworkers. Obviously, we disagree, lets agree to do that much. You just sit and type away and collect your paycheck.
Oh, I don't know. I've got way more friends now than ever before.
I know all the parents at the school. It's so funny. When I used to work fulltime outside the home, nobody ever waved to me at the schools and hardly anybody came to the kids' birthday parties. If I had a day off and picked up the kids at the school, I'd watch all the other parents talking together but was never included. Now I'm part of it all. I get invited to go to the gym and do coffee or lunch. It's great! I never had time for any of it before.
Going into medicine. I have 2 MT friends
who are already in medical school. One MT I worked with at a large hospital is now an anesthesiologist making about $300K a year. Hahaha Should I hope to do so well. Hahaha
Know 1 who is a psychotherapist now. Know 1 who got her MBA and works in government contracting and 1 who got his MS and works for JCAHO.
Lots of things to do out there! It's much easier to decide what you want to do now that you're experienced in life and know what the real investments and rewards are. I'd go on to commercial flight school if I weren't going into medicine. I have a private license. Would LOVE to be Lear certified! Would love to fly a medical helicopter. You can get funding for those flight programs, too! Not a traditional classroom setup. If I don't get into med school, I may be doing that! Hahaha
why does she invite the friends?
what if it these 2-3 couples that she invites over do not have family that they can visit during the holidays? that could be why she has them over every holiday.
lost friends
Have you tried Reunion.com?
My best friend in high school found me after ten years recently. He found me on reunion.com, and then found my phone number on superpages.com and contacted me. We had both been looking for each other for ten years, and finally he found me. Good luck!
Or his kids' friends...LOL
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I have plenty of friends...sm
that I know from different places, clubs included, but that doesn't mean that I'm having an affair with any of them...male or female! Before I was married my best friend and I went to a particular club to dance...it was great exercise and more fun than going to a gym. I made several friends there who are strictly friends. We were all single, enjoyed each other's company, and liked to dance...nothing nasty ever went on. In fact, many times my male friends made it easy to shake men whose attention I didn't want. Sometimes people go out just because it is more fun than watching TV. Hubby and I went to the club a couple of weeks ago and I introduced him to people that I knew there. I would hate to think that because I introduced him to people that he would think I'm having an affair. I don't know if I'd be more hurt because he didn't trust me, or because he thought I was dumb enough to take him someplace and introduce him to someone I would have an affair with!
I would also hate to think that my husband would search my cell phone and check the numbers he didn't recognize. My son is in the military and at times his friends have called because they consider me a second mom or are trying to get in touch with my son. Nevermind that just about everyone has had someone call their phone and it has been a wrong number!
If someone gave me a real reason to check up on them, I probably would, but to check up on someone 'just to be sure' is insulting. If someone I care about can't come to me and talk rationally about their fears, then we don't have much of a relationship!
So, you are friends with his wife?
I loved watching his shows...so sad. Hope his family is making it through this okay.
OH... wasn't it! My friends and I were all saying that.
It was like that's all we get after all that anticipation! lol! But it is getting better already. I just love Bailey.
Did you see on Fox & Friends this morning...
or the news in general, that the group from Kansas that has been protesting at soldiers' funerals is coming to PA (that's where I'm from) to protest AT THE FUNERALS because of something Gov. Rendell said about them?
Yay! I have friends! Thanks, I appreciate that. I'm just trying to keep it honest. nm
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I have friends who feel the same way
Not necessarily just MT friends, but in general. Some enjoy the independence of working for themselves. I on the other hand don't think I make a very good boss! I for some reason prefer mostly to be a cog in a machine. I'm glad there is something for everyone. Sometimes trying different ways helps a person figure out what is the best fit for them.
Going fishing at the crick with friends.
Having a BBQ and fireworks with the kids. Then we're having a big birthday party for a couple of people in the family.
For parents, what do you think of your kids' friends?
I am wondering if it's ME or if it's my kids' friends that's the problem. I just can't stand barely any of them. We have little sailors running around cussing, compulsive liars, thieves, two-faced "unfriends", blackmailers, anger management problems, slobs, and perverts running around here. And the violent and graphically disgusting games these kids try to play. Is this everywhere? Or am I just overly sensitive? Parents can't choose their kids' friends because the kids'll rebel against the control, right? I just feel like I can't have anyone over here because I'm constantly correcting them and cleaning up after them. They don't listen worth a darn anyway. I certainly don't want my kids to go to their houses if these kids behave this badly here.
I tried going into details, but this post got so long. I don't think it's our neighborhood either because we have to drive for playdates with some of these kids. What, do we just attract the people with issues? I try to tell myself that these are just kids or perhaps their home life isn't in line with the same value system as we have. I try to be tolerant because some of these kids have had problems in their lives. However, having problems is no excuse for bad behavior. I'm no perfect prude and neither are my kids. We've had our share of problems. I also know I can't "shelter" my kids from the outisde world. But geez, it's just ridiculous. Whatever happened to the days when parents were parents and kids behaved? Children should not be cussing, stealing and telling horrific stories of murder and incest.
To give you an example, one of these little punks even told the whole neighborhood that my husband and I were druggies and dealers. We found out about it when our elderly neighbor came over and told us. We've always been totally against drugs, not even experimenting with them when we were teens. Plus, we both have to go through yearly drug screening tests at work, too. What is with the world today?
Love your handle, Ma of 4 and their friends and
I can relate. I was mom to my kids' friends, too. I swore many time to claim them as dependents on my tax returns. They practically lived at my house.
One of our friends' child just passed away.
What do you do for someone in this situation? I know to send a card and go to the service. I don't think flowers are a good idea because people send so many that it's just a hassle to find somewhere to put them until you have to throw them away. Money, a cooked meal? I spazzed out and didn't know what to say to them except we're here for you. I can't believe I got up this morning griping about my own situation when so many other people have so much that's worse.
Yes. One of my best friends -- she began seeing married men
which was intolerable to me. I tried to look the other way. She wouldn't even try to hide it from me...wanting to talk about it, wanting me to MEET them. I finally just told her that I loved her very much and enjoyed our friendship but that something had changed so drastically for her to believe it is okay to live like this and it was in direct conflict with everything in my life. I just could not support someone who was intentionally pursuing such a hateful, devastating lifestyle. These weren't mistakes. She saw men she wanted and it was a game to her.
It hurt me very much. Many people who didn't know the reasons behind it blamed me for being a horrible person for dumping my best friend.
It was hard not to discuss her lifestyle to defend my actions.
I feel for you.
you ask all your friends to email you rather than call. nm
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I used to work in a clinic, and have friends who do now.
7 years ago I worked in a clinic and lost the job when the clinic joined a larger physician group who outsourced transcription. I went to work for the company they were using then. With that change I almost doubled my income. That MTSO later went out of business. Ironically, now I work for the MTSO who currently has that account. Some of my coworkers with the first company have gone to work for a large clinic in the area who has brought some MT work back in-house. They took a cut in pay but have better benefits and much better hours. I have found that you pretty much have to be in the right place at the right time, or know somebody. The first clinic job I got was when I went to apply at the local hospital and the director at the hospital sent me over to the clinic. Almost all of the opportunities I have gotten over the years have come from knowing someone. Sometimes the best thing to do is to ask around. I know a lot of transcriptionists in the area, and several people who work in clinics in the area. This is where I get most of my leads.
She's now "published in PC Magazine." Who needs friends?
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My daughter's friends call me by my first name
and I dont have a problem with that. It justdepends on the individual. My child calls her friends' moms by their first name and there isn't a problem. To each his own right?
My kids use my closes friends first name, though -sm
I am trying to break them of that and say Mrs. Jones, etc. instead of , let's go see Mary. My daughter has a friend whose mom makes her daughter call her "Maam" (spelling?}. Feel bad for the girl, she will go up to her mom and say "Mom look at this" and her mom will say "Maam", so the kid is "Yes Maam", etc. Needless to say she pours her affection out on her dad. I couldn't imagine addressing my mom as "Maam". The girl has excellent manners though but is a bit shy, but is thriving at school-- I have seen a big difference in her over the last 2 years since she is out from under her mom's thumb all day, but that is another story.
Anybody else have friends/family that act like you don't have a REAL job? sm
Just have to vent a little...
I have several extended family members and friends who give the impression that "just typing" and getting to work from home translates to "waiting for a REAL job to come along." I have tactfully tried to drop the hint that first of all, a Transcriptionist does way more than "just type," and I'm sure make more per hour than any of them, to no avail.
Anybody else noticed this, too?
Yup...friends of ours think I am getting a "free ride"
I guess this means I sit at a computer "pretending" to work and get a "fake" paycheck. In my opinion, I feel that people who make these comments are truly jealous. In my case, they don't see how I can work and tend to my daughter's needs. I take her to pre-school and dance. I'm sorry for those that don't have this luxury, but if you continue getting comments like that, just turn the other way and ignore it. You know you work your tail (and fingers) off for your paycheck just like they do. That's all that matters.
One of my friends in high school had as many
and then she started having them in another state. Apparently, she and her mother believed that abortion was birth control. If your neice does, or if she doesn't have an abortion...she still needs to understand that pregnancy, STDs, AIDS, etc. are all effects of a promiscuous lifestyle. It is not a game and that life inside her is not her own!
It is grow-up time!!
Why not start your own board just for your friends?
I have never cared for the way this whole site is set up. I would rather see a post move to the top when someone posts something new to it because a post can get lost real quick when it doesn't. However, I just frequent a different site that is more suited to my tastes and only stop by here now and again to see what's going on.
If enough of you don't like the new rules (and I certainly understand your complaints), maybe you could look into start a Yahoo group or something. I think it's free (though don't quote me on that!) and that way you could still talk to everyone you like to here but you don't have to worry about the cumbersome rules and how you post and whether a post will be deleted or locked.
Just an idea. :)
Definitely SATC, Friends, and also Six Feet Under.
I still watch SATC reruns every night and I really want the DVD collection, but it costs about $200 for the whole thing. I'd have to say my favorite is Carrie. I didn't always agree with her choices, but I saw more of myself in her than any of the others.
Loved Six Feet Under and I really miss that show, though I am getting into HBO's new show, Big Love.
I actually still watch Seinfeld reruns a lot, too! I do like Julia Louis-Dreyfuss in her new show, The New Adventures of Old Christine.
Take up a collection from family and friends
Even with $10 a person and maybe some groceries or a gift item, it only takes a few people to make a difference.
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