It's an addiction (sm)
Posted By: recovering AA on 2006-04-04
In Reply to: Help, husband problems... - fed up MT
As with any addiction, it won't stop until he first admits he has a problem. Good luck.
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Neither - it's an addiction. nm
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Well, this is a better addiction than that...
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I have the same addiction (sm)
I also am a recovering alcoholic, I smoke, and I eat too much so I believe I have an addictive personality. This is just one more thing to add to my list, I guess.
Hopefully we are the best addiction of all! nm
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addiction???
What about getting on message boards all day long, lol? That could be called an addiction too if you put it like that.
Yes, everyone should be careful on the internet, whether it is on myspace or message boards, instant messaging, chat boards, etc. If people and parents have enough brains to know what they are doing and to keep an eye on their kids, then problems will be kept to a minimum.
I personally use it to find old friends from high school and friends I have made through the years and lost contact with. You won't see 100,000 friends on my list, lol. I think that is pretty dumb.
addiction
You are absolutely right about the addiction. If the person does not want to stop, he/she won't. I have been with my recovering addict/alcoholic husband for 25 years now, clean and sober for 23. When he stopped drinking 23 years ago, I did also. He finally hit bottom, three rehab programs and got it finally, after losing weight and almost died. I knew there was a good person underneath the drugs and alcohol and I was right. It is a long road. My husband stopped seeing his friends and family because none of them understood the disease of addiction. We don't get invited to a lot of parties because we don't drink, but that is okay too because not drinking changes your perspective of things also.
All I can say is hopefully the addicts in your life will finally hit rock bottom, get the program and stick to it, but they need support and love from people around them. They also have to give up old habits, friends they drink with or do drugs with, etc. I tried Al-Anon, but I did not care for it, but I did seek counseling from a private counselor who helped me understand the disease of addiction, how not to be a crutch anymore and that helped me. Good luck. It is a long road, but if they can stop, it will be much better life for all around them.
Yes, so trade one addiction for another?
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Greed is an addiction too. sm
Not all addictions are to intoxicating chemicals. Greed is definitely an addiction. And the hallmark of addiction to anything is that it never satisfies, but just creates a need for more and more. We seem to be living in an age of pure greed. It is unfortunate.
Funny answer *addiction* - LOL.....nm
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HE IS AN ADDICT. Look up the signs of addiction,
about computer addictions. This is a new thing, but TOTALLY an addiction. He is going to have to face the fact that this is an addiction, like an addiction to drugs or porn or gambling. Find and print the sites that list the signs, and put them where he will find them. He has to admit it, or it never ends. My kid is in this hole, and is in therapy, and it is coming to the point that I will have to make the home totally computer free for a while. He has given up personal hygiene, time with friends, all social contacts, school, church, job, everything.
The guy has a big, big problem. You might even consider contacting gambler's anonymous groups, see if they have any contacts for computer addictions. This can be a huge deal, and VERY difficult.
Wow. That's awful. Any addiction can be problematic
It is certainly not to be equated with physical abuse but it is a form of neglect if the game is devouring his every waking minute and taking his attention away from his child. How could you say that playing a video game from the time you arrive home from work until 2-3 in the morning is not a problem? That is the classic sign of an addiction, and even though it is "just a video game," these games can be extremely addicting and addiction almost always leads to bigger problems if it's not nipped in the bud. I think she's doing the right thing by trying to curb this now instead of waiting for it to get even worse.
I don't think it's fair for you to negate her feelings. Since you have been in an abusive relationship before, you should know that addiction can often lead someone to physical abuse as well, whether that addiction is to drugs, booze, porn, or whatever. If a person is addicted and they can't get their fix, they take it out on those around them and sometimes it does escalate to violence.
As someone who as previously abused, I would think you would be greatly interested in seeing that the same does not happen to others and instead would offer up words of encouragement or advice rather than just listing off your experiences and making it seem like no one else's could be anywhere near as important as your own.
In some cases, I think religion is just their latest addiction.
Didn't Stephen Baldwin used to have substance abuse issues? Seems like some of these people just trade in the substance for religion and pursue it with the same enthusiasm.
Where else can you find an addiction that pays by the line?! nm
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Pogo.com for me for games major addiction nm
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