Is there truly a way to get your spouse to....sm
Posted By: Worried out of love... on 2006-03-23
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really help out around the house? I am young, lower 30s, and my husband is too. He is on disability due to a mental health issue that is totally controlled with medication. The problem is he does not help out around the house without me begging or getting mad and then it is just the basics. We are supposed to go to counseling tomorrow, but I feel it is not going to help. Another issue is he is not clean like he used to be. He does not make an effort in his appearance, does not get cleaned up hardly ever, etc. This has impacted my feelings for him a lot and I hate that it has. Sometimes I feel like I am trapped in a place where I don't want to be. When we had first gotten together I could not imagine my life without him. I thought about him all day, couldn't wait to be around him, etc. Now, it is the same 'ole, same 'ole. We have only been married 5 years. We do have a small child and that is the main reason I think I am staying. I have told him time and time again that this is pushing me away, but still nothing changes. I bust my butt every day trying to work and even pick up. I do all of the laundry, do all of the bills, do all of the cooking and most of the cleaning. After all of this, our house is still a disaster area. I am tired. But I want that love back - just unsure if I can ever get it back again. Any advice?
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