Illness/pregnancy
Posted By: TXmt on 2006-06-10
In Reply to: pregnant w/ work questions - cnymt
These are supposed to be treated the same - 12 weeks leave - my mother-in-law got sick last year and when she could not go back to work by the date that the hospital specified (she's a nurse) they terminated her from her job - and she had worked at this place for 20 years. I would seek legal advice on this subject before telling anyone at work.
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Very sad - but obviously an illness.
Nobody would be drinking at that hour of the day for *fun*. I hope instead of throwing the fines at her they make her go for professional help.
Don't know what your illness is, but
wish you could see some of the doctors I work for. My brother and his wife are both doctors and they are both increcible caring. My uncle goes to Africa every year (on his on dime) to do cleft lip and palate surgeries. Maybe you just need to vent but I don't think it is fair to generalize all.
chronic illness
God bless you. I have systemic lupus erythematosus (SLE) and I still work full time, I have a friend diagnosed with multiple sclerosis and she still works full time..Hang in there, honey..You can live with a chronic illness..I have lived with my SLE for 36 years and my friend with multiple sclerosis for 10 years..
kids and illness
I have ttwokids - 22 and 15, my oldest was born with epilepsy and took them 2 years to find out I was not crazy that something was wrong - he would just fall into a come sleep - no convulsion. Now my 15 year old has an episode - his first and when I rush him to the hospital it takes them 3 hours to be convined he was not on drugs - I know they are doing their job, but not all kids are druggies. i tried to give them a family history and they did not listen until 3 hours later when they got the blood tests back - then they did what they should haev done all along and found out his blood pressure was extremly low, and he probably has a mild hert condition to go alond with his respiratory problems he has had from birth. (heart problems run on both sides, and I have a strong family history of epilepsy too.) Why do all doctors feel that when a kid comes in he must have done something - thank goodness the wait did not cause my son more problems.
Depression is an illness. (sm)
Believe it or not, I understand your feelings about just doing your job day after day and not being appreciated. I think most of us can relate to it; I know when I clean the house or do the laundry, nobody seems to notice, but let me get behind, and boy, howdy all of a sudden I get some attention.
But depression is an ILLNESS, not just a lack of get up and go!!! And a person who suffers from it is hard enough on themselves emotionally without having to hear from people who don't understand it how lazy they are and how undeserving of any support they are.
You need to work on some compassion, and if you can't say anything nice, why say anything at all? If you're feeling underappreciated, for heaven's sake DO something about it. Post on the board that you need some sympathy and you'll get it. We're all in the same boat, really!
An illness? More like a character flaw.
We all have choices to make, and the choices we make define our character. She chooses to drink herself into a stupor and drive a car. She could just as easily choose not to do so. It's all the apologists for drunks, the "it's-an-illness-we-must-not-judge-them" brigade that keep sending the dangerous drunks back out on the road. If someone chooses to drink and drive then kills someone, they have chosen to commit murder and should face the same consequences as any murderer.
Sounds like you are the one with mental illness
NM
No, you didn't betray him! That's his illness speaking. Second, does he or did he ever drink?
Some folks with drinking problems obviously are also alcoholics, but they don't have to fit the classic "drunk" stereotype. My husband "cycles" as well, probably from bipolar, which is manic depressive - the happy ups and the mean ugly lows. Men tend to self-medicate with alcohol. Also, when an alcoholic is in an abstinent period, which can even often be self decided, no pressure. The drinker just lays off for a while - that mean cycle is a "dry" alcoholic. The original problems remain - the alcohol isn't there to give them their conceived happy "buzz", so they are mean and nasty as they could be as drunks, yet sober. The only way to defeat depression in anyone is by confronting it head-on and NOT letting up. Otherwise, you're then "enabling" their sickness to continue, etc. Sounds more complicated than it is, but its not! You're doing everything right - get help from everywhere, tell everyone you have to, shine light on his behavior, and HOPEFULLY he will be convicted to get help. Otherwise, I agree with the others - pack your bags and move on. It will NEVER get better. It will get worse over time, but you'll get more numb to it... No way to live! I confronted it with my DH - fought viciously for his life, really, and he's a changed healthy man about 10 years down the road. People CAN change, and seek help, and get well, but they have to be confronted with it. Denial is our worst enemy. Good luck to you. I hope this helps.
If he is on disability for a mental illness, why do you even listen to him? He is nuts. Maybe if h
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OK. Now if your husband is bringing you down by his mental illness and not paying rent
(is husband able to work? how deep is this mental illness? did he have money to pay rent and spent it elsewhere?) then maybe you should think about leaving him rather than placing your kids in any kind of foster care. That has to be traumatic but then so does living on the street. Speaking of placing your children in foster care while you get yourself OK in the head, what is your problem at this point. You see, if there is a lot of arguing and a dysfunctional family living on the streets, then foster care to permanent placement may be better for them. I just don't quite understand how you got into this mess and if these are mental health issues on both your part and your husband's I would look into placing the children. BTW, how old are they?
So all things considered if you don't have any issues other than depression because of a lack of a place to live and your husband's mental health, I would go to a family member or church and BEG for help sorting your life out. If there is more than that going on, including maybe substance abuse along with permanent mental health issues that will keep you from caring for your children, yes I would seek placement for them. And I would seek PERMANENT placement rather than foster care which I would think would be more traumatic for your children.
Both. Choice A "can" put you there, but so can a major illness, accident, fire, etc.
with this economy it is harder and harder to work your way out of poverty no matter what the reason for being there is.
pregnancy
I spotted the entire 24 weeks until my youngest son was born. He had all of the things that come with prematurity, but is now a healthy 11-yr-old. I had a prior C-section and severe endometriosis though. In my case, they called it incompetent cervix. Is this your first pregnancy? If I were you, I'd take the others' advice and try to relax (off your feet) for a couple of days. I hope all turns out well for you.
This is my 2nd pregnancy...sm
My son is about 3-1/2 years old now. PERFECT pregnancy..No complications, no spotting. Everything was perfect. That is why I am so scared this time. I know all pregnancy are not alike. Please pray that everything works out fine. I really, really do appreciate all of the good thoughts and comments.
I will keep you updated on the progress Tuesday.
Pregnancy
Not much advise, just possible congrats if you are pregnant. Those tests were always accurate with me and it seems like it may be saying you are. Maybe wait another day and try another test. Again, sorry I'm not much help. Sending good vibes your way.
Pregnancy
From my experience, with my own pregnancies & patient's pregnancies....the little faint line you are seeing is an indication of a positive pregnancy. The reason for it being so faint is most commonly because you are very newly pregnant (in a stage that most women never even know that they are pregnant yet). The line is faint because it is reflecting the HCG levels in your urine and it has found alittle bit, but not a lot. Thus a faint line appears. In a week or so, expect a much darker line. My guess is that you are probably pregnant and I would just retest in a few days to make sure. Also, keep in mind that not all women are able to get reliable results with the at home tests. Several patients in the past have received negative readings on their at home tests and came into the doctor's office for a serum pregnancy test to find out for sure...Many were pregnant! The HCG hormone doesn't always show up for all women when they use at home tests. Best of luck to you and your family!
After divorce, child chronic illness, involuntary job change, parents illnesses and death, was force
I frequently regret it, the changes it has made to my life, but when life hands you horror, at least there is this "final solution" to your financial situation. I must admit, I sleep better, and I can finally hold my head up, and I no longer feel hopeless. Find the attorney you can work with,get your free consultation and DO WHAT HE TELLS YOU TO DO. If you have doubts, see a 2nd and a 3rd attorney, till you're comfortable with the person you choose.
One way I knew with my last pregnancy...
My breasts were VERY tender...even before I realized my period was late. I stopped at the store on my way home that very night, did the test as soon as I got home, and voila...baby #3 on the way...any symptoms of pregnancy besides being late on your period? That's a good indication of yes or no...good luck! 
Seafood and Pregnancy
No, they shouldn't because of the risk of food poisoning and/or mercury content.
same with tuna and pregnancy......nm
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Try Fact Plus pregnancy test
My OB-GYN used to use these in her office. She said they were the most accurate.
I only used a hand pump for last pregnancy sm
But I WAH and never really left my son. I used an Avent Isis - a really great hand pump.
Now, for working moms, they recommend a dual electric pump - if you are nosy and want to check them out, 2 of them are called Medela Pump In Style and Ameda Purely yours. The electric ones are supposed to (hopefully) get more milk faster, as both sides can let down at the same time. In addition, it cuts down pumping time doing both at once.
I am pregnant again right now and don't plan on going electric if I can help it :) I'd much rather feed right from the tap!
Here's a link for you:
http://store.babycenter.com/category/feeding_nursing/breastfeeding/breast_pumps?stage=
I had similar problem with my first pregnancy.
I had more bleeding than you, but no cramping or any other issues. It was in my first trimester. I can't remember how far along I was, but it was fairly early. Anyway the first thing my OB/GYN asked me was had I had *ex and I had a few hours earlier. She wasn't the least concerned, but of course I was scared to death. She told me not to have any "activity" for a while and I was a cough potato the next day or two just to be safe, but my son is 15 now and I had no similar problems throughout the rest of the pregnancy although I was having "relations." I think she said a hormone in the *perm could cause the bleeding.
Think positive and take it easy. Let us know how it goes.
Positive serum pregnancy
Yes, it happened to me spotting on tissue only for 2 days, son is now almost 20. Doctor first said she did not know if it was a viable pregnancy, told me to go home and take it easy for a week, I did just what she said. Bleeding stopped by the next day. Good luck to you.
I spotted from week 10 through 17 of my second pregnancy. (sm)
My daughter is now almost 10. I'm sure everything will be fine. I will be praying for you.
Positive pregnancy test
Indeed I've had that experience with two months of bleeding/spotting with a positive pregnancy test, the result of which was a lovely 11 lb 9 1/2 oz, 26-inch long baby boy born by natural delivery with a smile on his beautiful face. The lovely boy is now 6'4" inches tall and the love of my life. My prayers go with you for a successful outcome.
YES, if the pregnancy or delivery was complicated...nm
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induced termination of pregnancy - nm
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ITOP-intentional termination of pregnancy
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Has anyone ever had a positive serum pregnancy test and...sm
then started bleeding or spotting without any pain? I had 2 positive urine tests and then started spotting or having a period but not as heavy (only sign of blood was on tissue). I have been doing this for 2 days, so I went to the ER today. Serum test was 154...I have to go back in 2 days in which time they say it should double if everything is okay. Has anyone had experience like this and came out okay?
Yes, I had a period, no joke, for 5 months of pregnancy.
Doc didn't understand, baby was healthy, born on time, no complications.
Well I DID have bleeding with my ectopic pregnancy in August, so it is possible.
An early ultrasound at the hospital was incorrectly read at the hospital as intrauterine, but when my OB/GYN did another ultrasound, it was ectopic.
That I can understand. A planned pregnancy is a much different issue
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Is the patient pregnant? ITP is usally intrauterine pregnancy in OB.
Has anyone ever been late for their period but got a negative pregnancy test
my boobs hurt, my stomach is swollen, I throw up all the time, anyone else ever thought they were pregnant and had this happen? I'm 4 days late and the test said no... So I would think that the test would be correct.. I have never in my life have had sore breasts I feel like I'm nuts ...
Yes. I was pregnant anyways. The home pregnancy test was wrong.
Then the doctor told me to have a D&C because he couldn't find the heartbeat on ultrasound, so he told me it was a miscarriage. Actually, my ovulation was off. I refused to have the D&C and my son was born 7.5 months later.
Are you trying to get pregnant? Are you using birth control? Sometimes you can feel pregnant or even have a blighted ovum or early miscarriage that won't register with any pregnancy hormone. I had one at 10 weeks. Swollen boobs and water retention can be caused by hormones or stress. I would suggest to just relax and see what happens in the next week, then try another PG test.
i stopped reading at the unwed pregnancy part
statistics have shown that teen pregnancy has gone down in the past 30 years. Most unwed pregnancies these days are by choice by grown women. In 1996 I was 25, wanted a child and was not married, so I made the decision to have a child on my own. Is that a bad thing? Now, I own my own home, my daughter wants for nothing and is a straight A student, and I am by no means rich or come from money. I work hard and have instilled good values in my daughter. I don't see that as any part of some explosion of bad behavior....sorry but I have to disagree with you. If you are offended by what you saw/heard/smelled that is fine but to judge these people as "bad", well that's for a higher power to decide, don't you think?
She had an ectopic pregnancy. They were showing everything that happened in the past. Next week it
I am only 40---starting to early....I found that pregnancy kills brain cells - nm
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That should read "are pregnancy women..." And I'll be over around 6 for dinner. I love Lob
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For Pete's sake, you're not terminating a pregnancy, you're just typing a report after the
It's already been done before you even hear about it, and NOTHING changes regardless of whether you or someone else types it. Sheesh.
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