If my husband died I'd just focus on raising my kids.

• My husband just signed up for group life insurance with work which will give him 10x his salary if - Dancin Shoes
  • I'm not sure which I'm more disgusted with..your glee at the money or your laughing at him bei - practically speechless
    • I agree. - PJ
  • It depends on the age it happens... - See Msg
  • If my husband died I'd just focus on raising my kids. - That would be my #!1 goal. sm
    • You don't really know what you'd do till it happens. I know how you feel SM - Becky
      • But I do know myself. I am quiet and keep to myself - and tend to become introverted in the face of sm
    • Ditto. That's basically what I have told my DH too. - sm - Laura E.
  • Well..............sm - Happily Married
  • you pose a difficult question. sm - happily married at last
  • As someone who lost their husband almost 2 years ago, I can tell you that no amount of money could - Jade
    • Bless your heart. Mine was 50, so I had him longer. SM - Becky
    • So sorry for your loss - Hugs to you and your family! nm - Carol
  • Funny. Shoe's on the other foot, here. And I just SM - Becky
  • He says he'd want me to wait until they are both 18 - sm - Laur a E.
    • The (the kids that is)--I'm thinking it, just not typing it - nm - xxx

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I would never work myself to death for any man, no matter what he did for me.  Men are SUPPOSED to be the primary breadwinners in the family.  Paying for your school and your computer.  Pshaw!  I think you've more than made that up already.  Who takes care of your kids while you're working all these jobs?  You're going to regret it so bad when your kids are grown up and all they remember is being in daycare while you work.  Wow, he's got it pretty good with his little indentured servant, doesn't he?  What about what YOU want out of life?  I suppose you do all the housework, too?  You're going to burn out and fry yourself.  How much life insurance does he have on you?  Since obviously money means more to him than his wife and kids' happiness.    Geez, I'd rather be poor, broke, bankrupt, single, and on welfare than working myself to death for any man.

Do any of you have plans to raise rates with the new year coming up?  I know my offices have raised their rates three times this past year, but I have not.  With gas prices, heating prices, food, etc, going through the roof, I feel I don't have a choice. 

I would appreciate any feedback.

and have never paid for daycare while working.  I have been doing this for about 10 years and my children are ages 10, 7 and 5.  As I have added children and they have gotten older, it has become more distracting, but there are ways to do it without daycare.

When younger and I only had the 1, I worked in the mornings and afternoons when he was sleeping and finished up my day when my husband came home.  As our family grew and the younger children became older, I dropped the afternoon shifts and worked primarily early morning and nights when the kids were sleeping and/or my husband was home.  Now that they are in school, I am able to work daylight during the school year and evenings/nights in the summer when my husband is home.  If I had to pay daycare, no way would this be a profitable job. 

I would not recommend that you get into this field if you will need to pay daycare expenses.  You're much better off if you can work around your husband's schedule (if married) or if you have family close by that would be willing to help out a few hours a day with childcare.  Now that my kids are all in school, I really do enjoy the freedom this job allows me.  I rarely miss a school function or sporting event and the summers at home are great!

While not available in all areas, this is a wonderful program to help out families and communities.  I used it for years when I lived in Colorado and now that I have moved, I am in the process of finding this program in my state. 

The program consists of paying a certain amount for a given box of food (you can buy more than one) on a certain day or days.  Then, you put in volunteer hours in your community for each box you purchase.  You have a volunteer slip signed where you volunteer.  On D-Day, you go and pick up your boxes of food. 

The boxes consist of fresh fruits and vegetables and meat items.  Occasionally there is cheese too.  There might be pasta and/or rice.  There is often a prepared food item.  They offer seasonal boxes for holiday baking, meat lover's boxes in time for summer grilling and Thanksgiving boxes.  The retail value of what you get in a SHARE box is usually at least double the cost of the box, and that has been my experience.  The kids and I used to go and help on D-Day, passing out boxes, cleaning up for our volunteer activity.

http://www.sharecolorado.com/

is for Colorado and several other states, but should link you nationally too.

As an MTSO, don't think you are going to increase your accounts *yearly* (the word you used).....good luck if you're taking that route!!

I have my surgeons for a decade due to they pay very well and I have NEVER raised their rates because then they COULD choose to go elsewhere for less.....just my take.....

I also worked for nat'l services for years and they rarely raised their rates to their clients, as they, too, never wanted to lose any accts.

Good luck to you, whichever way you go!!

so you could stand and type.  It was a refreshing change.  I really liked the set up.  Mayo paid a chunk of change for those desks and there were over 90 MTs in our office.

When it comes to something like that, that I usually take care of but for whatever reason I can't, I will tell my husband exactly what to do, but when he comes back - to use your case as a "for instance" - I will ask him, "Did the doctor look at his foot?" 

Him: "No."

Me: "Did you ask the doctor to look at his foot?"

Him: "No."

Me:  "I told you to have the doctor look at his foot!"

Him: (shrug)

etc., etc., etc.

Your husband may not be like that - I sure hope he isn't. And yes, they should have checked his vitals and checked his foot without being asked. But sometimes you have to be assertive with people. And while my husband attained the rank of major in the Air Force and had no trouble ordering people around, there are times when he should be assertive but isn't. And he is not intimidated by doctors - he started his AF career as an x-ray tech (that's how we met). I dunno....(Rad MT wanders off, mumbling....)

call her by her first name.  The little neighbor girl next door from the time she could speak called her Aggie (my mom's first name), and they were great buddies until the day my mom pased away. 

I don't think there really is much in a name, but more in the respect you are given and the way you are treated.   Personally, I kind of cringe inside when someone calls me Ms. Anything or God forbid, "maam" (makes me feel like Methuselah!) ... I'm always just plain Merrie.  :-)

But, as someone pointed out, to each his own.  If you want to be addressed a certain way, you have that right, and people should respect that.  I'm glad you corrected the child ... hope it "sticks."    

On the negatives!  What about the children who were born into this poverty through no choice of their own?

You take the negatives only in this tragedy, what a very closed mind you have

I have worked at Focus for just over a year now as an IC and I really like it there.  Everyone is very pleasant and helpful.  Any problems or concerns that I may have are addressed right away.  I have plenty of work to keep me busy.  They offer benefits if you are employee status, but you can also choose to be an IC.  They also have direct deposit.  I do transcription only, but they also have VR if you want to do that (you don't have to if you don't want to).  I work on the Dictaphone ExText platform but I know they have other platforms as well.

The bottom line is that they are a great fit for me.  I have had a really great experience with them.  No complaints at all.   

I also work for Focus, and I have to agree that they are the best company that I've worked for (or interviewed with) so far.  So far, I've worked for 3 other online companies and one local hospital.  Plus, I've interviewed with (and ended up turning down positions at) at least 10 companies since January of this year.  Add to this number those who won't give me a chance because I only have 2 years of experience (it apparently does not matter that I've had between 99% and 100% QA ratings in every MT job that I've had so far) or don't live in the required state or don't own a C-phone, don't have access to unlimited long-distance phone service, or some other such thing. 

The flexibility at Focus can't be beat.  I don't have to get permission to change my schedule to fit my needs.  Whenever I have a question, someone is available via IM, email, or telephone.  The pay on my favorite shift (third) is better than I've been offered anywhere else.  I also have 5 accounts, so if one doesn't have any work, I can generally find work on another.  I am an IC, but they do offer the employee option, last time I heard, and the premium for health insurance for a family was less than $400/month. 

My only fear is that they are sharing the work with so many other companies that I'm afraid of what is going to happen to the individual MTs like myself.

These are my experiences and my opinions, and are not open to debate.  But, I am happy to share the good, the bad, and the really UGLY about any experience that I have had with any MT company in the past 2 years.  Overall, it has been a true temporary nightmare, but I am very happy now at Focus, and have decided to stop searching for greener (USA-based) pastures; I'm not so sure there ARE any.

Focusing and not getting distracted is my toughest chore.  When I'm on point and working, I'm a great producer.  It's the getting there and staying there that's an issue for me.

I found a clock chime program that chimes every hour.  I initially got it to remind me to get up and stretch so I couldn't get so stiff, but it helps me stay focused, too.   When I want to get silly and I let myself get distracted, I know that I'll have 5 minutes coming with the next clock chime, so I get myself back to work a little bit easier.

This company has offered me a job.  I have never heard of them before.  Anybody have any info on them??? Good/Bad.. Thanks.

 Can anybody tell me anything at all about Focus  I heard they are a good service to work for.  Anybody   ??