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If I expect perfection from my spouse, that must mean

Posted By: from grrr to purrr on 2005-07-02
In Reply to: What about next time??? - Not trusting

I am perfect myself.  I don't know of anyone who is perfect.  I am not so judgmental of people that I expect them to never have bad days and never express frustration, or else the relationship is over.  I'm sure there have been plenty of days in the past 20 years that we've known each other when I've annoyed him to no end.  Sometimes intentionally....  LOL

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    x
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    Yes, I expect any minute now to

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    x
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