I would say your obligation

Posted By: Better off with tough love. on 2005-12-29
In Reply to: Anyone else with an 18-year-old - with an attitude?

depends on his attitude and your ability and willingness to assist. I honestly believe that most kids whose parents put them through college do not appreciate it. I have a son who put himself through a 2-year community college program. He now does computer programming and is making good money.

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Anyone else with an 18-year-old - with an attitude?
- 18-year-old with attitude - no name
- We paid for 2 bachelor's degrees and - sm
- 2 kids in college - dls
- At recent financial aid seminar, I was told... - MT back to school
  - Regardless of what your EFC is, there - Busy MT'ing
    - FAFSA EFC - SM
      - I know it seems unfair, it really does. - Busy MT'ing
  - That's true. My parents refused to fill out the FAFSA - you've got that right
- Yeah, as a matter of fact, for the last 12 years SM - Becky
- My answer is similar to Busy's. (sm) - editor
  - I agree with this posting 100% - sm
  - I disagree with you on one thing... - SM
    - I can understand that up to a point. (sm) - editor
      - Vocational training is fine, but as I said above... - SM
    - Very true... - kitty
      - I think people should wait to go to college. - agree
        agreed, i'm in school and still only about - half of the time sure its what I want..
- Sometimes it's worth it to pay to have them live AWAY and on campus. Failing grades here mean any - future classes go on Their charge card! nm
- You don't owe your children a college education at all. - Busy MT'ing
- I would say your obligation - Better off with tough love.
  - My DH paid every dime of his bachelor's degree working.... - SM
- I have an almost 18-yo high school senior.. - SM
  - FILL OUT THE FASA-YOU WILL BE SUPRISED - my college story
  - Thank you all for - your responses
- You have no obligation to assist in college payment. - lay down the law
- None, as far as I know - busy MT
  - Your moniker - Busy MT'ing

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You have no obligation to send something
you've worked hard to create to some stranger just because you are asked to do so. You don't need to waste your time creating anything else to send to appease them, either. If you feel you must respond, simply decline politely. You do not need to offer an explanation beyond, "I'm sorry, I'm afraid I cannot do that." They may try to make you feel guilty. Don't let them. You owe them nothing. Just ignore them. You were able to create your shortcuts, dictionary entries, or whatever else you've done to make your work easier. There is no reason others cannot do the same for themselves. They are way out of line to try to get you to hand over your hard work so they can avoid expending any effort. Just tell them "No".

ethically, you have an obligation to report this.
Her on-the-side job is in direct conflict with your company -- it also is a legal matter -- and it could potentially effect everyone.

You have no obligation to assist in college payment.
I don't understand why so many parents these days insist on handing their kids an education while going into debt over it. My nephew had to work and find scholarships to go to college. My Dad worked the railroad to pay for his college. I'm still paying for my own college, and I've got a kid ready to start college in two years. I told him I'm not paying for it. He needs to get his grades up, find some scholarships, and work. You don't appreciate something you don't earn.

Your son will get a reality check when his bills are due.

No matter how small an MTSO is, their first obligation is to
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