I wish more people would adopt unwanted children.
Posted By: nobody on 2005-09-19
In Reply to: I will let a smile be my umbrella when (sm) - Animal lady
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I think most people who can't have children
of their own opt for adopting a child from infancy so they too can have the experience of raising a child. Now, if only people who already have children of their own or these celebs with all the money to burn would find room in their hearts for one more and adopt a grown child - wouldn't that be something?
If only people were as passionate about children
Then maybe the child abuse rate wouldn't be so danged high! Really, is there much difference in what's going on over there and what's going on here with the abortion rate? And the abuse of innocent children...come on, get your priorities in order will ya!
I cannot stand the attitude some people have toward raising children!
They don't have to be put in daycare either.
I would say people with this kind of attitude usually don't have children and therefore don't believe in the power moms have to get it ALL done. Just because this is not the situation you find yourself in does not mean it cannot be done! Open your eyes and get with the program - we ARE doing it and doing it WELL - like it or not!
Unwanted advice
Oh get a grip. And for YOUR information, I AM in charge.
Unwanted advice
Good grief. Read the post above. The Transcriptionist implied that anyone who pointed out mistakes to lawyers involved in malpractice suits was working against transcriptionists. You just can't walk into a lawyer's office and say, "Hear, let me tell you what this guy did wrong". We aren't medical experts. If we were that good, we would be wearing masks and rubber gloves.
unwanted intruders
You got it. Just like any intruder who decides to come onto my turf uninvited. Some human wants to slither in the window--bang bang. Snake creeping through my house--bang bang. Next.
We had a dog adopt us. Never saw in the neighborhood
before, no collar. I took to our vet to scan for a microchip and doesn't have one. Vet won't keep the dog because it needs all shots, which we can't afford to do. Dog is a lab and we have no place to keep her, plus we have a dog who is not tolerant of another dog and has chronic medical problems. We feed/water the dog and are providing it with a warm place to sleep, though it is a very small space and not suitable for long-term.
I have notified all the vets in our area, called the shelter, sent e-mails to all residents with e-mail addy in our community, placed an ad in our local newspaper and placed signs at major neighborhood intersections. There has been no ad in the paper looking for a dog, no signs, no one appears to be looking for her. What do you think is an appropiate amount of time to keep her before we try to find her a new home? She is just the sweetest dog and we have all fallen in love with her, but cannot provide for her. We find it difficult to believe that no one appears to be looking for her. DH says she is very conscious of cars like she is searching for "the one" and feels like she was dumped. I can't/won't take her to the pound, although due to her personality we feel she will be adopted immediately.
We're too close to the situation to be objective.
We adopt kittens and the last ones
got some sickness that is normal to shelter animals. What helped a lot was lysine. Seems crazy I know but it helps with the immune system. We put crush it in their food, but with a dog you could probably give in a piece of hot dog. It took about 2 days and they were significantly better. We also had an adult cat that started coughing violently like she was trying to cough up a hairball. This seemed to be mostly a stress reaction as she didn't care for the new additions and if they got anywhere near her she started coughing. We first did a course of antibiotics with very minimal relief and when the antibiotics stopped the coughing started back. We then did another course of antibiotics and a course of prednisone and that has stopped the coughing. We had to do a maintenance dose of prednisone for life as they decided she probably had stress-induced asthma and that if we totally discontinued the pred that another flare would be harder to treat. We're about 6 months into treatment and so far so good.
Sounds like you have your hands full.
Where do you live - I'll adopt her! nm
You can just list the state. If you are nearby, I will come get her.
I have a 3 year old golden retriever at home and she needs a furry friend.
Many of us on the Company board are very disillusioned and feeling unwanted of late. nm
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Here's how foster-to-adopt works on the federal level...sm
All non-Caucasian over age 1 automatically get adoption assistance. All Caucasian kids over age 8 get adoption assistance. If you adopt a sibling group that is more than 2 kids you get adoption assistance. All special needs children qualify for adoption assistance. Adoption assistance usually means Medicaid until they're 18 and in a lot of cases the monthly per diem rate is paid to the adoptive family. For the special needs kids, sibling groups and non-white children that meet the adoption assistance criteria generally the fees for adoption are reimbursed up to $2000 - which is pretty much what all of the attorneys charge for these adoptions since Child Protective Services/DFCS does the majority of the paperwork.
We're currently in the process of adopting our 6-year-old foster child who has lived with me since she was almost 5. The adoption should be finalized in January after my husband meets the 6 months residency requirement (we got married in June and he moved here from another state at that time).
I confess. I did it. Adopt an Anchor, Save Our Jobs Foundation
Yeap, I confess. I sent my husband out on his dingy, and he dropped anchor because he is sick of me not paying all the bills and giving him thousands each month.
I confess.... I wanted the clear dictators that they send overseas while we struggle with the worst ones.
I confess... I am tired of getting paid half of what I was making interning in college with 4 times or more the cost. I do not get raises ever; I get pay cuts while spending more and more money on technology to ease the doctors' dictation process.
I confess.... I am sick and tired of seeing so many of my own medical reports look like swiss cheese. No wonder I flat lined during surgery when the overseas Transcriptionist typed the wrong medication, and my anesthesiologist overdid it...
I confess..... I want my own accounts back instead of working for services that pay me 1/4 of what they charge the client....
I did it. I am now trying to locate tankers on the other side of the world for additional help or loaning me their anchors. Please donate to the "Adopt an Anchor, Save Our Jobs Foundation." Who knows, the next anchor dropped could provide you with a job!
I do this job with young children around and neither my job nor children have suffered...
It can be done...
if you live among trashy people, low income people, people w/o goals or direction,
content to just get by, you by default become a part of a group. "people" have decided to group trailer people as trash. that is because there are enough people in that group to earn the title and even if you aren't trash, you are categorized by others. did i think i was trash in lower class neighborhood surrounded by people who drank and fought all weekend? no but i knew i wasn't staying and did not try to pretend that all the fools in the neighborhood were just nice folks who ended up where they were because high horse snobs deemed their neighborhood low class. people for the most part live exactly where they belong because they don't want to educate themselves, they don't mind "trash" around them and they don't want to be bothered trying just a bit hard to extract themselves from that world. they justify everything to themselves i guess saying everyone who doesn't like their lifestyle is a snob and the comedians (Jeff Foxworthy/Chris Rock, etc) who make fun of them are just ill-informed.
As for me, I fought hard to get out and don't even want to look back. It amazes me people stay for generations.
Both of my children, now 23 and 24,
bought their own cars and neither of them had a new car. I don't think it hurt them, either. They both were proud of the fact that they did buy their own cars and I was proud of them, too.
Wow that's a lot! We have 4 children and
we probably will not spend that much on all 4 of them. Glad you can afford it.
May you and your children have the
Merriest Christmas ever! As the Christmas carol sings "God is NOT dead nor doth He sleep." I am so happy your children will have Santa Claus this Christmas, and that you feel loved!! That's what Christmas is all about. I thank you... Merry Blessed Christmas to ALL!
I have 5 children and have had many a
I agree, something for myself would have been neat. My absolute favorite thing was when someone brought me something special, like something they made or had made for my baby. Those are really the things I remember when thinking back on my showers, and the things I still have today.
32/F, three children
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And what did your children get?
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I definitely think having children has something
Does she have other children who can help
relieve some of the care? Does her insurance pay for ANY nursing care? I know what you mean. We were all on shifts as well. Is there a GOOD home she could go to? Even one that isn't a nursing home per se, but adult foster care? My grandmother lived in one. It was very nice and had less than 10 residents and people with various types of needs lived there. My aunts and uncles decided to do this (it was self pay) because they figured if she lived with any one child, that the responsibility probably wouldn't end up being shared by all, and this way they were all responsible for her even though she lived separately from them. Is there a hospice/nursing agency that can offer free or cheap respite care? How about through their church? Even if they could get an evening or a few hours away together, that's a start. They need to preserve their marriage too.
think of your own children if you have any....sm
Would you want them to have to care for you? All I want for my children is to be happy. I would never want to put that burden on them and, believe me, it is a burden regardless of how you feel about your parents. Caring for an ILL elderly parent can be a nightmare. Caring for an elderly parent is totally different. I've had to do both and, BTW, so did my parents. My mother, when in her 50's, now 92, made me promise to never try to have her live with me. I have done the same with my children. I do everything I can to help her including bringing her to my home to care for her when she is ill or has had recovery from surgeries. I don't think the "Waltons" is a realistic plan in this day and age. If you want to destroy your marriage and stress your children, move your parents into your home.
If you have children under a certain age...
...you can be excused for years from jury duty by submitting a copy of their birth certificates to the court.
Currently, I'm a single parent with 2 kids in elementary school. I have been excused from jury duty twice now; once when I lived in PA and both kids were just babies and again recently excused from serving or being called to serve here in NY for a few more years by submitting a copy of the birth certificate.
The courts will not force a primary caregiver with minor child(ren) to serve as long as you provide them a copy of the birth certificate.
I would think this also applies to anyone who is a sole caregiver of a chronically ill or elderly family member, but you would have to call your courthouse to find out for sure.
We are not children and by that I mean...
we don't have to go crying to the moderator whenever we feel someone is being mean. I think MT30+'s biggest sin is she's just blunt. Personally, I appreciate straight forward people. I don't have time to pick through all the fat to get to the meat. And, of course, I am one of the blunt people.
I think some need to simply grow up. You can't spend your life kissing your perceived boo boos and tattling on the "bullies." Momma always said the only way to get rid of a bully, is to stand your ground and take your lumps. And don't hold a grudge. Just move on.
children and nitwits
You still don't get it. No matter how old they get, they are still your children but I no longer have the right to make their decisions for them. If your comprehension was good enough, you would have known that as they left my home and started their own lives, I had no further voice in what they did, but until that day, I did have a voice in what they did as far as consequences of bad decisions is concerned. If I am paying for the roof over your head and the food on the table, I do have a say. And being 18 does not make you an adult, nor does 30 or 80. When your child can make good sound decisions about their life and how their decisions impact on others, then you've done a good job. Your silly little cartoon characters in your messagee show that you do not have a command of the English language and I am done with this discussion because it is too complicated for you to understand. I think you probably had your nose and ears pierced too many times and too deeply.
Not everyone is here to "love" your children. SM
I dont expect day care to "love" my children. Geez. I expect them to care for them and watch them when I cannot be there.
I do have to say, however that the day care my kids are in is a close-knit community. The staff is very friendly and really get involved with each kid individually to some extent. Everybody knows everybody, even though it is a fairly large day care. There is a younger toddler room, an older toddler room, an intermediate room, and a pre-K room. As well as a big room for before-school and after-school programs for the bigger kids.
All of the kids in my children's classes are really close. We all celebrate B-days together and even get invited to Christmas parties and all kinds of nice things. They throw lots of events around the holidays. They even have a mom's night out at the day care once a year. It is like a little community. They have lots of safety speakers coming in and educated the kids on what to do during an emergency. I dont see why my kids would not benefit from being a part of something like this.
It is a great thing to be a part of. They treat you like family. I do understand that not all day cares are the same. I went on a lot of tours of local day cares and I picked this one because I could pick up on the vibe that this was not your oridinary day care. They are just such great people. I can honestly say that I love them all. I love the friends that my kids made and I have grown to love their families and also the teachers. They are all truly a wonderful bunch.
So I don't care for my children because I
choose to work my job. Because I choose to be done with work at 5 and not have to work all night as my children play at my feet. Your absolutely right! That makes me a horrible mother. I mean wanting to give them the social graces, the ability to interact with other children and spend the evening with them without my computer in their face--what a bad mommy I am!
I was trying to be nice. Even to children like you
I was only asking an honest question.
I didn't realize there were children posting on this board.
My son is only 15, but he is fortunate enough to have parents that want to help him so that he will not end up being an eternal bitter child, such as those whose parents obviously haven't bothered to realize that there was a possibilty of their child becoming a total waste of time.
And speaking of wasting time, I'm doing just that. And you should be going upstairs to check on your parents.
I believe it is important for children too..
That does still does not mean that since you made a mistake in your life that you are not entitled to the same rights as everyone else. Could've, should've, would've. We can point fingers and tell people what they should have done, but the fact is, they have rights like everyone else. Of course you tend to do better financially when you do things in the right order. Life does not always work like you want it to though. I myself got pregnant while on BC with a man I had been with for 4 years. I had my son before I got married. We got married when he was less than a month old. He was our only witness. We have since had another child. I have never been on assistance, but I am lucky enough that we have been able to work out our problems and keep our marriage intact. If I could do it all over again, I would have waited, of course. We have struggled quite a bit by having kids so young. Life just doesn't always work out how you want it to though. I want my daughter to get married first and then have children, as do all mothers. Those are things I will teach her too.
Sorry, that should be heard Jen did not want children yet. nm
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my children are minorities
my children are interracial, black father, white mother. however, they dont know the first thing about Kwanza. They are raised to believe that Christmas is about the birth of Christ.
For children, it's best to let them decide.
It can be healing or traumatic. I do think I'd have her go to the funeral home once, set it up so she only has to be there a short time, help her understand it's time to say goodbye and let go (whether close or not). I've been through a Catholic funeral and don't think I'd force a child to be there. It's good that neither you or DH are forcing one way or the other. Talk with your daughter and help her decide what's really best. Just don't let her hide from the fact that she needs to say goodbye to grandma, close or not.
26 with 2 small children.
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GOD BLESS YOU with 5 children!!! *S*...nm
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I am 49, two children (ages 26 and 20). nm
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I have 5 children, two of which have been babies...
It is not always easy, but you do what you want to do. You will make it work if you try and find out what works best for you. Don't put your baby in daycare just to make it easier on yourself. You can work around the baby!
I smile, say "I don't have children, thanks." nm
I don't think anyone said violence against children was okay...
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WHERE DOES YOU CHILDREN GO TO COLLEGE sm
Maybe our children go to the same college.
I will start
One daughter goes to Sacred Heart University in Connecticut. The other daughter will be going to UMass at Amerst in the fall.
Can I Trade Children - LOL
My daughter is only 12 and it's like pulling teeth to get her to save any money. As soon as she gets some (any amount) it burns a whole in her pocket and boom it's gone. So now I've taken to keeping all the money I give her for her allowance and when she wants something she has to come to me for the money so that way I can make sure she puts some away.
second time. I had 2 children, he had none.
Very good marriage, We have 2 other children now.
I see mostly celebs getting children from
overseas...that's why they are able to get newborns so easily. A friend of the family recently adopted a baby from overseas. It cost them some money, but they had no problems. Newborns are the most sought after. Unfortunately, it is the older children who are suffering more and need homes. Maybe you should try and find a place for an older child in your home if you want to adopt so badly. Giving up on adoption is giving up on a child, if that is truly something you want to do.
Children with disabilities
I have two children who have mild autism. My husband and I fought the school system for years. The special education department told us, "I can't see your son analyzing novels." He could not multiple, subtract, add, divide, or any simple math that a 9th grader should be able to do. My oldest son is now in 9th grade and has not learned what he should have in public school. After doing much research, we came up with a plan to homeschool our son and he can analyze novels! He is finally learning! We have our work cut out for us as he is many years behind, but he will catch up. We have had such great success with him that we are going to home school our younger son as well. Home schooling is not for everyone. You will know if and when you are ready to home school when you have had enough. It was the best decision we ever made! For us, it was the light at the end of the tunnel!
Actually, many in our area have children
they have sick children all week long, they don't work, so no excuse there. They wait until the weekends to do all their healthcare for ALL their children, sometimes up to 4 to 5 children. They have all week long to get good healthcare at good clinics that do take their insurance or even at the local health department, but they wait until Friday evenings and BOOM....while others sit in the waiting room that are indeed in need of immediate care.
I believe it is, since they are watching your children & (sm)
in the event of an emergency such as an allergy, should you not disclose something it would not benefit anyone. Especially your child. I do ER transcription and have had kids come in to the ER with new onset diabetes, and the nurse knew to check since it was in the family history, so that is something to think about.
My children are grown and now
I am still working at home. Get to be grandma now. Don't forget $3 for a gallon of gas also.
I homeschool my children and I get so very
tired of the "S" word. I think most people feel like we keep them locked in the house all day, doing school for 8 hours a day. They are community sports teams, the kids in the neighborhood, homeschool activities, park days, church, etc. There are some families who isolate themselves, but the majority do not. My kids are extremely social and on weekends we have a line at the door wanting them to come out and play. I told DH we needed to put up a sign on the door that they aren't here so kids will stop knocking. Not only are my kids very social, but they are as comfortable with someone 65 as they are with their own peers. My oldest DS has kids 5 to 6 years younger wanting him to come play because he plays so well with them and they look up to him.
Kids don't have much time to socialize in the public school setting and the socialization isn't always positive.
Another consideration with children....
I mostly agree with you. I think one has to also consider one's own working habits along with the child's personality. Some kids just require more attention than others and I think they suffer if they don't get it, and one can't work and actively mother at the same time. In my case, I get focused and react irritably when drawn off task; it's okay now when I can post a sign up that I'm busy and on deadline, but it wasn't fair to them when they were small, and so they were in daycare at least part of the time as second shift was not an option for me. Also, my youngest was much more independent than my oldest and needed less one-on-one interaction (so long as he had those tinkertoys around!).
It's such an individual choice; I don't think anyone can say daycare is always better or at home is always better. I think as long as people take everyone's needs into consideration (including mommy's needs, which too often get shortchanged!) and act on that, then everyone will benefit.
Children's hospitals!
I have only been transcribing for about a year now and I am on an account for a children's hospital. I can not find half the words, nor understand the ESL doctors. Does anyone has any pointers, or know of a good website or book? Thanks guys!
I raised my children being an
having had their mom home. They are grown now and have their own children. I still work at home as an MT and am able to watch my granddaughter. She does not go to daycare, she goes to grandma's and says she is so much happier here.
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