I totally can relate and it does happen and will for awhile.
Posted By: Nyer on 2006-03-27
In Reply to: Lost my dad in October...still crying every day...could use some help (sm) - wimt
I lost my dad, going on 6 years now and still have my moments. I can assure you that they will get farther and farther apart as you go through the normal grieving process. Another close relative also passed away last year and I'm still going through the same thing. I'm afraid if you put your pictures away, that you'll grieve more from missing him so badly, at least that's how I'd feel, so my pictures are here on my desk and that's where they will stay.
There'll always be something that triggers the loss that you feel but after awhile it just won't hurt so bad. I remember walking through a craft fair and seeing something that reminded me of my MIL and looked over at my husband just to see that he had the same reaction I did when we passed that item. It's really odd how certain things trigger our feelings of loss.
When you look at the pictures, try to think of some of the good times that you and he shared, since you were so close. As you remember more and more of the good things, you'll hurt a little less and if after a time that does not help, then you should see outside help. Yes, there are times you'll still cry, but it won't last as long as before. The grieving process is different for every person, but I do believe what you're going through sounds normal to me.
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OMG! I can totally relate to this.
My stepgrandfather has suddenly started pulling this crap with me. He's an older man in his early 80s. He's been in my life for almost 20 years. Suddenly, he wants to hug me tightly, give me slobbery wet kisses on my mouth, and all sorts of stuff. He nuzzled me in my ear during a bearhug and asked me if his cologne turned me on. He's slapped me on the backside, too. I wonder if it's not some form of dementia or confusion from alcohol or something. It just makes me so uncomfortable to have ANY man do that to me, with the exception of my husband. I've been avoiding him for over a year now. I won't be alone in the same room with him. I told my Mom and my husband about it. Everyone just blows it off as a "harmless old man" or "he was just drunk and teasing you". I know about boundaries and standing up for myself, but it's just really tough when other people think it's "nothing" or that I'm "overreacting".
I can totally relate sm
My son is the same way in school, very bright without even trying. In the National Honor Society, ranked 1 in his class and has always been the "smartest" kid in class, is very athletic, but sometimes just seems so unhappy. Peer pressure is terrible, especially if you don't "fit in" with the dummies. My son even plays football and lacrosse, and guess what, he gets the award every year for Athletic and Academic Achievement with a GPA of 3.8. Still, there is something making him unhappy.
Homeschool just might work for you. This is a tough age for all kids.
I totally relate!! I did something about it.
Kids are grown so it was lots easier. We sold the big house with the big payment, big insurance, big maintenance, etc. We sold the new cars and trucks. We now live in a little 2 BR/2 bath "double-wide" in the woods/country that we paid off (easy to do if it doesn't cost much more than a new car!). We have a little houseboat that we bought at a yard sale(!) for $1000. We have it anchored in our back yard (we live on a small canal). That is a combination hubby's den and guest room. We have no water or sewage bill. We have a deep artesian well with terrific cold water. I have a new washer (wash with cold water only), but I hang my clothes outdoors instead of the expense of a dryer. No dishwasher. No garbage disposal. My husband drives a 10-year-old PU that is great on gas. I drive a 23-year-old Mercedes with a new engine that keeps going and going. Low insurance. No car payments. I buy most of our clothes and household goods at yard sales, thrift stores and auctions. We are NOT deprived! We dress great and our home decor is adorable. We grow veggies and buy at discount grocery stores (scratch & dent) and use coupons a lot. IT CAN BE DONE! It requires some sacrifice, coping with eyebrow-lifting relatives and not "buying in" to the bill of goods we are sold every day. We still have satellite TV, Tivo, etc., but our total monthly bills are well under $1000. It would be lots harder to do with kids at home, I'm sure. Maybe you could sit down with your husband and at least come up with some ways to take the pressure off of you! Life is too short!!! I really do wish you the best of luck and hope you'll consider trying to make some lifestyle changes. It worked for me! 
I can totally relate...sm
I don't know of any website for encouragement, but if it helps, I am experiencing the same thing. I'm assuming that you're working from home. For me, I think the isolation of being at home, the fact that there are really no constraints on our physical appearances (for example, no dress code, no coworkers to notice if you brushed your hair or your teeth, etc.), and the fact that once you've done transcription for a while, it is really not that mentally challenging most of the time (not saying that it's not a difficult job, just that most MTs I know tend to be very bright and can learn and adapt to the challenges of the position quickly) can lead to feelings of ennui. I know that a great number of my Transcriptionist friends and co-workers (I used to work out in the world at one point) were on antidepressant meds, etc. I think the sedentary lifestyle, combined with a full days worth of time to use one part of your brain to work while the other part fixates on personal and family problems and other stressors makes a lot of us feel unhappy and burned out, with little motivation to tackle anything in our lives.
Last week, I decided to take charge of my life again instead of just drifting along--however, it's definitely just baby steps. I started a workout program (sitting in a chair for 8 hours a day has definitely led to some flab), made a friend date to go shopping over the weekend, committed to cleaning one area of my house a day (and so far have stuck with it), etc. So far, it's helping and I feel a lot better.
Sorry I can't offer you a website for encouragment, but if it helps, I'm sure lots of us are in the same situation. Hope you get to feeling better about things (and I hope I do, too!) :)
I can so totally relate to that!
Not only was I new to the job, I was new to transcription, and one of the people I had to type reports up for was a russian gum chewer! The job was at night too, so I had no one to call to "lend an ear" to help me translate and had to wait until the next day...I think I averaged about $75 for the week...and that was putting in about 12 hour nights in addition to waiting for daytime help so I could fill in blanks and not look like a complete tool. I remember balling my eyes out like a baby thinking we would have to sell our house and lose everything we worked so hard for...just because I couldn't understand this one dictator that was 95% of my bread-n-butta at the time.
I didn't know I could ask for samples of the dictators work then either, that's how new I was. Once I got a hold of a couple of those bad boys, it was so much easier...that and with some time I was much better off, financially and mentally.
I guess what I'm trying to say is try and hang in there. Maybe it's a test of strength so to speak...baptism by fire and all that. Good luck and know you are not alone! 
can totally relate..
I think they should ALL have to type their own reports at least one time.. see if they can understand themselves (that is the ones that talk to fast, eat, drink, sleep, etc.) lol
Totally inappropriate. You should relate this to
She should remove it or the company should remove her.
I happen to totally agree with her
and there is no need to get personal and/or nasty about it. I had my CMT also and it was as useless as the paper it was written on. The only ones who seem to put any value on it are the AAMT as they are the ones who get money in their pockets when one of us takes the exam...(oh excuse me the AHDI - I forgot they took MT out of their name!) Anyway, I totally agree 100% - a waste of time and money.
me too - once in awhile
But I really like this board much better.
We had them for awhile - sm
It was a high-deductible ($5,000) "emergency" policy that never did pay out a dime on any of our claims - after one trip to the emergency room to the tune of $1,200 we decided that was not the best form of health insurance for our family. We are now with Humana with a more realistic $1,000 deductible.
this has been around for awhile - sm
A lot of states will not allow this. New York is one of them. Some of the ones I work on require me to save all tapes in case there is a descrepancy in what was transcribed and what was said.
i did that awhile
but one machine belonged to the company and i didn't want that conflict, so i had the tech install DQS on my personal machine for the 2nd company; he was able to copy my Expanders which helped tremendously. Of note however, i would have never thought it possible, but when i finally went with a company that had a different platform, they were STILL able to convert my DQS expanders to their own...so don't feel locked into one company because of time invested in expanders!
I would keep the IC job for awhile
I would keep the IC job for awhile, because who knows for sure how this "highly respected national" will work out? You could find you hate some aspect of it.
Oh believe me I'm gone, but there were - for awhile - sm
other good things about the company. In the last couple of months, however, there are some things that have happened that now make every little thing a PIA and I'm done. I just want my money without having to wait out till the next paycheck, especially since I will be quitting on the spot. You don't have to berate me - I've been doing that to myself all along! But, with the way the MT field is these days, a job is a job and it was consistent without work slowdown or stoppage.
Yes, once in awhile
I somehow get it into OVR. Thank goodness I know what has happened. And thank God for ctrl+z, because I have accidentally deleted stuff I needed many times! (You can use CTRL+Y to take it away again too!)
Looks like I am using all the quick keys you do ... any others used out there? Thanks!
Been away for awhile but VR-MT
said it all. I also average over $20+ an hour. I really love it because as the above stated, the ESLs are picked up easily and I don’t have to strain my ears because VR gets most of what they are saying.
here's what we did -takes awhile, but
if you have a video camera, tape every car that stops at his place and any transactions you might see (you do not have to be outside to do this - through a crack in the curtains/blinds works) take the tape to the cops - they will handle it. Or maybe they already have him set up on a sting....or are on the take. Where do you live city/state-wise?
He laid down for awhile, but he just did not seem sm
He laid down for awhile, but he just did not seem to be able to navigate or walk because of the dizziness
HELP PLEASE !!! I can never get this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11
I was on PeaceHealth for awhile SM
For the most part, it was a very easy account. There were a few dictators from you know where (like anywhere). Just ask for several samples from each of those docs. If you call the people working in the evenings, they were always very helpful when I needed a sample and would fax it on over. The QA ladies are really great and very helpful, so do not by shy about asking them questions. They know those few dictators are horrible and know most people have a terrible time with them. I think you'll like the account. If you go to the PeaceHealth website that have a really great physician directory.
Good luck to you!
Chickadee
It's been awhile, but can the help file or
associated paperwork with the softwork help with basic and more complicated questions? I seem to remember that their customer support was pretty good, too.
I get one every once in awhile that sounds as if
he has a mouth full of thumb tacks. If that isn't bad enough, his grammar is horrid. He says "patient doesn't have no swelling."
Geesh.
It's be awhile since using my C-phone,
I think there is a memory chip that wears out after awhile. I had a C-phone but I had to reprogram every time I unplugged it and I think this is what I was told. Hope this helps....
I have been with them awhile now and they are great...
but have no idea what they have to offer newbies...just have patience and stay strong, you will find the right fit.
GOOD LUCK!
It takes awhile...
When I was facing foreclosure it took them over a year to send the vacate letter...I filed for bankruptcy and the bankruptcy was long over before I got the letter.
My favorite, but I'm stealing this one from awhile ago
You do so many ESL's you can carry on a conversation with clerks at any 7-11
Thanks...I hadn't been hurting for awhile since the
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Hat's off to you too!!! It's nice to be recognized every once in awhile!
You're right. All of us deserve more recognition and MORE PAY! Thanks for the nice post, and I hope you are having a great MT Week as well.
yes, and I found it really helped for awhile sm
then I hit some life situations where I just could not cope. My doctor put me on Lexapro, and it was a life saver. If your depression is mild, 5HTP is a really good start. St. John's Wort barely took the edge off for me, but the 5HTP was quite good.
I have been trying to locate info on this for awhile...sm
I always get annoyed because I have partial hearing loss and use closed captioning and the spelling is HORRENDOUS. I always said I want to transcribe that stuff!! Please share info if you can!!
There was a post here awhile back about sm
someone using a heated keyboard -- that might help. I have used the typing gloves before when my hands/wrists were flaring up, but I generally found they slowed me down a bit. However, if your fingers and hands are cold and stiff, that slows you down too, so it might be worth it. Hand-Eze is the only brand name I can think of, but I am sure there are lots of others to choose from. You can usually find them at places that sell craft supplies, maybe a little less expensive than the sites on the web. Good luck.
Argh...I was there for awhile and no one showed up
so I left. Please post a new time so I can join. I was really looking forward to it. Tonight works for me.
That would be his mug shot when he was arrested quite awhile back..nm
;o)
Have used stickers, lasted awhile but not that long.
I have a Microsoft ergonomical keyboard (curved) that I have been using about three years now, and the letters are still good. However, you might want to try one of those pens that can be used to write on CDs and other metallic materials. Cheaper than buying another keyboard. As stated, the stickers worked but not for very long as I remember.
You're good for awhile, don't worry!
If you wear out a keyboard, then worry! Had my laptop since 9/11, can still read the keys or in a few keys almost invisible but, I know where they are! Do well! Quit being nervous, it slows you down!
Awhile back on this board someone shared a place where
they would tell you what hardware your computer was running. I can't find it and need it again. Can anyone help? Thanks.
Tell them you need to be paid more for the new account. After awhile it should get easier to unders
x
Has anyone asked to be transferred out to an office that MIGHT be open for awhile. Is there anyone
in Amherst that is willing to get this situation taken care of or is that a lost cause.
I worked at Home Depot awhile back
for 3 years in the paint department. I have done them all and also taught the classes on Sundays. You might want to call your local Home Depot and ask when they have their paint classes. Lots of information, and they should let you try out the techniques as well.
whoever posted awhile back about Tahiti Sweetie -thank you!
 My 18 yo daughter and I went to Bath & Body Works - I bought one for her and one for me - what a treat ! Yum !
Yes, I bought a dozen or so awhile back and over half did that....sm
I have always used Maxell but that batch was really bad. I was wondering if they had been on the shelf too long. I went ahead and bought 12 more (different place) and so far these have been OK.
I can relate!
I had a rotten day yesterday - dictator from H*** - U start to think you're losing your mind relistening to the same sentence over and over and over and...well, U get the point. But today is a new day! Yea!
i can really relate
you sound like me talking. where have I gone? being a mom to a 5-y/o is a full-time job, keeping the hous is a f-t job, working is a full-time job... i have disappeared. i feel unrecognizable... need to get in shape and quit the smokes... i had my boy when i was 40 and i want to live to see grandchildren...
I can relate
I can relate to this. I am 31 and have a brother who is 18. My mom and my stepdad worship whatever he does and everything I do is awful or not enough. I am educated and have a good job. I have a son that I had while married and divorced only due to verbal abuse and adultery. My brother, who I love, has problems with being rude and such and is bipolar. He does not make good grades and is not going to college right now. He took forever to get a job. He has had 5 vehicles since being 16. Each time getting a nicer one. I had to buy my own car when I was his age and it was a cheap one. I always made good grades and never got into trouble when I was younger. I could go on an on. I am just trying to say I can relate for sure. I try to not let it get to me, but it is hard. For me knowing the rest of my family notices this and does not agree to the differences between the way we are treated means a lot. Just know you are the better person for not acting like the others.
LOL. I can sure relate to that.
I think I'll start *borrowing* that phrase! LOL again!
Thanks for the laugh, and thanks for posting. 
I can relate!
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I think we can all relate
We all get tired of it - am a single mom and just sold a house, after making 1100 month payments plus upkeep, all utilities, car, daughter's college - sold it for enough to pay off the car, pay cash for a mobile home and now my only bills are the utilities and lot rent, less than 500 total a month, what a difference in how I feel - so much more laid back, hopefully less gray hair and no more worries!!
i think we all can relate..
To this. Friends have called in the middle of the day just to chit chat and are put off by my *tone*...I have to remind them that I AM working. I've said this before on this board, my family has a critical nature and something is usually said weekly or at family gatherings. One quote I absolutely love from one of my aunts *what are you doing right now, nothing?* when calling to make plans. Or little comments like I have no life, i'm anti-social, or didn't live up to potential. I've heard it all. Just makes me more sad than irritated. I think if one person takes the time to judge and criticize someone elses life, they definitely need a life of their own.
I can relate!
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I can certainly relate
I recently moved to a new town (for reasons not connected to work) after working at home for 10+ years. I still work at home and I'm finding it hard to get out and meet new people in my new home town. Like you I find most of them aren't anybody I want to get any closer to. However, this is a small town and most people are nice and friendly, it's just me being picky, I guess. I'd welcome any comments or suggestions, except those who want to diagnose some illness I don't have.
I can relate, too
I'm with you. I'll never have only 1 account. I have 2 right now and working on getting my third.
Good luck to you and everybody!
I can relate
Lately I have been routed long reports - some of them 30-45 minutes long, still my favorite work type but so boring - I literally find myself sitting here falling asleep while I listen. Give me the short reports any day and I will work extra whenever needed but give me long ones and I can barely get my 8 hours. Used to get a nice mix of long and short but that changed lately.
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