I took care of my father
Posted By: Been there on 2008-01-20
In Reply to: Relocating to a new state - Julia
for last two years of his life. I barely had time to work because it became so time consuming taking care of him and two little kids. It was very difficult to get any help, and social services can only do so much.
I would think long and hard before making the move. How will you care for your mother if you are working full time, perhaps have to travel across town to see her, take her to doctor visits, and still take care of two kids? My Dad lived on the other side of my duplex so I was right there and it was still incredibly difficult.
If anything, I would advise moving in with her or maybe she could move to Georgia. Good luck whatever you decide.
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I think I do now, but it used to his father - sm
If I would try to make plans, he would always say he had to see what his father was doing first because he might need help doing something on the family farm. And this was BEFORE his mother passed away and I never understood it. I know WHY he did it - loyalty and I think a sense of obligation - but I could never understand. My feelings were in shreds on more than one occassion. But things are much better now. He's still there to help is father, but I don't feel like I'm running a distant second to him anymore.
my father tried it
My father signed up there but they wanted him to pay $2000 for food. I think it was for some kind of power bar or granola bar and they wanted him to buy $2000 worth. He said he did not want to buy them but they charged his card the $2000 anyway. Needless to say, he immediately withdrew his membership.
He went to Weight Watchers and so far, so good.
My father....
was in many ways a man before his time... My parents' marriage started out very traditional with my dad earning all the money and my mother at home having and caring for the babies. However, my dad was the type who LOVED babies and little ones and would come home and feed or sit up all night with a sick child. Slowly, the tables began to turn. He encouraged my mom to get an education and she eventually began working (as an MT I might add) when I was about 12 (I was the baby). By the time I was 19 of 20 my father was laid off at age 58 and my mother had become a department supervisor and made all the money. My mother had private accounts and actually taught my father to transcribe, which he did until he died about 12 years later. He did the paperwork and billing and delivering too. That made him feel useful. He would shop and cook and do the laundry and have dinner ready for my mom when she got home from work. Talk about a complete 180 degree in a marriage. My father was not perfect, but he was steady and dependable and you always knew that he loved you. My husband is very much the same.
my father uses WW
He has diabetes and a heart condition so it is critical that he maintains his diet & a healthy body weight. So far, he has been really happy with WW and it really has been helping him reach his dietary goals. Good luck to you.
it sounds like Father, May I.....*tsk tsk*..nm
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Loss of father
To wimt: I lost both parents within 7 days of each other. I cried off and on for a couple of years. It takes time to heal and everyone is different. It always helps to surround yourself with people you feel comfortable with and you feel give you support. Plus, grief counseling never hurts--only helps. Good luck to you.
Katharine's Father
I was thinking the same thing about Katharine's father. They'll probably have to hold him up. All he does is cry whenever she sings. Imagine if she wins?
HAPPY FATHER'S DAY to all you men
out there!
The father was brought in for report of him saying this and now he is
released. I guess the "report" of the "report" did not pan out enough to keep him in jail. The prosecutor is not at liberty to disclose anything and has said so repeatedly. No professional has ever quoted one of the suspects directly and you know that. A report of a report of this man having said this is all I heard from a reporter.
I have both and even had a father; I love them all dearly!!!!
*** I just knew someone would have to be negative. Everyone, everywhere has something negative to say about most anything. I, quite frankly, enjoy life. Guess what? I even laugh at "women" jokes!!!! I know my father, who died 35 years ago, would have found this very funny. My brother is laughing with me now. My son, who is a Marine, will have to wait until his return home to see it but, unlike some people, he does have a sense of humor and will enjoy it as it was meant to be.
Do you ever watch any comedies on television or anything like that?? It is quite common to see "man versus woman" schtick" (spelling?) all the time. Seems it has not been banned due to "political incorrectness". Anyway, I certainly did not mean to offend you; that I stated before I actually wrote the 15 pieces of advice. Thank you.
Reminds me of my late father-in-law....
He totally controlled the money (he figured he earned it all, so why not) and doled out "household money" to my MIL like Ricky and Lucy Ricardo did. This continued until he died 18 MO ago, so I'm not talking about a by-gone time. Meanwhile, up until he quit smoking, he was buying 3 to 4 packs a day plus stopping at the bar every day on the way home from work. He never did stop drinking and I can only imagine the money he spent on that over their 40 yr marriage, while she's trying to run the house on her "allowance" and she could never take a dime out without his permission beyond the money he gave her. Sheeesh (eyes rolling). Thank God it didn't rub off on their son or I'd be a single woman by now.
My 4 year old also behaves better than his father.
what are you going to do
please give your Father an ATTABOY....nm
Happy Father's Day to ALL including...nm
yes, Happy Father's Day to all the dads out there! (nm)
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The father just bought her a cell
and sent her a text message. She was able to send a message back saying, "I love you guys." I cannot even imagine the pain that family is going through or the other girl's family who was victimized.
The sheriff was even emotional and crying after it happened. It's really sad. I don't know if I could deal with that.
I spoke to the girl's father -
He then contacted the school but I haven't talked to him since then to find out what they told him.
I think the father of the killer should be shamed publically
instead of Natalee's mother. The father of the boy is a lawyer. He is arrested because why???????? That isn't normal if there is no evidence, nothing going on. He says no body/no crime. What kind of father would say that? He is obviously not right in the head nor is his son. They don't keep people in jail without some kind of evidence either. And if my daughter was missing and the father of the suspect was saying things like no body no crime, I might get a little crazy too. I would probably be over there kicking some ***, not just talking about it on TV. Believe me, she is handling great compared to some.
We had a weird happening after my father died...
He died in August and when we went to visit his grave just before Christmas, the grass was still growing back over the plot. The grass had grown in the shape of a Christmas tree inside the rectangular plot of dirt over the grave. We got some bulbs and decorations and laid them in the grass and took pictures. Guess what, the pictures didn't turn out. "dodo do do" (twilight zone tune)
My step-father got a kidney transplant
He was extremely happy to be off the dialysis and looked quite a bit healthier for a span of time (kidneys do things the plastic tubing just can't), but he only lived an extra 3 years and had to take lots of antirejection meds in the meantime, was in and out of the hospital a lot.
I agree with the person who posted below about talking to a physician about the downsides. Find out exactly what quality of life most transplant recipients have and how many extra years most of them receive. This is a big decision. It will change your life and probably in ways you can't fathom yet.
Wish I could give you better answers. It's so hard to watch people we love suffer.
My father is no longer living, but he was never a part
of my life. He worked and worked and worked, and worked some more. When he came home he sat, read the paper, watched TV and fell asleep in his recliner. He NEVER told me he loved me until he was in advanced stages of Alzheimer's disease. We did not get along at all and my mother always said we were so much alike that we clashed, but I don't agree with that at all. My father was not a bad father, just wasn't a good one. I am #4 out of 5 and I always felt I was the only one he didn't love, though I don't know he really knew how to love and probably did the best he knew how - wasn't good enough though.
My DH on the other hand is everything my father wasn't.
What about mudder and fodder for mother and father?
UGH!
The boy's father was released after a short period of time.
So were the others who were thought to be involved. You have very little knowledge of this case as does Mrs. Twitty. Maybe you should just calm down and educate yourself on Aruban law and justice.
My father left us when I was 3. Busy, I always wanted a family like yours. nm
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We're trying to get my father home due to health issues
My father has been at a federal prison camp for a little over a year now. He's been sent to a local hospital six times due to heart troubles. Before going in he had two heart attacks, stents placed, treatment for prostate cancer. He's now also having trouble with his kidneys. We are at our wit's end trying to get him home on house arrest. It was a money/bribery charge (federal). No prior record. Can any one PLEASE help?
 thanks
Yes, our father's were both truckers and knew each other. I know Terri & her sisters
quite well. We also went to nearby schools. I've been to the zoo once and Australia is just gorgeous. If I ever lived anywhere else it would be Australia. Terri took us around to places that I would have never seen otherwise. She is a lady in the fullest sense of the word. Sadly, I never got the chance to meet Terri's hubby as he was away when we visited. It blows my mind that they were married 14 years. Time really flies and it doesn't seem like it was that long ago that they got married.
I can't imagine any father not wanting to make sure his flesh and blood
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Kinship care versus foster care/adoption
Having been placed in a position where I now have custody of my 3 YO granddaughter and going through the legal system, I sought an online network of relative caregivers for children. I would encourage you, especially since you are in Georgia, that if you take any children into foster care with the idea of adopting them, there is federal law that requires the state to take certain actions in a specific time frame. When a child is removed from it's bio parent(s), the state is required to investigate any possible relatives who can take the child before foster care is considered, but even before that, reunification with the parents is the priority. Once a child enters the system and is in the system for 15 out of any 22 months, the state is required to find permanent placement for the child.
The problem with this is that there are case workers who may favor a foster family and do not seek out relative care. I have a good friend in Georgia who had to fight all the way to the state level to get custody of her grandson after the child was placed from the hospital into a foster care home with the promise that the foster parents would be allowed to adopt. She has now adopted her grandson, but it was a long, hard battle to get the state to admit their own interests were placed above those of the child and/or family.
If you get a child placed through the state, please make certain there is not a relative who wants that child before you get your hopes up. The courts are now favoring return of children to relatives even after a child has spent years with a foster family who hoped to adopt them.
States get bonus federal funds by complying with the time lines and being able to close the case, so some states place children in foster care because it is easier than trying to locate relatives.
Didn't mean to go off on a tangent, but I can't imagine my sweet bella going to someone outside her family.
My uneducated but street-wise father had a term for people like that--"Smart Dummy"
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If it was a clinic, it might have been urgent care, but it was NOT acute care. sm
Acute care refers to work in an acute care setting, a hospital, doing at least History and Physicals, Discharge Summaries, Consultations, Surgery notes, Emergency Department notes, and much more, including GI procedures, Cardiology procedures, Neurological procedures, Pulmonary Function Studies. It goes on and on and it means and acute care hospital setting, not a clinic.
I always figure if they don't care about their dictation, they probably don't care about their
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Dont care how many languages you took. Care
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oh, so if I don't care about my job, I "should" care
you come off as narcissistic.
I dont know. I didnt care then and I dont care now.
Just me
It is not hubby, is her father, but not hubby. nm
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I said he looks like he could take care of me.
i mean that in the sense that i am 5'2" and the REAL MEN I am attracted to are tall and strong and could do things i cannot do. it does not mean i NEED someone to take care of me either. it is just nice to have a natural manly MAN around the house who could when push comes to shove take care of things.
i don't want to hear women's libbers direct me in why i should not need to feel protected as i could do things for myself. of course i can, or if i can't i hire a MAN to do it for me. and the men I hire to do work like painting and electrical work are not effeminate girlie men with hair product and designer jeans.
get off the political soapbox. 
Do you think they really care???
They don't give a rip about their employees-- it's all about the TAT and looking good, and making the big bucks from the clients. When they are out of TAT, they in not within their contract and they lose money. That's why they want to hire so many people. If there is no work, it's OUR problem, not theirs.
I don't think they care too much about...
subscriptions. I just started getting mine free one day and they have just kept coming.I think it is basically an advertising tabloid for coders and HIM people with a slight amount for MT. Lord knows the articles are not worth reading.
I think you do not really care what anyone says, you think you know its the same, so go for it.
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I am!!!! :) I don't care what YOU say!!
Get over yourself. LMAO
They don't care
Of course they don't care. But the point is that it hurts everybody in the long run. This might be the last generation of wealthy CEOs because there won't be any more $$ to suck out of this country for much longer. And our government is happy to let them do it because it shares in the spoils. GRRRR!
I could care less. :)
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LOL...you must be a mom, huh? ;) Take care! NM
I don't even care if (sm)
all they want is 10-15 minutes a day, just don't make me wait 23 hours to get that 10 minutes back!
Or they feed you some cockamamie story about why they can't get their work done, but they wait until two hours before it's due back to tell you!
Or give some newbie a break and have them argue with QA over what they need to correct!
Take care of yourself...
I hope your treatment and recovery are speedy and uneventful.
I don't care what they pay
Just tired of all the problems with platforms and "oh, you logged in 3 min late today", etc.
IS care.............*tsk tsk on you*....nm
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No, they don't care.....sm
All they want is for the work to be done and returned on time. It's business, and it's a different business than any other. I have had family births, deaths, personal illness, moves, etc., etc., and I don't even tell them. I just manage to get my work down around my problems. It's unfortunate, but they really don't care.
It is not that they don't care but
the company that they are contracting with does not care. That is why there is at times an over hire to cover for these things and then when everyone is up and ready to work the work becomes sparse. It is so hard to balance the amount of work with the number of workers with all the variables that get thrown in, sickness, death, etc. And when the company you contract with penalizes you financially because you don't meet the TAT, we all suffer. I am sure that the company is a little frustrated as they were counting on one thing and it is not happening. Put yourself in their shoes and you will probably understand a little more.
Patti
LOL!!!!!!! I don't care much for him either. We need.....
...one of these little character people that "barfs"!!!!!
Why do we care!?!?
Maybe if they were a little more discreet about it! We don't divulge all the details of our lifestyles, do we? I agree with the above poster! Why do they have to march in parades, shout it at the rooftops and ALWAYS ALWAYS be engaging in public displays of affection. You barely see a straight couple even holding hands these days. It's almost like they are rebelling or saying look at us! We're gay and proud! And I am just so sick of it. Okay, so you're gay? Keep it to yourself - then we really wouldn't care!! We really don't need you to PROVE it!! : )
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