I think its great what you did for your friend
Posted By: sm on 2005-07-15
In Reply to: Again, here, I've been fortunate... - andromeda
A few of us were planning an "intervention" where we confront her basically to tell her we think she needs help, because the pain has made her very depressed and she is just not herself anymore. I will look into finding her a rheumatologist myself, since that is probably all it takes, and also pushing her in the right direction. Although like your friend, I know she will be angry, but gotta do it. She can barely move and I can see the pain on her face. I don't think anyone should live in chronic pain. Thank you for your kind words
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You have great taste, my friend!
I just saw a great one where he found a lady friend for a woman's boxer dog.
It was cool how he treated the dog so differently from the woman, and dogs respond very quickly to him. To allow the two boxers to get to know each other in a natural way and allow all their social interactions to progress where he could monitor them, he had to ask the woman to stay out 100 feet away. Otherwise she would have been smothering them with kisses - just her way. The two boxers hit it off, going through all the right social behaviors so they could get to know each other and not squabble.
How about your husband tells the friend to tell his female friend to lose the #?
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A friend of a friend is taking CareerStep - sm
she is under the misguided idea that she will be making very good $ upon completing the course (a friend of hers supposedly makes $55K a year). I told her no way, at least not starting out and not unless all the factors click together, i.e. good typing speed, good pay (not for a newbie), good dictators (unlikely) and dedication to working hard. I told her what I make after 5 years (16K) but that is PT and I have the potential to double that if I would push myself, not procrastinate so much (I web surf way too much) and work more than I already do. I am not a fast typist but am good at what I do. I will be surprised if she follows though. She told me she'd call me when she finished the course, I just hope she is ready for reality.
Saw him on CMT show with John Fogarty. Great, great singer with a neat personality and drop dead
gorgeous without seeming to know it.
Great post. I swear by both Advantage and Frontline Plus-- both work great! - sm
I don't know about "natural" approaches for the house. I have always used flea bombs in the past before the miracle of Advantage and Frontline changed my life. Have not had a flea problem at all since I began using those products about 10 years ago, dose all the dogs religiously once a month with the Frontline Plus except in Dec.-Feb. to save a few bucks and because the ground is generally frozen by then and no fleas are scurring about. -- Hope you get flea free soon.
Thanks to all. Got some great feedback and ecouragement. This board is great.
My rant passed, ate a late lunch, now back to the trenches.
GREAT GREAT SHOW! I still think Ellen Pompeo
should have gotten the Emmy/Golden Globe whatever it was for the show. I like Sandra Ho, her character just needs more depth... Next week looks AWESOME!! Maybe there is still a chance for McDreamy!! First season DVD coming out with deleted scenes! Can't wait to get it & watch it!!
It is a GREAT company and great deal! I've had
Vonage about 6 months now and I love it. The only mistake I made was trying to keep my original phone # - I wouldn't recommend that. You have a temp # for a while, and the other provider can fight for the old #, etc. Go to vonage. com. They have new features all the time! There is even a new soft phone that is a phone on your screen. You don't need a real phone when working - just headset. It has 800 #s you can have very inexpensively - great voice mail. You get emails when you have new messages, etc. I only wish I had used them a year ago! Nothing but good things to say, and I complain about everything!
Sounds like he will do great then. Again, best wishes for great success!
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That's great Patti. Thanks. Have a great time at the beach.
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You should feel great as a transcriptionist if they think your work is that great!!!
It is not your fault they approached you. I think it would be a different storey if you were the one searching for the job to take away from a company. They obviously want to get rid of the company and if you didn't take the job they would probably ask someone else. You should enjoy the better position and not feel guilty!!
Great post -great job of wording your answer! (sm)
Original poster - I completely agree with this answer, especially the part about finding yourself and using all that you have learned intellectually and connecting that to something that you will also enjoy with your heart!! You have so many wonderful options for your future - much more than many of us.
IT - great program, great support system. nm
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Thanks for all the great advice! You guys are great!
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Looking for friend
Hundreds of people are coming into Alabama and Florida away from NO and Mississippi. Go to www.nola.com (Times-Picayune newspaper in New Orleans) and look for message boards. Local papers and other shelters are posting names. Still waiting to hear about family members from Gautier, Long Beach, and Gulfport, MS. Hope you hear from her soon!
To "a friend"
I wanted to personally thank you for your opinion and also for putting yourself out there for me. The serious physical abuse for me happened mostly while I was pregnant (both times)with his children. He had not touched me in three years until two weeks ago. I am aware that I am in a volatile situation and I am doing something about it. I just needed to reach out today for some comfort and support. I feel I got both. I'm sorry I opened the door for people on here to hurt you. That was not my intention. Thank you and big hugs for paying attention to me. J.
Same here. Have a friend who is
a biller who is the same way. We all work at home and have very little people contact. It makes you a little agoraphobic. I have to run all my errands at once, or I will not do them. All the MTs I know are the same way. Can we get disability for this?LOL
Tell your friend
She can go online and change the settings on her bandwidth from the Vonage site. We had some problems and found out it was our cable modem. The strength of the service depends on your internet provider as well.
Is this a friend of yours? nm
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not a friend...sm
actually, it's a patient that I did a note on...the doc went into great detail about her home life, her husband, her finances...but it still burns me up ! I'd love, love to talk to her...but guess my prayers will have to do...
think twice about a friend
Rather than worrying about training a newbie, I would think twice about a friend. I have had friends as IC's whichI have helped to train as well as just newbies. It is hard to keep that line between friendship and working relationship especially if you are the one giving her the work, checking the work and training her. Have almost lost two friends over this because they felt because they were friends I would understand their problems, family problems, time off needed, not getting work back, etc. They saw me work and bring in the big bucks and wanted to share in it but did not understand how it worked. You don't produce work, you don't get paid. I have trained a lot of people and helped out a lot but never again will it be a friend that is actually doing work for me. If they are working for someone else, I will help them out but just not for me. So I worry more about it being a friend than a newbie. Patti
Have a friend who is MT and she has
bought this, paid quite a bit for it. She had used escription before and now she does straight. She has arthritis in her hands and trying to alleviate some of the pain she has with straight but said wasted her money, tried and tried to educate the machine and still not worth the money she spent.
My friend went not once, but twice. sm
My friend went and she loved it. I lost touch with her the last time she went back. They did live in a compound and you had to adhere to the religious, traditional ways over there. When you left the compound you had to wear a burka. She said they furnished you your own really nice apartment. I thought about going back then, but with the political climate, I am too afraid. After all, they are our "allie" (wink), and over 10 of the 911 bombers were from Sauda Arabia our "allie" (wink).
My friend said she
could never do this as she's not disciplined enough. She's honest as it does take discipline.
You get out of it what you put in. Pretty simple!
i have a friend
Who is working for Inscribe, and is very happy there. She says that the people are nice, and there is always enough work. They hire part time, as long as you can commit to 20 hours a week.
very well put my friend.
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I have a friend...sm
I have a friend who works at home as a MT for a hospital and her internet is disabled somehow where she can't go on or check email or anything. I was like I don't know what I would do because like you I think the quickest way to find something you aren't sure of is to go on the internet. But the computer she uses to work belongs to the hospital so I guess she can't say anything.
your friend
Gosh, been there, done that, religious beliefs has nothing to do with it, went to one of these hospitals to "heal" and give them my all in terms of experience, etc., willing to take less for the comfort of being in a peaceful place. This was nothing near what I expected; in fact, the worst experience of my life. One of the "supers" was nutty as a fruitcake, slammed doors in people's faces, made people cry, etc., but no one did anything for a whole year about her after I left in tears. The suits rule, but put your complaint in the "Bishop's" hands and see if he has what it takes to walk his talk. I can relate, it was the worst 6 months of my life but somehow evil will not prevail if you have the guts to go forward with what you know she went through, even anonymously, if you have to, then let the chips fall where they may. Hopefully, in God's hands, not yours. So sorry for your friend, I know what she went through. Thanks for sharing and God bless you for caring
re your friend.
this is America. Talk about what you want to. My heart goes out to you all in the loss of your friend. but stand up and don't be a door mat. You cannot be walked on if you don't lay down and let them. I had a mean supvr and it happened to be in a Catholic hospital. I refused to do what i was told (practice forging doctor's names) and it was quite a scene. Once i stood up for what was right, it gave the others courage to do so. i didn't lose my job either. but if you do, you were looking for one when you found this one, right? be strong; set the example and don't follow in your friend's footsteps to the same end. God bless. p.s. Catholics follow the pope first and Christ second. To me, that does not a Chrisian make.
So sorry about your friend
Maybe this is just my personality constantly bucking heads with authority, but I really enjoy working from home. You have a very marketable skill, and there is a lot of work out there for you to do. They do not own you. You rent PART of your life to them when you work. They have no right to work you to death. Would looking for other opportunities, home or otherwise be an option? There is a lot of work out there for experienced MTs.
very well put my friend.
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I had a friend who was...
a pharmacy tech. He went to school for that believing that it would pay decent, but he ended up disappointed. He said the pay stunk and it was extremely boring. Maybe others have had a different experience.
Had a friend who did it. (SM)
She was about 40, I think, when she made the switch. I know the training took her almost two years to get the point (speed, accuracy) where she was employable.
I remember she told me they start you out doing "one voice", then "two voices", etc., until (I think) you get to where you can do either five or six voices like a conference or a deposition.
It was very hard, but she's making pretty good money now. She works for herself, not for a court, and has a number of attorneys and companies for clients.
Also, my friend who is an MT at one of
these hospitals has virtually no work now that they are in the process of converting to EMR. She is being sent to different doctor's offices to abstract (pull important info from reports to put on EMR) since she has no (or very little) MT work now.
Had a friend who was on VR
she had rheumatoid arthritis and her hands after years of straight were killing her. She did not like VR and at age 50 something got inhouse job working at hospital in town, not doing transcription but in the medical field. Not for everyone.
I have a friend that is an excellent MT and she -
dances one or two nights a week in the fall. It's not for me, but hey, it works for her!
Brash friend
I wonder if I am just being moody or if I just get my feelings hurt too easily. Today, I ran into a friend of mine while picking up my child from kindergarden. I know she works and is rushed, but, in my opinion, she was quite rude. I said hello to her and she very rudely said, "I can't talk, I'm in a hurry." I wasn't expecting an hour long conversation but a pleasant exchange would have been nice! She does this a lot - she is sooo moody. Also, sometimes she calls me when I am in the middle of typing a job, and I very politely tell her that I will call her back. She always gets her feelings hurt. She is not from this country (Germany). I can't seem to get used to her ways.
brash friend
I wouldn't take it personally...I know it is hard. Next time you see her just give her a friendly wave and keep going on your way. If she calls again while you are typing, tell her that you have certain hours that your work....but anytime after that is fine. Let her be the rude one...and you be the tactful one. It will give you peace of mind and she will know where she stands. If her feelings are hurt, that isn't your problem!
Take the post from "a friend"
Sounds like she's been in your shoes. Everyone that posted has given the best advice and offered their support.
As much as they say people can be mean on this board, there are some very compassionate people too! I was happy to see this!
I was wondering, since you have the skill, could you get a job in a facility doing transcription? That would take care of the problem with phone lines, internet, etc. Take anything you can use that the government will offer (food stamps, TANF). Food should not be one of your problems. Not sure how old your children are, but could you place them with family members for a short period of time, even if you have to split them up this way? Is your husband getting SSDI (mental health is a disability)? Is your husband being treated?
Keep posting on your progress - we care about you.
My friend said she took her rugs up (sm)
and eventually the stains faded so they weren't so obvious!
It's an acquaintance, not a friend.
He's temporarily disabled because some drunk guy ran him over on his motorcycle. Therefore, he can't pay his bills so this particular company posted his name on their marquee telling him to pay up now.
I don't believe in not paying bills or writing bad checks, but there's no reason these businesses can't turn the checks over to CheckRite or another third party collection agency. They can also report the debts on credit reports, garnish wages, execute on assets, and file civil and criminal complaints. Am I wrong in thinking that violating people's privacy is not OK? Sure, some people are habitual offenders who have no problem stealing from others, which is what bad checks essentially are. This is not the case in every situation, though. I just don't see how two wrongs make a right. I can't believe I'm the only person who thinks it's wrong to post people's names in public regarding debt collection. It's not like the olden days with public bannes (sp?) and debtors prison.
I worked in collections before doing repos, skip tracing, and phone calls on bad debts. I also lost my job when my company went under due to illegal acts by the CEOs. I know what it's like to be the collector and the debtor.
Is this my new friend, Sandi? - sm
When that happened to me, it was my provider's problem. Maybe someone here has another suggestion. I know, it's a real pain. If it helps, I didn't e-mail you today! Good luck and hope to talk to you soon!
Yes, Susan, this is your new friend
You can E-mail me if you would like as I am able to get mail from my regular ISP E-mail address in my Yahoo web site. I use my ISP address for my work and I am working today so this is a PTIB when trying to stay in touch, asking questions, etc.! :D
Hey, one of my friend's daughter
is a duck queen!
I think you're right! Thanks, friend! ...
I am so sorry for your friend and this situation sm
They should try to get a referral to a child psychiatrist (not just a psychologist) immediately. They are the ones equipped to deal with these kinds of serious issues.
I hope they can handle this extremely difficult situation. It truly sounds like Tater is mentally ill.
My friend has tried to get me to go to work for
MDI for over a year now. I do live near them. But I have to say I opted for MQ because I had worked for them before and knew what they were like.
To be honest, although I know nothing about the company other than what she tells me, both good and bad, I have to say I am afraid to go to work for them. I am very sensitive and I do not get the feeling that they value their employees or ICs at all. I have seen so many posts where your answer is to "go find another job". If you care that little about the people you have and want to do nothing to improve things, it is no wonder you have a bad reputation. I have a feeling that if anyone called and made a complaint you would fire them.
Listen to your friend
That is just so not true. We truly value our employees and ICs. I have never said "go find another job".. Whenever I get complaints, I appreciate them and try to fix them. Even on this board, I feel that some of the MT's comments are very valid and I have to re-evaluate several things. And guess what? I will because I DO CARE about MTs. I am you.
Liz
Please listen to your friend....
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Best of luck to you, my friend!
Can't go wrong if you're educated.
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