I think it is thoughtful of you and you should not be too concerned if (sm)

• Does anyone send Christmas cookies or presents TO your office, if you are a remote employee? sm - twyx
  • Yes, I do. The office staff are always very kind to me when I call, and I just - like to remember them at Christmastime. nm
  • I use to all the time. Not anymore though. - MT
  • gifts - cm
  • I used to - me
  • I do. I've worked closely with these people for years, - and it just seems the right thing to do. nm
  • I think it is thoughtful of you and you should not be too concerned if (sm) - jade

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Thank you for the response, I really appreciate you taking the time to write me and I took your advice to heart.  I'm glad I posted this, i'm not a very open person and so this is kind of all I have right now.  I've already taken the time to write an email to my mom, and through the advice of others, told her basically i'm uncomfortable going around there, but I love her and for her to remember that, and I just need space right now.  She wrote back that whenever i'm ready to talk, please write.  So the door is open.  Its a start.

I'm also going to write another person in my family, who will understand more than anything, and then help me out with the actual bringing everything to light.  My stepfather is in therapy for something else, maybe if he's confronted by this he'll get help for this too, even though he's 70, its never too late.  The only thing, he more  than likely will deny it and say I blew things out of proportion, or my mom will.  Thats my worst fear, or to have my mom fall deeper into her depression.  But even I have questioned this...and its undeniable to me that something is wrong. 

This has taken so long to get to this point, I wish I were like some of you and to just confront and nip it in the bud, but like I said, its my nature to want to keep things as peaceful as possible and hopefully it will get ironed out on its own.  Thats awful, I know.  And I want to say again, in no way am I comparing myself to sexually abused children, but this is something that has been eating away at me for awhile, its been a hurtful burden because my mom and I are kind of all each other has, even though we do not relate well, we are always there, and I just do not want to lose that, or have her hurt and humiliated more than she has to be. 

Thanks again everyone..well  most of you, for your responses.  They have really helped me.

Try googling the city, county where he used to live.  In my county ALL court records are on the internet now.

I finally divorced my husband of 27 years, he started drinking heavy and became a monster, after the last 5 starting with emotional abuse, refusing intervention (even his family would not talk to him), it took one night and one night only when he got physical and I got my child and myself out and never look back. 

It's not easy to start over but once they strike, they can apologize from now to kingdom come, promise it will never happen again but it does.

Contact your local YWCA.  They usually have court advocates along with domestic violence hotlines.  Please talk to them and they can answer all your questions and give you the support you need.

Get out now before it get's worse.  Your in my prayers.

Thinking about you & hoping you are safe & feeling a little less sore.  Please e-mail me if you can or call (if you get voicemail, I will call you back if it is safe). 

Remember what I said yesterday...YOU ARE NOT ALONE

JoAnn

him in cub scouts, community sports, etc.  This is really not an educational issue IMO and not the responsibility of the school system. 

The school system in most cases will try to do as little as possible for your child, but if you have a diagnosis, you can write an IEP and they have a legal obligation to follow it, whether they like it or not.   They also have to provide testing, like it or not, but we always had ours done on our own as I didn't feel like I would get an honest evaluation from the school system. 

idea of what is correct or required.

about the computer.  Ethically, you should not use it to do another job.  Legally, if your company specifically stated not to use it for personal use (i.e. surfing the net, working another job, paying bills, etc), you should not use it.  Some companies have Spyware on the computers they supply you with and can track your usage of it.  Although I doubt most companies would go after you for using it to do your banking, working another job on it may be an issue.  It would be best to check with your human resources dept to see what the policy is on personal use of the computer before downloading another company's platform.  You may also need to take into consideration whether your present company will need to dial into your computer for any reason and see the new platform on it. 

Although I wasn't working a second job on a company-provided computer, I did store my personal photos and had a couple of games on it for my kids.  When I had a problem and tech support dialed in to my computer, they saw it and told me I needed to remove those items.  They told me they wouldn't report me or anything, but that they are supposed to report such things and to please remove them.  I did immediately and haven't added a thing to that computer since.  When I started a second job (to eventually phase out the first), I bought a used computer for a while until I could afford a new one.  I'm too much of a worrywart or scaredycat and didn't need something else to stress over. 

How many waitresses do you see in their 60s and early 70s doing a job that would rival any nursing job as far as physical strai?.  You might want to look on the NURSING BOARD, where they have students 58-59 y/o just starting nursing school; I'm among them, even though I have prior nursing education and need to finish up a few months/years.

If you think a full-fledged RN program might be too much to carry at this point, have you considered an LPN course for 12 months FT or 18 months PT study?  LPNs make a fair salary, even as newbies ... beats this MT "indentured servitude".

About your husband than you are! If you want someone to agree with you no matter what you say, ask your momma! If you want opinions and ask for 'em, don't whine when you get 'em!

 MT in Novi

I'm gratified that the people on this board are brainstorming with each other.  I've been "lurking" and reading what's been happening. I have a few comments and thoughts. 

Some of the participants here say to send to NBC News, FOX news, etc.  Others say to send to Oprah and yet others say their congressman or senator. 

I say we should each individually write a letter and copy same to each and every outlet we can think of!  All of the above, senators, newscasters, Oprah, whatever and whomever.  Until all of these sources are utterly swamped with letters regarding our plight (as well as the plight of radiologists, accountants, billers and coders, etc. all of whom are losing work to off shore outsourcing) we will be ignored.  Thousands upon thousands of letters need to be sent out either by snail mail or e-mail.  We cannot rely on anyone else to do it for us.  Each one of us has to take the responsibility to make it known that we don't like it and we will vote in the next election for only those politicians that take a stand against off-shore outsourcing.  Can we all take ten minutes to write a letter and another ten minutes each and every day to send out said letter?  We can send duplicates to the same place.  Lord knows that they don't pay attention until thousands of letters come in with the same message.  Ten minutes a day - each of us - just think how many letters to our congress and to the press could be sent out if we all took the time to do so! 

I, for one, will post here a list of places that I have sent a letter to in the hopes that it will inspire you to do the same.