I think I cried more than at my own dad's funeral!! Am I horrible?
Posted By: nm on 2006-09-19
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Horrible, horrible place to work. nm
little boy who cried wolf
If you blurt something out without any detailed information, esp something important as this, no one will believe you. Duh.
Well, I cried while watching them all
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Yesterday, I Cried.
Yesterday, I Cried
By Iyanla Vanzant
Yesterday, I cried.
I came home, went straight to my room, sat on the edge of my bed,
kicked off my shoes, unhooked my bra,
and I had myself a good cry.
I'm telling you,
I cried until my nose was running all over the silk blouse I
got on sale.
I cried until my ears were hot.
I cried until my head was hurting so bad
that I could hardly see the pile of soiled tissues lying on
the floor at my feet.
I want you to understand,
I had myself a really good cry yesterday.
Yesterday, I cried,
for all the days that I was too busy, or too tired, or too mad
to cry.
I cried for all the days, and all the ways,
and all the times I had dishonored, disrespected, and disconnected
my Self from myself,
only to have it reflected back to me in the ways others
did to me
the same things I had already done to myself.
I cried for all the things I had given, only to have them stolen;
for all the things I had asked for that had yet to show up;
for all the things I had accomplished, only to give them
away, to people in circumstances,
which left me feeling empty, and battered and plain
old used.
I cried because there really does come a time when the only thing left
for you to do is cry.
Yesterday, I cried.
I cried because little boys get left by their daddies;
and little girls get forgotten by their mommies;
and daddies don't know what to do, so they leave;
and mommies get left, so they get mad.
I cried because I had a little boy, and because I was a little girl, and
because I was a mommy who didn't know what to do, and
Because I wanted my daddy to be there for me so badly until
I ached.
Yesterday, I cried.
I cried because I hurt. I cried because I was hurt.
I cried because hurt has no place to go
except deeper into the pain that caused it in the first place,
and when it gets there, the hurt wakes you up.
I cried because it was too late. I cried because it was time.
I cried because my soul knew everything I needed to know.
I cried a soulful cry yesterday, and it felt so good.
It felt so very, very bad.
In the midst of my crying, I felt my freedom coming,
Because
Yesterday, I cried
with an agenda.
Yesterday, I cried
So, like what is this a poem or something?????
No, it's not bad. I cried more when my cat died than when
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My daughter and I watched and cried, too. Seems so
unfair, but then I believe God needed him. For a barb to get him in between the ribs and directly into his heart, God said, "It is time."
Did anyone see extreme makeover? I cried so much the last 15 minutes
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Horrible, horrible platform. Not
user friendly at all. The best tip I can give you is don't do it.
Funeral services
I agree. I personally did not attend my first funeral until I was in my mid 20s, even when my beloved grandmother died, it was her wish that we "kids" not attent (age 12 at the time). I have never forced my own son to attend as a child either. I now feel obligated to attend services for husband's family, etc but always dread the whole ordeal, even for just a distant relative, etc. Grateful that my parents also will not be having formal services, just simple cremation. You must do what YOU feel is right for your child and your own situation.
funeral etiquette
She is not too young but it would not be good to force her to go. My children went to family funerals with us but we live in the south and are not catholic, do not have a lot of set rituals, just a few songs, some words from a minister, about the person who died and what they meant to the family, closing with prayer and the "last look" at the body. Family and close friends usually go for a short interment ceremony at cemetery . Funerals here are almost always open casket. usually the preacher tells the family they need to prepare for the day when they will be "in the box" forgive the way I put it but that is what they do. The first time we took kids with us, I talked to them and told them what to expect re appearance of the deceased etc. Maybe you could talk to her and explain that this is the last time she will "see" grandmother in this life. If other children are going, she would not want to be the only one that doesn't. However I don't know that much about catholic funerals and if you and your husband agree, that is the main thing. If anyone is rude enough to try to tell you how to run your life in this area, tell them that your husband and you agreed on this. Hope this helps.
Another funeral question...
Any suggestions for different/easy foods to take to widowers? I know when we have had deaths in my family, we are overwhelmed with cold cuts, and the widow works at the bread factory, so I'm sure she's good with that! I need to go over there tomorrow, so whipping something up would be in the midst of working, and that's why it needs to be something relatively easy. I appreciate suggestions.
Seems like everybody's passing nowadays. :(
re: funeral food
Casseroles and quiches are easy, reheat well, and you can use the throwaway pans. There are a million recipes online.
Scotland, with bagpipes at my funeral. nm
NM
Funeral etiquette question for you. sm
Hubby's mom has passed away. Our daughter is 11. She went to my mother's funeral last year and did okay. She insisted on going as she was close to my mom and she was given the decision because of her age. It was also a graveside, closed casket service.
She was never that close to hubby's mom and it's going to be an open casket Catholic funeral with visiting hours at the funeral home, etc. She does NOT want to go. I have some people saying that she has to go as she is the granddaughter and others saying that she is too young for this type of service.
In one way I think that children need to deal with things so that they can mature. Hubby is neutral on this issue as well.
What do you all think?
worked in a funeral home
I used to be a secretary in a funeral home and this is not uncommon at all. Its been years ago, but I think a family would contact the funeral home and the funeral home would then get in touch with the cemetery and make the necessary arrangements with them. I think as far as costs go it was just the opening and closing of the plot. Like I said it has been well over 10 years that I worked there, but call the funeral home and they should be able to take it from there. Hope this helped.
Question for ICMT whose was asking about a funeral....sm
What did you decide?
My grandmother died last week and I let my 6-year-old attend the funeral. A child psychologist friend had advised that I should let her do as much as she wanted to do - i.e. if she wanted to see the body in the open casket then let her but if she was scared then don't. A year ago we buried a cat and I was able to relate to her that my grandmother's spirit has moved on to heaven while her body is here on earth, just like with our old cat and she related to that very well. She ended up insisting on seeing the body in the casket. Overall she did very well with the funeral experience. This was her first funeral to attend where she was old enough to have a clue what was going on.
While at the funeral home I read a pamphlet they had for talking to kids about death. It made suggestions of letting a child mourn the way they desire and said that it's helpful for kids to draw pictures about their feelings. I agree with this totally as play/art is what I do with my daughter when she's upset about something and it helps her to talk about it while we're making something artistic.
Transcription For Funeral Homes
Hi
Does anyone know for sure what type of medical transcription funeral homes would use? I don't think they would be autopsies, but someone told me they utilize this service.
Any advice is appreciated.
Thanks....Kymee
The funeral home generally does
not hire MTs. The forensic pathologist hires the MT. You can ask the funeral home for a list of their doctors.
never ever force anyone to attending funeral rituals, but especially a child who does not want to go
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forgot to say we had to go out of town for funeral a couple weeks after our new
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I can speak from experience, when I was 11-yr, I had to attend my great-uncle's funeral and it wa
an open casket service. Coming from a predominantly Catholic family, I was told that I had to pay my respects. I can only tell you of the nightmares that I had for the next 2 weeks after that. If she doesn't want to go, don't make her. If the other family members feel it is unacceptable, that is their problem. There are always other ways to pay respect.
Yes, they are HORRIBLE
LIES, LIES, LIES. Line stealers, no help. There are plenty of other companies to work for. Please don't let Soft Script ruin you as an MT. Good luck.
They are horrible, horrible, horrible.
They advertise about how skilled their MTs are, yet they are recruiting MTs straight out of school. You need to start somewhere to get training, but you'll be sorry if you work for this company. They'll pay you peanuts and try to steal some of that, treat you like a dog and just leave you broken.
This is horrible!
Wow that is insane! I worked in medical records while training in coding and transcription. I was responsible for mailing the reports out. I made sure I got them out daily. The girl before me would hold them and the girl after me did the same thing. I never understood it. Those doctors need those for patient care. This is besides the fact that it just causes more work as the doctors will end up calling for the reports and someone will have to fax it to them if they need it whereas if they were sent right away time would have been saved on this. I think this is horrible as it ultimately will affect patient care not to mention productivity. In my opinion there is no excuse for this!
I used to have 1 PA who was horrible. Every
report was 20 to 30 minutes because he was such a bad dictator and was very disorganized. He always said "thank you for this dictation" at the end of every report.
I have several docs currently who say thank you at the end, some will say have a good weekend or happy holiday too.
How horrible!
My prayers are with her and her son.. I have a 3 year old son and hearing this makes my heart break for them!
That's horrible!
I would definitly take these findings to the company. Your initials are on those reports, and it could come back on you, not to mention what could happen to the patients whose medical records are being changed. I wouldn't hesitate. What a sad way for people to act!
that's horrible!
Gosh, I cannot imagine working for even one week without being paid! You surely have my sympathy. Wish we could think of a way to REALLY get the word out about them - like a full page newspaper ad or something. Wander if the Better Business Bureau would be appropriate? Or at least the Labor Board?
pay is horrible
That is funny cuz I had gotten an email stating that the starting pay is .5 cents a line 1-1200. PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
And that is not VR!!!
I do it too; it IS horrible nm
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OMG, how horrible!
AHDI used to be AAMT, and it was my understanding that for what it's worth nowadays (IMO, zilch), the CMT credential was available only from AHDI (AAMT) after at least three years as a practitioner. This was a few years ago.
It's hard to believe that these unscrupulous places are victimizing those who don't know any better. One place to submit a complaint would be the Better Business Bureau.
This just sux. :(
OMG! How horrible! nm
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It is a horrible shame
because I have loved my job at the hospital and I still do love my work there, but MQ has put us in a position where we really have little choice, but to take a tremendous cut in pay or leave and if we leave, our options are limited.... no benefits (IC) or less money with fewer benefits.
No work - it's horrible sm
I just finished doing my resume. There has to be something better than this out there. Today, I rotated through 6 or 7 accounts, one job at a time from each one. Had to keep checking the profiles and was so worried that I would mess something up.
I just got the Points review in the mail today, it was done back in July. I was doing 6 or 7 accounts at that time as well. I got BIG DEDUCTIONS for having a formatting error in an account that I almost never get to type.
I am so very very sad. I used to love MQ. Guess those days are in the past
Horrible place
I would not recommend it 
That is horrible! I'm speechless. nm
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That's horrible. I just read that over 35,000
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Mine were horrible and now I only
have one day of crying for about an hour and then remember, oh, I must be having a period today! I was having them 17 days apart with breakthrough and heavy, I mean heavy cycles...2 pads changed every 45 minutes the first 2 days. The worst part was the emotional roller coaster. I would stand in the shower and cry all day on the day before, not knowing why, then understanding the next day.
I took my PMS cocktail. First I tried Tylenol. After an hour if no relief, I took Annaprox. After an hour if no relief, I took a 5 mg Valium. If after an hour if no relief, I stopped working and started drinking...heavily!
Now I don't know I even have them except for that one stupid hour of crying about every 2-1/2 weeks!
You have done all you can to protect others, then. It's really horrible. I'm so sorry.
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That is horrible. I'm so sorry for your loss (sm)
Those animals should be outlawed as well as the people who train them to kill. We have a Golden Retriever who is the sweetest thing in the world and we love her and she wouldn't hurt a fly. I am an animal lover but I do not like pit bulls. I also have small children and I'm thankful no one in our neighborhood has a pit bull. Again, I'm so sorry for your horrible loss.
Yes, it was bad, but they can take an every horrible voice
and make it better in a recording. She does not have a horrible voice, just not the strong voice that she THINKS she has. It will be a lot better when released on a DVD, just watch and see.
TAYLOR ALL THE WAY TO WIN!!!
Horrible Attitude
That's really a horrible thing to say....just because someone feels confident in their skills is not a negative thing...it's a good thing....more people need to be "in love" with themselves and maybe the world would be a better place!
Still having horrible hot flashes...sm
and had hysterectomy in 1999. I am 53 now and still have horrible hot flashes. It is so embarrassing. I can be shopping or whatever and all of a sudden my face is beat red and sweat is DRIPPING off my forehead into my eyes, my mouth, just a real mess. I finally stopped having the night sweats , thanks to Estroven DS, but it has not helped the horrible sweats during the day. I truly wish you luck and hope you can find something to relieve your flashes. I call mine, my own personal summer.
Horrible experience?
How so?
The reason I am asking is we are terribly understaffed where I work. I have worked at a mental health/behaviorall health facility for the past 14 years, where I have been the senior transcriptionist/coordinator/supervisor. I have been very under-staffed for the past five years, with no one understanding my position and why we are unable to keep up with our workload. There are four transcriptionists including myself, with one calling off all the time, and who is protected under FMLA. We transcribe for 42 physicians/'therapists..
A few months ago we again inherited our inpatient unit, and we (transcriptionists) refused to work weekends as it was not in our job description and we work our butts off now. So, administration hired Transcription Connection to handle the inpatient unit reports, which I totally understand with Medicaid requirements, etc..
I have since been out on surgical leave (major right foot surgery) since 04/10/07 and am not expected back to work until 07/16/07. We are terribly behind with me being gone and this one Transcriptionist calling off all the time. We basically have two transcriptionists at the current time working their butts off. Rumor is that administration is going to turn everything over to Transcription Connection because we cannot keep up. Now, I asked to hire another transcriptionist way before I went out on major surgical leave to get her trained, etc. to help with the workflow, but you know how that goes.
Anyway, I was thinking if our reports are going to be turned over to this transcription service, we will be out of work. I was wondering about them, as I am (was???) going to apply.
Any feedback is helpful. Sorry if there are any typos, as I am basically blind and do not have my glasses on - - LOL!
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That's horrible. An MT should get credit
for the finished product - that is what you are responsible for - and what you should be paid for - anything less is crappola.
Paid by VBC - its horrible. Do you really think it
I currently have a job as an IC, getting paid 10 cpl, but only for visible black characters. My boss said this is the way it will be soon for all MTSOs in the country. Period. She really gave the take-it-or-leave it speech, as in leave the industry, as everyone is going to transition to VBC. I could see it if the MT pay rose accordingly, but 10 cpl as an IC and not getting paid for spaces is a huge pay cut. I gave it a month, but the difference is huge. Anybody have any feelings on if this is really going to be the way it is? The accounts are decent enough - If I were getting paid a normal rate for spaces I would be making decent money - $30 an hour range at least, but with the no spaces, honestly an lucky to average $10 an hour. Anybody have any experience with this? Plus, IC status - no bennies and taxes on my own. Does anyone really think all MTSOs are going to convert to this soon? Any comments appreciated.
On my acct are 2 drs. that all know are horrible.
to just do our best and email acct manager the job number so she can alert the facility. Facility knows the work of those 2 are going to have more than the allowed amount of blanks and we just have to let them know when those jobs are coming through.
Hourly was horrible for me.
worth production wise. Did you know that hourly MTs make the median income of around 14.00 an hour? I'm not sure what your thoughts are on this, but I can't make it on 14.00 an hour anymore. I quit the in house job (it was outsourced within a month of my resignation) and I make more per hour now right here in my home even working at 8 cpl than I did hourly. I was expected to work constantly even onsite without vacations or a holiday. Whenever I took off work, the work was sitting there piled up for me when I got back. And yes, the floors would hollar for reports and the physicians would hollar for reports.
No way would I go back in house doing MT. I'd rather poke my eyes with sticks.
It's horrible, all old records mean nothing sm
Our docs' private practice uses this now. As patients we asked where our old records were as no more charts and we both had very serious illnesses. Told they are in the basement should they have to refer but were asking questions they should have known the answers to. It was as if we never existed on the face of the earth to them after 18 years. I'm disgusted, it's like your past history means nothing to them. I would like to slap them but I can't. Jeesh, what next? The pharmacy now connects electronically to them and we were told not to call for Rx anymore, just call the pharmacy. The pharmacy said it could take up to a week. We have to call and remind them to check their computer as we are waiting for a refill okay. Robotic! Electronic supermarket checkouts, Rx's, digital phones, no people. Even the casino uses paper tickets now instead of money coming out. It sure goes in as money though! And if it ever does come out in a ticket, you have to go to another "machine" to get the money. Don't gamble but once or twice a year and just a sign of the times, everywhere you go, no people - just robotic machines. Surgery included! Detachment from people!
Horrible platform. There are different
versions. I have worked on Meditech and Meditech Magic and there are horrible. Any platform that you need a manual for is pretty bad.
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