I smile, say "I don't have children, thanks." nm
Posted By: doesn't bother me on 2006-05-15
In Reply to: Message for those who aren't mothers...sm - Me
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I do this job with young children around and neither my job nor children have suffered...
It can be done...
I don't get it. Why do you just smile and tell
No offense, but we teach people how to treat us. Your idea of getting a sitter was a good one. After all, if it's just work he needs to do, he should be glad someone will be there to watch the kids. Of course, you know that's not the problem, but it's fun to make HIM admit to it, isn't it?
You've got your work cut out for you.
We all need to smile. sm
I just quit a job. From the first email, I could tell this person was not nice. I tried to make it work, but it didn't, so I'm moving on.
What I don't get is why the attitude? No one is so privileged in this business that they can afford to be nasty. The same way you come up may be the same way you go down, so smile along the way. It shows even in the emails. Smile! Makes the day go by more pleasantly.
I will let a smile be my umbrella when (sm)
more people get out and adopt a pet instead of just talking about it. It is really a problem and the shooting of innocent dogs is sickening.
I just adopted one and did my part. 
Smile all the way to the bank!
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Just smile and say "thank you"
I have 2 that make me smile - sm
One is obviously an older ESL gentleman and he always says, "Thank you kindly for typing."
The other is younger and he says, "Thanks for typing this up and have a great day."
thanks for the smile!! Made by day. (nm)
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Makes me smile
This is beside the point, but I have an Asian friend who still refers to herself as Oriental (we're middle aged and that's the term used when we were young). - It is so refreshing to hear her do that, as I think all this politically correct stuff has gotten out of hand. Yes, some terms are just plain rude or cruel, but some of that stuff is just a big deal about nothing. I always smile when she calls herself Oriental. :)
Something to make you smile.
QWERTY ergo sum...I type, therefore I misspell.
I cannot claim the credit for this, but I thought everybody could use a little humor today. 
Here's a wry smile of agreement instead. NM
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should be 'found' not 'round' (smile)
no wonder people did not want to go in there with buses -
I never heard this part of the story. If it is true, it would explain a lot.
smile and nod, or offer him a drink and tell him
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My Wal-Mart does this too. I just look at the lady and smile.
Once I was stopped and she rummaged through bags saying that I had set off a trigger of some kind. It caught my by surprise. Yes, it is offensive.
and now SadMT can be HappyMT!! *Smile*..nm
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Understood. Sending a smile your way for a better day. nm
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My 2 cents worth here (smile) ...
It's one thing to have a perspective as an MT, new or experienced, saying that the generalizations from MT Pundit are true or not (and I take his/her comments as generalizations, not true in every situation).
However, when you work with an abundance of both experienced and new MTs, it is very different. You really do see the trends being referred to in this thread.
For everyone who exclaims how adaptable they are but rant on and on, you probably are not as change-friendly as you think and it shows with your exasperated statements.
There are always exceptions to the rule but by and large what Pundit has said seems to be the overall trend in working with large groups of both experienced and new MTs.
I think offshoring has nothing to do with this. It is a separate issue altogether and will happen regardless.
I do think he/she has given excellent advice for those who want to hang onto this profession as long as possible.
It is much easier to go to the eager new MT minds and give instruction or feedback than to go through the arguments and backlash usually resulting from the same situation involving an experienced MT.
Glad I'm out of it!
more than a chuckle, a real smile -
I've been smiling for half an hour now (since you said it was just a line and not an insult). Thanks and have a good day.
i did, made me smile...i sure am pretty ;)
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not to worry, haha, we are not at work (smile!) nm
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It's a smile. Tilt your head to see it more clearly.. No message..
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A big smile and nothing but good news for the first 24 hours.
That's what men like best.
Happy to bring a smile! But if you prefer...
Disenfranchised US Transcriptionists? Which is more catchy, do you think? Disgusted...Disheartened...
It's the chat board version of a smile
:D is a wide open smile. :) is a regular smile.
And to the poster above it, who the heck made you the board police? Ella can post here if she wants.
A smile does wonders and it doesn't cost a thing. nm
be careful w/that oil - too much can cause problems you probably don't want to have.
all that PLUS, when I started 13 years ago, electric typewriters were still used (smile!) no message
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I am sure she is kidding-it would be sick if it were real. Lighten up let a smile be your umbrella.
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Both of my children, now 23 and 24,
bought their own cars and neither of them had a new car. I don't think it hurt them, either. They both were proud of the fact that they did buy their own cars and I was proud of them, too.
Wow that's a lot! We have 4 children and
we probably will not spend that much on all 4 of them. Glad you can afford it.
May you and your children have the
Merriest Christmas ever! As the Christmas carol sings "God is NOT dead nor doth He sleep." I am so happy your children will have Santa Claus this Christmas, and that you feel loved!! That's what Christmas is all about. I thank you... Merry Blessed Christmas to ALL!
I have 5 children and have had many a
I agree, something for myself would have been neat. My absolute favorite thing was when someone brought me something special, like something they made or had made for my baby. Those are really the things I remember when thinking back on my showers, and the things I still have today.
32/F, three children
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And what did your children get?
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I definitely think having children has something
Does she have other children who can help
relieve some of the care? Does her insurance pay for ANY nursing care? I know what you mean. We were all on shifts as well. Is there a GOOD home she could go to? Even one that isn't a nursing home per se, but adult foster care? My grandmother lived in one. It was very nice and had less than 10 residents and people with various types of needs lived there. My aunts and uncles decided to do this (it was self pay) because they figured if she lived with any one child, that the responsibility probably wouldn't end up being shared by all, and this way they were all responsible for her even though she lived separately from them. Is there a hospice/nursing agency that can offer free or cheap respite care? How about through their church? Even if they could get an evening or a few hours away together, that's a start. They need to preserve their marriage too.
think of your own children if you have any....sm
Would you want them to have to care for you? All I want for my children is to be happy. I would never want to put that burden on them and, believe me, it is a burden regardless of how you feel about your parents. Caring for an ILL elderly parent can be a nightmare. Caring for an elderly parent is totally different. I've had to do both and, BTW, so did my parents. My mother, when in her 50's, now 92, made me promise to never try to have her live with me. I have done the same with my children. I do everything I can to help her including bringing her to my home to care for her when she is ill or has had recovery from surgeries. I don't think the "Waltons" is a realistic plan in this day and age. If you want to destroy your marriage and stress your children, move your parents into your home.
If you have children under a certain age...
...you can be excused for years from jury duty by submitting a copy of their birth certificates to the court.
Currently, I'm a single parent with 2 kids in elementary school. I have been excused from jury duty twice now; once when I lived in PA and both kids were just babies and again recently excused from serving or being called to serve here in NY for a few more years by submitting a copy of the birth certificate.
The courts will not force a primary caregiver with minor child(ren) to serve as long as you provide them a copy of the birth certificate.
I would think this also applies to anyone who is a sole caregiver of a chronically ill or elderly family member, but you would have to call your courthouse to find out for sure.
We are not children and by that I mean...
we don't have to go crying to the moderator whenever we feel someone is being mean. I think MT30+'s biggest sin is she's just blunt. Personally, I appreciate straight forward people. I don't have time to pick through all the fat to get to the meat. And, of course, I am one of the blunt people.
I think some need to simply grow up. You can't spend your life kissing your perceived boo boos and tattling on the "bullies." Momma always said the only way to get rid of a bully, is to stand your ground and take your lumps. And don't hold a grudge. Just move on.
So? Take the good will and good wishes and smile. When the first day of Hanukkah comes up, SM
have a doughnut and a latke on me. I'll wish you Happy Hanukkah then. You know we spread Christmas out over a month!
children and nitwits
You still don't get it. No matter how old they get, they are still your children but I no longer have the right to make their decisions for them. If your comprehension was good enough, you would have known that as they left my home and started their own lives, I had no further voice in what they did, but until that day, I did have a voice in what they did as far as consequences of bad decisions is concerned. If I am paying for the roof over your head and the food on the table, I do have a say. And being 18 does not make you an adult, nor does 30 or 80. When your child can make good sound decisions about their life and how their decisions impact on others, then you've done a good job. Your silly little cartoon characters in your messagee show that you do not have a command of the English language and I am done with this discussion because it is too complicated for you to understand. I think you probably had your nose and ears pierced too many times and too deeply.
Not everyone is here to "love" your children. SM
I dont expect day care to "love" my children. Geez. I expect them to care for them and watch them when I cannot be there.
I do have to say, however that the day care my kids are in is a close-knit community. The staff is very friendly and really get involved with each kid individually to some extent. Everybody knows everybody, even though it is a fairly large day care. There is a younger toddler room, an older toddler room, an intermediate room, and a pre-K room. As well as a big room for before-school and after-school programs for the bigger kids.
All of the kids in my children's classes are really close. We all celebrate B-days together and even get invited to Christmas parties and all kinds of nice things. They throw lots of events around the holidays. They even have a mom's night out at the day care once a year. It is like a little community. They have lots of safety speakers coming in and educated the kids on what to do during an emergency. I dont see why my kids would not benefit from being a part of something like this.
It is a great thing to be a part of. They treat you like family. I do understand that not all day cares are the same. I went on a lot of tours of local day cares and I picked this one because I could pick up on the vibe that this was not your oridinary day care. They are just such great people. I can honestly say that I love them all. I love the friends that my kids made and I have grown to love their families and also the teachers. They are all truly a wonderful bunch.
So I don't care for my children because I
choose to work my job. Because I choose to be done with work at 5 and not have to work all night as my children play at my feet. Your absolutely right! That makes me a horrible mother. I mean wanting to give them the social graces, the ability to interact with other children and spend the evening with them without my computer in their face--what a bad mommy I am!
I was trying to be nice. Even to children like you
I was only asking an honest question.
I didn't realize there were children posting on this board.
My son is only 15, but he is fortunate enough to have parents that want to help him so that he will not end up being an eternal bitter child, such as those whose parents obviously haven't bothered to realize that there was a possibilty of their child becoming a total waste of time.
And speaking of wasting time, I'm doing just that. And you should be going upstairs to check on your parents.
I believe it is important for children too..
That does still does not mean that since you made a mistake in your life that you are not entitled to the same rights as everyone else. Could've, should've, would've. We can point fingers and tell people what they should have done, but the fact is, they have rights like everyone else. Of course you tend to do better financially when you do things in the right order. Life does not always work like you want it to though. I myself got pregnant while on BC with a man I had been with for 4 years. I had my son before I got married. We got married when he was less than a month old. He was our only witness. We have since had another child. I have never been on assistance, but I am lucky enough that we have been able to work out our problems and keep our marriage intact. If I could do it all over again, I would have waited, of course. We have struggled quite a bit by having kids so young. Life just doesn't always work out how you want it to though. I want my daughter to get married first and then have children, as do all mothers. Those are things I will teach her too.
Sorry, that should be heard Jen did not want children yet. nm
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my children are minorities
my children are interracial, black father, white mother. however, they dont know the first thing about Kwanza. They are raised to believe that Christmas is about the birth of Christ.
For children, it's best to let them decide.
It can be healing or traumatic. I do think I'd have her go to the funeral home once, set it up so she only has to be there a short time, help her understand it's time to say goodbye and let go (whether close or not). I've been through a Catholic funeral and don't think I'd force a child to be there. It's good that neither you or DH are forcing one way or the other. Talk with your daughter and help her decide what's really best. Just don't let her hide from the fact that she needs to say goodbye to grandma, close or not.
26 with 2 small children.
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GOD BLESS YOU with 5 children!!! *S*...nm
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I am 49, two children (ages 26 and 20). nm
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I have 5 children, two of which have been babies...
It is not always easy, but you do what you want to do. You will make it work if you try and find out what works best for you. Don't put your baby in daycare just to make it easier on yourself. You can work around the baby!
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