I see this as the unintended consequences of women's........
Posted By: See msg on 2005-07-01
In Reply to: Add my husband to the JERK list!!!! - grrrr
liberation. It's been a wonderful thing in many aspects of a woman's life and who the heck wants to go back to the old days regarding the treatment of women and our freedoms, but one of the unintended consequences has been a generation of men who don't expect that THEY should support a family alone and fully expect their wives to contribute equally. Yet, at the same time the men have not jumped in there with the housework and childcare. As a result, women now have the honor of providing for their family AND having husbands who also expect June Cleaver to have the house clean, the kids taken care of, and to have "the little woman" available at their convenience.  What are ya gonna do?
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Decisions and Consequences
We each made our own decisions to get us into our current situation - in every aspect of our life...married, single, living together, divorced. Only those who have lost their loved one had no hand in that particular situation. We each made our own decisions to get us into our current job. We each make our own decisions to stay in our jobs or move. We each make our own decisions how to spend our money, how much to make (yes, you can make more with more work or better paying jobs, etc.), how much to save or not. We each decide what kind of personality we want to have, how we want to treat others and sometimes we even learn how we want others to treat us. We know exactly what we are doing when we make decisions on actions ... Let's stop knocking each other's decisions.
Consequences - We each DID in fact choose our consequences by our actions or lack of .. but sometimes we did not know exactly the consequences we would get, for whatever reason. Let's be compassionate toward each others consequences.
Every single one of us makes mistakes -- have, do, and will. Let's be supportive and compassionate and tolerant -- doesn't mean we have to jump for joy or be falsly nice, but be compassionate and show tolerance for opinions and situations that we are not familiar with (and sometimes that we, in fact, ARE familiar with).
There's too much stress in this world for us to be in such a hyperexcitable state, ready to jump to conclusions, willing to inflict insults and wound others.
I, for one, will certainly start by apologizing for anything on these boards that I have personally written that personally insulted anyone. It was never my intention to do that.
Let's be a more refreshing, energizing place to visit instead of what we have been over the last few days and/or posts!!?!?!??!!?! 
Sage advice. Consequences would result in being out of the loop
But I can live with that.
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