I hired a neighborhood teen (sm)
Posted By: Portia on 2007-06-22
In Reply to: To daycare or not to daycare?! - Alyssa
I had my children at home, and hired a responsible neighborhood teenager. I worked part-time during the day with the sitter and then a couple of hours in the evenings when my husband got home. This was much cheaper than day care plus I got to take breaks and see my child and if my children skinned a knee or were really upset, I could take a break and take care ofYou need a backup in case the sitter is unavailable. It worked really well for me. Even better if you know another mom nearby with a child your chid could play with. Don't be fooled though - it is challenging and you will be tired, but was worth it to me :-)
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TEEN PROBLEMS
I wish I had all boys! How do you deal with a teenage girl who continues to lie about everything. Sweet in your face one minute and the next thing you know it is all a lie. It is so devastating every time it happens. It breaks my heart. We have even tried counseling. This is a girl who has everything going for her. She's beautiful, talented beautiful voice (college scholarships), athletic and top student. She draws trashy boys like flies and tries to hide the relationship from us because she knows we will disapprove. Daddy teaches at the same high school so it is hard on them both. Him, because what she does reflects on him and the little respect he gets from his students and her, because I know it has to be hard having Daddy around all the time. But she has not earned our trust. There has been one incident after another for four years (She is a junior in high school). Just when we begin to trust just a little, we find something else. Last night while we were at a meeting, she had a "boyfriend" whom we do not approve of, come to our house. How she got her little brother to keep quiet I don't know but I will find out. (He is the worst secret keeper.)
My husband and I are struggling financially to provide the things she needs to further her talent and school activities and functions. The latest is giving up things we usually do for Christmas to buy her a used vehicle. Now, after this latest stunt I can't justify it or trust her enough to let her get into to go anywhere.
Thanks for letting me vent. Anyone have any advice?
teen problems
i could have written this post myself. at least we have seen the boyfriend, still do not like him. if you talk to any parent of teenage girls this post could have been written by anybody. wish i had all boys also.
To Tia on teen problems
I'm not sure why you think boys are easier. I have both and they all try to pull the same stunts.
Most are doing great but one in particular (a boy) could just as easily have been your daughter. Lie, lie, lie and he acts like we have stupid written on our foreheads or were never teens.
With the last "minor" accident, but the 4th one, the car is locked up tight and Lord, you'd think we were depriving him of food and water. Thank God he has never hurt anyone or himself but when you already have restrictions, (no use of cell phone, no more than 1 kid and only a sibling in the car)...well...you just can't justify letting your girlfriend drive the car home because you were feeling "kinda dizzy" ........He just does not get the drift of the need to call home for any reason that he can not handle, and especially if your "kinda dizzy" 56 miles from home when you were supposed to be right around the block ...
He's sulking, trying to make our lives miserable, disrupting the rest of the household, but I've now put a chart up and for every act of defiance, whining etc, another week gets added to the lack of wheels... took him a couple of hours and 4 more weeks tacked on to realize I mean business.
Christmas vacation is coming up and guess who will be w/o wheels during it
You have to realize that your not her friend and the decisions you make now on your expectations and her inability to follow them needs to be cleared up. Hang in there, they do eventually grow out of this stage...only to head into another one.
I have a teen son with acne, not bad and
not cystic. We've been to the dermatologist twice without success. He now uses a generic (Wal-Mart) version of Proactiv and it isn't 100%, but lots better. Accutane can cause you to be suicidal and to me the risks just are too great versus any possible benefit.
The blackheads can be handled with good hand washing, keep his hands off his face, washing his hair daily if it is oily like my son's, and washing his wash a couple of times a day. The white heads could be handled with a soft puffing, like those disposable pads that are on the market. There are antibiotics that might be helpful. There are lots of OTC products that might be a little pricey, but I would exhaust every possible option before trying Accutane. We have a local oral/maxillofacial surgeon that has a clinician in his office to help with skin problems and they sell products that are not prescription. I can't remember the name, but do a goggle search for acne products.
I worked as a teen..
and I think it's a good experience. My dad didn't want me to work, but I insisted because I wanted my own money.
Well, I never worked as a teen (more)
and I had next to no responsibilies, had a new car and a checking account that was always just magically filled with money. It was a huge disservice to me. No teen is going to turn down a life like that...they just don't know any better, but my life would have been much easier had I learned responsibility as a kid rather than struggling to do that as an adult.
My parents are wonderful people and did what they thought was best. I just wish they would have been a little "meaner."
neighborhood
I'd definitely get it verified with a supervisor (to use for MT) before signing up because if you look at the fine print on MCI's neighborhood it says for voice calling only and there is a 5000-minute limitation.
MCI - The Neighborhood
I never ever had a problem with them. My girlfriend tried AT&T, but when they saw how long she was on the phone - they started charging her.
I worked as a housekeeper as a teen.
It paid maybe $.20 more than minimum wage. I think you can make more than that as an MT, don't you? You just haven't found your fit yet. If housekeeping is something you really want to do, go for it. It was a really nasty job, though. I'd rather do transcription at home than clean up after a bunch of slobs. Oh, disgusting. And the things people would leave behind in their rooms.
I did not work as a teen as my parents would not let me - sm
I did look for work though and tried to get work locally (i.e. walk or ride bike) but there was not much around us and the 2 positions I tried for I did not get unfortunately. My mom refused to drive me anywhere (driven out by my 2 older brothers so I suffered), I bummed rides everywhere or rode my bike, but my 3 best friends either had a car or had one available to them so I got around okay, but was not allowed to work (only 1 of my friends worked but that was only because her father had a business he ran out of the house). So I tried to earn money where I could but it was few are far between, dog sitting, cutting neighbor's grass on a regular basis for $10 a pop every 2 weeks, the odd babysitting job (not a lot of little kids where I lived at the time), think I made about $25 a month in the summer months. I wish they had let me work while I was in school. I did work after I graduated though, my summer job (warehouse/front office gopher where my mom worked) before college was my supply money for college, and I work a few PT jobs during school as well, probably $50 a week but it helped. But YES teenagers should be allowed to work as long as their grades are good. We plan to have our 2 work at King's Dominion once they are old enough (only 14 miles away) for summer jobs, I might too, who knows!
Unless he is being interviewed by another teen (probably not), shorts are NOT appropriate. What is
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I'm not "afraid" of Halloween, but I was never into it, either, except when a pre-teen. Jus
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Try Ebay.. in the $500 neighborhood there..nm
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cops in neighborhood
Thankfully, in my community we DO watch out for the neighbors. Don't spend all day gawking at their business but we do notice strangers, strange cars and have no qualms with calling the dispatcher if something seems out of sync. You don't have to call 911 just the dispatcher.
We had a dog adopt us. Never saw in the neighborhood
before, no collar. I took to our vet to scan for a microchip and doesn't have one. Vet won't keep the dog because it needs all shots, which we can't afford to do. Dog is a lab and we have no place to keep her, plus we have a dog who is not tolerant of another dog and has chronic medical problems. We feed/water the dog and are providing it with a warm place to sleep, though it is a very small space and not suitable for long-term.
I have notified all the vets in our area, called the shelter, sent e-mails to all residents with e-mail addy in our community, placed an ad in our local newspaper and placed signs at major neighborhood intersections. There has been no ad in the paper looking for a dog, no signs, no one appears to be looking for her. What do you think is an appropiate amount of time to keep her before we try to find her a new home? She is just the sweetest dog and we have all fallen in love with her, but cannot provide for her. We find it difficult to believe that no one appears to be looking for her. DH says she is very conscious of cars like she is searching for "the one" and feels like she was dumped. I can't/won't take her to the pound, although due to her personality we feel she will be adopted immediately.
We're too close to the situation to be objective.
I also live in a neighborhood where
people let their dogs run loose. There are two dogs in particular that I am actually afraid of and I don't like to let my 7y/o go outside and play if those dogs are anywhere around. I have called Animal Control about them before and they said that if the dogs weren't on my property there wasn't anything they would do about it. So, exactly what is Animal Control there for anyway? They told me I would have to catch the dogs and restrain them somehow and then call them and they would come and pick them up. I'm sorry, but I'm not going near those dogs. It's ridiculous!
Sounds like my neighborhood...sm
And the same situation.....now that it doesn't back up in our house, the neighbors down the road are all getting it! You wouldn't believe the things that I saw...it was just disgusting, and I'll never forget that SMELL! It was a real nightmare. Hubby was out of town and I was home alone with 2 small kids....I sure would like to move but just can't seem to find the time or money to do that, and then top that with off with potential problems of selling this house....any suggests? Oh, I am bumbed now....but I am happy we could help you out!! I think you have made a wise decision in not buying the house!
well, I am an adult with teen kids, so it's not too hard to
Help! Need teen halloween custome ideas?? anyone? nm
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Forgot to mention - I am an 80s Teen - younger than you! nm
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It's not a fad. You need her doc to refer you to a therapist for her. Took my teen years to get
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My pre-teen Halloween story - happened about
There were always literally hundreds of kids out in our neighborhood on Halloween. When I was about 12, I got a gray wig and messed up the hair, a rubber mask with a large nose and lots of wrinkles, wore an old long plaid robe tied at the waist and socks with open-toe bedroom slippers. So here I am, messy gray hair, ugly face, robe and slippers and walked with a limp down the dark street. Two men were waiting at the end of a driveway for their children. Here I come, limping by and one man pokes the other one in the side and says, "Hey, Jim. Is that your wife or mine?"
I will remember that for as long as I live.
There would be two dead pit bulls in my neighborhood
If this happened to me. What if this was a child. I can't believe no one does anything about this in your community. 
The teenaged girls in my neighborhood are
having a race to see who can have the most babies. It's horrible. They think of the babies as little pets or dolls, then dump them on their mothers to go out and party. None of the girls has a high school education, job, driver's license or anything. They have police records, too. Four of the girls were over here one day wanting to use my phone, and one of them wanted me to feel her stomach to see if I thought she was pregnant. She was disappointed later when she found out she wasn't. I got onto soapbox mode telling them to finish their education or at least get a GED so they could support those babies. Life's not easy being a young, uneducated mother. They use the excuse that they have bad home lives, they just want someone to love them, they'll get a regular income with WIC, foodstamps, and welfare checks, or maybe even get their own house when low income apartments become available. My goodness, their thinking is so messed up. They don't even have a single clue in their little heads. This isn't even the inner city.
I keep telling my boys to stay away from girls. Save it for marriage or you're going to get trapped into fatherhood.
I've had that happen in my neighborhood too!
It's a bit scary when you can't even get home because of the cops!
Been using The Neighborhood or SBC unlimited for the last 5 years now. sm
I was NOT talking to a telemarketer at SBC. I originally talked to one (I assume) when I called, but when I explained what I was using it for, I talked with his supervisor. As long as I am accessing voice files and NOT using it for faxing, accessing the internet, or other "computer to computer" things, it is fine. I have not had any hassle, except for once, and then when I called and talked to them and changed to a business line, I was fine.
Hope you have better luck than you have so far. :-)
In a rich neighborhood in the 'burbs
north of where I live they have fixed the funky paint problem with some kind of zoning ordinance -- people can only use colors on an approved list of "historic" colors.
I think that other people who live in the same neighborhood
also bought their homes and paid good money for them. They have the right to look out their window that they OWN and not be forced to look across the street at Bozo's Big Top.
Any neighborhood watch people?
I am thinking of starting a neighborhood watch in my area but was wondering if people really want to get involved. I know this would depend on my neighbors, but for the most part do people care? The main problem I am having with my neighborhood is that down the street there is a section of what would be called *low income rental units* which are actually just one bedroom tiny houses, and the people who rent there just do not care about the neighborhood, the noise level, the litter, so on.
The main problem I am having is noise.... It comes from about three car stereos and there is really no way to pinpoint it unless you physically sit at the end of the street and get the make and license # of the car. The noise ends about 3:00 a.m. and starts up again about 7:00 a.m. I have phoned the police several times regarding this, but what can they do really if they don't know what car it is coming from? They said they can drive by the block a few extra times a night, but really that has done no good. I have had to start taking sleeping pills and wearing ear plugs to even get some sleep lately, but the noise is still so loud it sounds like thunder, and I cannot believe somebody who lives right next to that noise does not call it in to the police. That is why I question whether people actually want to get involved. I can only call the police so many times myself before they think I am crazy and am hearing things.
As for the littering, it is not just bottles and cans, it is pieces of furniture that nobody wants anymore and they push it out to the curb hoping it will magically disappear. It doesn't disappear, and I'm getting embarassed to have any friends over to my house because they have to pass that area before reaching my end of the street.
As for starting the neighborhood watch, would I just basically go door to door and see what kind of response I would get? Has anybody else had a noise problem like this, and does it ever get better if people complain, or does that just make it worse? Thanks for any input. I'm just so tired and grouchy lately, I hate to even be at home anymore and this is making me depressed.
For mom with teen girls, what type of dance classes sm
are appropriate for learning moves to try out for drill team? my daughter is 14 and has never been in any dance classes. i am puzzled by the jazz, hip/hop, etc. and have no clue where she needs to start. she wants to try out for the drill team next year. TIA!
I had the same problem. Our neighborhood is very close and there are a lot of homes.
I looked up the neighbor's phone number after I saw her name in tax records. I called her and told her I was a neighbor and that her dogs were disturbing the peace. I told her she may not realize it but some people were sick or had small children who were resting at various times of the time and she could not leave her dog barking all day long. I told her we were all talking about calling the police (which I had already done to establish the law and found out you cannot leave a barking dog in your yard in our neighborhood no matter what time it is according to the police) but I decided to phone her instead of bringing the police in at this point because she may not be aware of the dog's disturbing others. She said thank you for calling and the dog has been brought in when it barks to go in. Find out the guidelines from your local police department. A barking dog is disturbing the police no matter what time of the day it is.
I live in a quiet country neighborhood sm
but it is 6 a.m. and the birdies have started waking up. So loud!!
This actually looks do-able. I haven't dieted since a teen. Hated obsessing about food.
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Teen son is on this and has an increased appetite, so he's putting on the pounds while his outloo
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Neighborhood watches are a good idea in general I think, but...
...how will it help with noise? I suppose it could help with the furniture dumping (since your neighbors would be on the lookout), but do you think it would be helpful with the noise problem?
It certainly couldn't hurt. I say go for it.
I started a neighborhood watch a couple of years ago...sm
we were having similar problems to what you're having and they're gone now. Here's what worked for us. I gave every home in the subdvision a flier asking anyone that was interested in forming a neighborhood watch to come to an organization meeting and made the meeting a week later and on a week night, and gave my phone # in the event someone was interested but couldn't attend then. Out of 150 homes in my subdivision we had 40 people show up and 20 called expressing interest.
Everyone had the same complaints on the same "problem" homes and as a group we decided that each time the noise level was high enough to hear outside of the vehicle or house that we'd call the police. We all alternated placing those calls so the police department didn't think it was just 1 person complaining. The police department agreed to increase the patrols for our subdivision at all hours of the day and night and just having people see them ride through every few hours helped significantly cut down on the problems.
Over time the people that were causing problems either put their houses up for sale or moved out of the rental home and left when they saw that we neighbors insisted on a peaceful and quiet living area. It worked! When these problem homes left the problems with the trash thrown on the roads left as well.
In addition we were having some problems with some of the youth hanging out walking the streets at all hours and it was making some of the residents nervous, especially when the youth were walking through yards. So, we told the youth to stick to the roads, ask permission before cutting through yards to find out who cared and didn't care if they walked through them, and one of the men placed a basketball goal at the end of one of the cul-dec-sacs for the kids to play basketball after the neighbors in the cul-dec-sac agreed it would be fine. It worked - some of them started playing basketball there and they honored requests of homeowners that didn't want them walking on their yards.
Good luck to you!
I moved out of a high crime, mainly Hispanic neighborhood, and now...
I was so thrilled, I almost got mugged one night going to the mailbox, then within 6 months my company changed everything on me and I am barely hanging on rent wise. I sure know what you are going through.
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/cutting.html
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Our neighborhood is all women's names - Robin Ln., Julia Dr. Must be the worker's ladies! :) n
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I have been asking for one since the day I was hired.......
I have been on this account for 2 weeks and it has been like this from day 1. My account mgr is telling me everything is low and that there are no secondary accounts to put me on......and I have experience in everything so I'm not limited in what I can do! I know this time is always slower but this is beyond slow. I'm trying to hang in there but getting really frustrated. They are still hiring and we don't have enough work to do. Then, they are rolling out this BeyondText voice recognition thing and while we show no jobs ready to be typed the ones that are at MLS, which means they are in voice recognition, is full......seriously considering going back to school because I see this field getting worse and worse. Harder to make money. I'm trying to stay positive but it's getting hard to do. Sorry everyone has to listen to me complain but my bills are really getting behind.
Same here. I was hired as IC
My company would not hire me as an employee. Never told me to work for other people. I am plenty busy, fulltime with this company working on one account.
The company I work for now has been in business for over 30 years. I have been with them for 1 year now. I do not believe they have had any trouble with the IRS or I think they would have told me I have to work for more than 1 company.
Oh you mean the one that likely hired her? LOL
Good luck. LOL.
Someone like that hired here and is
making slightly a dollar an hour less than me. Now THAT burns me!!! I have 7 years experience but because they upped the minimum starting wage after I was already here people are starting out with almost what I make- but did they raise anyone elses wage to compensate? No, that is not their "policy." I guess we get penalized for longetivity. If I quit and came back and was hired a week later I would make at least 1-2 dollars an hour more than I am making now. Sickening.
I don't think so. I just was hired for them and they were
pretty firm in the schedule. Someone has to work weekends so most companies have gone to a Tu-Sa or Su-Th schedule. After 6 months you can change schedule, but don't know if you can eliminate a weekend or not.
So were you hired?
The test was very easy. I sent it in, but I have not heard back.
They do not need your SS# unless you are hired.
You may think you are being hired for
the morning shift, and then they tell you that only evening shift is available, 2-10 p.m.
They hired you as LPN, so they cannot
all of a sudden change your contract and add also the duties of an MT and not even pay you for it.
But you can do it in the evening at home.
Is the doctor your employer when you do the MTing?
I have never been asked to show a receipt at Walmart. Is the Walmart you shop in a bad neighborhood
And the expensive stuff has an alarm on it for the cashier to take off. No receipt check. Just a greeter saying good-bye.
I just was hired with the new SE pay/incentive!!!!!
I must say I am very happy and I think other SE's will be, as well!!
I hired in at 9 cpl and can earn up to 2 cpl in incentive on every line I type! I'm excited! I can hardly wait to get started!! Though I am only obligated to do 6000 lines in a payperiod, if I type 16,000 lines in the payperiod I get my extra 2 cpl and that makes for $1760 just for that! I think that is pretty good.
My training is next week and I hope to be able to reach that with my first check!!
If all would please be calm, I'm sure that the new SE pay/incentive plan will soon get out there!!! You'll be very pleased! 
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