I have a 15 year old daughter....
Posted By: MT on 2005-09-30
In Reply to: dilemma with teenager - mom
and it is also a 16 mild trip to pick her up...but yet every day I am there and I will be no matter what the cost of gas. I would not trust an inexperienced teen driving my daughter. The price of gas is becoming outrageous yes...but your daughter's life is priceless.
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My daughter got married a year ago and
she, too, wanted something different. She had a small reception (about 75). Instead of having a "traditional" cake, she opted for a cupcake tree, which we did ourselves. We simply stacked cupcakes on tiered platters that were decorated with beaded pearls and tiny day lilies that we found at Hobby Lobby. It was very unique and so pretty. This might not be anything you would be interested, but thought I would pass it along anyway. BTW, congratulations on your coming wedding!
When my daughter got married last year,
a lot the pictures were taken before the ceremony, but some were taken between the ceremony and the reception. During that time, the servers for the reception got the final things ready and the guests graciously waited on the bride and groom to begin the reception that was, after all, in their honor.
My 5-year-old daughter in a dress-up outfit.
My daughter got married a year ago and didn't wear
a veil. She chose a tiara instead.
My 9 year old daughter has it now. Two other kids in her class were sick this week also.
I made a whole $12K this year, granted when my daughter got cancer in March - sm
my income took a big hit as I went "on leave" from my FT job, and cut back on my PT job drastically. I did not get back to working a more normal schedule until October. I now work 2 PT jobs. So had I not had a 6 month hit in the pocket book I expect I would have made over $20K this year, not a fortune. My goal for 2006 is $24K, and as I am going to try my best to "work smart", I should be able to acheive that, staying disciplined is the key, of which I am sorely lacking. I am lucky that I don't have to live on this though, I'd be starving. As it is I have to play catch up on a lot of bills since I lost 6+ months of income, not fun.
My daughter's 1 year cancer checkup was good on Tuesday -sm
so I am very happy. She is just past 1 year off chemo (08-17-05). She is on 3-month checkups (has been for the past year) and all looks well so that is always cause for much happiness around here!
My daughter already started 1st grade - year-round school. Yippee! (nm)
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Mine are in year-round thank goodness! They've started their new year 2 months ago.
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Union diesil mechanic - good pay, great benefits. We swap year to year on who brings home more sm
money.....but I am an IC and he has all the benefits...health insurance/dental that the company pays for, pension plan, 401k, etc. Factor all of that in and he makes way more than I do.
to cowgirl - Last I knew, last year the job paid $25,000/year no taxes, etc.
The hospital was bombed about a year ago, but not a lot of damage, very minimal damage.
44-year-old WF, M, Texas, 3 grown kids, just had 26 year wedding anv.
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nope, still crunching last few days of year to hit my 50k this year. how can you when you haven'
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Nothing this year. We ALWAYS got a cool surprise in the past, but this year nothing. :-( nm
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After I went to a 1-year MT course at a vocational school, it was so bad that I did the 2-year colle
Not only did I finally receive the proper training, but the woman on the advisory board hired and mentored me. I also joined the local AAMT and networked. Good luck. I know how frustrating it can be. A community college will have a good program to include medical language, MT courses taught by local MTSOs, business English, anatomy and physiology, pathophysiology, etc.
49 years old/self taught/daughter 20 years old/self taught. I'm a CMT, and daughter is studying t
take the test soon.
I think he makes $700,000.00 a year, and if they ask him to walk before his first year MQ has...sm
to pay him a cool 1 million dollars. You can check this out at the Medquist website. I think the CFO makes $350,000 a year, and the head of IT makes $250.000 a year.
P.S. This does not include the perks, like expense account, car allowance, sign-on bonus, etc.
Our 16 year old son has been working for a year now to pay for his truck.
He's learning how to sand and do body work and how the engine and transmission go together. My parents didn't buy cars for my siblings and I either. I had a 20+ year old beater car until I could afford to move up to a a newer one.
I see all the nice new cars parked in the high school parking lot every day. It's nice that so many disrespectful punk kids get handed something nicer to drive than what all the teachers drive. Oh, well. Honestly, I think most of them borrow Mommy or Daddy's car or are the child of a doctor who can afford to hand them everything.
Hopefully, my kids will take better care of their cars because they bought and built them on their own. You're not going to grow up to be responsible if you don't work hard for something and expect Mommy and Daddy to bail you out all the time.
Oh, my Dad lectured us on even allowing our child to have a vehicle because Dad didn't have one until after he had worked his way through college, lettered on the football team, got straight As, lettered on the baseball team, yadda yadda. He either walked or hitched a ride. Yeah, well, times were different back then, Daddy-O. LOL At least my kid has the opportunity to work and earn his own car.
IC - 30 hours week, $98K last year. So far this year - 28K. sm
Individual IC - own account(s).
Not me, owed last year, and expect to owe this year- sm
or break even, had more expenses this year. Only owed $200 but still don't want to owe at all. Need to start doing estimated tax payments again so I don't owe! Guess I will get off my butt and do that this year.
My daughter is 25 and going to
go to auto mechanic school, and likes guys.
35 yof with 2 yo daughter. nm
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I will not allow my daughter to go. nm
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My daughter...
She was just over 2 when it was pretty obvious mom just wasn't enough! She was bored with the trips to the playground, the toys, the trips to the store, etc.
Her pediatrician told me she needed more socialization. A SIGN OF THINGS TO COME!! So I found a great nursery/day care at the local church and she just loved it. When I picked her up the first day, she told me I came too soon. Talk about hurt feelings!! I was in agony all day and she was having the time of her life without me.
Well, now she's beginning her second year of college next week and is totally bouncing off the walls... pretty much like she did when she was 2.
It's good your daughter can't wait. It may just be a sign of independence and self-confidence. Don't take it personally. They don't appreciate us until they have their own kids!!
Good luck to you and your little girl and you son LOL ;-)
If she were my daughter I'd tell her...sm
that I'd rather her be mad at me for making her ride the bus when she's sleep deprived than having to pick out her body at a morgue from an accident.
Frankly at 10 p.m. every night I'd take the cell phone away and make it clear to anyone that called that it is not acceptable to call after that time. Her friends will get the message quickly and will learn to respect your rules.
Too many parents this day and time are afraid to set rules for their kids to follow, but that's the parents fault. They need to remember who's the adult and who's the child and set/abide by ground rules. Studies show that the more parents intervene in their kids life the less likely they are to drink, do drugs, have sex or get into trouble with friends.
My 13 y/o daughter (more)
and I have gotten into the habit of taking the dog out and having a little walk around the neighborhood when I get off work at midnight. I'm going to miss that. I'm not having the "ready for her to go back" feeling at all this summer, but I have had the feeling in the past sometimes.
My daughter was 5.
She decided she was ready so she did it, and she loves them. She is almost 8 now and she nor I have regretted it. Personally, my sister was 3 and I was 4 when we had our's done. I think it depends on the child.
My Daughter
I let her get her ears pierced for her 6th birthday.
My daughter was 11
She was allowed at 10 but was afraid. LOL. A lot of people asked me why I didn't get her ears pierced as a baby, but I just felt that was something for her to decide. She turns 13 in September and wants to get her second holes. I told her that I will get mine done too.
I just felt 10 was an age where she could decide and also take care of her ears and earrings. Everyone has their own opinion on this, I don't think anyone is really wrong. Good luck.
My daughter was 8. nm
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My daughter and I took it - we both
had no benefit from it, and also my daughter had a very severe allergic reaction. We tried them all Concerta, Focalin, Strattera, all with no help at all. Our neurologist just tried us about 2 months ago on Metadate CD, one of the original ADD meds, and its a MIRACLE. I was only diagnosed this year, after my daughter, and after first I sobbed after taking Metadate, as I never knew brain calm, so to speak. I then read on a doctors' website on ADHD/ADD that you know you have the right med when you get that reaction - sobbing with relief, and also sadness at what you have been thru without realizing it!! Its been about 1.5 months, and she and I are both doing great. The interesting thing is that the meds are speed, basically, but if you have ADD, they don't have that effect on you - they plug in your brain. The ones who speed on ADD meds and also abuse them are ones who don't really have ADD - thus its like cocaine to them! Feel free to write if you want to talk about anything - its been quite a shock to me to accept that I have ADHD, but its getting easier! Provigil is basically an experimental one for ADD - it seems the old ones have the best results! 
Thanks! My daughter-in-law is due soon and I will have....
on hand should she need help. Maybe it will work for her!!!
They probably know both of you. My daughter
picks up my medicine all the time.
Daughter did this...
She finished the school, but basically same thing, poor pay and pill counter at Walmart all that was available. Not a living wage...
where would you be if your daughter was missing (sm)
in another country? The posts on down the board are appalling, some of them anyways! I would hope that any parent in their right mind would be right there, no matter where "there" is, if their child were missing. I know I'd be whereever I had to be. I could not rest until I was there, waiting and helping to find my child. I'd go to the ends of the earth to get my daughter back, no questions asked. And maybe people are donating money to them so they can stay in Aruba and help find their daughter, as well as keep their lives going back here at home. Where has compassion gone? It's truly sad that we ridicule people for simply wanting desperately to find their lost child. Just Sad.
Hey, one of my friend's daughter
is a duck queen!
My 17yo daughter.....
was similarly distressed at age 15. A lot of it is just part of growing up. They are anxious, moody, and sometimes emotional. I took her to counseling and she decided that she wanted to work through this tough time without being medicated. I'm not sure that pulling your son out of school and what he knows is going to help. That's just MORE change in his life. I would seek counseling and find out what's going on with him, but in your case I think isolating him further would simply contribute to his anxiety. But since I'm not a professional, again, I'd take him to see somebody. As a footnote, my daughter will be 18 in March, is a senior, is getting good grades again, and is, as she says..."Happy as a Clam"
It's going around. I have it, too. So does hubby and daughter.
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I'm cooking. Daughter and son-in-law,
son, husband and myself will be spending Thanksgiving together (after my son and I get off work).
Yes, a daughter, all grown.
I married & divorced very young. Have 2 roommates (friend and her boyfriend). Couldn't afford this house otherwise. LOL. I live in an area called Lone Mountain Vistas, not far from Summerlin.
Have a daughter with bipolar.
She has racing thoughts and says things not connected to the conversation like your friend. She also has extreme mood swings. Usually bipolars go one way or the other, dysphoric or euphoric. No middle. When manicky, she will stay up for days without sleep, but when dysphoric will sleep for 16 straight hours a day. It can be a very debilitating illness.
My daughter was born at 1:28 a.m. and if she is
doesn't even get in the shower till oh, about 9:00 p.m. And she sleeps till 1 or 2 p.m. if she doesn't have to work. Drives me nuts! But then, I was born at 7:00 a.m. and I like to get up early and then am falling asleep by 10, 11 p.m. at the latest.
I don't, but my daughter wanted one . . .sm
She wanted a vine (like a bracelet) around her upper arm. She was 20 at the time so I really had no say in the matter except, "Why don't you wait until we go see your grandmother in short sleeves." We did and she scrapped the vine idea in a hurry. 
Listen to your daughter on this one
You may be distracted with worrying about her and not "be there" for your hubby 100%. As other posters have said, she can visit & pay her respects at the graveside, on her own time.
My son was only 5 when my Gramps died and though I took him to the visitation (I had not sitter) with every intention of keeping him away from the open casket, he managed to get up there anyway.
He's 22 now and when my mother passed away 2 years ago, the one he was very very close to, she was cremated and we had such a casual memorial for her. He was able to speak about their good times and how he would always know she was with him when he heard Nat King Cole, etc.
He told me later that this was so much "cooler" than when great gramps died. "Never let me lay in a casket for people to just stare at Mom". So, even though he was just 5 at the time, he remembers it clearly.
My sympathies to your hubby and all.
My daughter is 10 also and just had her first boyfriend...
I was very upset about it at first. At my friend's suggestion, I sat down with my little girl and asked her exactly what she thought it meant to have a boyfriend. I asked her if they would be holding hands, if they would be kissing. She was shocked and a little embarrassed, but I'm glad we had that talk because I don't think it occurred to her that he might expect those things.
I also made it very clear that young relationships last days, not years. So, when he broke up with her after 27 days (she counted) she wasn't all that shocked and probably took it better than she would have if we hadn't talked about it.
My daughter was 20 and upset too. sm
She was young and immature and very unsure of what to do. Although I may have objected (to myself) if she had chosen termination, I supported her decision whether or not I agreed, after all she was an adult.
She needed an ultrasound and saw that there were actually babies (yes babies - with an "s") and that helped her decide right then and there. She is now the grown up mother of twin girls who are about to be 2 and are a joy to us all.
She was lucky though as her boyfriend was there and he still is. They aren't married still after 4 years, but I guess I shouldn't push it. I get to see my grandtwins all the time.
I'm grateful that she decided to bring double joy into all of our lives, however, as I said before, I would have supported her decision and you need to be there to support your niece, whether you agree or not, as she is your family and she needs you.
Good luck to you and to her.
We do have a hospitl...My daughter
was one of the last babies to be born there. A GP delivered her. I don't think it is the student loan payments either because I believe the hospital offers to pay for all or most of them if they locate here. I was told last night that it was due to poor hospital management. All our doctors got old and retired and nothing or very little was done to try to get new ones in. If we did get new ones in they did not stay for very long. For specialist I do go to the nearest city but for common illnesses it would be nice to have someone closer that knows what their doing, CARES what their doing and REMEMBERS you when you come in. That's what is missing. The personal touch. The doctor who knows you won a singing competition or score so many points in a football game, etc. Would you buy a car from a rude salesman?
I told my 16 yo daughter about this and she...
can't wait to try it on her back as well as her face. Thanks for posting.
I too took my daughter in 1987....sm
The Strasbourg train takes you through 14 Amish dairy farms and is a wonderful trip, eastern PA....Lancaster, and the food is great in that area! People are wonderful there (as they are in Western PA too).
Hope you enjoy your trip wherever you decide to go. I'm thinking of relocating from FL to PA in about 2 years.
I don't have a daughter, but I got mine
pierced when I was 7. I don't know about doing it when a child is a baby, but I don't think 7 or 8 is too young. Children are old enough at that age to take some responsibility in caring for themselves. It wasn't a problem for me. I do have a son though. Just waiting for the day he wants to get is ear pierced...lol.
I had my daughter's done when she was 9 months old....sm
Doctor said fine anytime but would be best to wait until after 6 mns when they get their 2nd tetanus just incase someone's equipment wasn't completely sterile so that's what I did. Don't see why that's too young; I think it is definitely a personal opinion and I wanted my daughter's done. If she ever grows up and doesn't like them she can let them grow up. No big deal.
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